UO Thursday

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

Do it to it, ladies.

JSS1002 · August 2013

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

pinottoparenthood · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

I agree. I wash my hair every other day and put on makeup every single day. Sometimes the laundry has to go unfolded for a day if LO doesn't nap a lot, but I really think that just letting myself go would make me feel like shit. So if I have to let something go one day I do, but it's never going to be showering.

I have one baby though, so I can't speak for what it's like having more than one kid.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

I don't understand parents that "CAN'T WAIT!!!" for everything. I'm not talking about the phrase of excitement, I mean the parents who constantly talk about or push their kids to the next milestone. They're only babies for so long, enjoy where they are a calm the hell down. Its not a competition.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

If I haven't showered, its straight up laziness. lol I have two kids and can still shower - its possible.

JSS1002 · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

JSS1002 said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

If I haven't showered, its straight up laziness. lol I have two kids and can still shower - its possible.

Thank you. :-)

CanukMam · August 2013

Being a FTM I think the no time thing is just because we are first time parents and haven't quite figured things out yet and may not feel comfortable letting LO cry in the crib. That being said, I do hand off LO to hubby and get a nice hot bath every evening to relax

Having spent many summers babysitting young children, I do agree one kid is so simple once they are 6-12 months and sleeping a little more regularly, having an infant now who doesn't want to be put down for more then 5 minutes is tough though. Of course that is worse with two no matter what....not even sure I want two because its hard enough now with just the infant...I cannot imagine and infant + toddler!

CanukMam · August 2013

Apparently my unpopular opinion is I don't like drama (bump/TV or otherwise)

Lhyacinth888 · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:
I don't understand parents that "CAN'T WAIT!!!" for everything. I'm not talking about the phrase of excitement, I mean the parents who constantly talk about or push their kids to the next milestone. They're only babies for so long, enjoy where they are a calm the hell down. Its not a competition.

Yes! My sister is this way. Her kids have a toy for a year and then its gone! She's trying to push them into Barbies... they are 3 and 5, plenty of time for Barbies!

JSS1002 · August 2013

CanukMam said:

Being a FTM I think the no time thing is just because we are first time parents and haven't quite figured things out yet and may not feel comfortable letting LO cry in the crib.

I'm a FTM too. And I still don't get it. It seriously takes me 7 minutes to shower if I am in a rush. I just get up before DH by about 20 minutes and we tag team it.

xtineelaine · August 2013

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

CanukMam · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

CanukMam said:

Being a FTM I think the no time thing is just because we are first time parents and haven't quite figured things out yet and may not feel comfortable letting LO cry in the crib.

I'm a FTM too. And I still don't get it. It seriously takes me 7 minutes to shower if I am in a rush. I just get up before DH by about 20 minutes and we tag team it.

Agreed, they gotta learn to make time for themselves and a shower is a good place to start. Its pretty nasty to go without...especially with baby throwing up and breastfeeding. Even if I was doing this solo I would still be able to make time to shower. When I used to care for two kids (family) I would shower while one napped and take the other in the shower with me or pull the exersaucer/bouncer close to the bathroom, gotta do what you gotta do!

pinottoparenthood · August 2013

JSS1002 said:

CanukMam said:

Being a FTM I think the no time thing is just because we are first time parents and haven't quite figured things out yet and may not feel comfortable letting LO cry in the crib.

I'm a FTM too. And I still don't get it. It seriously takes me 7 minutes to shower if I am in a rush. I just get up before DH by about 20 minutes and we tag team it.

This. Although I will say that I don't have to let DS cry in order to get a shower in. I either wait until he is napping or I drag his kick and play piano right outside the bathroom so I can hear him playing while I grab a quick shower.

CanukMam · August 2013

bdcram said:
I haven't missed a day of washing my hair, showering or putting on makeup since I was 16 years old. I didn't plan on missing any after J and I haven't.

My UO: I think a lot of people that are using the "grow up and be nice" attitude on this board need to grow up themselves. This is the internet. All different kinds of people will post things. Some people might be less, "OMG! I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT! BE MY BEST FRIEND EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE A WEIRDO!" than you but that doesn't make them mean it makes them real.

I guess I am one of those people you are talking about but I think you are missing the point entirely. Its not about grow up and be nice. I totally think someone should be called out on their shit and we all don't have to agree on everything, there will be differences of opinion and people will argue. I just think people shouldn't turn into a mob and make a sport out of bashing someone with 200 posts and frankly I just don't have time for it. I think _that_ is childish.
Say your peace (if you feel its necessary) and move on. You know what they say, strike once and you've made your point, strike two, three, four and now you are just doing it for fun and are just as bad as who you are insulting. I know you guys see it as harmless entertainment and I guess it is but its just not my style of fun, kinda like the lowest common denominator fun like watching Jerry Springer :P

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flaming_(Internet)

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

Agreed. And to add to it, do your own research. Pediatricians are supposed to follow certain guidelines and some don't. That doesn't mean the guidelines are wrong because your pediatrician decided that they personally felt different.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

bdcram said:

I haven't missed a day of washing my hair, showering or putting on makeup since I was 16 years old. I didn't plan on missing any after J and I haven't.

My UO: I think a lot of people that are using the "grow up and be nice" attitude on this board need to grow up themselves. This is the internet. All different kinds of people will post things. Some people might be less, "OMG! I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT! BE MY BEST FRIEND EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE A WEIRDO!" than you but that doesn't make them mean it makes them real.

Also, disagreement =/= bullying. Being blunt =/= bullying. Questioning your weird claim or story =/= bullying. Not liking someone =/= bullying.

fireflyz56 · August 2013

JSS1002 said:
I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

Lol... This was totally me. I struggled so much with the shower thing for a month. Then one day I realized that my child would not spontaneously combust if I left her alone in her crib for 10 minutes.

CanukMam · August 2013

OhSewCrafty said:

bdcram said:

I haven't missed a day of washing my hair, showering or putting on makeup since I was 16 years old. I didn't plan on missing any after J and I haven't.

My UO: I think a lot of people that are using the "grow up and be nice" attitude on this board need to grow up themselves. This is the internet. All different kinds of people will post things. Some people might be less, "OMG! I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT! BE MY BEST FRIEND EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE A WEIRDO!" than you but that doesn't make them mean it makes them real.

Also, disagreement =/= bullying. Being blunt =/= bullying. Questioning your weird claim or story =/= bullying. Not liking someone =/= bullying.

Agreed, people are way too sensitive these days. Everything is bullying and everyone gets their feelings hurt or are offended...like I'm supposed to give a crap! Everyone is entitled to their opinion, too bad if it disagrees with yours!

Kate_C · August 2013

If there is really going to be a crack down on distracted driving, smoking while driving should be illegal along with texting. Yes, eating a Big Mac or drinking coffee is arguably as bad as smoking, but it seems like invariably when some a-hole isn't paying attention on the road, he has a cig in hand. Maybe that's just my anti smoking bias. The worst is the people with a cig and a phone though. Really? You don't think you need at least one hand to drive?

ChicagoBroad26 · August 2013

The fashion trend of short, high waisted shorts looks good on 0.0002% of women.

OhSewCrafty · August 2013

Kate_C said:

If there is really going to be a crack down on distracted driving, smoking while driving should be illegal along with texting. Yes, eating a Big Mac or drinking coffee is arguably as bad as smoking, but it seems like invariably when some a-hole isn't paying attention on the road, he has a cig in hand. Maybe that's just my anti smoking bias. The worst is the people with a cig and a phone though. Really? You don't think you need at least one hand to drive?

Smoking in general should be banned. Ugh, disgusting habit forced upon those around them by ruining the air they're breathing.

ChicagoBroad26 · August 2013

Also, while I don't enjoy drama IRL, it IS entertaining on TB because there are only so many repetitive sleep posts I can read during the four hours a day I'm nursing.

Kate_C · August 2013

letranger said:
I thibk it is silly that WMs think they know what SAHMs life is like because they had a maternity leave.

Are there WM who make that assumption? That would seem to be kind of silly. I wouldn't other than to say I'm not sure my toddler would still be alive if I was home with him full time. I would need a lot of mommy time outs and serenity prayers. That little dude instinctively knows every button to push...

NicoleSB80 · August 2013

ChicagoBroad26 said:
The fashion trend of short, high waisted shorts looks good on 0.0002% of women.

Based on emails from trendy stores the last couple weeks the we trend for fall is going to be high waisted skinny jeans.

X_X

suedell · August 2013

My uo- thank you notes that are just a pic of the kid and a generic thanks for the gift printed on the card. I took the time to get you a gift and it just feels so ungrateful. Maybe I am old fashioned but I always write a personal thank you for every gift I get.

CrazyMary77 · August 2013

pinottoparenthood said:

JSS1002 said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

I agree. I wash my hair every other day and put on makeup every single day. Sometimes the laundry has to go unfolded for a day if LO doesn't nap a lot, but I really think that just letting myself go would make me feel like shit. So if I have to let something go one day I do, but it's never going to be showering.

I have one baby though, so I can't speak for what it's like having more than one kid.

Exactly. With only one child, it's not that difficult to take a shower every day. I can't go a day without a shower. If I'm not going out of the house, I don't care so much about make-up, but at least I'm clean with somewhat decent clothes and my hair brushed so I don't feel like crap. I've been either showering while LO is napping, or sit her in her vibrating chair on the bathroom floor. Hasn't been a problem since day 1.

CoachAP · August 2013

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

WE pay ALOT of money to hear our pediatrician's advice, probably should look into a new one if going to take internet research (I'm assuming?) over your doctors.

skidderdo · August 2013

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

I hate when people think Google can replace a medical education, residency, and years of clinical experience. I get it, YES, you do "know" your child better than me. But I "know" about health, illness, development and wellness better than Google and Joe Shmoe's Ridiculous Opinions website. I think healthcare needs to be absolutely a TEAM effort, with each side listening careful and being open/honest.

Lhyacinth888 · August 2013

I hate when parents think boys are harder children or think girls are harder. It depends on the individual and has nothing to do with the sex of the child!

xtineelaine · August 2013

CoachAP said:

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

WE pay ALOT of money to hear our pediatrician's advice, probably should look into a new one if going to take internet research (I'm assuming?) over your doctors.

Yes some research might be the Internet, but I read books, talk to other parents, there is an endless supply of information out there that is not just on the Internet. If I blindly listened to everything my pediatrician recommended I would be retracting my intact sons foreskin right now.

Sol1790 · August 2013

I hate to see baby's with their buggers all over their face,no clothes on,super wet diapers and it just makes me mad at the parent! I am sorry,I would never let me DD look like that I change her clothes maybe 2-3 times a day wipe her face,change her diaper. Those are some lazy parents! And it irritates the hell out of me how they have the audacity to let the world see how they do not take care of their children! And it is sad to say I always see kids like that,at the mall,grocery store,restaurants. It sucks!

xtineelaine · August 2013

Another example...We haven't had our 4 mo checkup yet but if he recommends starting cereal I am not going to because of the research I have done.

Edit: I just wanted to add I wouldn't blindly follow advice from anyone, even if I was paying then a lot of money.

CrazyMary77 · August 2013

Sol1790 said:

I hate to see baby's with their buggers all over their face,no clothes on,super wet diapers and it just makes me mad at the parent! I am sorry,I would never let me DD look like that I change her clothes maybe 2-3 times a day wipe her face,change her diaper. Those are soma lazy parents! And it irritates the hell out of me how they have the audacity to let the world see how they do not take care of their children! And it is sad to say I always see kids like that,at the mall,grocery store,restaurants. It sucks!

Geez.... I see it every once in a while but not "always". Where do you live?

Sol1790 · August 2013

CrazyMary77 said:

Sol1790 said:

I hate to see baby's with their buggers all over their face,no clothes on,super wet diapers and it just makes me mad at the parent! I am sorry,I would never let me DD look like that I change her clothes maybe 2-3 times a day wipe her face,change her diaper. Those are soma lazy parents! And it irritates the hell out of me how they have the audacity to let the world see how they do not take care of their children! And it is sad to say I always see kids like that,at the mall,grocery store,restaurants. It sucks!

Geez.... I see it every once in a while but not "always". Where do you live?

Houston and I just see it often,not everyday but often enough.

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JSS1002 · August 2013

Grace0609 said:

Kate_C said:

I thibk it is silly that WMs think they know what SAHMs life is like because they had a maternity leave.
Are there WM who make that assumption? That would seem to be kind of silly. I wouldn't other than to say I'm not sure my toddler would still be alive if I was home with him full time. I would need a lot of mommy time outs and serenity prayers. That little dude instinctively knows every button to push...
No doubt! My maternity leave is what drove me back to work!

Word to that, and James is only 4 months old. I would be, like, the worst SAHM ever. Now, if I could do part time at home and part time at work, then we're talkin'. Unfortunately somebody decided that those jobs didn't pay as much as mine. IMagine that. Haha.

JSS1002 · August 2013

skidderdo said:

xtineelaine said:

I can't stand when parents think their pediatrician is god. They don't know everything, do some research of your own, ask questions. YOU know your child best, not a doctor who sees them every couple of months.

I hate when people think Google can replace a medical education, residency, and years of clinical experience. I get it, YES, you do "know" your child better than me. But I "know" about health, illness, development and wellness better than Google and Joe Shmoe's Ridiculous Opinions website. I think healthcare needs to be absolutely a TEAM effort, with each side listening careful and being open/honest.

Totally. Any asshole with an internet connection can write a blog. I agree that you should do some research, but it also bugs me when people assume doctors are making decision on a whim or for money or convenience... no, they happen to hvae a personal relationship with parent, child, and situation that they are reacting to based on years of experience and education, rather than blindly following recommendations that are a blanket for ALL people.

JSS1002 · August 2013

suedell said:

My uo- thank you notes that are just a pic of the kid and a generic thanks for the gift printed on the card. I took the time to get you a gift and it just feels so ungrateful. Maybe I am old fashioned but I always write a personal thank you for every gift I get.

My mother would kill me if I didn't write personal thank yous for EVERY gift given to me and LO. I'd sooner die than skip this. Email doesn't count. You need a pen and a stamp.

Sol1790 · August 2013

NandaB said:

Sol1790 said:
I hate to see baby's with their buggers all over their face,no clothes on,super wet diapers and it just makes me mad at the parent! I am sorry,I would never let me DD look like that I change her clothes maybe 2-3 times a day wipe her face,change her diaper. Those are some lazy parents! And it irritates the hell out of me how they have the audacity to let the world see how they do not take care of their children! And it is sad to say I always see kids like that,at the mall,grocery store,restaurants. It sucks!
Ok, the fact that you see kids in public with no clothes on is weird, but I do enough laundry, I don't change my toddlers clothes unless he is REALLY dirty. I mean, I wipe his face and all that, but I'm not putting a new outfit on him 2 - 3 times a day. That's crazy talk.

Eta: wait, do you only have the one baby? I think you may have a case of better-parent-itis. Sometimes my toddler has a wet diaper. If he pees in the middle of our grocery shopping I'm not gonna stop to change him, which involves changing him on the too small changing table in the bathroom while wearing the baby, or leaving my cart to take him out to the car. Of course, he has clothes on, so you probably wouldn't be able to tell.

I do not change my DD diaper like crazy or her clothes. And yes I only have one baby. But I do my best to keep her clean. Ex:we were at te grocery store and she threw up all over herself and me. So I just took her in the family restroom had an extra onesie in diaper bag and changed her. Now yesterday I was buying formula and there was a lady with a toddler at her hip with no pants on super wet diaper,and buggies all the way down to his mouth. I don't meant to judge but if that was me I would not have my baby like that. I just think it's lazy parenting. Was it so hard to even with his shirt or her shirt wipe his nose? Idk i guess thats just my opinion.

Sol1790 · August 2013

Sol1790 said:

NandaB said:

Sol1790 said:
I hate to see baby's with their buggers all over their face,no clothes on,super wet diapers and it just makes me mad at the parent! I am sorry,I would never let me DD look like that I change her clothes maybe 2-3 times a day wipe her face,change her diaper. Those are some lazy parents! And it irritates the hell out of me how they have the audacity to let the world see how they do not take care of their children! And it is sad to say I always see kids like that,at the mall,grocery store,restaurants. It sucks!
Ok, the fact that you see kids in public with no clothes on is weird, but I do enough laundry, I don't change my toddlers clothes unless he is REALLY dirty. I mean, I wipe his face and all that, but I'm not putting a new outfit on him 2 - 3 times a day. That's crazy talk.

Eta: wait, do you only have the one baby? I think you may have a case of better-parent-itis. Sometimes my toddler has a wet diaper. If he pees in the middle of our grocery shopping I'm not gonna stop to change him, which involves changing him on the too small changing table in the bathroom while wearing the baby, or leaving my cart to take him out to the car. Of course, he has clothes on, so you probably wouldn't be able to tell.
I do not change my DD diaper like crazy or her clothes. And yes I only have one baby. But I do my best to keep her clean. Ex:we were at the grocery store and she threw up all over herself and me. So I just took her in the family restroom had an extra onesie in diaper bag and changed her. Now yesterday I was buying formula and there was a lady with a toddler at her hip with no pants on super wet diaper,and buggies all the way down to his mouth. I don't meant to judge but if that was me I would not have my baby like that. I just think it's lazy parenting. Was it so hard to even with his shirt or her shirt wipe his nose? Idk i guess thats just my opinion.

JSS1002 · August 2013

knitfaced said:

I don't understand how parents with only one child "don't have time" to take showers. I mean once in a while, sure, but all the horror stories you read about "I haven't showered all week!" If you have a toddler chasing you around AND a baby, I get it... but seriously? Hand the baby to your husband, get up 10 minutes earlier, or let the kid cry in his crib for 5 minutes. I think I've only missed one shower since LO was born, and that was on purpose (just felt lazy and sick and like I didn't feel like it).

but I still manage to get clean and get dinner on the table every night.

This too -- Im back at work now, and throughout leave and now as a working mom I also still get dinner on the table 80% of the time. Of course, I absolutely love to cook, it is a passion and a hobby, so that might be part of the reason why.

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