Going back and reading my post makes me realize how utterly crap I'm both feeling and acting. I'm pretty sure I'm entering another massive depressive mindset because of the new developments and I'm wondering if I need some time away. Mostly because every day I see either posts about everyone's DH or posts about how a sh!tty situation with someone's DH has turned around and is on the mend. As hard as I'm trying to pretend I'm impervious, I'm so not.
And I feel like I'm really bringing everyone down. Ugh, I'm sorry. This is so not a GBCB or anything. God, no. I just feel so much like sh!t and I don't want to clog the board up with it anymore, I feel bad about it. I may take a break for a little while.
// I love you too. //
Re: Possible Bump Hiatus?
I will miss you - But you just do what you gotta do - You know where to find us when you decide to come back.
::hugs::
I can totally relate to feeling that way. I have a hard time posting about toddler-related stuff sometimes (on a parenting-specific message board, lol). It's times like these that I kind of take a step back from posting. I'll chime in here and there but can't really relate to the topics of the day.
FWIW, I don't get the Debbie downer vibe from you. I think your GIFs show a free spirit in you. I understand the need to step back, but I hope you don't feel like you don't belong here. We heart you.
Well, if you need a break then by all means take one. However, we all love you and don't feel burdened by what you share. I am actually pleased when you do, because I think the outlet is important.
As far as other people's marriages go, some of us have problems and never share, some of us always share, and some of us selectively share. If you'd like, you can pm me your email address and we can correspond if you need a sounding board.
I definitely wouldn't judge other people's relationships by what they post here. A lot of us, I'm sure, have our own struggles but aren't comfortable posting. If it helps you, please continue to do so. You are not bringing anyone down. Also, your GIFs are amazing!!!
I hope things get better for you!
You guys are forreals making me cry. I definitely know that life is not perfect for other people - I hope I didn't sound like I thought that. I just wish I could work it out like some of you have been able to. I seriously love it here and I'm glad you guys don't think I'm being as much of a poop as I think I am.
It could just be a day or two while I cry it out. Mrs. Case, I will probably PM you in a few.
Thanks, guys.
// I love you too. //
Just this week I started telling people, it's that end of February funk. Ugh, we all need to find sunny place to live.
It ain't EVENNNNNNNNNN like that. You were willing to work it out! It's him with his early-life crisis that put you in this situation. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I mean, it takes two, and I am sure you have your own things you did that were not right. But it seems from an outsider's perspective that he lead you to believe he was someone he is not. Or that he no longer is. It is PERFECTLY normal to mourn what you had, what you thought you had, or what you thought might have been possible. My fear is, he WILL realize what he has done, but it will be too late because YOU will have moved on to someone more deserving of your love and affections. I don't know if you're religious/spiritual/whatever but I am praying your husband reaches his rock bottom so he can clean up his act, if not for the sake of your marriage, then for his children. They need and deserve competency and responsibility.
ETA: So long as his main priority is chasing tail and becoming a rockstar, it is literally impossible for him to be the father they deserve. Too much selfishness. I am all for chasing your dreams but once you have children, you have a responsibility to their stability first and foremost. I am glad he is keeping your conversations short because frankly, he is not deserving of the time it takes to bend your ear about his problems. You are not his party buddy, you are his wife. Shame on him for mistreating you by burdening you this way!
If you take a hiatus, let it be because YOU need it to focus on YOU, not because you think you're bringing us down. (I'm not saying you need to work on you...I'm sure we all do...but don't leave because you feel like you're being a Debbie Downer.)
FWIW, I read your posts and send T&Ps your way, even if I don't say it. I don't know what to say, but that doesn't mean that I don't care. I don't think you're clogging up the board, and I'm sure that if we all stick around long enough, we'll all go through rough spots.
Also, I rarely post about DH online for various reasons. There have been plenty of times I wanted to rant about something, but most times it would go against my policy of "If I wouldn't say it to someone's face, I won't say it online."
This is how I feel about you leaving.....
But I totally understand if you need a break and I won't love you any less.
// I love you too. //
Thank you.
Also...the bolded is exactly how I feel. I'm not sure of the solution for my problems, but I know of some things that could improve my mood and our day-to-day, at least. But lately I can't muster up enough energy to do, well, anything besides the bare minimum to get us through the day.
// I love you too. //
WTF!
I am SO here too!!
And, when Crash said blame it on February, it really caught me by surprise. I haven't felt this way in a long time. I was take-charge and in control of my own destiny. And, WATCH ME kick this problem's ass!!
Now, I'm like... Meh...
Remember that GIF you posted about your DD1 getting ready in the morning... F'uck this! And this! That pretty much sums it up... Only that GIF is funny, and my lyfe is not!!
So, leave if you've gotta, but we could all try to just get it together together... KWIM?
I promise to make today a better day for myself, and I'll post about it... I hope you're around to read it.
xoxo
ETA: I have a bunch of things going on in my life right now too. You're handling your situation much better than I, or most other people, would. You're a strong lady, we're here to listen. We all get in funks, we all have issues, we all just deal in different ways.
// I love you too. //