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Cloth Diapering
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Naysayers
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I'm curious what other people's experience with CD naysayers have been and how you all recommend dealing with the particularly nasty naysayer I have.
DH brought up CD'ing at dinner with my inlaws last night and they jumped all over us. Well, more so me because they knew it was my idea. My mother in law said she planned to buy disposables to put him in while she's watching him. I don't like that idea. She pretty much left it at that. But, FIL decided to go on through the whole dinner about our "stupid decision."
He said everything from "your washer is going to be fille with poop" to "your house is going to smell like shiit all the time" to "people aren't going to want to watch him because they won't want to deal with the cloth diapers."
Of course, I shot right back with all I had, telling him why he was wrong about the poop in the washer thing, how cloth diapers have come a long way, to "we're going to save like $1500 per kid" to "there's a much lower occurrence of diaper rash with cloth diapered babies."
I even showed my inlaws online images of some of the new kinds of cloth diapers and offered to meet them halfway by saying I'd teach them how they work and if they're still uncomfortable with the idea, they can use the gdiapers with the flushable inserts when they watch him.
FIL was not convinced. Just as surly as ever, he told me it was a dumb decision.
I don't understand why people have to be so unaccepting of the choices we make as to how to raise our kids.
Any suggestions? Similar experiences?
DH brought up CD'ing at dinner with my inlaws last night and they jumped all over us. Well, more so me because they knew it was my idea. My mother in law said she planned to buy disposables to put him in while she's watching him. I don't like that idea. She pretty much left it at that. But, FIL decided to go on through the whole dinner about our "stupid decision."
He said everything from "your washer is going to be fille with poop" to "your house is going to smell like shiit all the time" to "people aren't going to want to watch him because they won't want to deal with the cloth diapers."
Of course, I shot right back with all I had, telling him why he was wrong about the poop in the washer thing, how cloth diapers have come a long way, to "we're going to save like $1500 per kid" to "there's a much lower occurrence of diaper rash with cloth diapered babies."
I even showed my inlaws online images of some of the new kinds of cloth diapers and offered to meet them halfway by saying I'd teach them how they work and if they're still uncomfortable with the idea, they can use the gdiapers with the flushable inserts when they watch him.
FIL was not convinced. Just as surly as ever, he told me it was a dumb decision.
I don't understand why people have to be so unaccepting of the choices we make as to how to raise our kids.
Any suggestions? Similar experiences?
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Re: Naysayers
That said, welcome to parenting. People will always have an opinion about something that is none of their business.
And I didn't tell anyone I planned to CD, even our families, unless it somehow came up. And it really rarely did. After DD was already born, and everyone saw how easy CDs are, no one has said a negative thing about it. I'll answer all of the questions in the world if someone asks me about CDing, but I still don't just bring it up.
Personally, I'm super non confrontational, so whatever. I would smile and nod. None of my ILs spend enough time with her to get an opinion.
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I'm not the OP, but my reasons are:
Undetermined time in landfill. The first disposables ever made still have an estimated 440 years to go. If they ever break down.
The resources to make and transport including water destroyed by using disposables is immense.
Plus the diapers are made of chemicals. Some of which are known carcinogens and hormone disruptors. Do I think a baby will be infertile because disposables are used? No. But I also don't want to add to her exposure to these chemicals from such an early age which build in their systems from exposure over time. Some babies have rashes because of them, while other moms just prefer not to have them near baby's bottom.
The diapers are ridiculously easy to use, especially if you aren't the one doing laundry. There is no need for anyone to use disposables on my baby. All they have to do is put it in a wetbag instead of a garbage can.
All of the regular people (grandparents, etc) who were reluctant about using cloth diapers for DD have since changed their minds and have said that if they had the option of using modern cloth on their kids they would have. Lots of people picture folding sheets of fabric and pinning it, when the reality is nothing like that.
It annoyed me. It annoyed me when she asked whether she could use disposables on DS. I ultimately just said yes, because I knew she wouldn't be watching him that much. Once she saw the diapers in action, and heard my husband praising them, she was willing to give them a try. She'll be watching him all day tomorrow and has said she can handle the cloth.
I certainly wouldn't tolerate someone insulting me for deciding to use cloth. If nothing else, it's a sign of a power struggle to come with your husband's family over the child-rearing decisions you'll be making, at least if you don't establish boundaries early on. It would be really, really tempting to say, "Well, you don't have to watch the baby then." But that's probably a tad too petty...
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My Auntie in law (closest thign I have to a MIL) makes it way to difficult. She cannot figure it out. Even when I leave her the velcro type all prepped. All she has to do is put the dirty one in the tub and I will take care of it.
To be fair, I have switched from CD several times. Mainly when dealing with extreme nausea (pregnancy) or bad bouts of depression. DH still sticks up for me and informs people that the cost of the diapers we bought already paid for themselves since I only spend the $ as a months worth of disposables and they have been in use (not counting times not in use) for 2 years.
Luckily my own mother is supportive. She CD 3 of us back when it was prefolds and a plastic cover. She thinks today's CD are to fancy but is more than happy to use them. I was given a diaper cake with my daughter that was made of prefolds.
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....can suck it. That's what I thought when I read your post title.
Nobody was on board when I presented the idea (even DH who was just going along with it to support me and planned to either just let me change/wash them and he'd buy sposies if he couldn't do it). They all got over it and my mom even brags to her friends about me doing it now, my MIL refers me as a reference to her friends children who are having babies. Even my dad thinks they are really cute even though he's never come around to changed one yet. They get over it, and if they don't they don't have to change your kid. I even found a daycare that would use them and it's going great. Do what you want and they can make decision for their kids. I told my ILs that; they had their chance to make choices for their kids, now it's our turn.