New life celebration vs baby shower

Mel122013 · May 2013

Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

tealowl · May 2013

Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.

katiewvb · May 2013

You should have someone else plan your shower and send out invites. But I think it is much more common, and much more fun to invite SOs along for the fun. We are planning on doing a similar BBQ type celebration.

zou bisou · May 2013

Can I come to your party? Smile

ScarlettV · May 2013

I think she means a kind of shower/BBQ/gender reveal mix...more if a regular party, not shower, although calling it a shower a few times in the beginning was confusing. My sister in law did something like this.

And yea, I want to come too, lol!

Hunterloren · May 2013

I have heard those are becoming more popular. I like the idea. But I would miss the cucumber sandwiches and awesome punch.

notkateanymore · May 2013

We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.

tealowl · May 2013

KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.

My friend did this last year, they waited until the baby was a few weeks old, and just had a cookout. Many people brought gifts anyway, since she didn't have a typical baby shower while pregnant. It was a lot of fun, I actually prefer these since there's a baby to snuggle!

I'd like to do a sip and see myself, but I don't know about having a bunch of people in my home in January when the weather is all crappy and everyone is all exhausted after the holidays =[.

notkateanymore · May 2013

teal owl:
KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.

My friend did this last year, they waited until the baby was a few weeks old, and just had a cookout. Many people brought gifts anyway, since she didn't have a typical baby shower while pregnant. It was a lot of fun, I actually prefer these since there's a baby to snuggle!

I'd like to do a sip and see myself, but I don't know about having a bunch of people in my home in January when the weather is all crappy and everyone is all exhausted after the holidays =[.

Oh, I meant when I was pregnant. We didn't do a meet the baby thing. Sorry for the confusing wording.

golfingdarwinfish · May 2013

KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.

Now I want Greek food.... Mmm...... *drooling*

S90Hudd · May 2013

If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!

tealowl · May 2013

KateMW:
teal owl:

KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.

My friend did this last year, they waited until the baby was a few weeks old, and just had a cookout. Many people brought gifts anyway, since she didn't have a typical baby shower while pregnant. It was a lot of fun, I actually prefer these since there's a baby to snuggle!

I'd like to do a sip and see myself, but I don't know about having a bunch of people in my home in January when the weather is all crappy and everyone is all exhausted after the holidays =[.

Oh, I meant when I was pregnant. We didn't do a meet the baby thing. Sorry for the confusing wording.

Ah, gotcha! Still, that sounds like fun! Also, I want Greek now.

QuintonsMummah · May 2013

VCGolfNYC:
KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.
Now I want Greek food.... Mmm...... *drooling*

I could now kill someone for a stuffed Grape Leaf or some Lamb...:drool:

reganallison · May 2013

OMG Greek Food!!!

Mallyboomer · May 2013

QuintonsMummah:
VCGolfNYC:
KateMW:
We had a coed shower when DD was born. It was great. Everybody else drank, we had killer Greek food, opened my presents and chatted with everybody there.
Now I want Greek food.... Mmm...... *drooling*
I could now kill someone for a stuffed Grape Leaf or some Lamb...:drool:

My mom's family is Greek... she breaks out the chicken souvlaki w/tzatziki sauce on home-made pitas, stuffed grape leaves, pastitzo, cinnamon spaghetti, *real* greek salad (just cucumbers & tomatoes, onions, feta...), spanikopita, baklava, etc. etc. etc. at every family get-together. I wish we could get together today for lunch cause describing it all made me hungry...

onewayticket · May 2013

Sounds fun! I don't think you have to follow all the rules. I like the idea of doing a combined shower/ gender reveal type party.

franklyscarlette · May 2013

S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!

Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned.

ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

TeamAwesomeBaby · May 2013

I like the idea of a co-ed party. It's fun to get people drunk and then have them decorate onesies or write advice to the baby. Not sure about hosting your own, though...I guess it depends on whether you expect presents.

Eayanaw27 · May 2013

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

tealowl · May 2013

Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.

Mel122013 · May 2013

zou bisou:
Can I come to your party?nbsp; [:]

Sure! Why not!

Mel122013 · May 2013

teal owl:
Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.

I'm not throwing my own party this is just what I want to have done

Mel122013 · May 2013

teal owl:
Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.

I'm not throwing my own party this is just what I want to have done

Mel122013 · May 2013

GWeiners:
teal owl:
Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.
 This.  Or a sip and see after the baby is born.   

What is a sip and see?

ScarlettV · May 2013

teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO. 

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.

Yea. Just want to add that while I get the desire to plan your own party, it's kind of like saying "I want a party for me exactly how I want and I don't want anyone else messing it up". You can have a host and still tell them guidelines of what you want without controlling every last detail.

ScarlettV · May 2013

A sip and see is after the baby is born, when friends and fam are invited over to meet baby and have drinks and snacks.

Mel122013 · May 2013

ScarlettV:
I think she means a kind of shower/BBQ/gender reveal mix...more if a regular party, not shower, although calling it a shower a few times in the beginning was confusing. My sister in law did something
And yea, I want to come too, lol!

Yeah! That's exactly what I mean. Lol yes you can come too :. My SO wants to help my host and mom with the cooking and help plan things for the guys. I just want everyone to have fun not just the women!

notkateanymore · May 2013

Mel122013:
teal owl:
Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.
I'm not throwing my own party this is just what I want to have done

Except you don't get to pick. A shower is a gift from your hosts.

golfingdarwinfish · May 2013

KateMW:
Mel122013:
teal owl:
Mel122013:
Hey everyone. I'm due 12/25 and I'm going to plan my shower for early September before the holidays. But I don't want a girly, playing baby games type of shower. I want to have a BBQ! Invite men and women and their children and just have a party! I've been to a few baby showers and they are kinda boring to me. Also, we're revealing the baby's gender at the end as well! Big surprise for everyone! Anyone else planning party instead of a shower?

Are you planning a gender reveal party or a baby shower? You cannot throw your own shower, it's tacky and rude.

If you're doing a gender reveal party however, that's fine. You would have to provide your own food/decor, and it would no gifts or baby shower type games.
I'm not throwing my own party this is just what I want to have done

Except you don't get to pick. A shower is a gift from your hosts.

Agree. I know women that expected their hosts to incur a crazy amount of incidental costs just so the mother-to-be would have the shower of her dreams. Just like the presents you receive at the shower, the shower itself is a gift from those throwing it in your honor.

Mel122013 · May 2013

TeamAwesomeBaby:
I like the idea of a coed party. It's fun to get people drunk and then have them decorate onesies or write advice to the baby. Not sure about hosting your own, though...I guess it depends on whether you expect presents.

Not hosting my own this is just what I want

GTown08 · May 2013

VCGolfNYC:
KateMW:

Except you don't get to pick. A shower is a gift from your hosts.

Agree. I know women that expected their hosts to incur a crazy amount of incidental costs just so the mother-to-be would have the shower of her dreams. Just like the presents you receive at the shower, the shower itself is a gift from those throwing it in your honor.

I agree that you don't get to pick. That said, if the host (who I think OP said was her mom) asks what she envisioned, I think it is perfectly ok to say, "you know, I never really wanted the futsy, little sandwiches and punch kind of party. If it works with your budget, what do you think of something a little more low-key, like a co-ed bbq?" I don't think that would be unacceptable.

Danicali · May 2013

I'm from Canada and we only ever have showers after the baby is born : everyone likes to snuggle the baby and gifts can be more specific for gender. The BBQ idea sounds fun! It's nice when the men/kids are included too since the guys like to show off their little ones just as much! :

golfingdarwinfish · May 2013

GTown08:
VCGolfNYC:
KateMW:

Except you don't get to pick. A shower is a gift from your hosts.

Agree. I know women that expected their hosts to incur a crazy amount of incidental costs just so the mother-to-be would have the shower of her dreams. Just like the presents you receive at the shower, the shower itself is a gift from those throwing it in your honor.

I agree that you don't get to pick. That said, if the host (who I think OP said was her mom) asks what she envisioned, I think it is perfectly ok to say, "you know, I never really wanted the futsy, little sandwiches and punch kind of party. If it works with your budget, what do you think of something a little more low-key, like a co-ed bbq?" I don't think that would be unacceptable.

Agree! Yes

notkateanymore · May 2013

VCGolfNYC:
GTown08:
VCGolfNYC:
KateMW:

Except you don't get to pick. A shower is a gift from your hosts.

Agree. I know women that expected their hosts to incur a crazy amount of incidental costs just so the mother-to-be would have the shower of her dreams. Just like the presents you receive at the shower, the shower itself is a gift from those throwing it in your honor.

I agree that you don't get to pick. That said, if the host (who I think OP said was her mom) asks what she envisioned, I think it is perfectly ok to say, "you know, I never really wanted the futsy, little sandwiches and punch kind of party. If it works with your budget, what do you think of something a little more low-key, like a co-ed bbq?" I don't think that would be unacceptable.
Agree!

Yes Agree as well. Smile

Eayanaw27 · May 2013

teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.

No, I will stick with a shower. Although I will be a major part of planning, my sister and mother will act as host. I don't find that tacky or rude at all.

Eayanaw27 · May 2013

ScarlettV:
teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.
Yea. Just want to add that while I get the desire to plan your own party, it's kind of like saying "I want a party for me exactly how I want and I don't want anyone else messing it up". You can have a host and still tell them guidelines of what you want without controlling every last detail.

However, I do want to control most ever detail and some things might be pricey. I don't want to make anyone feel obligated to fulfill on some of these pricey details, which is why I will be very involved in the panning.

notkateanymore · May 2013

Eayanaw27:
ScarlettV:
teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.
Yea. Just want to add that while I get the desire to plan your own party, it's kind of like saying "I want a party for me exactly how I want and I don't want anyone else messing it up". You can have a host and still tell them guidelines of what you want without controlling every last detail.
However, I do want to control most ever detail and some things might be pricey. I don't want to make anyone feel obligated to fulfill on some of these pricey details, which is why I will be very involved in the panning.

So basically you're throwing your own shower. That's so tacky.

Eayanaw27 · May 2013

KateMW:
Eayanaw27:
ScarlettV:
teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.
Yea. Just want to add that while I get the desire to plan your own party, it's kind of like saying "I want a party for me exactly how I want and I don't want anyone else messing it up". You can have a host and still tell them guidelines of what you want without controlling every last detail.
However, I do want to control most ever detail and some things might be pricey. I don't want to make anyone feel obligated to fulfill on some of these pricey details, which is why I will be very involved in the panning.
So basically you're throwing your own shower. That's so tacky.

And so are you. If you read correctly. I am going to help a lot with the planning, but my sister and mother are hosting.

notkateanymore · May 2013

Eayanaw27:
KateMW:
Eayanaw27:
ScarlettV:
teal owl:
Eayanaw27:

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!
Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned. ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

I disagree. I will plan my shower with the help of my mom and sister. I want to oversee most of the planning, because I have a specific idea of what I want. I don't find it tacky or rude.. And, while I would be thankful if those invited bring me gifts (which I am sure many will) I never expect a gift. I am just excited to be celebrating the future LO.

Well, nobody goes giftless to a shower. You're expected to bring a gift. If you're doing a registry, you're expecting gifts. If you want to plan your own party because you have your own specific ideas, then you should do a sip and see instead. Planning/hosting your own shower is ridiculous.
Yea. Just want to add that while I get the desire to plan your own party, it's kind of like saying "I want a party for me exactly how I want and I don't want anyone else messing it up". You can have a host and still tell them guidelines of what you want without controlling every last detail.
However, I do want to control most ever detail and some things might be pricey. I don't want to make anyone feel obligated to fulfill on some of these pricey details, which is why I will be very involved in the panning.
So basically you're throwing your own shower. That's so tacky.
And so are you. If you read correctly. I am going to help a lot with the planning, but my sister and mother are hosting.

But you said you wanted some expensive things...so are you paying for them? That's hosting...tacky tacky tacky. Not to mention totally bratty and ridiculous. Can't you just be happy with what they plan for you as a gift?

Eayanaw27 · May 2013

You're childish and clearly have "issues." You may have the last word if you want it.

Mel122013 · May 2013

franklyscarlette:
S90Hudd:
If you want to plan your own party I think that's just fine. I don't think it really matters who plans it. Have someone help you and coplan it so people don't freak out. I think a BBQ sounds like a lot fun!

Planning your own event where gifts are traditionally expected is tacky and rude. It's like sending out an invitation that says "everybody buy me stuff!!!!" I think gender sex reveals are a different story and you can plan one of those for yourself. Although personally I also find having one of those in addition to a shower a wee bit tacky. But maybe I'm old fashioned.

ETA: combining a reveal and a shower is fine. I'm saying having separate parties for each is a bit much.

Were combining them. And I have 3 host to plan it. I'm just going to tell then what I would like and leave the rest up to them!

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