SIL problems need advise please!!!

Re: SIL problems need advise please!!!

• carig63 member

  May 2013

  Yikes. This really sucks, but it sounds like you've come to the right conclusion. A man that continues to ignore facts (when his father said the SIL can't move in because she doesn't follow rules...hello!) doesn't need to be given his way. Maybe he'll come around, but if not, you're in a position to do what's best for you and your girls. Best of luck to you.

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• makeene member

  May 2013

  First off: I am so sorry you are in this situation.

  I would remind your DH of a couple of facts in your next convo.

  You picked a 3 bedroom house. 1 for you two, and 2 for your children. Not a 4 bedroom house because your SIL wanted to move in. Everyone has tough times but you have already done your charity last year for them. You are moving to accomodate YOUR growing family. I cannot believe she even has the NERVE to ask you to move in. Because moving and rearranging an entire house is not enough?!

  I would march her down to assisted living. They make you work and provide housing. Winner winner chicken dinner. 

  Plus her WANT to go to college when she cannot afford a place to live? Let's talk priorities. You need to push this fact majorly when it comes to your conversation about the possibility. I have taken semesters off from UCF when my husband and I were struggling and it may have taken me an extra year but I got my degree, worked, and have taken care of my newborn.

  Also, if they are having marriage problems you do not need that in your home. Those are private matters. It should not be around you, yet alone your children. 

  Honestly your DH needs to read this board. It is not just you who would be against it and maybe seeing this will open his eyes to other opinions.  

   

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