This is one of those theoretical questions that I thought might start an interesting discussion. Always curious to hear what my fellow bumpies think. Do you think men experience daddy guilt the same way women experience mommy guilt? I think for the most part, the answer is, no, and I wonder why that is.
I have been listening to a lot of the media discussion about Sheryl Sandberg's new book "Lean In," which has reignited the age-old debate about whether women can be both successful in the workplace and as mothers. A lot of people claim that women can't have it all, meaning they can't have a successful career and be a good mother. Clearly that seems to be up for debate, and there are many people on both sides.
So what I always wonder when I hear these discussions is why is this never a discussion about men/fathers? Why don't people tell men they "can't have it all?" Why is it that when we had the debate many moons ago about SAHM versus WM, there was a lot of discussion about bonding with LOs and having a great relationship with LOs that some people thought could only exist if you SAH. So what does that mean for your LOs relationship with dad who works FT and sometimes long hours?
It seems like a lot of people on here have DHs/SOs who work long hours. Do your DH/SOs feel like they are missing out? Are they ok with it? Do they have "daddy guilt" the way I imagine most mothers would if the roles were reversed?
Note: This is NOT a SAHM versus WM debate. This has to do with dads/men, and there is no judgment meant here. I am genuinely just curious what people think.
Re: Does daddy guilt exist?
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I know my DH has "daddy guilt" about his job. He works 3rd shift and because of that he only has about 1-1.5 hours with Allison during the week and almost nothing on Sunday. He is up for a 2nd shift job where h
It does here, but only in certain ways. For instance, DH feels zero guilt over daycare. I think he views daytime childcare as not his job, because he has a job. I have often wondered how this affects his view of me. We both have