Confession time

blu-eyedwife · March 2013

crystalbaby:
My kid is the one bothering other kids while they're trying to nap.

And you know how I feel about V.

Seriously, don't you just picture a little munchkin babbling away and going to find his/her friends? Like "Hey buddy, whatcha doin'? Wanna come play? Let me tell you a story."

missyishere · March 2013

crystalbaby:
LCass:
crystalbaby:
I am terrified for summer to come. V and I go outside pretty much everyday to the park. She has so much energy and it's the only thing that keeps us both sane. When summer comes, it's like our winter here but instead of being too cold it's too hot, like 100?+. I seriously have anxiety thinking about ways I'm going to be able to entertain her inside.
Splash park or pool nearby? Indoor places with A/C that you can go to every now and then so you can still get out of the house but don't have to be outside?
We're really lucky. We have a Starbucks a couple of blocks from our house that has a splash 'park' in front of it that kids play at in the summer. This will be the first year that V is old enough to play in it, but I'm still nervous about it. Like scared that she will slip and fall. Oh, sh?t. Am I a helicopter parent? Maybe my confession should be that I still feel like I'm winging this parent thing sometimes.

This whole parenting thing is definitely an OTJ training position. I know I have been around SD since she was a toddler, but that seems ages ago. Plus, we didn't live together until DH and I had been together for several years.

It seems like you do have some options for V to play around in the summer. Do they have summer programs for her besides swimming? I am in cabin fever heII right now, but I know it's almost over. Unfortunately, there isn't much to do outside of the home around here.

Which reminds me... I am actually working with a friend to start a toddler Spanish class. We are just beginning the conversation, but I hope we can get something going. It would greatly benefit our kids if we started them as early as possible learning a second language. It would also help SAHMs like myself to get out...

wilsontl19191 · March 2013

crystalbaby:
blu-eyedwife:
crystalbaby:
My kid is the one bothering other kids while they're trying to nap.
 
And you know how I feel about V.  
 
Seriously, don't you just picture a little munchkin babbling away and going to find his/her friends?  Like "Hey buddy, whatcha doin'?  Wanna come play?  Let me tell you a story."
No. I picture a kid screeching and throwing toys and books at the sleeping kids' heads. Your version is much cuter though.  

That's how I read it too.

Elsa1984 · March 2013

I confess that I have always side eyed people that get their pets cremated. Yet this morning, I was out dropping 400 dollars on not only pet cremation,
but an urn for half of her ashes, a "scatter urn" for the other half of her ashes...so we can scatter them at our favorite lakes were she would swim, and a clay ornament print of her paw.

missyishere · March 2013

Elsa1984:
I confess that I have always side eyed people that get their pets cremated. Yet this morning, I was out dropping 400 dollars on not only pet cremation,
but an urn for half of her ashes, a "scatter urn" for the other half of her ashes...so we can scatter them at our favorite lakes were she would swim, and a clay ornament print of her paw.

I'm sorry for your loss. It's tough losing a pet. Hugs to you!

Elsa1984 · March 2013

WineBaby22:
LCass:
WineBaby22:

I get irrationally annoyed with people for knowing so little about food allergies. Every time we go to someone's house or they come to ours I have to follow T around to make sure he doesn't snag another kid's sippy of WCM or touch any of their snacks. I expect having to do this when I'm the guest, but when you come to my house knowing I have a child with several allergies and let your kid walk around with a cup of goldfish I get frustrated. I also can't focus on a word you are saying. I know it's just a lack of knowledge on their part and I would probably be the same way if T didn't have allergies, but it makes me angry.
That's so not cool of them.  We're lucky enough to not have to deal with the allergy stuff (so far), but when they pull out that snack can't you say "Sorry, T's allergies mean that we don't allow that in our home.  Here, your kid can eat ___" and give both kids something safe for T?  I've seen people arranging playdates on FB and asking the other parent to not let their kid have peanut butter or whatever before coming over.  I definitely think you're well within your rights to request that they avoid those foods while the kids are together.

I'm sure part of it is my fault. I feel like I've downplayed his allergies in the past by saying things like "he's only anaphylactic to sesame", so people assume as long as he doesn't eat a food it's fine. I've said things hinting that he really shouldn't be around his allergens at all, but I guess it's time for me to be more direct and firm.

That is frustrating but yes, I think mentioning all allergies to other parents is best so they know. I was in a playgroup years ago and there were several children with severe allergies. Their parents mentioned them outright when they hosted a play date at their house. After awhile, when I knew what kids were going to be at play dates, even if it was somewhere outside the child's home, I knew exactly what allergies were around and packed my nanny kids lunches according to the other kids that would be there. I think a lot of parents with kids who have allergies may think that they are making it a PITA for the other parents when packing their kids food....but in all honesty, I would rather know and be prepared than be the cause of another person's child having a reaction.

Chunstad · March 2013

emunbalanced:
I'm so so tired of seeing "REAL women have curves!" posts on FB and Pinterest. I'm super skinny just because that's how I'm built. Not because I starve myself or diet or exercise all the time. It's just the way I've always been. Am I not a real woman because of my lack of weight? Also: being thin doesn't equal no figure. I have curves where I need them. I'm not straight up and down. It kind of hurts when people make comments about me having the shape of a 12-year old boy. (Yes, I've had people say this to me.) I'm all for empowering women and not getting hung up on being a certain weight, but I think saying that a skinny girl isn't attractive or is less of a woman is just as offensive as saying these things about someone who is overweight. Can't we all just love each other?!?!111!!!

I agree with this. Wouldn't it be great if there were just models modeling clothes and we didn't have to label 'skinny, curvy, plus...'? If there were just no labels, just 'women' of all shapes, sizes, and colors? Variety is the spice of life, anyways. If we all looked and acted the same, it would be a very boring world.

kagl08 · March 2013

jonnygurl76:
DD FINALLY asked to have a big girl bed. We told her it was up to her to tell us when she was ready, so we put the toddler rail on her crib last night and we will transition her into a full size bed soon. I have been waiting for this to happen for so long and then I felt sad last night that she is getting so big. So silly.

Hooray! My DD isn't ready yet, but I'm excited for that day (and scared/sad also). She's also not PTed either.

My confession is: I feel like a lazy parent. My 2.5 yr old isn't PTed yet or in a big girl bed. My DS still has his pacifier. I had someone come over yesterday who was all like "my kid is so smart, and PTed, and everyone tells me how smart he is and how is your 2.5 yr old not PTed yet?" Her son is 16 months! I have no idea how he is PTed already, but he apparently is. I feel like she was telling me my kids aren't smart, and I'm lazy for not having them both PTed. I'll get them on the potty one day, in the spring when I don't need to bundle them up! As for smarts, well I think they are pretty advanced thank you very much! But now I feel all lazy like I'm failing them somehow.

This parenting thing sucks sometimes...

[Deleted User] · March 2013

It's not okay for someone to put down your body type, no matter what it looks like.

That said, please, tell me more about how hard it is being thin. =/

HappyAardvark · March 2013

emunbalanced:
I'm so so tired of seeing "REAL women have curves!" posts on FB and Pinterest. I'm super skinny just because that's how I'm built. Not because I starve myself or diet or exercise all the time. It's just the way I've always been. Am I not a real woman because of my lack of weight? Also: being thin doesn'tnbsp;equal no figure. I have curves where I need them. I'm not straight up and down. It kind of hurts when people make comments about me having the shape of a 12year old boy. Yes, I've had people say this to me. I'm all for empowering women and not getting hung up on being a certain weight, but I think saying that a skinny girl isn't attractive or is less of a woman is just as offensive as saying these things about someonenbsp;who isnbsp;overweight. Can't we all just love each other?!?!111!!! [][]

pretty sure nobody would buy bikinis from the VS catalog if all those skinny bishes had the figures of 12 year old boys. But thanks for the public service announcement.

RichardSlap · March 2013

Blu, mind your bidness. Moms of the daycare asshoIe feel bad enough without the perfect mom snooping around.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

And you know what, no, it's not just as offensive to call a thin woman "skinny" as it is to call an overweight woman "fat."

Because the media glorifies your body, and not mine. You have that as a privilege and I don't.

ETA: Not to mention the studies that show that you're more likely to get hired and be considered competent and intelligent than I am because you're thin.

Nita2603 · March 2013

Woodsie:
WineBaby22:

T and I both think all of you colored pants haters can suck it. 

lol I'm pretty sure I'm the only one who dislikes them. To be fair, I'm not really a fan of bright colours period. I'm wearing all black and white today.

Nope, Woodsie, I find them hideous as well.

RichardSlap · March 2013

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I'm wearing red pants today and I look adorable. And TB apparently wants this to be huge. IN YOUR FACE HATERZ.

Elsa1984 · March 2013

Richard Slap:
I'm wearing red pants today and I look adorable. And TB apparently wants this to be huge. IN YOUR FACE HATERZ.

those boots are awesome!

missyishere · March 2013

Richard Slap:
I'm wearing red pants today and I look adorable. And TB apparently wants this to be huge. IN YOUR FACE HATERZ.nbsp;

Where did you buy your pants? I like that color a lot. I don't think everyone can pull off colored pants, though. I may be one of them. Yet to be determined...

wilsontl19191 · March 2013

overture:
And you know what, no, it's not just as offensive to call a thin woman "skinny" as it is to call an overweight woman "fat."Because the media glorifies your body, and not mine.nbsp; You have that as a privilege and I don't.ETA: Not to mention the studies that show that you're more likely to get hired and be considered competent and intelligent than I am because you're thin.

I've always been a "big" girl.... healthy, but big, and I'm soooo sick of hearing "well, you have a pretty face". So since I'm not ugly, it's ok that I'm fat? Lol And if I didn't have a pretty face, I'd be doomed for life? And if your ugly, but you are skinny, you are still better off than me?

emunbalanced · March 2013

crystaladult:
overture:
And you know what, no, it's not just as offensive to call a thin woman "skinny" as it is to call an overweight woman "fat."
Because the media glorifies your body, and not mine.  You have that as a privilege and I don't.
ETA: Not to mention the studies that show that you're more likely to get hired and be considered competent and intelligent than I am because you're thin.
Word. I've been skinny and fat. And guess what, I was never offended when people called me skinny and I certainly wouldn't act put upon by having to look at fat peoples' body image boosters. 

I'm not trying to offend anyone. I promise. I guess my point was this: why do the body image boosters have to put down someone else in order to boost? The ones I'm seeing on my newsfeed literally have a picture of two women of different sizes stating that one is attractive and natural and the other is not. That's what bothers me. I don't have a perfect body by any means either. I didn't want to come off like that. I'm thin, but I'm not toned at all, and I don't think my stomach skin will ever be the same since pregnancy. I promise I'm not a judgemental bish. I'm probably not explaining myself very well right now either.

colliebabe · March 2013

Pear I love those boots and those pants! Oh and the colored pants thing came from reading through some UO from yesterday from other boards. People were hating on so many fashion trends - Hunter boots, skinny jeans, Uggs (do people even wear these as part of an outfit anymore? I only wear mine out to Target.)

I think my own issue with the whole skinny/fat thing is that I work out a ton, and eat pretty healthy, but no one covets my body type. I can run a full marathon, but people would rather have a skinny girl's body, even if she can't do a single push up. (Not you emu, of course.)

[Deleted User] · March 2013

No, I get what you mean. I'm not a fan of the "real women have curves" thing either. I don't need to be told I'm more "real" (wtf does that even mean) than a thin woman to feel good about myself.

But like 5% of the message is "big is beautiful" and 95% of the message is "you're not as attractive as you should be." So the stigma isn't equal, is all I'm sayin'.

emunbalanced · March 2013

colleenb262:
Pear I love those boots and those pants! Oh and the colored pants thing came from reading through some UO from yesterday from other boards. People were hating on so many fashion trends - Hunter boots, skinny jeans, Uggs (do people even wear these as part of an outfit anymore? I only wear mine out to Target.)
I think my own issue with the whole skinny/fat thing is that I work out a ton, and eat pretty healthy, but no one covets my body type. I can run a full marathon, but people would rather have a skinny girl's body, even if she can't do a single push up. (Not you emu, of course.)

I still wear my UGGs out lol I guess that's another confession?

And I'd rather be fit enough to run even a half marathon than have a skinny girl's body. Skinny definitely does not equal healthy or pretty. I really hope I didn't come off as thinking like that.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

colleenb262:
I think my own issue with the whole skinny/fat thing is that I work out a ton, and eat pretty healthy, but no one covets my body type. I can run a full marathon, but people would rather have a skinny girl's body, even if she can't do a single push up. (Not you emu, of course.)

Yeah that's bullshit too. Pride in our bodies should come from the neat things they can do, not how closely they align to some standard of femininity isn't reflective of function.

Another thing I find annoying: when women are all "well, I don't want to lift weights too much and get too bulky." Girl, you are a woman with a woman's hormones, it's not going to happen.

colliebabe · March 2013

emunbalanced:
I still wear my UGGs out lol I guess that's another confession?

I still wear mine too! The post I was reading was about hating Uggs and made it sound like Uggs were some new hot trend, ha ha.

emunbalanced · March 2013

overture:
No, I get what you mean. I'm not a fan of the "real women have curves" thing either. I don't need to be told I'm more "real" (wtf does that even mean) than a thin woman to feel good about myself.
But like 5% of the message is "big is beautiful" and 95% of the message is "you're not as attractive as you should be." So the stigma isn't equal, is all I'm sayin'.

No the stigma definitely isn't equal at all. You're 100% right. Don't hate me?

[Deleted User] · March 2013

Of course not.

Don't worry, the media tells you you're not pretty enough, too. Wink

Sorry everyone, International Women's Day is bringing out the "fcuk The Man" in me.

colliebabe · March 2013

overture:
Another thing I find annoying: when women are all "well, I don't want to lift weights too much and get too bulky." Girl, you are a woman with a woman's hormones, it's not going to happen.

Yes

And if a woman does lift heavy and has muscles, it's not "gross."

I have this picture in my classroom, and several times my students have said it is gross. Confused <----- massive eye roll

emunbalanced · March 2013

colleenb262:
overture:
Another thing I find annoying: when women are all "well, I don't want to lift weights too much and get too bulky." Girl, you are a woman with a woman's hormones, it's not going to happen.
And if a woman does lift heavy and has muscles, it's not "gross."
I have this picture in my classroom, and several times my students have said it is gross. <----- massive eye roll

i wish my back and arms looked like that! I second your eye roll.

colliebabe · March 2013

The comments some of them make about people's bodies are so crazy emu. I've tried showing them the "Eye of the Beholder" and talking about body image and the media and everything, but I am not sure how much it actually gets through to them. I have no idea how to raise DD to have a healthy body image in today's world. Sad

RoxRing · March 2013

WineBaby22:
I think part of me wants another baby solely beause I feel like I got screwed by the infant stage with T. Months and months of colic, reflux, and undiagnosed food allergies robbed me of enjoying almost everything about the first 9 months. This makes me feel guilty

this is why we likely WON'T be having any more.

emunbalanced · March 2013

colleenb262:
The comments some of them make about people's bodies are so crazy emu. I've tried showing them the "Eye of the Beholder" and talking about body image and the media and everything, but I am not sure how much it actually gets through to them. I have no idea how to raise DD to have a healthy body image in today's world.

This is a big worry of mine. I want DD to feel beautiful no matter what she looks like, and to know that being a good person is far more important than her weight or clothes or hair or makeup. If you figure out how to do this, let me know!

missyishere · March 2013

emunbalanced:
colleenb262:
The comments some of them make about people's bodies are so crazy emu. I've tried showing them the "Eye of the Beholder" and talking about body image and the media and everything, but I am not sure how much it actually gets through to them. I have no idea how to raise DD to have a healthy body image in today's world.
This is a big worry of mine. I want DD to feel beautiful no matter what she looks like, and to know that being a good person is far more important than her weight or clothes or hair or makeup. If you figure out how to do this, let me know!

I have a preteen in my home. I can already see the caddy behavior from girls. I don't look forward to middle school in a couple of years. I had another mother of a girl SD's age tell me girls at their school (some of them friends of SD's) tell her daughter she was stupid for not owning UGGs, and they wouldn't dare speak to her for not having any. I mean, this is cruel sh!t already. I just about cried right there when she told this to me. Terrible...

emunbalanced · March 2013

missyishere:
emunbalanced:
colleenb262:
The comments some of them make about people's bodies are so crazy emu. I've tried showing them the "Eye of the Beholder" and talking about body image and the media and everything, but I am not sure how much it actually gets through to them. I have no idea how to raise DD to have a healthy body image in today's world.
This is a big worry of mine. I want DD to feel beautiful no matter what she looks like, and to know that being a good person is far more important than her weight or clothes or hair or makeup. If you figure out how to do this, let me know!
I have a preteen in my home. I can already see the caddy behavior from girls. I don't look forward to middle school in a couple of years. I had another mother of a girl SD's age tell me girls at their school (some of them friends of SD's) tell her daughter she was stupid for not owning UGGs, and they wouldn't dare speak to her for not having any. I mean, this is cruel sh!t already. I just about cried right there when she told this to me. Terrible...

How awful. Middle school is the worst. It was a bad bad time for me. I'm hoping DD goes through it better than I did.

missyishere · March 2013

Mackalien13:
Richard Slap:
Blu, mind your bidness. Moms of the daycare asshoIe feel bad enough without the perfect mom snooping around.
My kid is the azzhole at daycare.

I take N to an open tot gym once a week, and she's a total snob. Kids come up to play with her, and she just walks away like she's something special.

LCass · March 2013

missyishere:
I take N to an open tot gym once a week, and she's a total snob. Kids come up to play with her, and she just walks away like she's something special.

Sounds like the opposite of Lily, who goes up to each of the other kids at the library program and gives them a big hug and follows them around.

RichardSlap · March 2013

Mackalien13:
Richard Slap:
Blu, mind your bidness. Moms of the daycare asshoIe feel bad enough without the perfect mom snooping around.
My kid is the azzhole at daycare.

Me too, girl. Me too.

wilsontl19191 · March 2013

missyishere:
Mackalien13:
Richard Slap:
Blu, mind your bidness. Moms of the daycare asshoIe feel bad enough without the perfect mom snooping around. 
My kid is the azzhole at daycare.  
I take N to an open tot gym once a week, and she's a total snob.  Kids come up to play with her, and she just walks away like she's something special. 

We were at the gap today and a little girl walked up to Preston and gave her a hug.....he pushed her down. He's a bit of a jerk.

blu-eyedwife · March 2013

Richard Slap:
Mackalien13:
Richard Slap:
Blu, mind your bidness. Moms of the daycare asshoIe feel bad enough without the perfect mom snooping around.
My kid is the azzhole at daycare.
Me too, girl. Me too.

Y'all just need to teach your kids to be the "weird" ***. LBB doesn't get notes about his behavior, because the teachers don't quite know what to make of it. His two big behaviors are walking up to other kids and leaning on them like they're a wall, and crawling onto other kids' laps during story time and lying on them.

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