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Manda-Kay · June 2013

mollyxcate · June 2013

If I have to go to a party and drink to socialize I would much rather stay home and crochet. Alcohol slows your metabolism and I've been working too hard to do that. Also I never seem to get that fun buzzed/drunk feeling everyone talks about. And if I'm working to 'keep up with friends' then it doesn't feel like having a friendship.

Manda-Kay · June 2013

Getting started early because I actually have one!

Parents shouldn't talk bad about their kids' mother or father in front of them. I think a part if the reason why DH doesn't have a good relationship with his dad is because MIL talked bad about him in front of DH. I'm speculating because I have heard MIL talk bad about SIL's dad in front of her.

Examples:
"Tell your dad he needs to pay his child support."

"Why isn't your dad looking into VA scholarships for you."

"Your dad drives me crazy sometimes."

Or MIL says bad things about him to me but in front of SIL.

Or because it was DS's first Christmas, MIL wanted SIL to be at her house for Christmas morning even though it was her dad's turn. MIL was trying to help her make up excuses to tell her dad as to why she needed to be at her house for Christmas morning and SIL started to cry. And she was at MIL's house for Christmas morning.

My MIL made the choice to have babes with their dads and made the choice to not ask for as much child support even though she could have asked for me. Keep your kids out of it!!

Whittyone12 · June 2013

I hate when people post pictures of them self on Facebook, then write something like "I look disgusting but..." You are the only person in the picture, and you took it yourself then you posted it on Facebook so you obviously don't think you look too bad.

JayandEmm · June 2013

I think FB e vites are tacky. I have never gone to any event that the invite was via FB, and I will never. If you can't take the time to send me a real invite, then I will not take the time to go to your party.

mollyxcate · June 2013

Oh and!!

I totally believe that the stuff on those ghost hunting shows are true. Okay some of it might be staged, but a lot of it is true.

I believe this because I want to.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

Bemyselfandi · June 2013

I disagree manda. Growing up all my mom ever did was trash talk my dad. He's my favorite person on earth next to my kids and husband and sister. It just really made her ok that much worse. I love my mom. But....

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

JayandEmm:
I think FB e vites are tacky. I have never gone to any event that the invite was via FB, and I will never. If you can't take the time to send me a real invite, then I will not take the time to go to your party.

Like you want a paper invite for a BBQ? Paper invites waste paper.

ashS10309 · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
JayandEmm:
I think FB e vites are tacky. I have never gone to any event that the invite was via FB, and I will never. If you can't take the time to send me a real invite, then I will not take the time to go to your party.
Like you want a paper invite for a BBQ? Paper invites waste paper.

We always host a BBQ for Labor Day and never send paper invites. Or fb invites. My friends know they are invited, usually it is by word-of-mouth, in-person, or a phone call. The only paper invites I send are to the kids' friends.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

Oh I have another. I cannot stand people who walk slow or who act
like they can't park a block away from somewhere. It won't kill you, I promise

I especially hate when a slow walker gets in front of me and I am stuck behind them. This is probably because my Mom walks so slowly and I spent my childhood waiting for her.

CLeigh03 · June 2013

ashS10309:
Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

This. If B is awake and it's not pouring rain we are out of the home.

jessalynn521 · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
Oh I have another. I cannot stand people who walk slow or who act like they can't park a block away from somewhere. It won't kill you, I promise I especially hate when a slow walker gets in front of me and I am stuck behind them. This is probably because my Mom walks so slowly and I spent my childhood waiting for her.

This used to bother me to no end when I was in college on campus. People liked to waltz slowly to where they were going, and I just wanted to get there already. I seriously wanted to punch these people in the back of the head, especially since they would take up the whole sidewalk walking at a turtles pace.

mollyxcate · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
Oh I have another. I cannot stand people who walk slow or who act like they can't park a block away from somewhere. It won't kill you, I promise I especially hate when a slow walker gets in front of me and I am stuck behind them. This is probably because my Mom walks so slowly and I spent my childhood waiting for her.

I act like I'm in a rush and come up slightly on the side of them, say 'Excuse me' politely but loud enough for them to hear, then squeeze past and continue my usual fast walk pace.

I don't always get 'mom time' in my day to exercise, so everything counts.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.

mollyxcate · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.

Never go to a hibachi restaurant with my husband lol.

We once went on a dinner date than took less than 25 minutes to order, eat, and pay.

jessalynn521 · June 2013

I believe people can change. I know a lot of people say things like "once a ____ always a _____." I don't agree with this.

Granted I don't think you can change another person, but if that person genuinely wants to make a change I think they can.

ccam · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
Oh I have another. I cannot stand people who walk slow or who act like they can't park a block away from somewhere. It won't kill you, I promise I especially hate when a slow walker gets in front of me and I am stuck behind them. This is probably because my Mom walks so slowly and I spent my childhood waiting for her.

I hate when slow walkers walk right in the middle of the sidewalk! I understand that a person might be slower (I do walk super fast) but at least move to the side!

Crossingfingers · June 2013

mollyxcate:
Crossingfingers:
I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.
Never go to a hibachi restaurant with my husband lol.
We once went on a dinner date than took less than 25 minutes to order, eat, and pay.

My dh is the absolute worst at this. He prefers to call ahead and order our food before we get there.i think it is rude as hell!

mollyxcate · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
mollyxcate:
Crossingfingers:
I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.
Never go to a hibachi restaurant with my husband lol.
We once went on a dinner date than took less than 25 minutes to order, eat, and pay.
My dh is the absolute worst at this. He prefers to call ahead and order our food before we get there.i think it is rude as hell!

Omg! lol. I didn't know you could do that!!! I will not be telling DH that this is possible.

Lately we've taken to ordering for carryout though because he'd rather just not be out.

JayandEmm · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
JayandEmm:
I think FB e vites are tacky. I have never gone to any event that the invite was via FB, and I will never. If you can't take the time to send me a real invite, then I will not take the time to go to your party.

Like you want a paper invite for a BBQ? Paper invites waste paper.

If it's a super casual party, the least someone could do is call and tell me.

But I will not go to a baby shower or a birthday party if the invite was via FB. Or a wedding. That's even worse.

jessalynn521 · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
mollyxcate:
Crossingfingers:
I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.
Never go to a hibachi restaurant with my husband lol.
We once went on a dinner date than took less than 25 minutes to order, eat, and pay.
My dh is the absolute worst at this. He prefers to call ahead and order our food before we get there.i think it is rude as hell!

Hahahah. I didn't even know places did that CF! Now I WILL do call ahead seating if I know it is a busy evening. I just sort of laugh when I walk in and am seated immediately and everyone that was waiting is still waiting.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

CLeigh03:
ashS10309:
Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

This. If B is awake and it's not pouring rain we are out of the home.

I confess we walked to the park Monday when it was drizzling. I timed it exactly right though. We got there as t stopped and got home as t picked up again.

Today we're supposed to get that storm all you IL and IN people got last night. I feel like a trapped rat.

mollyxcate · June 2013

carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

That's rude I think, not even lazy, just rude. If someone comes to your wedding that probably cost them a bit to begin with, and they brought you a gift? You sit your butt down and hand write a thank you note and both of you sign it.

Rhomonk · June 2013

mollyxcate:

carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

That's rude I think, not even lazy, just rude. If someone comes to your wedding that probably cost them a bit to begin with, and they brought you a gift? You sit your butt down and hand write a thank you note and both of you sign it.

Yup. Carolyn beat me to it. We just got one of those picture thank you "cards" that just had the pre-printed thank you on it. This was the wedding where my stuid DH gave an extra wedding envelope with 200 dollars in it. (after I put a 200 dollar check in another card). It irked me big time.

I'm not saying you have to write a novel. Heck, I'm not even saying you can't send a photo thank you. Just write something on the back. Even if it's "Hey thanks for the gift!"

Manda-Kay · June 2013

Bemyselfandi:
I disagree manda. Growing up all my mom ever did was trash talk my dad. He's my favorite person on earth next to my kids and husband and sister. It just really made her ok that much worse. I love my mom. But....

It doesn't help that his dad is a douche bag but I do think she might have made it worse. Either way, I think my MIL should have talked with another adult or therapist about her issues and not her kids.

mollyxcate · June 2013

Manda-Kay:
Bemyselfandi:
I disagree manda. Growing up all my mom ever did was trash talk my dad. He's my favorite person on earth next to my kids and husband and sister. It just really made her ok that much worse. I love my mom. But....
It doesn't help that his dad is a douche bag but I do think she might have made it worse. Either way, I think my MIL should have talked with another adult or therapist about her issues and not her kids.

My mom talked at my sister and I about how my dad 'left us to run off with that blonde woman so he could have his fun and life and retirement because he didn't want responsibility any more' .... yet my dad paid a ridiculous amount in child support, spent every other weekend with us, and came to all of our important events like concerts and plays.

I do not get along with my mom. My dad and I are good though.

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

I keep getting invited to dry weddings.

Does it look like I want to go to a dry wedding?

NO, THANK YOU.

DemoDoll · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.

ITA!

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

DemoDoll:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.
ITA!

Yes.

My husband's parents never took them anywhere growing up. Anywhere. The first business trip my H had to go on, he had to fly several states away. He was 28 years old. I was helping him pack and get ready. He seemed nervous and I was like "What's wrong? Been a while since you've flown?", and he goes "Uh. I've never been on a plane. Ever." Like, what?

Maizey06 · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree. The people that live 2 floors below us have a 18 month old. We are outside all the time and I have NEVER seen the little girl. The mom is outside smoking a lot but never see the kid.

sosoph · June 2013

carolyn231723:
Baker_Bride:
I confess we walked to the park Monday when it was drizzling. I timed it exactly right though. We got there as t stopped and got home as t picked up again. Today we're supposed to get that storm all you IL and IN people got last night. I feel like a trapped rat.
I go outside all the time in the rain. I like to get out of the house at least once a day even if it's just to walk around the Rite Aid that's a block away. DS is in the ergo and I use an umbrella.

I bought a Canadian bunting for my first (a december baby) so we could get outside. Did anyone see this? the part about there's not bad weather, only bad clothes cracks me up. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21537988

But, I am outside all the time so my kids are, too. Some people are more indoors-y.

Maizey06 · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
I hate when people always order the same thing when we go out to eat. I feel rushed when I want to look over the menu.

Me too. DH will even check out the menu ahead of time online to be prepared. If we do not have a child with me I want to take my time.

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
poppyseed1017:
DemoDoll:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.
ITA!
Yes.
My husband's parents never took them anywhere growing up. Anywhere. The first business trip my H had to go on, he had to fly several states away. He was 28 years old. I was helping him pack and get ready. He seemed nervous and I was like "What's wrong? Been a while since you've flown?", and he goes "Uh. I've never been on a plane. Ever." Like, what?
This is so funny! I mean, I was 17 the first time I flew, but since then I've flown a LOT! We went on a lot of driving vacations when I was a kid because there were 4 of us kids. My co-worker's fianc? finally flew for the first time last month and he's 35!!!!

I think I was 14 the first time I flew. It was to Palm Springs, and we did a two week driving tour of all of the states out west. It was awesome. The next year, I flew to London for 10 days with my sister. By 20, I was a pro and could navigate around any airport with no help. LOL. I love flying and traveling.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

MeganRod13:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.
I never left my state until I was in 6th grade where we went on a field trip to a museum in NYC. I didn't see the ocean until I was 18 or 19 when I took the bus with friends to Atlantic City. I turned out fine I guess.
FWIW, I really do want to live in another state at some point in my life. 

But, don't you feel like you missed out?

When I left home, I'd been on two flying trips: one to Las Vegas [good idea, Mom and Dad!], and once to Oaxaca, Mexico for a foreign exchange trip. I'd done a few road trips and we were always visiting IL and MI for day trips. I wish I'd done more.

So far Howell has been in IL, IN, MI, DC, VA, MD, WI and DE. He's way ahead of where I was at this point.

britvahok · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.

This is so true! I have a friend who just got married and doesn't want kids because she says she likes to travel and if they have kids she'll never be able to go anywhere. I'm always like "come on" just because you have a kid doesn't mean you have to stay home for the rest of your life!! And I've known her for 10 years and she's never wanted kids

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.

I agree that there are a lot of great places out there. There's a ton I haven't seen and would love to see.
However, I'm going to wait until my kids are old enough to at least remember and appreciate them. I feel like visiting family or friends in different ststes is different than going to that particular place for a landmark or tourist attraction. They may remember seeing auntie and uncle but could give two shiits about where they were, KWIM?

Maizey06 · June 2013

carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's...

I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Not cool. I did not realize this was a trend but I am not surprised. Soon we are just going to get a mass email saying thank you.

britvahok · June 2013

Sharona1700:
poppyseed1017:

I keep getting invited to dry weddings.

Does it look like I want to go to a dry wedding?

NO, THANK YOU.

Dry wedding? What the eff is that?!

Does. Not. Compute.

I think its rude to not offer guests at least wine and beer at wedding. You have to consider your guests. They shouldn't ruin everyone's fun because they dont drink. We went to a "dry wedding" a few years ago. The wedding was dry due to the grooms parents religion but the bride told everyone before so we all bought tons of airplane bottles, I think everyone but his parents were drunk by the end of the night!

ccam · June 2013

carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Totally agree! It's rude. If I spend time and money on a gift, you can take 2 minutes and write me a thank you. I don't really care how many thank yous you have to write.

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