Dr appts by yourself?

abalhawk2009 · February 2013

Do the majority of you ladies go to your OB appts by yourself or does someone accompany you? My husband works construction and therefore doesn't get personal or sick pay but during my 3 hr glucose test today I noticed a lot of couple at the office. And before I could stop myself I was crying and had to duck into the bathroom before anyone saw me. I think I just had a bad hormone day but I am still curious if anyone else is doing this by themselves due to spouses/partners work.

adeladedyan · February 2013

I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

veronicavpling · February 2013

abalhawk2009:
Do the majority of you ladies go to your OB appts by yourself or does someone accompany you? My husband works construction and therefore doesn't get personal or sick pay but during my 3 hr glucose test today I noticed a lot of couple at the office. And before I could stop myself I was crying and had to duck into the bathroom before anyone saw me. I think I just had a bad hormone day but I am still curious if anyone else is doing this by themselves due to spouses/partners work.

wow i'm such a baby. i just cried -_- i do not go by myself (wish i had the balls to go by myself) i make all my appts to where my husband is off from work.

but if i was near you i would def go with you !

i'm sorry you feel like that. *hugs* & maybe it'll change (:

skio · February 2013

My H is a detective in Manhattan. So, yeah, I go to a lot of appointments alone, and I'm perfectly capable of doing so.

We do work the ultrasound appointments around his schedule when we can. But there's always a chance he'll be held up or called in and can't make it. I know who I married and I'm cool with it. I'm also super independent, though, which I'm sure helps. I sleep alone at least two nights a week and I totally enjoy those nights.

bakerlm · February 2013

I have always gone to my appointments alone, with the exception of u/s or a/s. I think ds has been to one as well. I have no issues going alone. Plus I can't imagine what Dh would do. It's a three minute appointment, so he would probably complaining made him go lol. So sorry for your emotional day.

DaisyDuck40 · February 2013

So far my fiance has gone to every appointment and my mum had gone with us the first time....so I've always had someone there....In all honesty I would feel awkward being there by myself and I have no idea why. I know there might be a time where I will have to go by myself, but for now I enjoy the company.

veronicavpling · February 2013

skio:
My H is a detective in Manhattan. So, yeah, I go to a lot of appointments alone, and I'm perfectly capable of doing so. We do work the ultrasound appointments around his schedule when we can. But there's always a chance he'll be held up or called in and can't make it. I know who I married and I'm cool with it. I'm also super independent, though, which I'm sure helps.

i wish i was like this. independent. i not used to doing things by myself. and it's scary. my husband does try to push me to do things by myself and i do em sometimes and i don't like it. i should really learn...that's the whole point of growing up.

merc5411 · February 2013

My husband comes when he can but its actually easier for me when he doesn't. I can get in and out quicker. He comes up with thd weirdest questions!

pepomntpat · February 2013

DH went to every single appointment with DD. He has only gone to u/s appointments with this LO. It does make me sad. It certainly isn't necessary, but I do feel like this LO is getting the shaft.

MommyAmes2 · February 2013

I go by myself, unless DH is off work. It doesn't bother me any.

If I have an ultrasound (especially my a/s), he will take off work early and go with me.

afrochick09 · February 2013

DH has been with me to each appointment thus far. Thankfully he's self employed so he's able to do this, I can't imagine appointments without him though.

kill1981 · February 2013

adeladedyan:
I go alone. Unless we have an u/s then Dh goes.

This ... Or if my mom isn't busy she will go

MrserinJ · February 2013

With my first son, DH came to almost all the appt's. with my second, he only came to the ultrasounds as he stayed home with DS. It's the same with this one. I really don't need him there. It's pretty standard: I pee in a cup get blood pressure, weight taken and then the doppler. I'm just happy he works from home and is able to stay with my 5 and 2 year old so I don't need to take them with me! Lol.

CaraLynn91 · February 2013

I go alone unless it's an a/s or to my high risk doctor every 2 weeks.

The only reason he comes to my high risk doctor appointments unlike my regular OB that's 20 minutes away, my high risk is a little over an hour. Just in case anything were to happen/be discovered while at my high risk appointment, he's there with me. If it were to happen/be discovered at my reg OB he could be there in no time. Plus we get an ultrasound each time, and he likes to see the baby, too.

azzy1206 · February 2013

I go by myself . Except for the first ultrasound my hubby went .. He didn't go with me when I got to hear the heart beat either. And the next time we plan for him to go is when we find out the gender.

kdruffles · February 2013

I go to every appt by myself. I have to go to Dr every 2 weeks, and last appt Dr said I need to start coming 1 a week. (I'm high risk) No way my DH can get away from work that often. He did go to a/s though. Doesn't bother me, but this is my 5th pregnancy, maybe that's why?

amarissa85 · February 2013

DH is active duty and unless I am having a u/s he won't be attending because he is a higher ranking individual and I know they don't do anything at the other appointments really except check baby's heartbeat ect.

musicalsilver · February 2013

DH took time off to go to the NT and A/S appointments, but I don't see the point in having him come to all the "regular" appointments. Most of mine last about 5 or 10 minutes, so I don't see a point in making him drive all the way to and from work for it. DH has told me if I need him there he'll make the time, and so far, I haven't seen the need - so it works out well for us. So you're not alone in going to most of your appointments on your own!

SunnyMuffin · February 2013

I had my husband come to most of my appts with my first pregnancy, but this time the office i'm going to is 1.5 hours away and it would be nightmarish to drag our 1.5 yr old to all of them.

I've only had 1 appt so far because I started them late but I brought my son to that one. We're having my ultrasound done locally b/c the midwives office doesnt do them

MissyCee · February 2013

Unless there's going to be an ultrasound, I go alone. DH doesn't have to be there while I get my weight, blood pressure, and urine sample checked, get blood work done, or get a standard check up, that's just silly.

blush64 · February 2013

I go to most appointments alone. I wouldn't even want my husband to take time off for one of my appointments unless there was something serious going on. (like when I had the amnio or the a/s)

[Deleted User] · February 2013

I go to mine alone...not much point in my fianc? coming to an appt that's only going to last a few minutes. I'm pretty independent though, and he'll be coming to the important appts (like the A/S). Just my opinion though:)

cameronzmom · February 2013

When my pregnancies are healthy and no drama, I go by myself unless its a scheduled ultrasound and my husband can go. This pregnancy is full of issues so either my husband or my mom has went with me to almost every appt. The most recent is the only one I've been to alone.

Luthien1015 · February 2013

skio:
My H is a detective in Manhattan.

I totally just heard the Law & Order donk-donk noise.

I go to my appointments alone too, OP. They usually don't last that long and it's more trouble than it's worth for my husband to take off work for them.

ASmallWonder · February 2013

Last time and this time I've gone to every appointment alone except for u/s appointment. Honestly, they're so uneventful *I* barely have to be there for them. DH can't miss work all the time to stand outside the bathroom while I pee, watch me get weighed, have my blood pressure taken, fundal height measured and asked if I have questions, which I rarely do. It takes like 15 minutes

Of course, if there were concerns or issues he would absolutely come but routine stuff is nbd.

MAdams728 · February 2013

My husband has only gone to the appts that have included an ultrasound, and I've had four of those. The rest of my appts have, luckily, been very routine. There isnt any reason that he needs to leave his job and sit at the docs while I pee in a cup, get my belly measured, have a quick heartbeat check, and have the doc ask me how I am. That takes about 15 minutes every appointment.

I'll start going every two weeks pretty soon, and that is just too much time away from work, where he needs to be so he can get things done.

If I was high risk, then it might be a different story.

smilejenn · February 2013

My husband comes to all my appointments with me, but he also has a super flexible work schedule which helps tremendously. I have difficult pregnancies with HG, so he has to come to my first trimester appointments with me as I'm too dehydrated to safely drive myself the 30 minutes on the highway. While I thankfully feel better now, he'll probably continue to come to the rest of my appointments with me because I did have stressful third trimesters in my previous pregnancies, and it helps me feel more at ease when he's with me.

That being said, I don't think there's anything wrong with going by yourself. I definitely go to every other doctor appointment by myself. Just remind yourself that besides the 20 week ultrasound, most of your appointments will likely be very routine and only last a few minutes.

nnikki10 · February 2013

I go alone usually. DH works graveyard and is usually asleep during appts. He went to very first appt and he will make a/s. That's it though. I would feel silly making him go for a five minute appt just to hear hb and watch dr measure my bump.

TheyCalledHerKate · February 2013

I go alone unless I have an u/s. There is no point of having my H at check ups.

Erinm278 · February 2013

DH goes to all appointments with me but his job is more flexible and he works literally 2 minutes from the Doctor's office.

CaliforniaDream87 · February 2013

DH goes sometimes when he can. He works full time and goes to school so he can't make every single one.

Doesn't bother me much though.

jkzinck · February 2013

Dh went to the first two appointments with this one and he will go to the ultra sound otherwise I will go by myself

logoz80 · February 2013

With our 1st, my husband was at all but 2 appts. This time, he's only been to the 2 ultrasounds. At least I have my 2 year old to keep me company during the appts now.

jlpev · February 2013

Last pregnancy dh only went to the ones that included ultrasounds but since we have a 2 yr old he has been coming but I'm fixing to go to them by myself BC ill be going every 2 weeks.

smellychelly25 · February 2013

I go alone most of the time. My Fiance works long hours and sometimes can't make it.

thisiseverything · February 2013

My husband has only come for ultrasounds. He also does not have paid sick time so we decided it's better to have him work than take the time off for my regular OB appointments - my pregnancy has been categorized as high risk but he's close enough that if I needed him, he could get there.

Unrelated: I have been undergoing treatment for a neurological condition since November and it just so happens it was at a neuro appointment that I found out at my appointment I was pregnant - they had to do blood work prior to a spinal tap that revealed I was expecting! He *wishes* he was there for that one! But, I had fun sharing the news with him.

MrsAery-to-be · February 2013

With DS1 DH only missed one appt the whole pregnancy. He wanted to be involved and I loved having him there. This time he has a different job and has only been to my first appt when we did a dating u/s. He will go to my glucose test with me because I do really badly with getting my blood drawn so I want him to help keep me calm. We will try to schedule my 36 week appt when he can make it because we will be discussing induction at that time. My mom came with to my a/s, I didn't want to be alone just in case there was something 'wrong,' otherwise I have done the rest alone. Of course I wish DH could come to every appt but I knew going in that he wouldn't be able to andthat's ok.

BelhurstBride · February 2013

With DD DH went to the first appt, u/s and the appt immediately following the u/s. (to hear the results.)

this time he's been to the NT scan.

I just don't see the point of him taking the time off of work and if he can take it I'd rather he stay with DDso I dont have to deal with her there.

tokenhoser · February 2013

My husband only attends the two u/s. He's a teacher; he can't just walk away from work for fun.

This has never made me feel bad. I'd rather he saves his time off for when we have a baby, thanks.

JeseyJo · February 2013

I go by myself unless DH just happens to have the day off around the time the next one is or unless it's a big appt. He's been to the first one and the a/s. Most appointments so far, there's really been no reason for him to be there other than the first one to hear the heartbeat and the a/s. I'm just in and out.

snookums2013 · February 2013

Aww I understand how you feel. At least he has a good reason for not being there. Is there a friend or other relative that would be willing to go with you so you don't feel alone? I was really hurt when my husband was complaining at the 8 week u/s that he had to miss work (he's been really stressed about his job lately). I think he just wasn't ready to face it yet and get attached, but he seems excited about the 20 week one. I've gone to the check ups by myself and my mom came with me to the 12 week u/s. My Dr is also far away so that makes it more annoying for him because it adds extra time that he has to take off. It does seem like mostly couples (at least in the waiting room) when I go to the office.

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