I also judge people who find out the sex of their baby but won't tell anyone. It just seems so AWish. I don't care if you find out or not, and I don't really care what you're having, but think it's lame to say "we know but we're not teeeellling"
I agree that it seems silly.
Along the same lines I judge the people who told me "needing to be prepared" was an important reason for finding out the sex. So because I was Team Green I wasn't prepared? Um no. I was plenty prepared, overly prepared now that I look back on it.
I highly agree. And those that say you won't bond with your baby....I also judge them. Especially my friend who made that statement, knew the gender of her baby, and had a really hard time bonding with said baby. Hmmm....
I also judge people who find out the sex of their baby but won't tell anyone. It just seems so AWish. I don't care if you find out or not, and I don't really care what you're having, but think it's lame to say "we know but we're not teeeellling"
I agree that it seems silly.
Along the same lines I judge the people who told me "needing to be prepared" was an important reason for finding out the sex. So because I was Team Green I wasn't prepared? Um no. I was plenty prepared, overly prepared now that I look back on it.
I admit that this is a reason why we found out and will again. It's not that I think team greeners and be prepared, but I really wanted a very boyish or girly nursery and clothes, and I didn't want to deal with decorating or doing much shopping after baby was born. Nothing against gender neutral, it's just not my preference. But mostly I'm just impatient. Eta you can judge me for gender stereotyping, I can take it ;
Same here but my main thing is that I have a severe hatred for the color yellow (long story- goes back to childhood). Since most gender-neutral clothing/stuff are either green or yellow, I didn't want to deal with it. As it is, my sister made sure to tell people (while planning my shower) not to get us any all yellow clothing (some yellow is ok but not total yellow). My hatred of the color is so bad that I refused to use the yellow swaddle blankets MIL got us (and, yes, she knew of my adversion to the color before buying them).
we didn't have any yellow. Regardless of the gender, I wanted charcoal gray walls, black furniture, and orange/green/teal accents. We got two white pairs of jammies at the shower....everything else was gear/supplies. Any clothes that I bought were solid red/dark green/blue/orange/teal/etc....and only bought up to 3mo anyway. I was mostly team green to avoid pink and frilly things if it was a girl.....and we ended up having a girl. I'm glad I held off on the clothes buying, as she was over 9lb at birth.....but now is only in the 8th percentile for weight and doesn't fit in 18mo clothing. I would have been completely off on seasons when it came to her clothes due to size.
I judge when people decide to have another child due to wanting a certain sex. I can completely understand wanting another child and thinking, "gee, it would be nice if we had a girl this time" but I'm talking about the people who say, "I can't imagine having another child because I'm already at my limit, but DH really wants a boy." This isn't in reference to anyone on this board obviously, but the last time we were at the Pedi's office, a mom was there with three boys and was saying how tough it was to handle three kids but that she'd keep trying until she got a girl. Seriously? I mean, do you really think that your child's genitalia is the appropriate factor in determining your family size? I just don't get it.
When DH's cousin was pregnant with their first child, they were initially told it was a boy. A few weeks later they found out they were having a healthy little girl and the big story in the family was how her H cried and cried because he was so disappointed he wasn't getting his boy. I can understand a momentary feeling of, "oh, that's a surprise" but to say you're devastated? That immediately makes me suspect as to your motivations behind wanting to be a parent. He seems like a great dad and he obviously loves both his little girls, but I'd hate for either of them to ever find out that their dad was wishing and hoping for a boy during each pregnancy. Everyone deserves the basic respect of being viewed as more than just their sex and I fundamentally don't understand such deep-rooted desire for male or female children.
All of this. The devastation some people have over not getting a certain sex is mind-boggling to me. I can understand some intial disappointment, but crying for weeks and taking days off of work because of it is ridiculous (and yes, I have seen people do this!)
my friends SIL is exactly like that. With her first baby, she refused to tell anyone if it was a boy or girl because she didn't want to admit it was a girl. In the OR when the baby was delivered, she told the doctor to "put it back in....it's not done cooking yet" because she wanted it to be a boy. When she was pregnant with her second, she had DD1 calling DD2 the boy name they had picked out throughout the whole pregnancy and were saying "brother" even after they found out it was another girl. Their DD2 was born two days after Gator....and they still occasionally slip up and call her by the boy name.
When I went in for an unexpected US when I was pregnant with Gator, the lady before me just found out she was having her fourth boy. The ultrasound tech told me that she was so devastated....she cried and demanded that her husband take her home. The tech told her that she needed to check the baby's organs and make sure he was developing well.....the mom burst into tears, refused to look at the screen, and said she didn't care. She cried and avoided the screen the rest of the appointment.
I think that you should care about what the founding fathers thought. If they just slapped this country together it would have never survived. Not all things from 1780 are irreverent, human nature has not changed. Why should I care about Newton, Einstein, Gandhi, they are all dead too.
Your way of thinking scares the *** out of me. Do you think our generation has the right to just mow down the last 227 years?
I have way more faith in humanity than our current government not excluding any administration.
BTW: I never said we would win that revolution, but give us a fighting chance at least
The founding fathers wrote the Constitution as a "living document." They had the wisdom to understand that if could not evolve with society, it would certainly fail. For example, through the amendment process, rights have been expanded to include more than just property-owning white men. While not all things from 1780 are irrelevant (i.e. democratic ideals, etc..), our society is vastly different and our generation has the right to amend the Constitution to reflect those differences as that is what our founding fathers intended. The idea that Americans need to arm themselves to protect themselves from the government is about as relevant as slavery.
ETA: Quoting fail...I tried to trim the tree somehow messed it up.
It is great that we have expanded rights, but we are talking about limiting a right, totally different.
I do not feel it is irrelevant at all. I can not believe people have this much faith in the government, that it could never turn and become evil.
Didn't you guys watch Star Wars?
BTW: I will probably have to DD my posts, big brother ya know
I've tried, but can never get them in the right spot. And dh says they cut off his
d!ck circulation.
*** rings hit on a nerve on the shaft of the penis, so it desensitizes it a little bit but supposedly, you have a much better orgasm this way. (Source: working in a porn store)
Do they have larger sized ones? Cause the one we tried for realz looked painful and like it was struggling his ***. He was a trooper and tried it though.
Is it suppost to be all at the base of the ***? That seems really far away from my clit...Crystal, I need your porn store experience!
This may be more of a confession, but I have something very similar to the black c*ck pictured...and I like it. It has like 10 different types of vibration and is water proof. I also really liked the vibrating c*ck ring we had, but I pretty sure DH intentionally broke it because he didn't like it, complained it was too tight.
It's been about 11 years since I worked there, so I don't remember for sure but I thought that they came in all different sizes. It's supposed to be at the base of the shaft, which is really not that far away from the clit, especially if you're on top. You'll definitely feel the vibration anyway.
You should be going balls deep anyway. Youll feel it for sure.
This. I enjoy a vibrating cack ring but I sure that's not surprising to anyone. True story, my mom included one in a bag of stuff at my lingerie shower.
Thisnbsp; may be more of a confession, but I have something very similar to the black cck pictured...and I like it. It has like 10 different types of vibration and is water proof. I also really liked the vibrating cck ring we had, but I pretty sure DH intentionally broke it because he didn't like it, complained it was too tight.
Your DH is a cck ring blocker.
Parenting Floozie Brigades official motto: We welcome to you the board with open legs. Also, open beers. ~@cinemagoddess
I judge when people decide to have another child due to wanting a certain sex. I can completely understand wanting another child and thinking, "gee, it would be nice if we had a girl this time" but I'm talking about the people who say, "I can't imagine having another child because I'm already at my limit, but DH really wants a boy." This isn't in reference to anyone on this board obviously, but the last time we were at the Pedi's office, a mom was there with three boys and was saying how tough it was to handle three kids but that she'd keep trying until she got a girl. Seriously? I mean, do you really think that your child's genitalia is the appropriate factor in determining your family size? I just don't get it.
When DH's cousin was pregnant with their first child, they were initially told it was a boy. A few weeks later they found out they were having a healthy little girl and the big story in the family was how her H cried and cried because he was so disappointed he wasn't getting his boy. I can understand a momentary feeling of, "oh, that's a surprise" but to say you're devastated? That immediately makes me suspect as to your motivations behind wanting to be a parent. He seems like a great dad and he obviously loves both his little girls, but I'd hate for either of them to ever find out that their dad was wishing and hoping for a boy during each pregnancy. Everyone deserves the basic respect of being viewed as more than just their sex and I fundamentally don't understand such deep-rooted desire for male or female children.
All of this. The devastation some people have over not getting a certain sex is mind-boggling to me. I can understand some intial disappointment, but crying for weeks and taking days off of work because of it is ridiculous (and yes, I have seen people do this!)
my friends SIL is exactly like that. With her first baby, she refused to tell anyone if it was a boy or girl because she didn't want to admit it was a girl. In the OR when the baby was delivered, she told the doctor to "put it back in....it's not done cooking yet" because she wanted it to be a boy. When she was pregnant with her second, she had DD1 calling DD2 the boy name they had picked out throughout the whole pregnancy and were saying "brother" even after they found out it was another girl. Their DD2 was born two days after Gator....and they still occasionally slip up and call her by the boy name.
When I went in for an unexpected US when I was pregnant with Gator, the lady before me just found out she was having her fourth boy. The ultrasound tech told me that she was so devastated....she cried and demanded that her husband take her home. The tech told her that she needed to check the baby's organs and make sure he was developing well.....the mom burst into tears, refused to look at the screen, and said she didn't care. She cried and avoided the screen the rest of the appointment.
Omg. Sorry, I'm just catching up post-work, post wrangling baby into bed, and post booze but both of those stories are SO fuuucked up. I'm so sad for those kids
Laws aren't black and white, and they don't always benefit everyone. In the most general sense, I'm down with laws that don't kill people. I'm also down with dumba$$es who can't wear a seatbelt contributing to the paycheck and job security of a policeman I may need one day.
Did Packer just make everyone look at her dildo and then post a picture of beating a dead horse? Um, yeah pot. There's a kettle over here I'd like you to meet. Oh, and then she gets mad because no one acknowledges it. Dude, we won't stand for your fake judgement. That's a confession, sweetie. We do those tomorrow.
*** rings don't work at my house either. I always want them to, because it sounds fun in theory. Maybe we are doing it wrong.
Elsa's writing another longass post about a bunch of people we don't know. scroll, scroll.
Overture's UO is interesting, and didn't get any action. I think I'd be down with that kind of smoking law. It would suck for pregnant chicks. I guess they should have thought of that before they got knocked up though. Some chick sent me a resume today that specified she is looking for a smoke free environment. I found that hilarious. especially because we get drunk and smoke fairly regularly inside our office.
And finally, my judgement:
There is a cutoff age for shimmery body products, and is is younger than many apparently think. If I encounter a grown woman wearing reflective shiit anywhere on her body, I immediately assume she has the intellect of Miley Cyrus.
Overture's UO is interesting, and didn't get any action. I think I'd be down with that kind of smoking law. It would suck for pregnant chicks. I guess they should have thought of that before they got knocked up though.
LOL.
In practice, I'm sure most places would remain smoke-free. Most people don't smoke and don't want to hang out in smokey places.
Oh, douchey Dec13 husband post. I thought the crazy was slowing down there, but no, the enterainment continues. The chick who said her husband won't let her eat sushi because she was a human incubator of their miracle was great yesterday, but she is probably douchier than her husband.
Re: UOs/Judgments
I highly agree. And those that say you won't bond with your baby....I also judge them. Especially my friend who made that statement, knew the gender of her baby, and had a really hard time bonding with said baby. Hmmm....
we didn't have any yellow. Regardless of the gender, I wanted charcoal gray walls, black furniture, and orange/green/teal accents. We got two white pairs of jammies at the shower....everything else was gear/supplies. Any clothes that I bought were solid red/dark green/blue/orange/teal/etc....and only bought up to 3mo anyway. I was mostly team green to avoid pink and frilly things if it was a girl.....and we ended up having a girl. I'm glad I held off on the clothes buying, as she was over 9lb at birth.....but now is only in the 8th percentile for weight and doesn't fit in 18mo clothing. I would have been completely off on seasons when it came to her clothes due to size.
Yes
Yes
Yes
Hell yes
You are awesome.
my friends SIL is exactly like that. With her first baby, she refused to tell anyone if it was a boy or girl because she didn't want to admit it was a girl. In the OR when the baby was delivered, she told the doctor to "put it back in....it's not done cooking yet" because she wanted it to be a boy. When she was pregnant with her second, she had DD1 calling DD2 the boy name they had picked out throughout the whole pregnancy and were saying "brother" even after they found out it was another girl. Their DD2 was born two days after Gator....and they still occasionally slip up and call her by the boy name.
When I went in for an unexpected US when I was pregnant with Gator, the lady before me just found out she was having her fourth boy. The ultrasound tech told me that she was so devastated....she cried and demanded that her husband take her home. The tech told her that she needed to check the baby's organs and make sure he was developing well.....the mom burst into tears, refused to look at the screen, and said she didn't care. She cried and avoided the screen the rest of the appointment.
It is great that we have expanded rights, but we are talking about limiting a right, totally different.
I do not feel it is irrelevant at all. I can not believe people have this much faith in the government, that it could never turn and become evil.
Didn't you guys watch Star Wars?
BTW: I will probably have to DD my posts, big brother ya know
Fluck, yeah. You summed up how I feel. The sex/gender thing makes me want to stab my eyes out on dec13 all the time.
+1
Word.
Crystal = NAILED IT.
Maybe the balls could vibrate? Problem solved.
Real life balls really should vibrate.
*** rings will do that.
I've tried, but can never get them in the right spot. And dh says they cut off his
d!ck circulation.
This UO will just be *** and balls talk from now on. Buttholes and gineys are welcome too.
Do they have larger sized ones? Cause the one we tried for realz looked painful and like it was struggling his ***. He was a trooper and tried it though.
Is it suppost to be all at the base of the ***? That seems really far away from my clit...Crystal, I need your porn store experience!
Whoop whoop!
Are you a Skinny B yet?
I want some of that sex cereal. I need to do more Canadian canoodling.
This. I enjoy a vibrating cack ring but I sure that's not surprising to anyone. True story, my mom included one in a bag of stuff at my lingerie shower.
Your DH is a cck ring blocker.
This is the best word substitute I have seen so far. Sounds like midwestern MIL. CAHCK.
Omg. Sorry, I'm just catching up post-work, post wrangling baby into bed, and post booze but both of those stories are SO fuuucked up. I'm so sad for those kids
Ugh. People suck.
Richard's recap/deep thoughts/commentary:
Laws aren't black and white, and they don't always benefit everyone. In the most general sense, I'm down with laws that don't kill people. I'm also down with dumba$$es who can't wear a seatbelt contributing to the paycheck and job security of a policeman I may need one day.
Did Packer just make everyone look at her dildo and then post a picture of beating a dead horse? Um, yeah pot. There's a kettle over here I'd like you to meet. Oh, and then she gets mad because no one acknowledges it. Dude, we won't stand for your fake judgement. That's a confession, sweetie. We do those tomorrow.
Sorry your H is being douchey, Cate. Take comfort in knowing you do not have the douchiest H on the boards today (https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74377938.aspx).
*** rings don't work at my house either. I always want them to, because it sounds fun in theory. Maybe we are doing it wrong.
Elsa's writing another longass post about a bunch of people we don't know. scroll, scroll.
Overture's UO is interesting, and didn't get any action. I think I'd be down with that kind of smoking law. It would suck for pregnant chicks. I guess they should have thought of that before they got knocked up though. Some chick sent me a resume today that specified she is looking for a smoke free environment. I found that hilarious. especially because we get drunk and smoke fairly regularly inside our office.
And finally, my judgement:
There is a cutoff age for shimmery body products, and is is younger than many apparently think. If I encounter a grown woman wearing reflective shiit anywhere on her body, I immediately assume she has the intellect of Miley Cyrus.
LOL.
In practice, I'm sure most places would remain smoke-free. Most people don't smoke and don't want to hang out in smokey places.