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January 2014 Moms
5w5d: HCG 11,373, progesterone 10.1; 6w1d: saw HB (103) and fetal pole!; 6w5d: progesterone 30.9; 7w5d: progesterone 17.8
The other shoe finally dropped...
Well, I always felt like there was no way this could be a viable pregnancy, and I was right. Baby stopped growing at 8w1d, and didn't have a heartbeat, and I should be 8w6d today. I have a D&C with chromosomal analysis on Friday. I am not looking forward to that process, so any helpful advice/experiences would be appreciated. I am going to Alaska next Friday, so I just want to get this over with and get back on with my life. Now that I know that getting pregnant is possible, I don't know if I will try again or go back to my plan of going to medical school.
Thanks for listening and a happy and healthy 7-more-months to all my wonderful friends here!
Me: 34, DH: 37, DD: 12 (prev relationship). TTC 5 years, MFI (DNA fragmentation, low count, poor morphology). IVF/ICSI Sep 2011 - BFN. FET Dec 2011 - Chemical. Not trying or preventing since then - we'd given up hope and moved on with our lives. Signed up for classes to go back to school and become an MD - surprise pregnancy!
5w5d: HCG 11,373, progesterone 10.1; 6w1d: saw HB (103) and fetal pole!; 6w5d: progesterone 30.9; 7w5d: progesterone 17.8This discussion has been closed.
Re: The other shoe finally dropped...
I can't wait to meet you Neva Margaret Rebecca
I am so, so sorry for your loss, MamaB. Big hugs to you.
xoxo
BFP#5 Praying for another rainbow in February!
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I'm really sorry. Thinking of you.
My D&C was quick and painless (I was put under). I was slightly crampy for about 24 hours afterward. By far, the worst part was the emotional toll. Take care of yourself during this time.
I was put under for my d and e. It was over before I knew it. I was in a lot of pain after but with the meds I was given it was manageable. The next day I was much better and by two days after I was feeling back to normalish. Bleeding lasted about a week and a half.
Take care of yourself, huge hugs!!
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
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DS1 born 08.02.11
DS2 born 12.05.13
I am so sorry Mama
That just sucks, big time.
As far as the D&C, I had one with my first miscarriage at 10 weeks, LO stopped growing around 8 weeks. Physically, it wasn't too bad. Mine was done at a hospital and I was put under. When I woke up, it was over. I was really really cold and some cramping but not too bad. Still had bleeding afterwards for awhile, so make sure you have pads.
Emotionally, it's hard. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am sending you lots of T&Ps for healing. If you have any other questions, feel free to send me a PM.
BFP #5 11/15/14, Team Green EDD 7/22/15
BFP #4 4/30/13, baby girl born med-free Jan. 2014
BFP #3 9/24/12, Missed m/c at 9w1d (baby measured 8w5d)
BFP #2 9/23/10, healthy baby girl born med-free June 2011
BFP #1 5/21/10, Missed m/c at 10w4d (baby measured 8wks), D&C 6/29/10
"Life is like a camera, just focus on what's important and capture the good times, develop from the negatives and if things don't work out, just take another shot."
I am really sorry to hear about your loss. My d&c (was also put under) was painless and my recovery time was very minimal. However, as a PP noted, you won't be able to use tampons, so you will need to buy some pads. I hadn't worn pads since I was 13 so I had no idea what to get but would highly recommend the Always Infinity pads. They are slimmer than regular pads and get the job done.
I also urge you to be kind to yourself during this difficult time and know that you are not alone. I found a lot of comfort on the Miscarriage board and later TTC After A Loss board. Just take it one day at a time and know that you will survive this.
Married October 2009. Me 29 H 28.
After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013.
Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
So Sorry for you loss.
There's no real advice for dealing with the aftermath of a D&C. Just let yourself feel how you feel and deal with it in the way you feel best. My D&C was done at a hospital. I was put under for the procedure so as soon as I fell asleep I felt like I was waking up. There was a lot of blood afterward, and I just wanted to go home and take a shower. Get some pads, I like the always infinity. I remember feeling super achy, and the painkillers they gave me made my anger magnified once I tried getting off of them afterward (I don't like taking painkillers unless I have to and stayed on them only for a day and a half). I slept a lot during the recovery, and didn't really leave my bed. I also found my stomach was sore afterward when I'd wear pants that were snug (but I know this is not the same for everyone).
For me I cried a lot, and even more once the D&C was done. When I was in recovery one nurse went find help because "I don't know what to do she won't stop crying." I wanted to hit her. I had just lost my first child, and didn't make the decision to do so...of course, I was crying. I was depressed, and wanted to just get going to move ahead. I hated listening to people tell me stupid things like you can always try again, or it was God's plan, or whatever else people tell you that think will make you feel better. Either way it sucked, and I hated feeling like a failure (even though it took me a while to understand that it was in no way, shape, or form my fault). I couldn't take looking at a baby, hear a baby cry, or even listen to a commercial for a local fertility clinic without breaking down.
It brought DH and I closer at times, and father apart at others. He was angry a lot after the loss (his equivalent of crying). I went back to work after taking only two days off though my boss offered me as much time as I needed. I just needed to get busy and deal with it in my own time. So I did. I still feel the effects of the loss, though it gets easier with time. The hardest thing for me was finding out we were pregnant for DD on the anniversary of our loss. I felt guilty for rejoicing for a new baby while we were still missing the one we didn't have with us. The second pregnancy was not planned at all, and it was really stressful because I was terrified of another loss. I still am after having a successful pregnancy, and healthy child.
So, the idea that yes you can get pregnant is a great thing. It's a reminder that you are able to do something even though it seemed like you weren't ever going to be able to (we TTC for three years). But the decision to try again or not is completely up to you and your DH. It's not a decision you have to make right away either. My DH and I decided we wanted to try again shortly before our positive pregnancy test with our DD (but wanted to wait a few years....just didn't work out that way)...so it took us almost a year before we talked about taking that route again. Try to decompress while you're in Alaska. Enjoy yourself, be miserable, do whatever strikes you at the time. Then once you're back home and everything has sunk in a little bit and your hormones have settled and you're healed you can decide if you're ready to make those decisions about what's to come next.
I wish you the best of luck with everything, and hope that my experience gives you a little perspective. T&Ps
Me: 34, DH: 37, DD: 12 (prev relationship). TTC 5 years, MFI (DNA fragmentation, low count, poor morphology). IVF/ICSI Sep 2011 - BFN. FET Dec 2011 - Chemical. Not trying or preventing since then - we'd given up hope and moved on with our lives. Signed up for classes to go back to school and become an MD - surprise pregnancy!
Me: 36 - slight DOR (AMH: 1.1), decent OAR; DH: 41 - Morphology 4%
NTNP July-Aug 2014, ATTC Sept 2014-Present
October 2014 - CP
July 2015 - Clomid + #1 IUI = BFN
September 2015 - Clomid + #2 IUI = CP
October 2015 - Letrozole (5 follies - yay!) + #3 IUI = BFN
November 2015 - CP
December 2015 - CP
February 2016 - Letrozole + #4 IUI = CP
April 2016 - CP
May/June 2016 - IVF #1 and IUI #5 (Estrace + Follistim + micro-hCG + HGH) = BFN
Struggled to conceive #1 2012-2013
Clomid #1: March 2013 - BFN; Clomid + IUI: May 2013 CXL; BFP on 4/22/13 = Baby Boy #1 1/1/14
peace,
katharine
Book-Kitten blog
I am so very sorry.
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I am very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. *huge huge hugs*
My D&C was simple. I checked in at the hospital, got put under and woke up when it was all done. The hardest part for me was that I was on the maternity ward (That may not happen for you, it should vary by hospital) and I was rH- so it took FOREVER to get my blood drawn and get the shot made.But the surgery was perfect and I was only under for about 30 minutes or so. I got sent home the same day. Recovery was like a bad period (they offer good meds - don't hesitate to take them!) for about a week with some clots and heavy bleeding and then my first period was about 45 days after I finished bleeding. If you have any specific questions, PLEASE feel free to PM me on here.