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Am I being paranoid/overprotective? (kind of long)

kelly321kelly321 member
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I went with DD1 (22 months old) to playgroup today. We were planning on DH and DD2 coming too but changed plans at the last minute. A few minutes after I got there, one of the other moms started saying how her daughter had had a horrible cough for the last few days and how she was coughing so hard at night she was throwing up. That little girl proceeded to cough the entire playgroup, put toys in her mouth and pass them to other kids, etc. I did my best to keep DD1 away from her as subtly as I could and honestly even thought about leaving again but couldn't think of a polite excuse.

At this playgroup there are about 8 kids between 2-4 years and 3 kids under 4 months old (siblings of the older ones). My infant wasn't there today, but the other 2 infants were.

Is it just me, or would you consider it rather inconsiderate to bring a child with a cough so bad they're throwing up to a playgroup at which you know there are likely to be several infants? I mean, it's bad enough to think that the older kids were exposed to the germs, but if DD1 then passes it on to DD2 that is not cool. I don't get worked up about it if a kid has a runny nose or something, but this sounded much worse than that. I could also understand if it were daycare and the mom couldn't afford to take a sick day. But this is an absolutely for-fun playgroup that meets every week, so missing a week because your kid is sick is no big deal at all.

Am I being overprotective in thinking that other parents should keep their sick kids at home? I feel like if I can't trust them to do that, then I'll have to keep both DDs away from playgroups, at least while this nasty flu epidemic that's spreading around here is going on. And then I think - why should I have to keep my healthy kid at home? Grr.  Maybe it's just my re-adjusting hormones. You can tell me if you think I should just relax and take it as it is, I know that my experience with having a preemie as a firstborn has colored my view on infant illness. :-(


BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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Re: Am I being paranoid/overprotective? (kind of long)

  • cmhicklincmhicklin member
    In that case I would have kept the kids at home.  There are other circumstance in which people have a cough but aren't contagious ( I had a cough for 2 months after a really bad cold, and it sounded aweful), but that doesn't seem to be the case here.  I kept DD at home for a month (from church and any other kid gathering situation) because I didn't want her to give anything to DS.  With the weather changes though, we still all ended up congested...
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  • holly321holly321 member

    I would be livid.  I was freaking out last week when a child came near DS when we were sitting with dd in Sunday school. 

     It is very rude and irresponsible of the parents to allow the child to be there.   Even if the child was coughing from something simple like a cold, if it is so bad to cause vomiting, she shouldn't have been around other people.

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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member
    Yeah, I'd be a little angry. That's not cool :/
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  • kleigh926kleigh926 member
    I don't think you're overreacting. I'd be upset too.
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  • pitterpatter129pitterpatter129 member

    I probably would have left.  It's very rude to bring your sick kids to infect other kids!  I might have even said something...

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  • 9fraulein9fraulein member
    I would be upset too. When I'm sick, I stay home from work because I'd feel bad if I got anyone else sick...when I have sick coworkers coming in and coughing and sneezing next to me, I think it's really unfair to have to work next to that. Same goes for the babies.
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  • LadyMadrid08LadyMadrid08 member

    I would feel the same way.  I hate when people bring their kids to playgroup sick (not just a runny nose,but sick).  

     

     

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  • pamelaam2468pamelaam2468
    Had the mom taken her kid to the doctor? With my kids, every time they got croup they would keep their coughs for up to six weeks afterwards. My doctor said they weren't contagious at all, just had a horrible and lasting cough!
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  • IncogNeatoIncogNeato member
    I might have left, honestly. I'm terrified of whooping cough. TERRIFIED!
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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member

    I would have left and probably said something to the mom about it too.  I have no patience for that stuff.

    I remember last summer being at the park with my kids.  This family ran up and started playing with my kids and then the boy ran over to me and said, "I threw up three times this morning" before running back away.  He looked like death warmed over.  So I scooped my kids up and before leaving turned to the mom to ask her why she brought her sick kid to the park to infect my kids.

    No patience for that stuff at all.

        
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  • ally2011ally2011 member
    I agree with you and probably would have left. It is common courtesy to keep sick kids home.  

    We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013.  We love her to pieces.  

    We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011.  She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.


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  • kelly321kelly321 member

    imagepamelaam2468:
    Had the mom taken her kid to the doctor? With my kids, every time they got croup they would keep their coughs for up to six weeks afterwards. My doctor said they weren't contagious at all, just had a horrible and lasting cough!

    Ok, thank you all for making me feel like I'm not just a paranoid helicopter mom. 

    And to this question - no, she said, "I thought about taking her to the doctor, but what's he going to do? Say, 'Yep, you're right, she has a cough.'? No cough medicine really works anyway." And I thought to myself - well, unless it's bronchitis or pneumonia or something, in which case it would probably be very good to get her checked out.

    So far, anyway, there's no outbreak of whooping cough in Germany, so that's thankfully not a big concern.


    BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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