How many moms plan on returning back to work full-time after 6-12 weeks maternity leave? My boss just approached me this morning and told me I'm going to be stressed out trying to juggle a newborn and a 40 hour work schedule and gave me "they're only young once speech". Way to make me feel like a career crazy mom! lol I just don't think my husband and I can financially afford for me to work part-time.
Thoughts?
Re: Returning to Work after baby is born.
I'm headed back full time after 8 weeks. Honestly, I will probably be a better Mom for working. The time I will give to LO will be so valuable to me. Besides, we can't afford to have only one of us working.
Grrrr to your boss for making you feel guilty for what you need to do!
Your boss sucks. For real. That is really inappropriate - his only concern should be if you are doing your job as you should be and otherwise he can MHOB. Jerk.
To answer your question, I am going back to work full-time after 6-8 weeks.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
Like PP said I would probably report that to HR. That seems really inappropriate.
I will be returning to work full-time after 12 weeks of leave.
my read shelf:
I, too am shocked that your boss would say something like that. Seems inappropriate.
I plan on returning to work full time 8-10 weeks after the baby is born.
m/c 2002 7w2d
bfp 9.6.12 | edd 5.17.13 | m/c 9.19.12 5w5d
bfp 10.18.12 | edd 6/28/13
beta#1 10.18.12 - 96 / progestrone 32 || beta#2 10.22.12 - 711 || beta#3 10.25.12 - 2608 DD born 6/27/13
bfp 7.16.14 | edd 3/27/15
beta#1 7.18.14 - 149 || beta#2 7.21.14 - ??
I am going back to work after 10-12 weeks. I plan on working reduced hours though (from 8:30-4:30 to 9-3).
SURPRISE! BFP: 12/2014 - EDD: 8/13/15
We made plans and God laughed
DS: BFP: 9/30/12 - EDD: 6/9/13
Radley Quinn was fashionably late via induction on 6/17/13
What a creep! And completely unappropriate. Don't feel guilty for wanting or needing to work full time to provide for your family. Grr!
But, I will take 6-8 weeks maternity leave and then we have an Infant at Work program and the baby will come to work with me until she is 6 months old.
That's not fair of your boss to lecture to you on that subject. Now, that said, if you and your boss have "that" kind of relationship it's a little different. I'm very close with my bosses (company of 4 people), but not everyone has that kind of work relationship.
I will be returning to working full time after 8 weeks off, however half of the time will be working at home. My husband also works at home, so we'll be trading off on the at home schedule. We could not afford for me to work part time, or to take more than 8 weeks off. I'm only going to be paid for 6 weeks of my leave, any time after that will be unpaid.
You do what you need to do to keep your family stable, emotionally and financially. And ignore anyone else who tells you you're making the wrong choice. Most likely they're jealous or envious, and trying to make themselves feel better about a situation they once had.
I will be be back FT at 6 or 8 weeks depending on how I deliver. I was back at 6 weeks FT with my first too. Its difficult, but can be done. The key is having reliable childcare that you trust implicitly and a back up plan for the days LO is sick and can't go to DC or if your nanny/provider is sick or needs a day off. I/m not going to lie, when you first go back, its like your heart is being ripped out but it really does get easier pretty quickly. I need to work and I like to work. I'm not SAHM material, but I do wish I had more time with my son. The key is organization and having QUALITY time with your LO when you can.
This! On both counts!
I understand because I also work for a smaller business. Unfortunately, not all companies have an HR department and if there are under 50 employees, laws are completely different. (i am the HR department at my job LOL). I do not get paid maternity leave and FMLA does not apply to me. We plan on me being a SAHM but right now that is not an option, but that could change before the baby comes. If I do go back to work it will be after 6 weeks, but I am going to approach my boss about possibly working from home 3-4 days a week.
I think you should do what is best for you and your family. I will be returning to work after six weeks unless I add an extra week of my own personal leave I will have to see when the time comes.
Meant to say returning to work FT.
Highly inappropriate actions by your boss!
I work for a small company, FMLA does not apply, I do not get paid maternity leave. I will be back full time at 8 weeks.
I am the bread winner in the house at least until the baby will be a year and DH has finished his residency program. I am proud of the fact that I will be able to support us and raise my child. All other working moms should feel the same!
Initially I planned to come back 40 hours per week, but I've decided to go part-time. We'll see how this works out after the baby is born though! I may want to go full-time....
Also, in reading your message I don't agree with other posters who said that your boss was inappropriate. It sounds to me like he sincerely cares about your well-being and wants what is best for you. But maybe this is because I also work for a small company and my bosses are like that too - almost like family. I would just tell him that you wish you could, but unfortunately financially you can't right now. I'm sure he was just letting you know it's okay with him if you want to go part-time.
I'll go back to work after 8 - 9 weeks. I'm using the vacation I saved up rather than going on unpaid maternity. I work from home 3-4 days a week so going back won't be so bad. My fiance is self-employed so he'll work from home/take care of LO because we can't afford daycare. Fingers crossed his business takes off soon otherwise he will have to get a job working for someone else at which time we'll have to figure out what to do about childcare.
In general, I agree with the pp's who mentioned that was your boss said was not appropriate. I have a pretty close relationship with my boss, and I've made it very clear I am coming back after maternity leave, but he's mentioned he has his doubts about that, which does bother me a bit. I'm the soul source of income at this time so I have no choice but to go back after the baby, which I've told him, but he seems to believe I'll figure out a way to make money out of dirty diapers or something and not come back to work. Frustrating.
Beyond that, I'm interested in having a career in addition to having kids. One way or the other, I'd be a working mom. It'd be nice if I wasn't the soul source of income so part time work could be an option while the baby is really little. But it is what is.
Wow, I can't believe your boss said that. Most of the women I work with are working moms and they all make it work. Way to make an assumption about your life.
As for me, I haven't hammered out the details yet with HR but I have a ton of paid time off accrued so I'm hoping to take six months off.
My Blog
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a working mom. My mom worked and my brother and I are fine. We got plenty of quality time with her and it really didn't matter that much when we went to school. I will be out about 6 weeks. After that, I have to go back to work because we can't afford for me to be out of a job. Other than that, I am not SAHM material at all! I nannied my BIL, who is four now, for two years. I thought I was going to go insane. Don't get me wrong, I love my BIL and I already love DD, but I need adults to talk to that don't just talk about their kids. I need to have work to do other than cleaning. I give props to SAHMs everywhere!
Your boss should not have taken that approach, well intentioned or not! It is up to you and your DH what you do after your baby is born!
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
Also, I have to agree with this. I think your boss was out of line. It seems like maybe his intentions were coming from a good place, but it is your decision to make and he shouldn't make you feel guilty about it.
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
~~~BFP 10/9/12, EDD 6/17/13~~~
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
CJ 05/29/2013
TTC #1 since October 2010 | Began Testing in January 2012
DH SA - low motility with 0% morph; varicocele (repaired); low T (on Clomid)
IVF w/ICSI (long Lupron w/ Repronex and Follistim) in September 2012
Totally this, but I'm only hot for you in the context of being upset, I'm not sure which way Drea was going with that .
If my manager said that I would take it as they are trying to convince me not to come back which would make me think twice about whether they found me/my position valuable. My manager has asked me with worry if I am coming back, and I assure her that I am. I would feel icky about the comments your manager made.