Frustrated with people on TB

Sywilson · August 2013

I'm sorry I am goin to say this and I don't care if you guys hate it or not. I have been on here for 3 months. Not one day goes by where someone jumps down someone's throat about grammar, gender vs sex questions, fun questions about different things oh and the "it's a ....". People who jump down these people's throats if you are just going to critize them and make something out more then it is then don't answer the question. We are on here to communicate with each other and get help from one another. Get over you egos and off your high horses. And yup I know this is probably not the best grammar and whatever!! Who cares don't read it. I'm on my phone and don't feel like scrolling Up the screen all the time to change things. I have been wanting to get this of my chest for a while and glad I did.

ccip82 · August 2013

Honestly if you do not like it here, there are many other baby website forums like babygaga and babycenter that might be better suited for you...

GL

vstevens · August 2013

One of the best things about TB is the blunt honesty. And one of my favorite books is Eats, Shoots and Leaves, so you'll get no sympathy from me on sloppy grammar. ITA with @ccip82. There are plenty of other forums out there - no one is forcing you to be here. Why don't you ride your high horse on over to one of those?

grml14 · August 2013

Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.

Sywilson · August 2013

grml14 said:
Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.

Thanks. I just wanted to say what other think but don't want to say because of replies like this. I jut think there are some people on here that think they are the best thin that has happened to this board yet they don't consider what they say and how it affects other people.

But thank you again @grml14. Not sure I will be on here for long but if I stay its only because of the nicer people like you who don't care about the grammar and stuff.

brideandbreve · August 2013

grml14 said:

Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.

Um, are you guys new here?

Don't make the mistake of thinking TB is a "support group." It's an online forum. There's going to be snark. There's going to be bitchy replies. There's going to be attitude. That comes hand-in-hand with communicating with people that you don't know in real life or have to answer to face-to-face.

ccip82 · August 2013

grml14 said:

Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.

Seriously??? Wow, my pregnancy hormones were raging in my previous post...

::runs off to find compassion and to learn to be nicer::

grml14 · August 2013

@brideandbrave yes I am new here. Im only four months pregnant so im just barely noticing bitchy comments like yours. And actually I have received a lot of support from a lot of women on here ( if you scroll up you will actually be able to see what support looks like!) don't get me wrong, I can dish out the bitch once it's dished to me, I just think if you are a genuine person who cares about other human beings you will leave your rude, snarky comments to yourself. Obviously you don't have that consideration and that's just fine. Ill just put you down as one of those judge mental woman that no one really enjoys hearing from. Thanks for your rude comment though! SO appreciated!

ccip82 · August 2013

Sywilson said:

Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.
Thanks. I just wanted to say what other think but don't want to say because of replies like this. I jut think there are some people on here that think they are the best thin that has happened to this board yet they don't consider what they say and how it affects other people. But thank you again @grml14. Not sure I will be on here for long but if I stay its only because of the nicer people like you who don't care about the grammar and stuff.

Oh for the love of god, I gave you what I thought was sound advice without trying to be snarky....This topic comes up on the Bump every.fucking.day. Nothing will ever change this...There are more "tame" baby forums out there. Babygaga and babycenter were the two that I mentioned. The Bump is not for everyone...

vstevens · August 2013

ccip82 said:

grml14 said:

Wow, pregnancy hormones are coming out on the replies. I can't believe this woman is trying to say how she doesn't want to be judged and all you ladies do is say "go someplace else?" I can't believe you! I agree, screw grammar. This isn't a college board this is a place for women to come and get advice. Get over yourselves ladies and have a little bit more compassion. @sywilson I am totally on your side, screw those jerks, people need to learn to be nice.

Seriously??? Wow, my pregnancy hormones were raging in my previous post...
::runs off to find compassion and to learn to be nicer::

I'm actually laughing out loud. OP - from your original post, you're clearly on your own high horse - you're just judging people for different reasons than, according to you, those people judge others. Get over it and stop taking things so personally - this is an Internet forum for pete's sake! If you dislike and judge so many posters here, I can't for the life of me understand why you'd want to stick around? ETA for a typo - though I know caring about proper English is for college losers...

ccip82 · August 2013

LOL to you being "judge mental" @brideandbreve

FTR, I support you and love hearing from you

brideandbreve · August 2013

@grml14 Are you serious? You think I'm bitchy? Wow. I can't wait till you have a real run-in with someone on here. I'm pretty tame compared to some of the people I've had run-ins with.

Good luck sh!tting puppies and rainbows all over TB in the name of sweetness and light. Have fun with that crusade.

ccip82 · August 2013

@grml14

What exactly in my previous post constitutes you "flagging" my post for abuse??? We are all adults on here and are now allowed to curse.

Real mature...

:-bd

vstevens · August 2013

grml14 said:

@brideandbrave yes I am new here. Im only four months pregnant so im just barely noticing bitchy comments like yours. And actually I have received a lot of support from a lot of women on here ( if you scroll up you will actually be able to see what support looks like!) don't get me wrong, I can dish out the bitch once it's dished to me, I just think if you are a genuine person who cares about other human beings you will leave your rude, snarky comments to yourself. Obviously you don't have that consideration and that's just fine. Ill just put you down as one of those judge mental woman that no one really enjoys hearing from. Thanks for your rude comment though! SO appreciated!

Well now I'm just confused - how on earth is anything that @brideandbrave said "judge mental". Who was she judging? For what was she judging them?

brideandbreve · August 2013

ccip82 said:

LOL to you being "judge mental" @brideandbrave
FTR, I support you and love hearing from you

Aww, thank you! Right back at ya! :x

ccip82 · August 2013

And a big thank you to @grml14 ...because you I now hit 2500 replies and earned a new badge

brideandbreve · August 2013

ccip82 said:

And a big thank you to @grml14 ...because you I now hit 2500 replies and earned a new badge

Her whining is good for something after all!

brideandbreve · August 2013

vstevens said:

grml14 said:

@brideandbrave yes I am new here. Im only four months pregnant so im just barely noticing bitchy comments like yours. And actually I have received a lot of support from a lot of women on here ( if you scroll up you will actually be able to see what support looks like!) don't get me wrong, I can dish out the bitch once it's dished to me, I just think if you are a genuine person who cares about other human beings you will leave your rude, snarky comments to yourself. Obviously you don't have that consideration and that's just fine. Ill just put you down as one of those judge mental woman that no one really enjoys hearing from. Thanks for your rude comment though! SO appreciated!

Well now I'm just confused - how on earth is anything that @brideandbrave said "judge mental". Who was she judging? For what was she judging them?

THANK YOU!

I thought I was pointing out a painfully obvious fact about the internet. $:\$

ccip82 · August 2013

@grml14 I am still waiting for an answer...why did you find it necessary to flag this response:

"Oh for the love of god, I gave you what I thought was sound advice without trying to be snarky....This topic comes up on the Bump every.fucking.day. Nothing will ever change this...There are more "tame" baby forums out there. Babygaga and babycenter were the two that I mentioned. The Bump is not for everyone..."

What is abusive about this???

ETA: You know going by your "rules" for flagging, I can flag your post for saying bitch...but I am a bigger person than that.

vstevens · August 2013

brideandbreve said:

vstevens said:

grml14 said:

@brideandbrave yes I am new here. Im only four months pregnant so im just barely noticing bitchy comments like yours. And actually I have received a lot of support from a lot of women on here ( if you scroll up you will actually be able to see what support looks like!) don't get me wrong, I can dish out the bitch once it's dished to me, I just think if you are a genuine person who cares about other human beings you will leave your rude, snarky comments to yourself. Obviously you don't have that consideration and that's just fine. Ill just put you down as one of those judge mental woman that no one really enjoys hearing from. Thanks for your rude comment though! SO appreciated!

Well now I'm just confused - how on earth is anything that @brideandbrave said "judge mental". Who was she judging? For what was she judging them?

THANK YOU!

I thought I was pointing out a painfully obvious fact about the internet. $:\$

Stop judging the Internet, @brideandbrave, you're clearly hurting people's feelings.

grml14 · August 2013

I guess I expect more from moms to be. Sorry for assuming you guys would step up and be any different from any other coward behind a keyboard. Have fun installing your values of Internet courtesy and respect for human feelings in your children. @ccip82 I tried to quote you and ended up flagging you, not sure how to reverse it, but congratulations on earning an imaginary badge for your rude comments throughout this forum!!! Such an accomplishment.

ccip82 · August 2013

@grml14

Simple, click on the flag button again and it will unflag the post.

I will be sure to "install respect for human feelings in my children", thank you for the tip!

brideandbreve · August 2013

grml14 said:

I guess I expect more from moms to be. Sorry for assuming you guys would step up and be any different from any other coward behind a keyboard. Have fun installing your values of Internet courtesy and respect for human feelings in your children. @ccip82 I tried to quote you and ended up flagging you, not sure how to reverse it, but congratulations on earning an imaginary badge for your rude comments throughout this forum!!! Such an accomplishment.

I'll just teach my children not to get all butthurt over things anonymous people say on the internet.

It's easier that way.

BuckeyeANG · August 2013

God it's too early for this. OP and OP's white knight, if you don't like it here, there are plenty of other places to go hang out. Although if you think THIS board is snarky, I'm thinking an Internet message board isn't the place for you. Edited for typo.

Carlyremer · August 2013

brideandbreve said:

grml14 said:

I guess I expect more from moms to be. Sorry for assuming you guys would step up and be any different from any other coward behind a keyboard. Have fun installing your values of Internet courtesy and respect for human feelings in your children. @ccip82 I tried to quote you and ended up flagging you, not sure how to reverse it, but congratulations on earning an imaginary badge for your rude comments throughout this forum!!! Such an accomplishment.

I'll just teach my children not to get all butthurt over things anonymous people say on the internet.

It's easier that way.

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slmille4 · August 2013

Op: yeah it sucks, sometimes you get some straightforward answers, some will lack tact, some come off wrong because its typing and no one can hear the tone of each others voice. I have run into staring a topic and was called rude and selfish on another board in this forum. I avoid it now, that's all you can do. This is a public forum and that nice little amendment we have allows us to say whatever we want unfortunately. I will say there are days I read and i get really pissed at people on here and other days it doesn't run me the wrong way. Agh pregnancy hormones. In regards to rude comments and grammar police I have the joy of having my sister be one so anytime I post something on Facebook I will get a snarky comment if I spelled something wrong, there are just those people who can't ignore it. I hope u stay because I find these board helpful, it seems like here people have been through a lot of different things. You'll prolly forget about this in a week and it will be fine. Good luck if not

cpm1223 · August 2013

Seriously OP, THIS is the type of post that causes drama, so you can blame yourself for any "rude" comment you may receive.

There are many smart women on this board and everyone is allowed to voice their opinions on things. We may not all agree 100% of the time, but I've been here for about 4.5 months now, and I haven't seen nearly the amount of drama that I've seen on other boards. We can have "heated" discussions without it turning into a drama fest, but posts like the one you made here, is what causes the most drama.

If you're not happy here, no one is going to force you to stay and like PPs said, go to another baby website, TB is not the only one around.

cpm1223 · August 2013

wilburbud said:

I am so, SO sad I missed this last night. I woulda made myself a bowl of popcorn ;0)

You can share mine! Popcorn for breakfast!!

waterlily2k2 · August 2013

Just ftr, I'm not hugely a grammar/spelling cop. But when there are multiple mistakes in a post, I have a hard time taking anything you (general public) say seriously. In anything you do or say, grammar and spelling ARE important because when it is not proper, it generally shows a lack of education. Take a resume for example. Okay? End of story on that one.

And I agree. To damn early for this. But I had to say something.

moosebaby2011 · August 2013

1. Please keep in mind that the only thing that ALL of us have in common is that we are all pregnant and due in January of 2014. Because of that fact there are going to be many different opinions, points of view, attitudes, and personalities.

2. Reading a message board where every response is "of course it's okay!", "I totally agree!" or "Me too!" would not only be very boring, it would also be incredibly dishonest.

3. It's not school, but if you want people to actually understand your point it's wise and courteous to use proper grammar.

4. If you don't want drama, don't read it and definitely don't write posts like this one.

moosebaby2011 · August 2013

Also:

cpm1223 · August 2013

christinesb19 said:

Also:

HAHAHA that's awesome!

Firefly9 · August 2013

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buckeyebride22 · August 2013

Firefly9 said:

Yummmmm! I love me some Dean.
OP I don't understand, if you don't like it here then why stay? Like PP said, there are other message boards out there....

peanutmuse · August 2013

@sywilson

Let me break this down for you. Language is how we communicate with each other. It is especially important on an internet forum, where we don't have the benefits of other tools of communication, such as gestures, facial expressions, and body language. Grammar and spelling are some of the tools of language, and are necessary to achieve effective and meaningful communication.

An occasional spelling or grammar mistake is no big deal. It happens all of the time, and doesn't impede communication. However, there comes a point when there are just too many spelling and grammar mistakes in a post, and it becomes so difficult to read and understand. People just stop reading. Or get annoyed and respond with snark. If you can't be bothered to use these tools of language to express yourself, you have no right to be upset with those of us who are unable to read your dribble.

My previous comments were sincerely trying to help you. But since you refused to accept responsibility for your side of communication, I just stopped reading your stuff. If you won't take the time to make it intelligible, I'm not going to waste my time trying to figure out what you want to say.

But if you want to go to another forum with people more your speed in the communication department, by all means do so.

DamnPrecious · August 2013

What in the hell started this post? Was there a dd or something.

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cpm1223 · August 2013

DamnPrecious said:

What in the hell started this post? Was there a dd or something.

I have no idea! I was wondering the same thing...

LeannFran · August 2013

I feel like I missed all the good stuff early this morning! I'll add my two cents...
OP if you're upset by what people say to you over the internet then I would venture to say that the self-esteem issues come from your side, not from those who respond to you. This is one of the tamest boards I've been apart of and I love the brutality and honesty here. Sometimes we all need a dose if reality and unfortunately when we don't know who is really speaking it can be easy to get offended. My suggestion ((since this is a forum)) is to grow some thicker skin and recognize that life doesn't give you rainbows and daisies all the time. Sometimes your feelings will get hurt but it's your choice how you handle it..that is all.

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