My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
You are obviously the best mommy ever:)
Hahaha! Oh don't I wish that were true! The truth is she enjoys a schedule as much as I do. It wasn't a brag I was just saying I don't understand why moms are so against putting a baby on a schedule...
I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.
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I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.
I agree! I feel like there should be a rule that no one can complain until they at least pass their due date! Women are pregnant 40 weeks...not 37!!
I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.
I agree! I feel like there should be a rule that no one can complain until they at least pass their due date! Women are pregnant 40 weeks...not 37!!
I don't think this is a UO at all!! We all know when we started that its 40 weeks. I don't get it either.
As for being due at the beginning of the month, you still hear it. I jump back and forth between the May and June boards. Technically I'm due June 1....however, I'm having my RCS on May 31. Lots of June mommas have already had babies.
My UO is that anytime a married woman says that she doesn't have time to shower or even go to the salon for an hour to get her hair cut with a new baby (or even an older baby) I feel bad for her because I always assume she must have a really unhelpful/unwilling husband. Unless your husband works 7 days a week there is no reason why your husband can't watch the baby for 5-10 minutes while you shower or why you couldn't pop out of the house for an hour or two to get a trim at the salon (or your nails done or whatever).
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
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My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My baby is thriving too, but not because I make her wait until I say it is time to eat. She eats whenever and sleeps whenever and I shower every day too. Not sure how a schedule makes her super alert, but hooray for you!
My UO is that anytime a married woman says that she doesn't have time to shower or even go to the salon for an hour to get her hair cut with a new baby (or even an older baby) I feel bad for her because I always assume she must have a really unhelpful/unwilling husband. Unless your husband works 7 days a week there is no reason why your husband can't watch the baby for 5-10 minutes while you shower or why you couldn't pop out of the house for an hour or two to get a trim at the salon (or your nails done or whatever).
I totally see it as a woman not making time for herself and being a martyr over it rather than blaming the husband.
When my DD was nursing every two hours and refusing a bottle and having weigh gain issues, I went to the salon on a Saturday and DH brought the baby in the middle of my appointment for me to nurse her. Not ideal, but both were important to me.
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My UO is that anytime a married woman says that she doesn't have time to shower or even go to the salon for an hour to get her hair cut with a new baby (or even an older baby) I feel bad for her because I always assume she must have a really unhelpful/unwilling husband. Unless your husband works 7 days a week there is no reason why your husband can't watch the baby for 5-10 minutes while you shower or why you couldn't pop out of the house for an hour or two to get a trim at the salon (or your nails done or whatever).
I imagine that some people have some sort of circumstance that is unavoidable, but in general I agree! I'm getting my hair cut tomorrow. I'm looking forward to some me time and my husband is looking forward to some alone time with his son. I also have an appointment next week for a much needed massage. My husband is back to work next week so my appointment is in the evening. He is going to work all day and then be alone with the baby for a little while... you know, he'll be a dad. I wonder if women who feel like they can't get any time to themselves unconsciously (or consciously, who knows) think that only they know the "best" way to take care of the baby?
ETA: Or enjoy being a martyr, like a PP said. I can see how some women end up this way though. I know there have already been a few times where my husband hasn't done things the way I would do them and I had to be really mindful about not taking over. I think it is really important to let your husband figure things out for himself, and it is okay for Mom and Dad to do some things their own way.
I love my son, and I'm so glad he is here! However sometimes, like right this moment, I'm jealous of mamas that are still pregnant! I miss feeling him move and what I could do for an entire night sleep!
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not sure what your UO is. Is it that you shower everyday?
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I love my son, and I'm so glad he is here! However sometimes, like right this moment, I'm jealous of mamas that are still pregnant! I miss feeling him move and what I could do for an entire night sleep!nbsp;
You slept for entire nights while pregnant? What was that like? I still have an inside baby and literally cannot recall the last time I slept an entire night. Probably before my BFP. And I don't have any other kids.
I love my son, and I'm so glad he is here! However sometimes, like right this moment, I'm jealous of mamas that are still pregnant! I miss feeling him move and what I could do for an entire night sleep!nbsp;
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My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My UO is that I don't like the condescending, I'm such a good mommy my baby is the best because I do this and don't know why anyone would do anything differently.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My UO is that I don't like the condescending, I'm such a good mommy my baby is the best because I do this and don't know why anyone would do anything differently.
Oh wait, I'm sure that isn't an UO.
Yep I agree. And I don't see where the original UO was. Just seems like an outright brag to me. Congratulations OP, you're clearly better than everyone else.
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I love my son, and I'm so glad he is here! However sometimes, like right this moment, I'm jealous of mamas that are still pregnant! I miss feeling him move and what I could do for an entire night sleep!nbsp;
You slept for entire nights while pregnant? What was that like?
I am wondering the same thing. I wake up five times a night to pee, but I guess it's good practice for when I'll be getting up with LO.
I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.
I agree! I feel like there should be a rule that no one can complain until they at least pass their due date! Women are pregnant 40 weeks...not 37!!
Screw that... this baby is sitting on my sciatic nerve and is literally a pain in my a$s, lol! I'm in pain, that's why I'm complaining... it's not that I don't understand how long pregnancy lasts, but when it's this uncomfortable, I just want it to be over with!
Ok...complaining about physical pain and just generally done with being pregnant is fine, but what annoys me is the complaints just about not having had your baby yet. Ex: "I'm 37 weeks 2 days and I still haven't had my baby yet, even though I went for a walk and ate spicy food...what is wrong with me?! it's not fair!!"
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm side-eyeing the shiit out of you right now. Letting your newborn cry, for any period, is just sad. Of course it's working. She's learned that you won't come if she cries, so what's the point.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
My UO is that I don't like the condescending, I'm such a good mommy my baby is the best because I do this and don't know why anyone would do anything differently.
Oh wait, I'm sure that isn't an UO.
Yep I agree. And I don't see where the original UO was. Just seems like an outright brag to me. Congratulations OP, you're clearly better than everyone else.
Hmmm yes I can see how that came across as condescending. Let me edit my statement. "I don't know how moms survive without a routine." And just leave it at that. Sorry I shouldn't have added all the stuff about my baby. That was insensitive. I was NOT saying you're a bad mom if your kid isn't on a schedule or saying I was a better mom because mine is.
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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Wow. Your doctor is an idiot and I would be switching immediately. A newborn cries for a reason, even if it is just they need to be held and comforted. And there is no way in he!! I would be listening to his/her advice.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It also helps their self esteem! I know that I always feel a little better about myself when I get dressed up. DUH!
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though. The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though... EDIT: mobile bumping
Wow. Your doctor is an idiot and I would be switching immediately. A newborn cries for a reason, even if it is just they need to be held and comforted. And there is no way in he!! I would be listening to his/her advice.
The American Academy of Pediatrics has released a statement specifically condeming the book "Baby Wise" and the practices in it because it can lead to failture to thrive for many babies. I would question any pediatrician who recommended letting a newborn infant just cry it out for 20 minutes without trying to resolve the crying or soothe the baby in any way.
You cannot put a newborn on a schedule, you have to meet their demands as they are developing because they have to learn they can count on you to respond to their needs. Feeding the baby everytime he or she cries is not the right answer either---you can use techniques from Happiest Baby on the Block (5 S's) to soothe a crying baby...but letting a newborn cry it out is just not recommended.
I am all for schedules as babies get older, moms go back to work, etc. It's good to have a routine...but not with a 2 week old.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It's not a fashion thing but rather a comfort and routine thing. Day starts when we get out of our p.j.'s and night starts when we get back into them. I figure "uncomfortable" clothes for day time and "comfortable" clothes for night time. Just adds another sensory perception besides sight and sound to help her distinguish between night and day.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It's not a fashion thing but rather a comfort and routine thing. Day starts when we get out of our p.j.'s and night starts when we get back into them. I figure "uncomfortable" clothes for day time and "comfortable" clothes for night time. Just adds another sensory perception besides sight and sound to help her distinguish between night and day.
Are you for serious with all of this shiit?
I know right? If she hadn't been on the board for months I'd say this was MUD.
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It's not a fashion thing but rather a comfort and routine thing. Day starts when we get out of our p.j.'s and night starts when we get back into them. I figure "uncomfortable" clothes for day time and "comfortable" clothes for night time. Just adds another sensory perception besides sight and sound to help her distinguish between night and day.
Are you for serious with all of this shiit?
I know right? If she hadn't been on the board for months I'd say this was MUD.
At the risk of digging myself in deeper, I will try to explain my thinking. Note: not saying I am right about this but this is my thinking: the sense if touch is the strongest learning tool a baby has which is why many people believe that skin on skin is so important. So why not incorporate it in learning night and day too? Yeah... So my thinking is probably silly but sadly it makes sense to me.
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Cutting out quotes but re: babies on schedules and being awesome. My first was horrendous. My second was awesome and slept all the time, and through the night early and blah blah. I did the exact same thing with both babies. My mom claimed it's all in the second vs. first time parent but get this: I now have twins. One is exactly like my first (super fussy, wants to nurse constantly, hard to console, not a great sleeper) the other is like my second (gets the night vs. day thing, easy to console without constant nursing, etc) A lot of it is just your kid. So put all the effort you want into outfit changes, scheduling, listening to your newborn cry (what the what??). Personality is going to dictate a lot at this stage.
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I am all for routines, distinguishing between day and night, making sure the baby gets in good day and night sleep, but any sort of crying it out before 4-6 months is crazy. Whimpering and noise making and fussing are not crying and being sure the baby is really awake and not sleep transitioning before you get her is totally different from letting her cry for 20 minutes.
Also the sleep gods will get her. My sweet DD got on a good routine in 5-6 weeks. She STTN most nights by 8 weeks. At 5 months it all went to hell and we sleep trained at 6 months. It went to hell again at 9 months and was the worst at 12 months.
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The only thing you should be teaching a 2 week old is that she can count on you. You have her whole life to teach her everything else. Please just take these precious few weeks and feed her, pick her up, and snuggle her whenever she asks. I promise you that you will miss this time in a few short months. Sleep and even a shower can wait.
The only thing you should be teaching a 2 week old is that she can count on you. You have her whole life to teach her everything else. Please just take these precious few weeks and feed her, pick her up, and snuggle her whenever she asks. I promise you that you will miss this time in a few short months. Sleep and even a shower can wait.nbsp;
This was said perfectly! Be on their schedule and teach them love and that they can count on you for their needs....STTN will come soon enough....making sure my babies needs are met and that I'm putting hers before my own is way more important to me than anything else.
The only thing you should be teaching a 2 week old is that she can count on you. You have her whole life to teach her everything else. Please just take these precious few weeks and feed her, pick her up, and snuggle her whenever she asks. I promise you that you will miss this time in a few short months. Sleep and even a shower can wait.
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This was said perfectly! Be on their schedule and teach them love and that they can count on you for their needs....STTN will come soon enough....making sure my babies needs are met and that I'm putting hers before my own is way more important to me than anything else.
Exactly!
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I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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Wow. Your doctor is an idiot and I would be switching immediately. A newborn cries for a reason, even if it is just they need to be held and comforted. And there is no way in he!! I would be listening to his/her advice.
This. There is NO reason whatsoever to let a newborn cry for 20 minutes. Their crying is the only way they can let you know that they have a need. I'm all for trying other possibilities before assuming its automatically hunger, but a child, especially a newborn, learns to trust that you will meet it's needs when you answer it's cries. And no I didn't get that from a book. I got it from my 9 years and counting experience as a mom. I never made my daughters CIO until they were older and were testing their manipulation skills. Now at 9 and 2-1/2, they're both trusting, well-adjusted self soothers who are very independent and don't rely on mommy for everything. Mission accomplished!
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
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I'm side-eyeing the shiit out of you right now. Letting your newborn cry, for any period, is just sad. Of course it's working. She's learned that you won't come if she cries, so what's the point.
Seriously! I feel guilty if I my girl cries in the amount of time I put her down so I can go to the bathroom. I would never let her cry for 20 minutes.
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The only thing you should be teaching a 2 week old is that she can count on you. You have her whole life to teach her everything else. Please just take these precious few weeks and feed her, pick her up, and snuggle her whenever she asks. I promise you that you will miss this time in a few short months. Sleep and even a shower can wait.nbsp;
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Me too! I watched it with my friend because she said it was "so funny" and the whole time I just couldn't wait for it to be over! Really dumb movie...
You are obviously the best mommy ever:)
Hahaha! Oh don't I wish that were true! The truth is she enjoys a schedule as much as I do. It wasn't a brag I was just saying I don't understand why moms are so against putting a baby on a schedule...
I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.
I agree! I feel like there should be a rule that no one can complain until they at least pass their due date! Women are pregnant 40 weeks...not 37!!
I don't think this is a UO at all!! We all know when we started that its 40 weeks. I don't get it either.
As for being due at the beginning of the month, you still hear it. I jump back and forth between the May and June boards. Technically I'm due June 1....however, I'm having my RCS on May 31. Lots of June mommas have already had babies.
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
My baby is thriving too, but not because I make her wait until I say it is time to eat. She eats whenever and sleeps whenever and I shower every day too. Not sure how a schedule makes her super alert, but hooray for you!
I totally see it as a woman not making time for herself and being a martyr over it rather than blaming the husband.
When my DD was nursing every two hours and refusing a bottle and having weigh gain issues, I went to the salon on a Saturday and DH brought the baby in the middle of my appointment for me to nurse her. Not ideal, but both were important to me.
I imagine that some people have some sort of circumstance that is unavoidable, but in general I agree! I'm getting my hair cut tomorrow. I'm looking forward to some me time and my husband is looking forward to some alone time with his son. I also have an appointment next week for a much needed massage. My husband is back to work next week so my appointment is in the evening. He is going to work all day and then be alone with the baby for a little while... you know, he'll be a dad. I wonder if women who feel like they can't get any time to themselves unconsciously (or consciously, who knows) think that only they know the "best" way to take care of the baby?
ETA: Or enjoy being a martyr, like a PP said. I can see how some women end up this way though. I know there have already been a few times where my husband hasn't done things the way I would do them and I had to be really mindful about not taking over. I think it is really important to let your husband figure things out for himself, and it is okay for Mom and Dad to do some things their own way.
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I'm not sure what your UO is. Is it that you shower everyday?
You slept for entire nights while pregnant? What was that like? I still have an inside baby and literally cannot recall the last time I slept an entire night. Probably before my BFP. And I don't have any other kids.
I second this!
My UO is that I don't like the condescending, I'm such a good mommy my baby is the best because I do this and don't know why anyone would do anything differently.
Oh wait, I'm sure that isn't an UO.
Yep I agree. And I don't see where the original UO was. Just seems like an outright brag to me. Congratulations OP, you're clearly better than everyone else.
I am wondering the same thing. I wake up five times a night to pee, but I guess it's good practice for when I'll be getting up with LO.
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Ok...complaining about physical pain and just generally done with being pregnant is fine, but what annoys me is the complaints just about not having had your baby yet. Ex: "I'm 37 weeks 2 days and I still haven't had my baby yet, even though I went for a walk and ate spicy food...what is wrong with me?! it's not fair!!"
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though.
The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though...
EDIT: mobile bumping
I'm side-eyeing the shiit out of you right now. Letting your newborn cry, for any period, is just sad. Of course it's working. She's learned that you won't come if she cries, so what's the point.
Hmmm yes I can see how that came across as condescending. Let me edit my statement. "I don't know how moms survive without a routine." And just leave it at that. Sorry I shouldn't have added all the stuff about my baby. That was insensitive. I was NOT saying you're a bad mom if your kid isn't on a schedule or saying I was a better mom because mine is.
Wow. Your doctor is an idiot and I would be switching immediately. A newborn cries for a reason, even if it is just they need to be held and comforted. And there is no way in he!! I would be listening to his/her advice.
I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It also helps their self esteem! I know that I always feel a little better about myself when I get dressed up. DUH!
The American Academy of Pediatrics has released a statement specifically condeming the book "Baby Wise" and the practices in it because it can lead to failture to thrive for many babies. I would question any pediatrician who recommended letting a newborn infant just cry it out for 20 minutes without trying to resolve the crying or soothe the baby in any way.
You cannot put a newborn on a schedule, you have to meet their demands as they are developing because they have to learn they can count on you to respond to their needs. Feeding the baby everytime he or she cries is not the right answer either---you can use techniques from Happiest Baby on the Block (5 S's) to soothe a crying baby...but letting a newborn cry it out is just not recommended.
I am all for schedules as babies get older, moms go back to work, etc. It's good to have a routine...but not with a 2 week old.
It's not a fashion thing but rather a comfort and routine thing. Day starts when we get out of our p.j.'s and night starts when we get back into them. I figure "uncomfortable" clothes for day time and "comfortable" clothes for night time. Just adds another sensory perception besides sight and sound to help her distinguish between night and day.
I know right? If she hadn't been on the board for months I'd say this was MUD.
At the risk of digging myself in deeper, I will try to explain my thinking. Note: not saying I am right about this but this is my thinking: the sense if touch is the strongest learning tool a baby has which is why many people believe that skin on skin is so important. So why not incorporate it in learning night and day too? Yeah... So my thinking is probably silly but sadly it makes sense to me.
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I am all for routines, distinguishing between day and night, making sure the baby gets in good day and night sleep, but any sort of crying it out before 4-6 months is crazy. Whimpering and noise making and fussing are not crying and being sure the baby is really awake and not sleep transitioning before you get her is totally different from letting her cry for 20 minutes.
Also the sleep gods will get her. My sweet DD got on a good routine in 5-6 weeks. She STTN most nights by 8 weeks. At 5 months it all went to hell and we sleep trained at 6 months. It went to hell again at 9 months and was the worst at 12 months.
This was said perfectly! Be on their schedule and teach them love and that they can count on you for their needs....STTN will come soon enough....making sure my babies needs are met and that I'm putting hers before my own is way more important to me than anything else.
Exactly!
This. There is NO reason whatsoever to let a newborn cry for 20 minutes. Their crying is the only way they can let you know that they have a need. I'm all for trying other possibilities before assuming its automatically hunger, but a child, especially a newborn, learns to trust that you will meet it's needs when you answer it's cries. And no I didn't get that from a book. I got it from my 9 years and counting experience as a mom. I never made my daughters CIO until they were older and were testing their manipulation skills. Now at 9 and 2-1/2, they're both trusting, well-adjusted self soothers who are very independent and don't rely on mommy for everything. Mission accomplished!
Seriously! I feel guilty if I my girl cries in the amount of time I put her down so I can go to the bathroom. I would never let her cry for 20 minutes.
This was said perfectly!