one of my managers got the news today that her ivf failed at noon. I felt so bad for her but on top of that another co worker announced her pregnancy. My manager left the office for the day in tears. Any ideas to make her feel better tomorrow? I feel so sad for her.
There really isn't much you can do to support her other than telling her you are very sorry and you hope it works out for her next cycle. Also offer to be there or do anything for her It's probably better to do so in a card because your pregnancy is a reminder that she's not, so so may distance herself from you. I would also try to discreetly talk to the co-worker who just announced and remind her to "lay low" and keep her excitement at work to a minimum around that manager.
I am so sorry for your manager. To be honest, there is nothing you can say or do. What I wouldn't do is bring it up until she does. Just be there for her if she needs to talk, do not talk about your pregnancy unless she does and just listen. IVF is a deeply personal and sensitive process to begin with so she might not even want to discuss it. It is so sweet of you to want to make her feel better. Being there for her and sensitive to her feelings will help her a lot I am sure.
IVF# 1 with ICSI
05/02/2012 - Husband had surgery
07/13/2012 - Started BCP
07/31/2012 - Stopped BCP
08/02/2012 - Little Friend came and had trand vag echo and blood test
08/03/2012 - started Puregon 250UI a day
08/10/2012 - blood test and transvag echo. Continued with Puregon, added Orgalutron and Menopur
08/12/2012 - did regular meds in morn, Pregnyl trigger shot at 930pm
08/14/2012 - ER with only a shot of anesthetic to my whoha - OUCH -next time i will ask for general. They were only able to get at one ovary because the other is located too close to my intestines.
08/17/2012 - ET of 2 Grade A emryos. Dr said only two really good ones were available and if the others make it to blastocyst stage.
08/27/2012 - No call from doctor so we can assume nothing to freeze.
08/31/2012 - Beta #1 286.2 - I am pregnant! Doctor is not doing a second Beta
09/1472012 - Saw babys heart flutter
I am so sorry for your manager.nbsp; To be honest, there is nothing you can say or do.nbsp; What I wouldn't do is bring it up until she does.nbsp;Just be there for her if she needs to talk, do not talk about your pregnancy unless she does and just listen.nbsp;nbsp;IVF is a deeply personal and sensitive process to begin withnbsp;so she might not even want to discuss it.nbsp; It is so sweet of you to want to make her feel better. Being there for her and sensitive to her feelings will help her a lot I am sure.
I agree with this. Just being sensitive to her feelings is the most important thing.
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I agree with this. Just being sensitive to her feelings is the most important thing.