Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: FFFC
I'm dumbfounded by your coworkers. Do they just eat out every night?
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
I'm impressed that you do that. I don't make breakfast during the week. DD1 isn't a big breakfast person and will just have fruit or a bowl of cereal or toaster waffles when I buy them. DD2 gets breakfast at daycare. Also, most days I barely get out the door to make it to work on time.
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
fanfuckingtastic. Ill break out the coconut bra and grass skirt
I once had bumpie say that using the word "jipped" was insensative to gypsies.
Also autocorrect wanted to turn bumpies into "bum pies"
I'm impressed that you do that. I don't make breakfast during the week. DD1 isn't a big breakfast person and will just have fruit or a bowl of cereal or toaster waffles when I buy them. DD2 gets breakfast at daycare. Also, most days I barely get out the door to make it to work on time.
Ds just eats Cheerios with milk and banana during the week. He's happy, I'm happy. Rock on cooking breakfast, mbenit!
Well shiit. So much for plan A. On to B, I guess.
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
LMAO
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
Your friend sounds trashy
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
Thongs are becoming somewhat more common on the beaches here, although I think many are on tourists. We have a clothing optional beach, but it's mostly old gay men who go there (it's a hassle to get to, which is part of why it's clothing optional).
Follow-up to my gym cost thread from a couple days ago:
We decided to go for it, mostly for this reason. That and they will have a special to waive the initiation fee after Memorial Day. So the upfront costs are low. I'm hoping DW will work out at least 3 times a week. Really hope DS likes the daycare there! It's not amazing, but looks fun enough for an hour a day, plus I feel like he does need more socializing... he LOVES other kids.
Wait, so it wasn't even a Klassy Limo?
Awesome, I hope it works out for you all!
(SWIDT?)
Oh dear lord
There's stuff that gets the job done but isn't visually interesting to the viewer. This is a big issue a lot of adult films have and why they are terrible as Sex Ed. Many of the activities and positions that are interesting to view actually aren't the ones which are most enjoyable for the participants.
She has grown so much as a person!
This conversation made me remember this picture
It just adds to the stigma of mental disorders being NBD.
And btw, depending on the cancer, the cure rate is better than that of mental disorders.
I felt the same about the raping the banana joke, but tried to brush it off since the prevailing thought seemed to be it was overreacting to be bothered by it.
I lost my virginity via rape and thought the banana joke was funny
::shrugs::
Right. I got it, I overreacted and shouldn't have brought it up again.
Or, she was just expressing a different opinion and not passing judgement on you at all. Obviously not speaking for Robin, just throwing it out there.
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
I'm grumpy today. I'm sorry.
No, you can speak for me. I'm good with that
I already said it, but it bears repeating. I'm grumpy and that was snarky. Sorry.
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
No s? este idioma.
It confused me. Like she was speaking a foreign language. (SWIDT?)LOL
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
ahhh Las Ni?as Gilmore. Gotcha.
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
I think those were independent statements. I.e. "there are some excellent homemade versions" AND "AppleGate Farms, etc etc"
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
"Man, be creative. Like the stuff you do. Do nice things. Love respectfully. Laugh a fucking lot. Curse when you feel like it. Life is cool." - Jean Grae
That's great, LD! Seriously, going to the gym, or at least going out for a jog, is what keeps me sane sometimes. I need that time away now. It gives me time to be alone, to think for myself, and burn some calories while I'm at it. It's awesome they have a daycare, too. I'm sure your DS will love it, too!
I love me a red head; married one, in fact. Your in! Now dance for me.
Is the not jumping on couch part of this list?