Why does it sting so bad? (someone else's preg announcement mentioned)

jess123456 · March 2013

Hi Ladies,

I am posting here because I know you ladies understand. Another friend announced their pregnancy to me today. It was done via email which I truly appreciated so I could process it. I am beyond excited of course but why does it still make me cry? I hate that it does because I really can't be happier for them. As you can see from my signature, I have had quite the journey so far over the course of about 3 years so you would think that I would be used to handling this news, My friends have been so incredibly supportive of me and everything that I have been through but I have a very difficult time processing their news and I feel really guilty about that. I was open and honest with my friend today via email and expressed how happy I am for them but that if I don't ask her tons of questions about it isn't personal, just something that I need to do for me.

I understand that it stings because it brings back memories of my pregnancies. However, I think it also stings because I wish I could be so naive again too. Another part of me feels that maybe I will never have a take-home rainbow baby which I know is a twisted way of looking at this. Uggghhh... I feel so selfish and guilty for crying over someone else's happy news.

Anyway, no real point here to this post but I figure you ladies would understand.

lolee465 · March 2013

I know exactly how you feel. You're happy for your friend, but so sad for yourself. It's so hard to be in this position. ((hugs))

Bayberry12 · March 2013

Jess, I could have written this exact same post today. My cousin just announced she is pregnant via FB. She said she was going to wait another month to announce, but decided to let everyone know now so she could start posting complaints. All I could think was "well, if it's really that awful for you, maybe your baby will die and you wont have to deal with morning sickness anymore".

Really, what is wrong with me? I also feel guilty for having these feelings, but it's just the way I am now. It does sting to hear about other peoples pregnancies, especially when they get to be so naive.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · March 2013

I'm sorry sweetie. I've gone through times where every time I turn around I'm hearing about someone else being pregnant. As time goes on I'm finding it harder and harder to be happy for anyone being pregnant. I almost feel as if God only hands out so many "baby cards" and I'm constantly getting passed over. I've seriously wanted to scream "WAIT YOUR DAMN TURN!" so many times lately. It's just not fair.

bunnybun4 · March 2013

Bayberry12:
Jess, I could have written this exact same post today. My cousin just announced she is pregnant via FB. She said she was going to wait another month to announce, but decided to let everyone know now so she could start posting complaints. All I could think was "well, if it's really that awful for you, maybe your baby will die and you wont have to deal with morning sickness anymore".
Really, what is wrong with me? I also feel guilty for having these feelings, but it's just the way I am now. It does sting to hear about other peoples pregnancies, especially when they get to be so naive.

this!

sometimes even seeing pictures of little happy families with 2-3 healthy pregnancies makes me want to scream. It must be nice to just get pregnant and have a baby.

my SIL had her twins today (a month before my EDD)...I have come a LONGGGGGGG way in accepting this and even being happy for her. but there is still a part of me that is angry and jealous...I hate it but its true. DH and I got in a argument yesterday because he said I was being self-absorbed. I told him that my feelings may not be "right" but it is completely natural and my grief is VERY complex when dealing with this.

Ugh. Hugs to you...i know it sucks to be fighting all of these emotions. Thankfully my pregnant friends have been nothing but amazing to me and have given me plenty of space.

jess123456 · March 2013

fluttergirlmoonchild79:
I almost feel as if God only hands out so many "baby cards" and I'm constantly getting passed over. I've seriously wanted to scream "WAIT YOUR DAMN TURN!" so many times lately. It's just not fair.

I totally feel this way too and I do feel so guilty about it. I have to keep telling myself that someone else's pregnancy doesn't mean that I won't have my turn too but it feels that way a lot of the time.

Thanks everyone for chiming in as always. You ladies are the best.

whiteroses05 · March 2013

Ygpm!!

mrsneau · March 2013

I can totally relate. I feel like EVERYONE on FB is pregnant these days and I hate it. I secretly wish for others to lose their babies and I feel like a HORRIBLE person for even thinking it. I love celebrity gossip and E!, and I find myself wishing that celebrities would lose their babies too so they can feel as awful as I do.

HullGut · March 2013

I feel the same way. Every time someone I know has a baby these days I go home and fall apart. I'm happy for them but I can't help but feel sad. And everyone on Facebook is pregnant. I've hidden a lot of women lately. It's just so hard.

silverlining8d · March 2013

Yeah,my cousin is pregnant with twins and she told me before putting it on facebook...I am so happy for her but this will make 3 kids for her and 2 in heaven for me. It's so unfair.

Bayberry12 · March 2013

fluttergirlmoonchild79:
I'm sorry sweetie. I've gone through times where every time I turn around I'm hearing about someone else being pregnant. As time goes on I'm finding it harder and harder to be happy for anyone being pregnant. I almost feel as if God only hands out so many "baby cards" and I'm constantly getting passed over. I've seriously wanted to scream "WAIT YOUR DAMN TURN!" so many times lately. It's just not fair.

Yep, I feel the same way sometimes.

katyms7 · March 2013

HullGut:
I feel the same way. Every time someone I know has a baby these days I go home and fall apart. I'm happy for them but I can't help but feel sad. And everyone on Facebook is pregnant. I've hidden a lot of women lately. It's just so hard.

I am the same way. I break down each and every time someone else announces their pregnany. It is so hard. I go home and cry each time I found out via face book or in person. I have a hard time being happy for others right now.

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