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Talk to me about doulas

rockinwiferockinwife member
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DH and I orginally agreed that we don't think we need a doula.  DH is worried it's going to steal away his role as supportive husband.  I don't really want an audience nor do I really want to spend the money.  But one of the midwives I see, keeps bringing it up and it was mentioned again in our Bradley class.  Now we are starting to doubt our decision. 

What made you decide for or against having a doula?  For what it's worth, we are planning on having a med-free birth in a hospital with a midwife.   

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  • kriskellkriskell member
    I haven't decided on this yet, but I have the option of using a doula for free (there are two locally completing their certification so they need a certain number of births under their belt).  For me, I don't feel like I need a doula during delivery.
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  • YakutYakut member
    The cost for us was the main thing preventing us from getting a doula, but I think we could have managed if I'd really, really wanted one. But the other thing is that I may or may not be having a medically indicated c-section, and if not, then I'm perfect
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  • CarolinawxCarolinawx member

    I can see were you guys would be against doulas. Plus having a midwife is the midway between a doula and a reg. ob doctor. So you have a better relationship built there with your midwife. I can only state the main reasons for us getting a doula, but re

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  • spolanspolan
    I decided on a doula, but I also decided on kicking my DH out of labor until it was time to push. He doesn't handle stressful situations well.
    I have never heard anyone say they wished they didn't have a doula.  Their job is to run interference be
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  • CarolinawxCarolinawx member

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    We are interviewing one on Sunday!

    FYI I recommend interviewing a couple. We went to a

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  • ilovemarfailovemarfa member
    I ha a doula for the birth of my son and she will be attending the birth of this one too. A doula does not take the place of your spouse at all. She is there to help you through labor and be your advocate. It is a fact that having a doula at your labor lo
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  • momofcatanmomofcatan member
    We're not getting one. Some of my friends swear by them, others think they are overrated. I have nothing against the idea, but I'm happy with it being just me and DH and possibly my mom if I think I'll need the extra support. There will also be nurses and

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  • rockinwiferockinwife member

    Thanks, ladies.  I think we may interview a couple just to be sure. 

    I have a very hands off approach to medical care.  In the heat of the momement, I'm worried my wait and see approach during labor could freak DH out and potent

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  • emcgraemcgra member

    I was interested in having one but it was hubby who really wanted one.  He just was not sure of how he would handle labor.  I also want this to be an enjoyable experience for him too. 

     We found a doula that is just starting

     

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  • Manderlin923Manderlin923 member

    My first birth I didn't have one since it was at a free-standing birth center with midwives. This time I am delivering in hospital and I am so happy to be able to hire my old MW to act as doula for us. Their job is not to take your husband's spot but t

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