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January 2014 Moms
I am a third time pregnant mom
One 32 weeker preemie now 8 yrs old
One full term son died at 10 days to heart defect
Now pregnant due Jan 2014 with our miracle baby
Have been through a lot
When I tell folks we are pregnant
The response is 'good luck' and 'hope it works out' etc
Not Congrats
I feel so short changed
My mother in law said that she could not help with this pregnancy as if I want her help because the probability that this baby would die too is too hard for HER to handle
It is really weird being excited about this pregnancy as no one else but my hubby and daughter are
I feel like I am being punished
Pregnant after newborn loss
I am a third time pregnant mom
One 32 weeker preemie now 8 yrs old
One full term son died at 10 days to heart defect
Now pregnant due Jan 2014 with our miracle baby
Have been through a lot
When I tell folks we are pregnant
The response is 'good luck' and 'hope it works out' etc
Not Congrats
I feel so short changed
My mother in law said that she could not help with this pregnancy as if I want her help because the probability that this baby would die too is too hard for HER to handle
It is really weird being excited about this pregnancy as no one else but my hubby and daughter are
I feel like I am being punished
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Re: Pregnant after newborn loss
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby, and that your MIL said that to you. It was inappropriate for her to even throw that in your face and place her feelings above yours when it comes to losing your own child.
But this is a new start and your baby has as good a chance as any and you deserve to be happy, so congratulations!
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BFP #2 (letrozole 5mg + ovidrel) July 2016, Beta #1 359, Beta #2 745, Beta #3 11484
EDD April 9th, 2017
I am so sorry your MIL said that to you. How horrible and selfish of her.
I think I said it in your other thread, but just in case I didn't - a big congrats!
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First, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. But welcome to the board and congratulations!
Second, I am so sorry people are making you feel that way. You will not find that here. You will find support and well wishes here, I am certain of that.
Third, does your MIL intend to ignore you for the entire pregnancy? I'm not sure what to even make of her comment. I don't know if you have the type of relationship where you could suggest that she read something, but I read this the other day and thought of my own mother. When I had a pregnancy loss, she complained to me about how hard it was for her to watch her daughter experience a loss. I am certain that it was, but I really felt it took away from any support that she had provided up to that point because of the fact that she expected me to somehow comfort her at my worst moment. It was a very difficult dynamic for a couple of weeks. My point is, people say some awful things because they don't realize how hurtful it is. A girl on a different board posted this article last week, and it really resonated with me. If I ever go through something like that again, I will be sending it to my mother. Here it is: Comfort In, Dump Out.
But back to my original sentiment, we are happy to have you here with us!
I am very sorry for your loss, and that people are making such careless and hurtful comments. You are growing ANOTHER beautiful miracle and that is something to be proud of and excited about!
I hope your family and friends come to their senses and embrace your pregnancy and show you the support you need.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I am so sorry for the loss of your infant.
I'm so sorry for your loss, but...
Big CONGRATULATIONS!! on this pregnancy! Your baby deserves to be celebrated and joyfully anticipated; you'll definitely get support here! ::hug::
peace,
katharine
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Congrats!
I'm sorry for your previous loss and I'm sorry more people aren't more excited and supportive. It's a shame! If anything you need more support not less! Well, us bumpies are here!
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Welcome! Congrats! This is so mean of your MIL. I understand it is hard on her, but it is harder on you. Please find support in the rest of your family and friends that are actually really happy for you and understand the importance of this baby for your family.
I am really happy for you and wish you happy and healthy pregnancy and a little bundle of joy that will have a long and happy life. BEST OF LUCK AND CONGRATS!
I get ya - I lost my last baby at 34 weeks this past August, and a lot of people have said more "good luck" than "congrats".
But I'm happy you're here and wish you all the congrats in the world!!
I do have to say congrats and welcome!
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First and foremost, a huge CONGRATULATIONS are in order for you and your family! This is a happy time in your life, don't let people get you down.
I also had an infant loss and my son died after 6 days of being alive in August of 2012. I also hear more negative then positive and it really hurts. My parents are the ones that are giving me zero support. I have decided that I need to surround myself with positive people and avoid the negative ones. It hurts even more when it is your inlaws or parents.
I am glad you found this board and I am looking forward to celebrating this pregnancy with you. If you ever need to vent, private message me.
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Like others have said here: Congrats!!! I'm excited for you and pray that this baby bring you nothing but joy. Welcome to the Jan 14 board.
I have a friend with a similar history as you and she also got some of these same reactions when she got pregnant for the third time. People are so insensitive. If anything you need more support and encouragement, not less!
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After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013.
Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
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However, I am so glad for you that you get a third opportunity to be a mom congratulations!!!! I hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy, and hopefully others who have been less than supportive will grow to embrace this special gift.
Due Date 11/10/16
I am so sorry for the loss of your little one!
And welcome to the January board!
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