Dr appts by yourself?

Steph7107 · February 2013

I go by myself except for the anatomy scan, my husband took time off for that.

melissabshelton · February 2013

So far my appointments have been scheduled on his days off. When they start being more often, I'm sure he'll have to miss quite a few. My doctor's office is 30 minutes one way from home, he works an hour the opposite way from home. He's a manager so he does have a little more flexibility in his schedule, but I'd rather he save asking for time off for when I need help with 3 kids. And mostly all he's there for at the appointments anyways is let the 3 year old play with his phone. I am high risk and his work knows this just in case he does have to leave work suddenly to come down to be with me. But this is #3 for me. For just the standard appointments, there's no real reason for him to be there.

JePit21 · February 2013

My husband has gone with me so far to every single one, not because I need him to be there or I don't go alone, but he willingly wants to be a part of it all, including every single appointment. My mom came with us the first visit only

Cangel24 · February 2013

adeladedyan:
I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

This is me too. My DH went to the 1st appt, 2nd appt, NT scan, Anatomy Scan, and more than likely won't be going to anymore. No big deal he works and there is no need for him to take off once a month for just 20 min appts.

CindyRelluh · February 2013

This being our second, unless its an important appt I go alone. DH flies for the Air Force, so he works while my docs office is open. He gets off any time there's an ultrasound or something special going on, but since most appts are just chatting I go alone.

I Love my Dave · February 2013

My husband hasn't been to any appointments. He only goes to the ultrasounds.

Snapdragon750 · February 2013

I am genuinely surprised by everyone who says their DH goes with them to most or all of their appointments. I always assumed that all the husbands in the waiting room were there for ultrasounds. I don't think I'm so independent a person; I don't like to sleep alone and even though DH and I are both home most of the day I still whine that I don't see him enough...but unless your appointments are very different from mine (uneventful and 5 minutes long) I can't even imagine wanting DH there. Just, why? Even if he's not working, I'd rather him stay home and get something done there than waste time in a waiting room with me.

Of course he's gone for the ultrasounds, but he missed my 20 week u/s with our first LO and that made me upset, but not at him, as it couldn't be helped (he came down with a high fever that morning).

BlueJewelM · February 2013

MissyCee:
Unless there's going to be an ultrasound, I go alone. DH doesn't have to be there while I get my weight, blood pressure, and urine sample checked, get blood work done, or get a standard check up, that's just silly.

This exactly.

I can sum up the appointment's events pretty well. We did the same with DS.

I Love my Dave · February 2013

nnikki10:
I go alone usually. DH works graveyard and is usually asleep during appts. He went to very first appt and he will make a/s. That's it though. I would feel silly making him go for a five minute appt just to hear hb and watch dr measure my bump.

This! He isn't missing anything!

simplestlife · February 2013

My DH came to a couple of my appointments in the beginning, then I started going by myself. I know he wants to come, but he just started a new job and he isn't in a position where either of us feels comfortable with him asking for time off.

We found out the gender together at a private company on the weekend a few weeks back, and it was so exciting for him to see our baby, that I feel bad he's missing so many of these appointments. Tomorrow I have my a/s and he won't even be there for that. I know if I asked him he would come, but I just don't want him to jeopardize anything with this new job he has. I'm pretty independent though, so I don't mind.

alilovesmatt08 · February 2013

I always go alone. DH went to the big u/s where we found out what we were having. No real point in him going. He is a drug rep so drives all over the state. Not a big deal to me!

lovemyminions · February 2013

adeladedyan:
I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

This is us. DH will likely come to a few of the last appointments so her can meet the midwife.

laurakaz13 · February 2013

My DH is a military pilot, so his schedule is crazy. He came to every appointment he could and I tried to schedule the u/s appointments around his schedule so he could always make them.

The only appointments I really cared if he was there were the inital one and the anatomy scan.

OctGirl80 · February 2013

DH has only gone to the a/s with DD and has yet to come to any with these LOs. I get u/s every other week for monitoring so the time he'd have to take off from work would be crazy.

miss2697 · February 2013

adeladedyan:
I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

This

DocksMom · February 2013

adeladedyan:
I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

This is true for me too. DH is too busy at work, appts are an inconvenience for him.

TurtleMomma · February 2013

I'm a FTM and all of this stuff is kind of scary to me. The hubs does his best to make it to all the appointments, and my OB office is really good with their hours. We plan our appointments around his schedule, so things usually work out. He has very flexible hours, anyhow. I really want him there because I feel like he's disengaged himself from the pregnancy.

Maybe when we have another kid I will tell him not to bother, but for now, its a really special time for us both.

ElleStamenov · February 2013

I go alone! It's boring waiting though lol. I like him to come to the ultrasounds but as I'm having to go once a month now for medical reasons he can't come to them all as he works! Which the ultrasounds I do feel uneasy being alone.

luvmyducks · February 2013

With DD1 he went to all of them bc he was off on Wednesdays so I scheduled them then. He liked going.

With this one his day off was changed to Fridays and my OB doesn't work on Fridays, so he usually just goes to the u/s appts--though he did miss the first one at 6.5w. I'm a SAHM and don't have anyone to help me with DD and it is really hard to take her to the appts, so I've been asking DH if he can switch days off when I have appts so he can go and help with DD. So far it hasn't worked out.

Liz4444 · February 2013

He comes to any appt where we see the baby. He can leave his office whenever he wants, and he works 10 minutes away, but there is no reason for him to come watch me get weighed and pee in a cup. With Li, my mother came to any appointment DH didn't go to, not because I needed her there, because she wanted to. She wants to come this time, but she stays home with Li instead. We brought Li to my first appointment this time, but she is way too mobile and gets into everything.

weaslewam · February 2013

Unless I have an ultrasound appointment I don't care to have DH or anyone else come with me. It's much easier to coordinate just going by myself.

highlights · February 2013

During my first pregnancy I made him come to blood draws because they made me dizzy, and I'd always have to stop on the way home.

Now I'm used to blood draws, and I go to appointments with my toddler. Except the US.

ariaforte8 · February 2013

DH hasn't missed an appointment with me yet. He gets a lot out of being with me. He likes to be able to ask the doctor questions, and generally learns something new at each appointment. I think it's great!

Lemmon_ade12 · February 2013

DH always goes, but basically because his work schedule is kind of quirky and our appointments almost always fall into when he has off. We got lucky that way I guess. He never came to my glucose test though. Yikes... how boring would that be for him!? It's boring enough for me!

Meemaleema · February 2013

I am blessed that husband has been allowed to go to each appt. His schedule/career allows for that. Don't feel bad. MOST of these appts are just routine and so fast. You might want to as if someone can go with you once they are at the 1 week intervals. Only in case by chance they think you are in labor. Which is slim to none...

GalLaura · February 2013

Like most of the other ladies, I go alone except if there is an ultrasound. It doesn't seem necessary at all for my husband to be there. You should make it a day all about you.It might help you be more independent. Get a manicure or lunch or something afterwards.

laurensolinger · February 2013

I am 14 weeks and my boyfriend has been working in Alaska since the day before i found out i was pregnant. I go to my appts alone and went to the first u/s alone which i wish he could have been there for.

I will probably continue to go alone unless we are having another u/s. its pretty normal i think.

913mom · February 2013

I go to every appt by myself except my ultrasoud. Why does my husband need to see me pee in a cup and get weighed? Maybe towards the end when we need to make a decision for delivery he might come but other than that I really don't think its necessary.

megaroo64 · February 2013

My Dh has only been there for two appointments- the very first one and the a/s. For me, it is not a big deal. I have a more flexible schedule, and he would have to take off work all the time if he was coming to every appointment.

Maybe if you H can't go, you can take a friend with you? It is nice to have someone there. Honestly, if I have to get the 3 hour test, I might enlist my mom to come with me.... 3 hours is a long time.

sunkissed7804 · February 2013

I go to my appts alone. And I agree with others that it is easier that way...waiting for 20 minutes to be seen for 5 is not much fun. My hubs wishes he could go but he is an engineer and his job is crazy with scheduled meetings and such. He even missed the ultrasounds.

I feel terrible for him and I am going to try and schedule the next ultrasound for a Saturday, if possible!

jane.says · February 2013

I go by myself. Neither one of us see any reason for him to take off work to come with me to the regular, uneventful appointments. He comes to the first one and the anatomy scan, and he's always come when we've gone through some complications, but if all is normal I go alone. Everyone is different. It's not something that bothers me, but I have friends who would never even consider going alone.

atangiblewish · February 2013

I go alone unless it's an u/s.

CleopatraBlue · February 2013

This is DH and my first child, and DH doesn't want to miss anything. He is determined to go to every appointment and so far, has been able to manage it.

I tried to tell him that missing the regular checkups wouldn't be a big deal, but he wouldn't hear it.

PrimRoseMama · February 2013

I could go myself if I really needed to, but I would have to get a sitter for DD.

DH goes and plays with DD while I get checked out. He's there in the room and enjoys it. I feel very blessed that is work hours are extremely flexible and that he is able to attend the appointments. He is often out of town and so its nice to have him there.

magdalina.h · February 2013

I rarely go alone, but that's due to my anxiety.

kje120 · February 2013

If it's an appt where I will be having an u/s DH goes with me, other than that I go alone.

knsh11 · February 2013

DH only goes with for u/s. I like to get the first appt after lunch (works better with DS's schedule), and I think it would be silly for DH to take that time off work when the appts are so uneventful. Also, we live in a small town that's 45 minutes away from my OB. So when we go to my appts, DS and I go a few hours early and run errands.

BC&LM · February 2013

He goes to all ultrasounds and specifically left work a little early for my first prenatal. All of the others, he usually goes if he is done work for the day, but if it would cause him to miss work, he does not go.

shelbell1028 · February 2013

I go to all monthly appts alone. DH only comes to appts when I will be having an u/s. There is no way he can take time off from work to come with me....and even if he could I think its kind of pointless for him to be there.

virginiamama85 · February 2013

shelbell1028:
I go to all monthly appts alone. DH only comes to appts when I will be having an u/s. There is no way he can take time off from work to come with me....and even if he could I think its kind of pointless for him to be there.

This is us too - he comes to the ones with an ultrasound, other than that, I think it would be pointless for him!

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