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Faint + or evap line????
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Re: Faint + or evap line????
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I find it so ironic that many who come here calling us meanies and bullies are so ignorant, downright mean and hurtful. Truth is you'll never find a more supportive group of women. But we are that way because we support EACH OTHER, not just come here venting and wanting everyone to coddle us without returning the favor.
@amw2082, What kind of HPT did you use? I've never had a + but it sounds like you need to take another test in the AM.
You are 100% being ignorant. That's not an insult that's the truth. You're *ignoring* every good point on here and choosing whatever fits your argument to address.
Im sorry, I got distracted by the fact you can't even use the right form of the word 'meet' while trying to make a dig at me.
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What does TTGP or TTTC have to do with anything? OP's question is inappropriate for either board. Both are communities of women who have taken the time to get to know each other and who GIVE support to GET support. We are not obligated in any way to coddle someone whose first post is 'squeeee I think I'm pregnant'. 1st Tri is the place for analyzing peesticks if you're a stranger, and that was pointed out to the OP. Nicely at first I might add, she could easily have taken that advice given and moved on. She didn't, rather she got all butthurt and kept defending her hurtful barging into this community, with the help of the usual gaggle of white knights who seem to just be here to stir up shit on a board they profess to despise but still can't get enough of, making sure to speak loudly in opposition to the majority with every post like the trolls they are.
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I've actually seen today other women post their "I'm pregnant" or similar messages and gotten congrats instead of insults about throwing BFPs in faces. I guess yall pick and chose who to pick on. And yes, y'all support EACH OTHER after getting to know each other over years. New people don't have years to get to know yall. Not right off the bat. Accept that things change and life moves on. People change and grow and HOPEFULLY become better. Maybe, just maybe, y'all can be civil and meet NEW people and support and be friendly to them too.
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See, I post something supportive to someone and immediately someone wants to insult me for it. How hard would it have been to just say something positive to amw instead of jumping all over her? And just like y'all feel the need to back the "veterans" so do we feel a need to stand up for each other when need be.
The people getting congratulations and excitement are posters that have been active in the community. They have been supporting others. Not just dropping by to show off their positive pee stick and ask others to double check it for them (when its obvious its a line). That is the big difference on who gets a positive reception for their BFP.
And yes, y'all support EACH OTHER after getting to know each other over years.
I was here June 2012 through November 2012. I was actively TTC 4 months of that time (avoiding the rest). You don't have to be here for years to get congratulated by these ladies. Even with my fairly contentious stint on this board I still got plenty of sincere congratulations when I got my BFP. Again, you just showed up for a hot second and don't know what you are talking about in the slightest. Your ignorance of how this board/community actually works is astounding. You claim to get it but you obviously don't because you keep spouting nonsense like this.
New people don't have years to get to know yall. Not right off the bat. Accept that things change and life moves on. People change and grow and HOPEFULLY become better. Maybe, just maybe, y'all can be civil and meet NEW people and support and be friendly to them too.
The women on the board support new people all the time. Those new people stick around and participate. They don't attention whore their BFP and then move on to the trimester boards. That's not how it works. You keep trying to tell people to "accept that things change". Except that they don't change that much on TTGP. Folks like you keep charging in and trying to change it, but it never works. This board is what it is. Considering you are new comer you don't get to dictate the rules. You just don't. You get to take it as is or leave. No amount of blathering about puppies and rainbows is going to make anything different here.
Trust me you aren't the first and you won't be the last on this crusade. You will fail as others have failed before you. Either accept the board as it is or peace out for greener pastures. I promise you are fighting a losing battle.
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Just the urge? As in, you were able to resist the urge? Lol you're a better woman than me then.
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You don't know someone is a fly by from one post. But they will be if this is how they're treated. They will move on to a private FB group, or Baby Center and y'all will say good riddance. And again, there are no stated rules of etiquette that I've found so by all means, send them to me and I'll let it go but I KNOW that talking to EVERYONE with respect is an etiquette rule we should all know. It's one thing to let our hormones and tempers flare every now and again but we should be able to apologize when it happens. Amazingly amw posted multiple apologies and people continued to put her down. Really?
The same place the little love it icon pops up. But instead of a heart it is a grey tear drop. I bet it is fairy tears. Meanies.
Would you like me to find examples where they continued harassing her? Put me down all you want. This isn't about me.
You are most certainly correct, however being the last person to post before you posted the image, would lead anyone to believe the comment could be directed towards them. But I digress, I apologize for the assumption.
Not years, just more than one or a handful of posts usually warrants a congrats. But if you actually got to know the board in a meaningful way you'd know this.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
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All ALers welcome!
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First post "Am I pregnant??" = move to first tri/callout
Post an intro, support a few people in the daily threads or answer a question or two for a week or two and build up even a minimal post count = recognizing your SN and congrats for a BFP.
Did you also notice that the BFP posts that got congrats were posters who knew how to post a BFP post? There are certain conventions around that, which anyone who has been here for more than a hotshit minute would know and learn.
No doubt at all.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
"YOU DON'T KNOW MY LYFE!!!"
But really, all your doing is exhausting yourself when you have a simple solution. Finding a different forum. If you are so offended, then don't come to this board. They aren't going to change because you say things like "I digress" or "cheers". Sure, you sound intelligent on your basic English, but when it comes to this board, you are pretty ignorant or just looking to stir shit up.
@rainbowmkr1979:
"You don't know someone is a fly by from one post..."
Yes we do. We can look at their posting history and see if they've participated on the board. Also, we get to know avatars, signature pictures and other attributes from active, supportive posters. If the majority of the posters have no idea who the fuck you are then, yes, it's a drive by. Usually, if you have to ask then the answer is yes.
"And again, there are no stated rules of etiquette that I've found so by all means, send them to me..."
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5592771/new-to-ttgp-read-this/p1
See the "New to TTGP" link at the very top of the discussion board. Also, folks have been trying to tell you how the board operates this entire thread and one other one on BOTB. You have just chosen to argue and white knight. Own that.
"I KNOW that talking to EVERYONE with respect is an etiquette rule we should all know."
No one is being disrespectful. They are simply being straight forward and up front in their approach. Nothing in the threads I have read has come close to bullying. Just because we aren't braiding each others hair, and aren't being sugary sweet doesn't mean that we are violating netiquette in any way.
"It's one thing to let our hormones and tempers flare every now and again but we should be able to apologize when it happens. "
I despise any woman that tries to cheapen my emotional experiences by chalking them up to hormones. Really? My feelings are legit despite my hormones. That's lame to cop out on the "hormonal woman" BS. Just lame. Stop while you are behind on that.
The more you talk the more you prove you are truly clueless about the way the board operates. It's kind of bordering on sad because you are trying to dictate the posting rules/etiquette of a place you don't understand.
That's like showing up in a foreign country and getting mad they don't do things your way.
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There is a certain etiquette called "common sense" and "courtesy". Since you asked, general etiquette on the whole internet (and here) involves lurking online and reading let's say, I don't know, at least a page or two of posts before you barge in talking about yourself and wanting everyone to fall over themselves in excitement? In just one page of posts, let alone two, a person would see intros, probably a flaming or two, and all sorts of other questions/answers/exchanges.
Two examples: (1) would you really burst onto another online forum/community just blurting out whatever you feel like? (2) Would you walk up to a conversation going on among people you have never met and just bust in talking about yourself? Or, would you give it a minute to listen in, find out what the conversation is about, and then introduce yourself and participate in some give and take?
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Maybe that's why there's been an influx of new posters that aren't adhering to the rules that others are used to. I think mobile quotes have been fixed?
Common sense is the way to operate a board. I seriously just don't get why you haven't gone away and skipped into your world of rainbows and unicorns? If you don't like the way most the users operate around here, there are plenty of other TTGP boards on the internet to go to. And stomping your princess feet while shouting "I will stay because I'm Murrrican, and it's my GORD DAMNED RIGHT" is childish. I hate meth labs. But do I stand there and yell at everyone about how rude and stupid they are? No. I don't go to meth labs.
You wouldn't go into a crowd of women who are complete strangers and shake your pee stick in their face, so how is it any better to do so on a board of women who you KNOW are trying to conceive, a lot of which have spent months or years trying to do.
Here is what you need to know.
Get to know people. Offer insights and communicate. Make Friends.
If you really need to read an entire thread on how to interact, you probably shouldn't be posting just yet.
@rainbowmkr1979: It's not only "certain people" but the majority of the active posters that make the community. The majority rules in the sense that those that show up, make friends and create the sense of community are the ones that set the social norms. Surely sociology 101 is not lost on you?
Common courtesy* (not curtsy FYI) is what is being asked for when folks are asked not to shove their BFP in the faces of strangers they haven't bothered to get to know. I'm curious as to why one set is supposed to be uber nice about something that is hurtful. The drive-by may not be aware that they are hurting/bothering/violating the rules of the forum but they are. Ignorance does not excuse the infraction.
You keep saying that the regulars on various boards are lacking in common courtesy, but I have seen very little rudeness. I've seen snark, but that doesn't equal rudeness. It's usually some dry humor. Nothing so egregious that I'd say it is rude. You disagree. Life goes on.
You are seriously creating a reputation for yourself as a PITA. Your crusade isn't really being acknowledged because it seems like a lot of whining when you could just disagree, put on your big girl panties and deal. Instead, you want to keep this up. Seems like a ton of work for very little reward. The board won't change no matter how many times you try to chide us like a nursemaid. It's a fruitless campaign.
But hey, here I am trying to speak sense to you and that doesn't seem to be your currency.
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