Faint + or evap line????

rjeller32

I am still kind of new, but this is tiring. I am really not a fan of all these white knights. Where is that 3 day rule??

rainbowmkr1979

rjeller32 said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

@rainbowmkr1979: "You don't know someone is a fly by from one post..." Yes we do. We can look at their posting history and see if they've participated on the board. Also, we get to know avatars, signature pictures and other attributes from active, supportive posters. If the majority of the posters have no idea who the fuck you are then, yes, it's a drive by. Usually, if you have to ask then the answer is yes. "And again, there are no stated rules of etiquette that I've found so by all means, send them to me..." https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5592771/new-to-ttgp-read-this/p1 See the "New to TTGP" link at the very top of the discussion board. Also, folks have been trying to tell you how the board operates this entire thread and one other one on BOTB. You have just chosen to argue and white knight. Own that. "I KNOW that talking to EVERYONE with respect is an etiquette rule we should all know." No one is being disrespectful. They are simply being straight forward and up front in their approach. Nothing in the threads I have read has come close to bullying. Just because we aren't braiding each others hair, and aren't being sugary sweet doesn't mean that we are violating netiquette in any way. "It's one thing to let our hormones and tempers flare every now and again but we should be able to apologize when it happens. " I despise any woman that tries to cheapen my emotional experiences by chalking them up to hormones. Really? My feelings are legit despite my hormones. That's lame to cop out on the "hormonal woman" BS. Just lame. Stop while you are behind on that. The more you talk the more you prove you are truly clueless about the way the board operates. It's kind of bordering on sad because you are trying to dictate the posting rules/etiquette of a place you don't understand. That's like showing up in a foreign country and getting mad they don't do things your way.

Thank you for posting your link. I will indeed take a look at it. I went from my mobile to my computer trying to click on it and it would not work. I also did a search. But... I wonder... Why does the board "operate" only the way certain people says it should operate? Common curtsy is apparently not a way to operate? Maybe that will be outlined in the link you sent me...  

It goes to the TTGP Newbie link. So....

Common sense is the way to operate a board. I seriously just don't get why you haven't gone away and skipped into your world of rainbows and unicorns? If you don't like the way most the users operate around here, there are plenty of other TTGP boards on the internet to go to. And stomping your princess feet while shouting "I will stay because I'm Murrrican, and it's my GORD DAMNED RIGHT" is childish. I hate meth labs. But do I stand there and yell at everyone about how rude and stupid they are? No. I don't go to meth labs.

You wouldn't go into a crowd of women who are complete strangers and shake your pee stick in their face, so how is it any better to do so on a board of women who you KNOW are trying to conceive, a lot of which have spent months or years trying to do.

Here is what you need to know.
Get to know people. Offer insights and communicate. Make Friends.

If you really need to read an entire thread on how to interact, you probably shouldn't be posting just yet.

What you need to know. 

I have gotten to know quite a few very nice people so far! Probably not YOUR people... I have offered many insights and gotten quite a few thank yous. And I have indeed made a few friends! Good! I've completed my to do list :-) 

And for the record, I most certainly do not need to read an entire thread on how to interact but I'm afraid that they may indeed need to create one to post for this public forum. 

hmm81

rjeller32 said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

@rainbowmkr1979: "You don't know someone is a fly by from one post..." Yes we do. We can look at their posting history and see if they've participated on the board. Also, we get to know avatars, signature pictures and other attributes from active, supportive posters. If the majority of the posters have no idea who the fuck you are then, yes, it's a drive by. Usually, if you have to ask then the answer is yes. "And again, there are no stated rules of etiquette that I've found so by all means, send them to me..." https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5592771/new-to-ttgp-read-this/p1 See the "New to TTGP" link at the very top of the discussion board. Also, folks have been trying to tell you how the board operates this entire thread and one other one on BOTB. You have just chosen to argue and white knight. Own that. "I KNOW that talking to EVERYONE with respect is an etiquette rule we should all know." No one is being disrespectful. They are simply being straight forward and up front in their approach. Nothing in the threads I have read has come close to bullying. Just because we aren't braiding each others hair, and aren't being sugary sweet doesn't mean that we are violating netiquette in any way. "It's one thing to let our hormones and tempers flare every now and again but we should be able to apologize when it happens. " I despise any woman that tries to cheapen my emotional experiences by chalking them up to hormones. Really? My feelings are legit despite my hormones. That's lame to cop out on the "hormonal woman" BS. Just lame. Stop while you are behind on that. The more you talk the more you prove you are truly clueless about the way the board operates. It's kind of bordering on sad because you are trying to dictate the posting rules/etiquette of a place you don't understand. That's like showing up in a foreign country and getting mad they don't do things your way.

Thank you for posting your link. I will indeed take a look at it. I went from my mobile to my computer trying to click on it and it would not work. I also did a search. But... I wonder... Why does the board "operate" only the way certain people says it should operate? Common curtsy is apparently not a way to operate? Maybe that will be outlined in the link you sent me...  

It goes to the TTGP Newbie link. So....

Common sense is the way to operate a board. I seriously just don't get why you haven't gone away and skipped into your world of rainbows and unicorns? If you don't like the way most the users operate around here, there are plenty of other TTGP boards on the internet to go to. And stomping your princess feet while shouting "I will stay because I'm Murrrican, and it's my GORD DAMNED RIGHT" is childish. I hate meth labs. But do I stand there and yell at everyone about how rude and stupid they are? No. I don't go to meth labs.

You wouldn't go into a crowd of women who are complete strangers and shake your pee stick in their face, so how is it any better to do so on a board of women who you KNOW are trying to conceive, a lot of which have spent months or years trying to do.

Here is what you need to know.
Get to know people. Offer insights and communicate. Make Friends.

If you really need to read an entire thread on how to interact, you probably shouldn't be posting just yet.

Common sense goes hand in hand with common decency. I am an adult, I work, and on a day to day basis I interact with people who I have never met before with no rudeness, sarcasm, syncism and hipocracy.  It is not a world of unicorn and rainbows it's the real world where real adults live and work together.

gscoville

I really love the foreign country analogy people have mentioned.  Rainbow, think of this board as a country and maybe, just maybe, you'll finally FINALLY get what we're trying to say.  Each board has its culture, some a bit more humourous or snarky than others, and that's OK.  Different boards to suit different personalities.  Honestly, why do you feel it's your duty to change this one when there are so many others that don't have to be changed to suit your needs?  You WILL NOT change this board, you're just coming off as relentless and patronizing as you stomp your feet and argue every. single. point that is given to you.  Babygaga or Babycenter are calling for you, they love glitter, puppy farts and unicorn jiz over there. 

rainbowmkr1979

Why does no one want to address anyones responses about why comments can't be made in a nice way? And why are we "white knights" for sticking up for one another? We are doing the same thing you all are doing. It makes no sense. And since I'm a newb, what is a PITA? I'm sure it's not anything nice because that would be too much to ask for. Because I'm nice to people does not mean I'm shoving rainbows or glitter or whatever anywhere. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to do on this type of public forum which is support people who joined for the same reason I did. I will NEVER comment back to anyones question in a rude or degrading way as to insult them and make myself feel better for thinking I know more. 

indiana101

I love it how the snarky ladies think they represent the whole board. Not everyone is snarky, most have the ability to reply without being so "blunt".

I lol everytime I read "I'm not rude - I'm honest" and "I'm not a bully - I am blunt"

Thanks for the entertainment!

themrsJRD

rainbowmkr1979 said:

Why does no one want to address anyones responses about why comments can't be made in a nice way? And why are we "white knights" for sticking up for one another? We are doing the same thing you all are doing. It makes no sense. And since I'm a newb, what is a PITA? I'm sure it's not anything nice because that would be too much to ask for. Because I'm nice to people does not mean I'm shoving rainbows or glitter or whatever anywhere. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to do on this type of public forum which is support people who joined for the same reason I did. I will NEVER comment back to anyones question in a rude or degrading way as to insult them and make myself feel better for thinking I know more. 

I just can't believe this is still dragging on.

Things on this board are said in a blunt and honest way. That's the culture of the board. Really, you aren't going to change it, but you are free to respond to posts in any way you see fit. But when you start telling OP's to "ignore all the negativity" and "rude people" you are stepping on toes, because the other posters aren't necessarily being rude or negative... just honest, blunt, matter-of-fact, and maybe snarky.

PITA= pain in the ass.

rainbowmkr1979

PITA is a common internet term that means pain in the ass. Everyone is addressing it - snark is part of this culture and no one is being rude they are just being frank. Again, if you don't like this culture maybe there is another one that would be a more appropriate fit for you. I hear babycenter's culture may be more your style.

Oh, Baby Center is GREAT! I'm a member there too but thanks for your suggestion! As for being a PITA... I'm sorry being a "decent human being" is appalling to you. I'm quite happy being the person I am; whether shoving rainbows around or not :-) I love how people continue to attempt to put me down like it is going to change my personality. I am not going anywhere. I have made friends here and I will continue to stick up for people when they need it and give them positive/helpful comments when needed. I guess that is just "predictable" me :-)

GirlOnTheBeach

janda426 said:

TeeJ526 said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

janda426 said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

I know exactly where I'm headed. Y'all want those who are new here to accept that those who have been here awhile are blunt with their honesty. So am I.

I would say you're more blunt with ignorance than honesty. In all honesty.

See, calling someone ignorant goes against the "rules." And thanks for backing that point up with examples.

I don't see how pointing out someone's ignorance is bashing, derogatory, or against the rules.

I agree. Pointing out someone's ignorance is doing them a favor. It is also a sort of public service in that perhaps it will help them to refrain from displaying ignorance in other situations!

rainbowmkr1979

themrsJRD said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

Why does no one want to address anyones responses about why comments can't be made in a nice way? And why are we "white knights" for sticking up for one another? We are doing the same thing you all are doing. It makes no sense. And since I'm a newb, what is a PITA? I'm sure it's not anything nice because that would be too much to ask for. Because I'm nice to people does not mean I'm shoving rainbows or glitter or whatever anywhere. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to do on this type of public forum which is support people who joined for the same reason I did. I will NEVER comment back to anyones question in a rude or degrading way as to insult them and make myself feel better for thinking I know more. 

I just can't believe this is still dragging on.

Things on this board are said in a blunt and honest way. That's the culture of the board. Really, you aren't going to change it, but you are free to respond to posts in any way you see fit. But when you start telling OP's to "ignore all the negativity" and "rude people" you are stepping on toes, because the other posters aren't necessarily being rude or negative... just honest, blunt, matter-of-fact, and maybe snarky.

PITA= pain in the ass.

I'm sorry you feel I am stepping on toes but when I see or feel that someone getting harassed I will give them a positive comment. And there is negativity everywhere in life and in order to live a happy life we have to learn to put that past us and keep our happy. I was too being honest and matter of fact. I tell everyone to ignore negativity. 

themrsJRD

rainbowmkr1979 said:

themrsJRD said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

Why does no one want to address anyones responses about why comments can't be made in a nice way? And why are we "white knights" for sticking up for one another? We are doing the same thing you all are doing. It makes no sense. And since I'm a newb, what is a PITA? I'm sure it's not anything nice because that would be too much to ask for. Because I'm nice to people does not mean I'm shoving rainbows or glitter or whatever anywhere. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to do on this type of public forum which is support people who joined for the same reason I did. I will NEVER comment back to anyones question in a rude or degrading way as to insult them and make myself feel better for thinking I know more. 

I just can't believe this is still dragging on.

Things on this board are said in a blunt and honest way. That's the culture of the board. Really, you aren't going to change it, but you are free to respond to posts in any way you see fit. But when you start telling OP's to "ignore all the negativity" and "rude people" you are stepping on toes, because the other posters aren't necessarily being rude or negative... just honest, blunt, matter-of-fact, and maybe snarky.

PITA= pain in the ass.

I'm sorry you feel I am stepping on toes but when I see or feel that someone getting harassed I will give them a positive comment. And there is negativity everywhere in life and in order to live a happy life we have to learn to put that past us and keep our happy. I was too being honest and matter of fact. I tell everyone to ignore negativity. 

No one has been harassed here, but okay. Seriously, I just joined this board in April and it has gotten much softer even since then. 

Yeah, there's negativity everywhere in life, but you are specifically telling people to ignore negativity from other posters when there is none to even mention. FFS, it's the damn internet, and even if you don't agree with what people are posting, there's no reason to get butthurt over it! It doesn't mean they were being mean or negative, and really, the best thing to do is ignore it (this applies to all parties, I think).

Like I said, you can respond to posters however you see fit, as will everyone else. That will never change. But when you start talking about how mean we all are, what does that make you??? You can be nice to people and fly under the radar of the snarkier people, and give people the support you say is so important, even when they have never posted here before. 

Anyway, I am heading to bed. I'm supposed to be up early. Good night all.

rainbowmkr1979

GirlOnTheBeach said:

janda426 said:

I know exactly where I'm headed. Y'all want those who are new here to accept that those who have been here awhile are blunt with their honesty. So am I.

I would say you're more blunt with ignorance than honesty. In all honesty.

See, calling someone ignorant goes against the "rules." And thanks for backing that point up with examples.

I don't see how pointing out someone's ignorance is bashing, derogatory, or against the rules.

I agree. Pointing out someone's ignorance is doing them a favor. It is also a sort of public service in that perhaps it will help them to refrain from displaying ignorance in other situations!

Still no examples huh? The best I've seen anyone come up with is that I'm predictable because I commented in a positive way to someone. Predictability does not equal ignorant. Nor does being positive, or nice or standing up for someone else. 

rjeller32

hmm81 said:

rjeller32 said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

@rainbowmkr1979: "You don't know someone is a fly by from one post..." Yes we do. We can look at their posting history and see if they've participated on the board. Also, we get to know avatars, signature pictures and other attributes from active, supportive posters. If the majority of the posters have no idea who the fuck you are then, yes, it's a drive by. Usually, if you have to ask then the answer is yes. "And again, there are no stated rules of etiquette that I've found so by all means, send them to me..." https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/5592771/new-to-ttgp-read-this/p1 See the "New to TTGP" link at the very top of the discussion board. Also, folks have been trying to tell you how the board operates this entire thread and one other one on BOTB. You have just chosen to argue and white knight. Own that. "I KNOW that talking to EVERYONE with respect is an etiquette rule we should all know." No one is being disrespectful. They are simply being straight forward and up front in their approach. Nothing in the threads I have read has come close to bullying. Just because we aren't braiding each others hair, and aren't being sugary sweet doesn't mean that we are violating netiquette in any way. "It's one thing to let our hormones and tempers flare every now and again but we should be able to apologize when it happens. " I despise any woman that tries to cheapen my emotional experiences by chalking them up to hormones. Really? My feelings are legit despite my hormones. That's lame to cop out on the "hormonal woman" BS. Just lame. Stop while you are behind on that. The more you talk the more you prove you are truly clueless about the way the board operates. It's kind of bordering on sad because you are trying to dictate the posting rules/etiquette of a place you don't understand. That's like showing up in a foreign country and getting mad they don't do things your way.

Thank you for posting your link. I will indeed take a look at it. I went from my mobile to my computer trying to click on it and it would not work. I also did a search. But... I wonder... Why does the board "operate" only the way certain people says it should operate? Common curtsy is apparently not a way to operate? Maybe that will be outlined in the link you sent me...  

It goes to the TTGP Newbie link. So....

Common sense is the way to operate a board. I seriously just don't get why you haven't gone away and skipped into your world of rainbows and unicorns? If you don't like the way most the users operate around here, there are plenty of other TTGP boards on the internet to go to. And stomping your princess feet while shouting "I will stay because I'm Murrrican, and it's my GORD DAMNED RIGHT" is childish. I hate meth labs. But do I stand there and yell at everyone about how rude and stupid they are? No. I don't go to meth labs.

You wouldn't go into a crowd of women who are complete strangers and shake your pee stick in their face, so how is it any better to do so on a board of women who you KNOW are trying to conceive, a lot of which have spent months or years trying to do.

Here is what you need to know.
Get to know people. Offer insights and communicate. Make Friends.

If you really need to read an entire thread on how to interact, you probably shouldn't be posting just yet.

Common sense goes hand in hand with common decency. I am an adult, I work, and on a day to day basis I interact with people who I have never met before with no rudeness, sarcasm, syncism and hipocracy.  It is not a world of unicorn and rainbows it's the real world where real adults live and work together.

I work too. With loads of strangers. My life is filled with sarcasm and snark, both ways. I operate as a specs/orders desk, and if a construction company comes to me with "Will you please figure out how much of blahblah I need?" I say "Do your job so I can do mine." If I were to do that for every company, it would triple my work load, and make my life harder. I don't think any of the listed above are not part of the adult world.

But, I am just realistic. I can't go into the real world thinking every person is going to care what I do or say, and that's how I treat these boards.

rjeller32

rainbowmkr1979 said:

GirlOnTheBeach said:

janda426 said:

I know exactly where I'm headed. Y'all want those who are new here to accept that those who have been here awhile are blunt with their honesty. So am I.

I would say you're more blunt with ignorance than honesty. In all honesty.

See, calling someone ignorant goes against the "rules." And thanks for backing that point up with examples.

I don't see how pointing out someone's ignorance is bashing, derogatory, or against the rules.

I agree. Pointing out someone's ignorance is doing them a favor. It is also a sort of public service in that perhaps it will help them to refrain from displaying ignorance in other situations!

Still no examples huh? The best I've seen anyone come up with is that I'm predictable because I commented in a positive way to someone. Predictability does not equal ignorant. Nor does being positive, or nice or standing up for someone else. 

No examples because no one wants to waste their time trying to get you to understand. You obviously have your way, and these ladies have their own. You are wanting a shit ton of women from different cultures and backgrounds to adhere to your liking. That isn't how life works.

GirlOnTheBeach

I agree with you on that point. Where you are showing ignorance is in the "lack of awareness" department.

Being "aware" implies vigilance in observing or alertness in drawing inferences from what one experiences. You joined a pre-existing community that has its own culture and linguistical style. You are experiencing negative reactions to your responses because they go against that culture and linguistically style. Instead of changing how you choose to interact with everyone, you expect them all to change to suit you. That shows ignorance on your part because you lack the awareness of the pre-existing culture, and when someone tries to point it out, you try to push your own agenda.

So when I say that it's doing you a service to point out your ignorance, that's what I mean.

rjeller32

@GirlOnTheBeach you had to ace Anthro back in college

But I agree with you completely. It is ignorant to assume one subculture will adjust to your own subculture. That's like expecting a group of Jewish people to come celebrate Christmas with you, and then getting mad that they won't.

GirlOnTheBeach

Thanks rjeller :-) I actually never took anthro but I'm a foreign language major and all my education was about languages and cultures. In all my travels and studies I've always seen the value of trying to acclimate to the culture in which I wish to be included :-)

brookeK1990

I love it how the snarky ladies think they represent the whole board. Not everyone is snarky, most have the ability to reply without being so "blunt".

I lol everytime I read "I'm not rude - I'm honest" and "I'm not a bully - I am blunt"

Thanks for the entertainment!

Lol exactly. Like in high school "ew I hate your hair color" sure you might honestly hate that persons hair color, but the comment was rude. So stupid when people say crap like that

rjeller32

GirlOnTheBeach said:

Thanks rjeller :-) I actually never took anthro but I'm a foreign language major and all my education was about languages and cultures. In all my travels and studies I've always seen the value of trying to acclimate to the culture in which I wish to be included :-)

Well, way to make me jealous!

PrimRoseMama

@GirlOnTheBeach: you are my new bump crush. I can't tell you how much I adore your ignorance explanation for Rainbowmkr.

@Hmm: you remind me of that "baby dust" poster that went crazy. Lol at "cheers" at the end of every post. I appreciate proper grammar. Overly proper grammar doesn't fit the register of this board and starts to sound like you are either a) trying to hard to sound smart b) trying to sound snotty and pretentious. You have the same issue as Rainbowgirl over here. What you want to achieve and what you are actually communicating with your posts are conflicting. Look to that. PS: the "lyfe" comment is an Internet meme and intentionally spelled incorrectly for humorous purposes. Remove head from sphincter, then type!

@rainbowmkr1979
Predictable? You are acting like a willfully dense person now. No, you are now choosing to openly ignore social norms that have been explained to you now multiple times. That is bordering on troll behavior. That is an example of violation, true violation by the way, of the terms of service of thebump. Just thought I would make you aware.

Just because you don't care for the unwritten rules or social norms of a message board does not mean you can ignore them without consequence. When you do that you start to irritate people. When you start to irritate people then they no longer wish to associate with you. When people no longer wish to associate with you then you get flamed at every turn. Thus, this super soft cuddly full-of-respect world you are looking to create goes right down the crapper. Lovely eh? You are shooting yourself in the foot and sinking your own ship by persisting. What you want and what you are getting are two very separate things. How do you not see this?

Also, a note on respect that you keep bringing up. It's equally disrespectful and rude of you (a stranger who is not familiar with our customs and traditions) to waltz in here and demand anything. That is the height of presumption and self centeredness. You realize this right? I'm not quite sure you fully appreciate how rich it is to claim that you are the be-all and end-all authority on how to behave on a website. You don't seem to be able to grasp that newcomers don't make the rules. They follow them or find a different location to call home. END Of STORY.

So yeah, there is a huge difference between being snarky and mean. As Chancie pointed out. The folks that jump the shark to pointless snark and mean behavior DO get called out for being assholes. Again, if you'd cool your nursemaid tendencies for a hot second and actually participate in a meaningful way then you would know this.

Plenty of people have addressed and given examples. You just want to be dissatisfied with their answers. I am afraid there isn't much to be done if your solution is to plug your ears and sing,"la la la I can't hear you! Why can't everyone be NICE?! La la la where are the examples?!".

So yeah, now you are just choosing to be annoying. I don't see how that makes you any better of a human being than anyone here?

beachlovingirl

The reason our world is starting to go to hell in a hand basket is because everyone wants puppies, rainbows and warm fuzzies. When we started to move to that instead of being honest, no matter how brutal, our world became a little softer/more sensitive by the day. Frankly, I prefer honesty...honesty and education will get you farther than puppies and rainbows...

janda426

Honest, blunt answers is what gets people pregnant. This is a science, "do what works" oriented board. We won't tell you that because you keep smelling tacos wherever you go that you MUST be pregnant. We won't tell you that you always O on CD 14. Etc etc. COUNTLESS people who get BFPs constantly come back to thank the board for all the brute honesty regarding this process because it shed a new light on how it works.

We help people make babies. Whatever goal the white knight of the day has is irrelevant.

rjeller32

Let it die.

Just let the damn thread die.

hmm81

gscoville said:

I really love the foreign country analogy people have mentioned.  Rainbow, think of this board as a country and maybe, just maybe, you'll finally FINALLY get what we're trying to say.  Each board has its culture, some a bit more humourous or snarky than others, and that's OK.  Different boards to suit different personalities.  Honestly, why do you feel it's your duty to change this one when there are so many others that don't have to be changed to suit your needs?  You WILL NOT change this board, you're just coming off as relentless and patronizing as you stomp your feet and argue every. single. point that is given to you.  Babygaga or Babycenter are calling for you, they love glitter, puppy farts and unicorn jiz over there. 

themrsJRD said:

rainbowmkr1979 said:

Why does no one want to address anyones responses about why comments can't be made in a nice way? And why are we "white knights" for sticking up for one another? We are doing the same thing you all are doing. It makes no sense. And since I'm a newb, what is a PITA? I'm sure it's not anything nice because that would be too much to ask for. Because I'm nice to people does not mean I'm shoving rainbows or glitter or whatever anywhere. I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to do on this type of public forum which is support people who joined for the same reason I did. I will NEVER comment back to anyones question in a rude or degrading way as to insult them and make myself feel better for thinking I know more. 

I just can't believe this is still dragging on.

Things on this board are said in a blunt and honest way. That's the culture of the board. Really, you aren't going to change it, but you are free to respond to posts in any way you see fit. But when you start telling OP's to "ignore all the negativity" and "rude people" you are stepping on toes, because the other posters aren't necessarily being rude or negative... just honest, blunt, matter-of-fact, and maybe snarky.

PITA= pain in the as

PrimRoseMama said:

Le sigh... @rainbowmkr1979: It's not only "certain people" but the majority of the active posters that make the community. The majority rules in the sense that those that show up, make friends and create the sense of community are the ones that set the social norms.

Surely sociology 101 is not lost on you? Common courtesy* (not curtsy FYI) is what is being asked for when folks are asked not to shove their BFP in the faces of strangers they haven't bothered to get to know. I'm curious as to why one set is supposed to be uber nice about something that is hurtful. The drive-by may not be aware that they are hurting/bothering/violating the rules of the forum but they are. Ignorance does not excuse the infraction. You keep saying that the regulars on various boards are lacking in common courtesy, but I have seen very little rudeness. I've seen snark, but that doesn't equal rudeness. It's usually some dry humor. Nothing so egregious that I'd say it is rude. You disagree. Life goes on. You are seriously creating a reputation for yourself as a PITA. Your crusade isn't really being acknowledged because it seems like a lot of whining when you could just disagree, put on your big girl panties and deal. Instead, you want to keep this up. Seems like a ton of work for very little reward. The board won't change no matter how many times you try to chide us like a nursemaid. It's a fruitless campaign. But hey, here I am trying to speak sense to you and that doesn't seem to be your currency.

Le sigh... @rainbowmkr1979: It's not only "certain people" but the majority of the active posters that make the community. The majority rules in the sense that those that show up, make friends and create the sense of community are the ones that set the social norms.

I agree that the majority of people make up the community. However, when a person shows up on this website asking a question, or in rainbows case, supporting someone, I fail to find just cause for an immediate rude response. I wonder if when you meet someone in real life you immediately respond in a rude manner, likely not.

Surely sociology 101 is not lost on you? Common courtesy* (not curtsy FYI) is what is being asked for when folks are asked not to shove their BFP in the faces of strangers they haven't bothered to get to know

Sociology is the study of Society, social institutions, and social relationships. It is the study of the scientific analysis of a social institution as a functioning whole and as it relates to the rest of society.  

Common courtesy is an action, not a study please have an idea what you're talking about before posting. And you are being a hypocrite, though I'm not going to explain why because I doubt you will understand.

 I'm curious as to why one set is supposed to be uber nice about something that is hurtful. The drive-by may not be aware that they are hurting/bothering/violating the rules of the forum but they are. Ignorance does not excuse the infraction.

Why is it hurtful for one person to celebrate life? It is not meant to hurt, and the same people celebrating would be just as happy to extend congratulations to you once you have conceived. 

Can you show me a rule that states you can't post a BFP? Rhetorical Question.

And I know all I need to know about you by your constant negative responses to those who aren't long time members of your little online world.

You keep saying that the regulars on various boards are lacking in common courtesy, but I have seen very little rudeness. I've seen snark, but that doesn't equal rudeness. It's usually some dry humor. Nothing so egregious that I'd say it is rude.

Someone being snarky is basically the same this as being sarcastic. I can give you the definition if you'd like. 

There is a clear line between sarcasm and rudeness. You just choose not to see it. 

 Life goes on. You are seriously creating a reputation for yourself as a PITA. Your crusade isn't really being acknowledged because it seems like a lot of whining when you could just disagree, put on your big girl panties and deal. Instead, you want to keep this up. Seems like a ton of work for very little reward.

Some of life's greatest people were viewed as a PITA, because they speak the truth and stand up for themselves against the "cheerleader squads" of adult hood.  Why should she simply walk away? Once again you are being a hypocrite when you could simply do the same. And it's not a lot of work to defend your points against people who have little to add to the conversation.

People have claimed she has broken rules, and provided ZERO examples, she has been called ignorant by people who don't even know the definition of the word. And told to just give up and walk a way by hypocrites who aren't willing to do the same.

But hey, here I am trying to speak sense to you and that doesn't seem to be your currency.

She is clearly the more sensible one of the two of you. Landslide victory.

Cheers!

rainbowmkr1979

janda426 said:

Honest, blunt answers is what gets people pregnant. This is a science, "do what works" oriented board. We won't tell you that because you keep smelling tacos wherever you go that you MUST be pregnant. We won't tell you that you always O on CD 14. Etc etc. COUNTLESS people who get BFPs constantly come back to thank the board for all the brute honesty regarding this process because it shed a new light on how it works. We help people make babies. Whatever goal the white knight of the day has is irrelevant.

"We help people make babies."? That's a pretty grandiose statement.

Pintobean39

rainbowmkr1979 said:

janda426 said:

Honest, blunt answers is what gets people pregnant. This is a science, "do what works" oriented board. We won't tell you that because you keep smelling tacos wherever you go that you MUST be pregnant. We won't tell you that you always O on CD 14. Etc etc. COUNTLESS people who get BFPs constantly come back to thank the board for all the brute honesty regarding this process because it shed a new light on how it works.

We help people make babies. Whatever goal the white knight of the day has is irrelevant.

"We help people make babies."? That's a pretty grandiose statement.


Actually because of this board I've learned so much about my cycle and what is going on. I've always wondered if I ovulated and with their advice I bought a book, downloaded and app, got some pee sticks, and a thermometer. Now they haven't helped me "make a baby" (I'm sure you cant do that online) but directed me to the tools to increase my chances and if I can't I can go to my dr I'm a few months and give him useful info to figure out why I'm not preg.

PrimRoseMama

@hmm81: it is the most laughable thing in the world that you believe Rainbowmkr has more sense than me. Considering you keep arguing the same circular logic and completely miss very valid, rational reasoning I'm not sure you are in a position to be making a judgement call like that. Thanks for playing though. Your blathering is entertaining.

PrimRoseMama

@HMM81: both of you are demonstrating your profound and mind boggling ignorance by continuing this shit show. Truly, a sensible person would stop trying to argue in favor of something that is not working. Your approach is failing at persuading anyone. You aren't right and no amount of novel posts are going to make you right.

There have been so many examples cited, but they are conveniently ignored. So yeah, the fact that the two of you are still going proves that you clearly lack the common sense God gave a rock to quit while you are behind.

rainbowmkr1979

PrimRoseMama said:

@HMM81: both of you are demonstrating your profound and mind boggling ignorance by continuing this shit show. Truly, a sensible person would stop trying to argue in favor of something that is not working. Your approach is failing at persuading anyone. You aren't right and no amount of novel posts are going to make you right. There have been so many examples cited, but they are conveniently ignored. So yeah, the fact that the two of you are still going proves that you clearly lack the common sense God gave a rock to quit while you are behind.

Calling the kettle black here a little I think. Lol!
@Pintobean39 I sincerely mean this when I say congrats on finding the tools you needed here. I have done many a simple google search and found the same suggestions but still chose to become a member if these boards for the friendship and support aspect as well as getting real life experiences and advice and not the textbook answers.

rjeller32

This thread is screaming



This is a situation where the updates have just gotten irritating. I think most everyone has moved on. You should too.

PrimRoseMama

hmm81 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

@hmm81: it is the most laughable thing in the world that you believe Rainbowmkr has more sense than me. Considering you keep arguing the same circular logic and completely miss very valid, rational reasoning I'm not sure you are in a position to be making a judgement call like that. Thanks for playing though. Your blathering is entertaining.

I'm just going to sum this up with a couple of small words so you will finally understand.

You're stupid!

Cheers!

I'm not sure you would know what stupid was if it walked up and bit you. Though I'll make sure to take your very valuable opinion of me into account. Yeah, no, not really. I promise I'm not the one that looks completely idiotic in this thread. Whatever helps you sleep at night, dear. Bless your poor, simple, vindictive little heart. 

janda426

I don't think she realizes we can see when she brings this thread back to life. Like in her head she thinks if she can get the last word, even if no one sees, then she wins.

And this bitch must drink a LOT. She is cheers'ing every other sentence.