Frustrated with people on TB

Kianaxo

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

mrsjenni

Aww, another newb trying to change the bump and I totally missed it.  

Here, let me be helpful...

https://community.babycenter.com/groups/a6737662/january_2014_birth_club

ccip82

cpm1223 said:

DamnPrecious said:

What in the hell started this post? Was there a dd or something.

I have no idea! I was wondering the same thing...

 

Early morning is when all the crazies come out

I think this was the case of the two recent posts regarding sex/gender and possibly misguided pent up emotions from previous posts.  

cpm1223

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

No one was harassing anyone here...or on any other post for that matter. You have no idea what you're talking about. Man I wish I could move to New Zealand...puppies and rainbows (and beer?!) every day...how nice!

SunflowersBride

It's amazing to me how sensitive people are these days, sheesh.  Also, do people think these posts will suddenly make everyone go "OMG, you are totes right, we are a bunch of mean bitches and we will stop right now!" If you don't like the tone of this board, you are free to find another one.  Before I found TB, I briefly posted on a different TTC board, and I just couldn't stand all of the super nice responses to inane questions about things like "I'm definitely pregnant but I only had unprotected sex 2 days ago".  It drove me crazy and I knew it wasn't for me.  But it sounds like maybe you would do well on a sight like that.

peanutmuse

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

Ah, yes. Your post SCREAMS neutral. Sounds like you're doing a lot of judging yourself, my dear.

And for the record, I did roll my eyes at sywilson's posts and the other chick's too. The girl with the G name. Oh yeah, and for good measure, I rolled my eyes at yours too.

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sugarland726

Man I am passing out love its on this post like a cheap whore passes out blow jobs. As usual, nice gifs ladies.

Just seriously, if you have problems with us, go to babycenter, go to babygaga, but mostly, just go fuck off.

brideandbreve

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

Kianaxo

It's not rainbows and puppies we just have respect and have been raised with such from a very young age. Maybe you should learn some because your sarcastic remarks are anything but respectful. I was only trying to be kind and support the woman who posted this discussion. I was not against you or anyone else. Please keep your sarcasm at bay. I was trying to put more positively into this discussion. So shoot me!

valigrl21

This board is one of the most snark-free boards I have seen. So if you don't like it, you would be better off on another baby site. I am not saying that to be mean, but it's just not the right fit for you.

Me personally? I like that the women on TB will tell me the truth. And I like the sense of humor, I enjoy the funny gifs and snarky comments. My grammar and spelling aren't perfect either, but there's a big difference between 1 or 2 errors here and there and text speak that takes everyone an hour to figure out what the poster is talking about. And if someone does correct my spelling or grammar, I take it as a lesson learned.

These are the things that I like about TB. Don't try to change it, just find a place better suited for you.

ccip82

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

A couple words of wisdom:

Kianaxo

Wow getting attacked for being kind. #wtf never mind good luck with your pregnancies everyone.

peanutmuse

Kianaxo said:

It's not rainbows and puppies we just have respect and have been raised with such from a very young age. Maybe you should learn some because your sarcastic remarks are anything but respectful. I was only trying to be kind and support the woman who posted this discussion. I was not against you or anyone else. Please keep your sarcasm at bay. I was trying to put more positively into this discussion. So shoot me!

Who are you talking to? Quote her, tag her, reference her. It's simple. Otherwise, we have no idea who you are talking to.

Just in case it's me, I will say that everything I responded to you was completely serious. Well, except for the part about your post being neutral. Clearly, it's not. Aha, so you must have been being sarcastic when you said that. Interesting. So we're not allowed to be sarcastic, but you are? Is that what you're saying?

Honest question, no sarcasm.

valigrl21

sugarland726 said:

Man I am passing out love its on this post like a cheap whore passes out blow jobs. As usual, nice gifs ladies.

Just seriously, if you have problems with us, go to babycenter, go to babygaga, but mostly, just go fuck off.

And I just gave you a love tit! I guess I am a cheap whore too!

cpm1223

Kianaxo said:

Wow getting attacked for being kind. #wtf never mind good luck with your pregnancies everyone.

OK bye....it's not like you're crucial member of this board. You have only posted three times ever and it's only been on this thread.

sugarland726

valigrl21 said:

sugarland726 said:

Man I am passing out love its on this post like a cheap whore passes out blow jobs. As usual, nice gifs ladies.

Just seriously, if you have problems with us, go to babycenter, go to babygaga, but mostly, just go fuck off.

And I just gave you a love tit! I guess I am a cheap whore too!

I love that you gave me a love tit and not a love it. Especially given my blow job reference. Spelling fail turned to a spelling win.

ccip82

cpm1223 said:

Kianaxo said:

Wow getting attacked for being kind. #wtf never mind good luck with your pregnancies everyone.

OK bye....it's not like you're crucial member of this board. You have only posted three times ever and it's only been on this thread.

jldubb0626

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

For someone who's never posted, you sure to have a GREAT understanding of how this board works. Yes, the best way to stay neutral in a conversation is to agree with one side and call the other side rude. I'm glad you know the definition of neutral. So next time, why don't you take your own advice and laugh at the drama, roll your eyes and move on? 

OP- This board is the tamest board I've seen on TB. I'm actually shocked when people post these types of discussions here because it's just not bad here. Have you seen Dec '13? Or how about Parenting? And let's not even talk about TTGP. Lurk on those boards for a while and you'll see how good you have it here. Please, if this isn't the environment you're looking for you are more than welcome to leave. No need to cause more snark and drama by calling us all rude and mean. 

FTR - I love lurking on the boards mentioned above. They are always a source of entertainment and I wish I was cool enough to hang with them.

cpm1223

jldubb0626 said:

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

For someone who's never posted, you sure to have a GREAT understanding of how this board works. Yes, the best way to stay neutral in a conversation is to agree with one side and call the other side rude. I'm glad you know the definition of neutral. So next time, why don't you take your own advice and laugh at the drama, roll your eyes and move on? 

OP- This board is the tamest board I've seen on TB. I'm actually shocked when people post these types of discussions here because it's just not bad here. Have you seen Dec '13? Or how about Parenting? And let's not even talk about TTGP. Lurk on those boards for awhile and you'll see how good you have it here. Please, if this isn't the environment you're looking for you are more than welcome to leave. No need to cause more snark and drama by calling us all rude and mean. 

FTR - I love lurking on the boards mentioned above. They are always a source of entertainment and I wish I was cool enough to hang with them.

And drink a beer...because that's what comes after the eye rolling and laughing at the drama.

fredtheredhead2

Damn sleep! I can't believe I slept through all of this.

OP, I seriously don't know what you are talking about. This board is extremely tame compared to others (go check out TTC). I love that the ladies here give actual advice and don't just blow rainbow dust up my ass. There are a lot of different people here from a lot of different backgrounds, and we aren't all going to agree or be sweet about it. It's the internet, not girl scout camp.

peanutmuse

Kianaxo said:

Wow getting attacked for being kind. #wtf never mind good luck with your pregnancies everyone.

Ha. You certainly weren't being kind to me and to several others on this thread. You called us bitter and rude.

But as cpm said, you're not really a member of this board. Don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you.

aessary03

I, for one, love the bump for its entertainment. I think it's more reflective of real life than sunshine and rainbows up your ass. Let's get real. I'm sure someone has annoyed the hell out of each and every one of us and we've responded in a less than nice way. It's life. It's human nature. People need to get over their peace, love, and happiness bull shit. It's unrealistic (and boring) to expect that all the time. I'm not needlessly rude to people, but if you can't handle non sugar coated honesty, how is that my problem or any of these other lady's problem?? I seriously want to know how you handle life if you can't handle THIS board, which is a hell of a lot nicer than some of the others. Do you live in a bubble and never interact with anyone??

ccip82

cpm1223 said:

jldubb0626 said:

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

For someone who's never posted, you sure to have a GREAT understanding of how this board works. Yes, the best way to stay neutral in a conversation is to agree with one side and call the other side rude. I'm glad you know the definition of neutral. So next time, why don't you take your own advice and laugh at the drama, roll your eyes and move on? 

OP- This board is the tamest board I've seen on TB. I'm actually shocked when people post these types of discussions here because it's just not bad here. Have you seen Dec '13? Or how about Parenting? And let's not even talk about TTGP. Lurk on those boards for awhile and you'll see how good you have it here. Please, if this isn't the environment you're looking for you are more than welcome to leave. No need to cause more snark and drama by calling us all rude and mean. 

FTR - I love lurking on the boards mentioned above. They are always a source of entertainment and I wish I was cool enough to hang with them.

And drink a beer...because that's what comes after the eye rolling and laughing at the drama.

I think I found her...

jldubb0626

Kianaxo said:

Wow getting attacked for being kind. #wtf never mind good luck with your pregnancies everyone.

#hashtag #really?
#beingcoollikerobinthicke
#suchawasteofahashtag

BuckeyeMommy4

jldubb0626 said:

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

For someone who's never posted, you sure to have a GREAT understanding of how this board works. Yes, the best way to stay neutral in a conversation is to agree with one side and call the other side rude. I'm glad you know the definition of neutral. So next time, why don't you take your own advice and laugh at the drama, roll your eyes and move on? 

OP- This board is the tamest board I've seen on TB. I'm actually shocked when people post these types of discussions here because it's just not bad here. Have you seen Dec '13? Or how about Parenting? And let's not even talk about TTGP. Lurk on those boards for a while and you'll see how good you have it here. Please, if this isn't the environment you're looking for you are more than welcome to leave. No need to cause more snark and drama by calling us all rude and mean. 

FTR - I love lurking on the boards mentioned above. They are always a source of entertainment and I wish I was cool enough to hang with them.




Ahhh...yes!

I mostly lurk on Dec13, but post occasionally. I got into a heated debate the other day where I disagreed with the majority. It was so much more entertaining than just agreeing and giving "support". I come on here for entertainment. If I need support, I talk to my DH, family and IRL friends.

sarahlm619

holy wow!  haha!  Maybe I learned this on TK -- but I seriously didn't realize there was ANY drama on this board....this thread being the exception though!

Yes -- I agree there are some "debates" or "discussions" -- where OBVIOUSLY everyone didn't see eye to eye -- but I thought that was the point of asking questions and/or for opinions.....

I've ACTUALLY been waiting for the drama to start -- it took a few months on my TK Month board to -- thanks for providing it OP!  

PreDempsey

Who forced these a'holes to sign up and participate in our community?

MeganWorden

To be honest the Jan 14 board is one of the nicest TB boards I have been on. OP check out some of the other TB boards for a few weeks, then come back. You will see how tame this board really is, so far at least! Then again I appreciate a good snark. 

bethughknee

OP - Some of us appreciate TB for what it is. If you don't want to read what you might consider to be "rude" comments, skip over them once you realize the tone is beginning to frustrate you. I think that's a good strategy to employ here or any place on the internet where comments are welcome.

I think that the honesty our group approaches posts with is refreshing. When you get caught up in how you feel about a situation, you can forget what it might look like to an outsider and our group is pretty good at firmly (but usually still politely) asking posters to think about what their circumstance looks like from someone else's shoes. Not getting offended by that is a maturity thing, IMHO.

Pregnancy is not an affliction. We're not a support group. We're a shmillion different kinds of people who all happen to be growing a human (or two!) from scratch at the same time. If this isn't the best way to gain perspectives from all different areas then I don't know what is.

vstevens

Kianaxo said:

Oh my goodness. I have never posted on here but some of you ladies are so rude!! Im from New Zealand and in our country we have respect for each other, are open to everything be it controversial, and never judge anyone. Everyone is entilted to their opinions, yes, but you can have some class with your posts and only reply to things if you are their to help and not to harrass. Have a kind heart and spread positivity instead of bitterness. Proud to be from a country that isn't full of hate. We are so chilled out most Kiwi's would laugh at posts like this, roll our eyes at the drama, and have a nice cold beer. Maybe you should follow suit? Go, judge all you want. I am team neutral. As always. Peace, love, happiness ladies

I'm half Kiwi and have a ton of Kiwi family who I've spent lots of time with over the years.  FTR, Kiwis are perhaps the most sarcastic assholes I've ever come across, and in my family that's saying something - I LOVE Kiwis for this reason!  Don't go painting all your people with your lame-o puppies and rainbows brush, please.

alinafed

@Kianaxo:

Your post wasn't positive in any way, hate to break it to you. Directly calling people rude, telling them to get class, and saying you're from a country that doesn't hate, which is probably the funniest comment on here yet.

I'm not even American but on behalf of my southern neighbour ladies I think that is a very uncool comment. Notice none of these "hateful" Americans stooped to your level of generalizing about a whole country.

Firefly9

buckeyebride22 said:

Yummmmm! I love me some Dean. OP I don't understand, if you don't like it here then why stay? Like PP said, there are other message boards out there....

Me, too.  Yum.

Jen4033

Here's a completely UN Bitchy answer. Straight forward. No BS.

There are people who feel very passionate about good grammar & spelling. To some, it is a sign of respect to your audience to make sure you take the time to be clear & correct. Everyone makes typos, but poor grammar & spelling can rub people the wrong way, understandably so.

I've received my fair share of comments that I thought could have been worded a little softer & still conveyed the same mesage, but if someone is that passionate about what they are saying to you, it will come out. I'm still here! Not everyone will agree with you & sometimes you run across a time when you happen to have the minority opinion. This is life, it happens. You cannot control others & posts like this will never change anything - only make them worse on you.  You just have to learn to take the good with the bad, as is the lesson we all will teach our children.

Because someone disagrees with you on an internet forum & passionately expresses it to you... does not mean they are a raging Bitch in real life either.  Choose your battles. The only thing you are in control of here is how YOU react to it. So take some time... decide if you want to let an internet forum get you THAT worked up or not... & go from there. If you want to allow it to get to you that bad, then as PPs mentioned, a different forum might be better for you.

Saltina11

Ah, NOW January 2014 is starting to feel like home.

 

::settling in for good::

I PPH the Bump.

Jraimo1018

Thank You for entertaining me....I don't know what's more sad? The fact that you guys A. Even have time in your day to go back and forth about something so minimscual in the grand scheme of life or B. feel the need as a grown adult to contribute to a "parenting/celebrate life" forum by cyber bullying. Yes, that is what it is called. Best of Luck teaching your own children to not act with such hate and vendetta for complete strangers. I applaud your maturity.

QuintonsMummah

Saltina11 said:

Ah, NOW January 2014 is starting to feel like home.

 

::settling in for good::

I PPH the Bump.

This, seriously. OP doesn't know how lucky she is being a Jan momma.

wedbliss5

I'm so confused!!! I still don't see where any of the normal board members are being mean, did I miss something? 

sparrowmomma24

wilburbud said:

I am so, SO sad I missed this last night. I woulda made myself a bowl of popcorn ;0)

This is my FAVORITE response. I feel the same way.  Sometimes I don't like how people respond on here.  And, yes, I feel the same way.  Do you have to be bitchy in your responses?  The answer to that question is YES!  We are all very different people.  And it is what it is.  I have posted venting things/questions/etc and I've gotten bitchy responses myself.  Move on and focus on the ones that help you.  Sometimes you want a straight forward response, other times you just want to hear that life sucks.  Regardless of what you're looking for, you can find all of it here.  The bitchy responses, the sweethearted replies, the "life just sucks" responses, etc.  It's all here!  Take in what you need, throw out the rest, but don't make it a big deal.  That's what I do.  If I think someone is posting something bitchy, I just move on.  Okay.. for all I know, they are having a bad day.  Or they are just like that. Who the hell knows?  And who cares?  Just be who you are and as long as you aren't being a crazy bitchy person (aka THAT bitch from high school who has NOTHING positive to say), then it doesn't bother me.  

Munchie2.0

Dannng... I was watching Duck Dynasty and missed this...   I wish I had popcorn too 

- People will always say what they want to say hurtful, nice, judgmental, helpful and snarky... This place is full of Pregnant women, who are well, bitchy and snarky with a tad of rage-

Post at your own risk people