UO Thursday

KikiCohen · January 2013

What do you have for us today?

Liz4444 · January 2013

The phrase "I like to work hard and play hard" is stupid!

KikiCohen · January 2013

It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats. Like there's no middle ground. I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between. I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage. It just makes me want to smack somebody.

Liz4444 · January 2013

KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.

And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

PrimRoseMama · January 2013

It bothers me when people get so stuck on baby things. Who buys them what, what type they buy etc. etc. I do get it that planning is part of the fun, but when you have people in your life that want to be generous to you then just STFU and let them do it. Yes, its a pain in the ass and they don't have the same taste as you. Big effing deal. If you really hate whatever the item is then keep it as an emergency item.

My IL's buy us tons of stuff. I'm not a fan of all of it and feel like I have to have a separate storage space for it all. However, I thank them and store it until DD can use it. They see it as doing right by their granddaughter. Its stuff. Who cares. I didn't pick it, but who cares. I see it as bad karma to look such generosity in the mouth.

Example: You HATE the carseat your FIL got you or the crib sheets your great aunt got you. They are the wrong color/theme etc. Well, keep the sheets under the crib in a basket for the late night poo explosion. You can change the sheets quickly and in the middle of the night no one is going to care. Keep the ugly carseat in the garage in the box. If you have a car accident (heaven forbid, but it has happened to us already) then you have a spare until you get a new one.

All this anxiety about STUFF drives me up walls. Yes its cute, and fun. However, always keep being thankful at the top of your list, IMHO. In the end your kid doesn't give a crap. Throwing fits or getting upset about baby gear is so futile to me.

Yes, I'm aware this will be unpopular.

meltoine · January 2013

I have a lot of respect for Senator Clinton, but watching the footage of her testifying about Benghazi is making me lose some of it. There's one part they keep replaying where she says, " We have four dead Americans! What does it matter how it happened? We need to figure out what happened and make sure it never happens again!"

Um, it doesn't matter what happened, but we need to figure out what happened? Really? It just makes me laugh that she got so rattled ahead no idea what she was saying. It makes me think there's more to the story than she's letting on.

PrimRoseMama · January 2013

:::rubs hands together mischievously:::

Its looks like today's UO is going to get political...

KikiCohen · January 2013

Liz4444:
KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.
And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

I totally agree. I just had this experience last week with someone. It's unreal.

meltoine · January 2013

Oh, and Manti T'eo is a lying liar who lies. And an attention whore.

KikiCohen · January 2013

PrimRoseMama:
:::rubs hands together mischievously:::
Its looks like today's UO is going to get political...

Nah, not from me anyways. I said all I wanted to. I'm just sick of getting labeled.

ShayMB12 · January 2013

PrimRoseMama:

It bothers me when people get so stuck on baby things. Who buys them what, what type they buy etc. etc. I do get it that planning is part of the fun, but when you have people in your life that want to be generous to you then just STFU and let them do it. Yes, its a pain in the ass and they don't have the same taste as you. Big effing deal. If you really hate whatever the item is then keep it as an emergency item.

My IL's buy us tons of stuff. I'm not a fan of all of it and feel like I have to have a separate storage space for it all. However, I thank them and store it until DD can use it. They see it as doing right by their granddaughter. Its stuff. Who cares. I didn't pick it, but who cares. I see it as bad karma to look such generosity in the mouth.

Example: You HATE the carseat your FIL got you or the crib sheets your great aunt got you. They are the wrong color/theme etc. Well, keep the sheets under the crib in a basket for the late night poo explosion. You can change the sheets quickly and in the middle of the night no one is going to care. Keep the ugly carseat in the garage in the box. If you have a car accident (heaven forbid, but it has happened to us already) then you have a spare until you get a new one.

All this anxiety about STUFF drives me up walls. Yes its cute, and fun. However, always keep being thankful at the top of your list, IMHO. In the end your kid doesn't give a crap. Throwing fits or getting upset about baby gear is so futile to me.

Yes, I'm aware this will be unpopular.

I am right there with you on this. I bought a used pack n play/bassinet for $20 and sanitized it. I was so excited about my great deal(they are still on the shelves retailing at $200) that I took a pic of it all set up and sent to my MIL. Her only response was "What if it's a girl?" because it's brown, tan and blue polka dot pattern. So what if it's a girl? She'll be hanging out in a really good bargain. In my room. Where nobody will see it but me and DH.

It's just not that big of a deal for me. It wasn't even that big of a deal the first go around either. I actually did a full nursery the first time but just told everyone the theme was sports. When I got dinosaur baby blankets at the shower, it didn't phase me at all. I think a lot of these types of posts are more hormones than anything and I can promise all those mommies, it's not going to be a big deal in 6 months.

gutsymama · January 2013

KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats. Like there's no middle ground. I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between. I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage. It just makes me want to smack somebody.

I hope this isn't terribly unpopular. I think it's really dumb to blindly identify with a single party rather than considering individual candidates/issues. Not that it's wrong to identify with a party at all - but still use your brain, instead of agreeing with everything that party does/says/believes in by default.

blueturkey12 · January 2013

meltoine:
Oh, and Manti T'eo is a lying liar who lies. And an attention whore.

As die hard Notre Dame fans, it pains me to say that you are probably right. I had a lot of respect for him and his family before that whole mess of a story came out, but it just doesn't add up. He's either a liar or incredibly stupid : (

Elinetrouwt · January 2013

ShayMB12:

I am right there with you on this. I bought a used pack n play/bassinet for $20 and sanitized it. I was so excited about my great deal(they are still on the shelves retailing at $200) that I took a pic of it all set up and sent to my MIL. Her only response was "What if it's a girl?" because it's brown, tan and blue polka dot pattern. So what if it's a girl? She'll be hanging out in a really good bargain. In my room. Where nobody will see it but me and DH.

Why would brown, tan and blue not be for girls? IMHO, the only non-gender neutral color is pink. And I hate pink, so even if it's a girl, there won't be much pink stuff for her.

I do get why people get upset over not picking stuff themselves. I've felt annoyed myself about my mom overloading me with stuff for the baby. But I also feel really silly for it, and I feel this baby is making me a Stoopid Consumer.

So the hideous shirt my mom bought ("I know it has a pink ribbon on it, but it's fine for boys too") will be for family visits and daycare. If I have to buy fewer clothes, there's more money left to splurge on them and I can afford some nice things I wouldn't have bought otherwise. If that makes sense.

Reallynervous83 · January 2013

mimi4347:
KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats. Like there's no middle ground. I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between. I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage. It just makes me want to smack somebody.
I hope this isn't terribly unpopular. I think it's really dumb to blindly identify with a single party rather than considering individual candidates/issues. Not that it's wrong to identify with a party at all - but still use your brain, instead of agreeing with everything that party does/says/believes in by default.

This exactly!

khays8785 · January 2013

I DO NOT like (and refuse to do) a cartoony nursery - will be painting over the winnie the pooh decals that are currently in the nursery (thanks to the prior home owners)

DH really wants primary colors and bright, and I'm fighitng him tooth and nail for a softer look...

hollandmama · January 2013

Liz4444:
KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.
And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

This!

Liz4444 · January 2013

I don't give a sheet about beyonce, nor do I care if she lip synched.

Liz4444 · January 2013

etoille:
Liz4444:
KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.
And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

This is very true in re a lot of lefties. I'll defend someone's right to say the exact opposite of what I believe (or to paraphrase the American President speech - 'that which would make my blood boil') right to the ground.

I believe that one of the best decisions the ACLU ever secured from the SCOTUS was a case in which the opinion was authored by Scalia defending the right of hate speech (I'm over generalizing obviously those of you who are familiar but that was the bottom line). So its not ALL liberals - ACLU is pretty liberal.

I think you forget though that it isn't just liberals. I'm sick of hearing the extreme right prattle on and on and on about their rights (which a lot of them haven't even read enough to know what is or isn't a right or what the constitution has said) but then the MILLISECOND someone on the left voices an opinion that isn't theirs its "unamerican."

uhhhhh wha?

Or 'freedom of religion' but thats as long as you're christian. Otherwise you hate this country.

I should rephrase, what I mean is those who claim they are the most open minded seem to be the most closed off to others ideas... I wasn't necessarily only referring to democrats.

hollandmama · January 2013

PrimRoseMama:
It bothers me when people get so stuck on baby things. Who buys them what, what type they buy etc. etc. I do get it that planning is part of the fun, but when you have people in your life that want to be generous to you then just STFU and let them do it. Yes, its a pain in the ass and they don't have the same taste as you. Big effing deal. If you really hate whatever the item is then keep it as an emergency item.

My IL's buy us tons of stuff. I'm not a fan of all of it and feel like I have to have a separate storage space for it all. However, I thank them and store it until DD can use it. They see it as doing right by their granddaughter. Its stuff. Who cares. I didn't pick it, but who cares. I see it as bad karma to look such generosity in the mouth.
Example: You HATE the carseat your FIL got you or the crib sheets your great aunt got you. They are the wrong color/theme etc. Well, keep the sheets under the crib in a basket for the late night poo explosion. You can change the sheets quickly and in the middle of the night no one is going to care. Keep the ugly carseat in the garage in the box. If you have a car accident (heaven forbid, but it has happened to us already) then you have a spare until you get a new one.
All this anxiety about STUFF drives me up walls. Yes its cute, and fun. However, always keep being thankful at the top of your list, IMHO. In the end your kid doesn't give a crap. Throwing fits or getting upset about baby gear is so futile to me.
Yes, I'm aware this will be unpopular.

Not so unpopular! I get you, I am so excited about buying my own things but I get kind of excited too about getting gifts and things (I live so far away from family that I will probably get only some socks and a hat, but still...)

Btw, you made my day with the "late night poo explosion" and "In the end your kid doesn't give a crap"... DH always says that moms treat their babies as barbie dolls because the poor kids don't even understand about colors, themes, funny hats, little bear costumes and then you get all these pics (cute as they can be, I admit) with kids wearing all this kind of "crap"...

HOWEVER, I'm still going to make my baby look like a bear at some point ^^ and don't care if DH hates it :P

Carrie3102 · January 2013

KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.

Amen!

hollandmama · January 2013

Liz4444:
etoille:
Liz4444:
KikiCohen:
It really bothers me that most people divide everyone into Republicans and Democrats.nbsp; Like there's no middle ground.nbsp; I don't consider myself to be either one, but rather somewhere in between.nbsp; I hate being labeled a "typical Republican" when I express my views on the second amendment or a "typical Democrat" when I show my support for gay marriage.nbsp; It just makes me want to smack somebody.
And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

This is very true in re a lot of lefties. I'll defend someone's right to say the exact opposite of what I believe (or to paraphrase the American President speech - 'that which would make my blood boil') right to the ground.

I believe that one of the best decisions the ACLU ever secured from the SCOTUS was a case in which the opinion was authored by Scalia defending the right of hate speech (I'm over generalizing obviously those of you who are familiar but that was the bottom line). So its not ALL liberals - ACLU is pretty liberal.

I think you forget though that it isn't just liberals. I'm sick of hearing the extreme right prattle on and on and on about their rights (which a lot of them haven't even read enough to know what is or isn't a right or what the constitution has said) but then the MILLISECOND someone on the left voices an opinion that isn't theirs its "unamerican."

uhhhhh wha?

Or 'freedom of religion' but thats as long as you're christian. Otherwise you hate this country.
I should rephrase, what I mean is those who claim they are the most open minded seem to be the most closed off to others ideas... I wasn't necessarily only referring to democrats.

Yes, I guess Liz was meaning basically anyone who holds a view and believes that's the ultimate truth... democrat, liberal, doesn't matter... some ppl claiming open mindness cannot even try to empathize with others..

Elinetrouwt · January 2013

sandraynic:
DH always says that moms treat their babies as barbie dolls because the poor kids don't even understand about colors, themes, funny hats, little bear costumes and then you get all these pics (cute as they can be, I admit) with kids wearing all this kind of "crap"...
HOWEVER, I'm still going to make my baby look like a bear at some point ^^ and don't care if DH hates it :P

Your DH is onto something. When picking clothing for the baby, I try to make "how much would I protest if they made ME wear something like this" a rule (up to a certain point of course, kids will be kids). But bear babies are cute .

bobcee · January 2013

Elinetrouwt:
ShayMB12:

I am right there with you on this. I bought a used pack n play/bassinet for $20 and sanitized it. I was so excited about my great deal(they are still on the shelves retailing at $200) that I took a pic of it all set up and sent to my MIL. Her only response was "What if it's a girl?" because it's brown, tan and blue polka dot pattern. So what if it's a girl? She'll be hanging out in a really good bargain. In my room. Where nobody will see it but me and DH.

Why would brown, tan and blue not be for girls? IMHO, the only non-gender neutral color is pink. And I hate pink, so even if it's a girl, there won't be much pink stuff for her.

I do get why people get upset over not picking stuff themselves. I've felt annoyed myself about my mom overloading me with stuff for the baby. But I also feel really silly for it, and I feel this baby is making me a Stoopid Consumer.

So the hideous shirt my mom bought ("I know it has a pink ribbon on it, but it's fine for boys too") will be for family visits and daycare. If I have to buy fewer clothes, there's more money left to splurge on them and I can afford some nice things I wouldn't have bought otherwise. If that makes sense.

I mostly agree. The only part of this that annoys me is that my mom buys DD tons and tons of clothes. Not all of them are necessarily something I'd choose, so yeah I use them for daycare or whatever else - no big deal. It's awesome not to have to spend a fortune on clothes. But then I'll be out shopping with her and want to buy something and she'll be, "Oh, she doesn't need that, I bought her tons of such and such already." Well that's nice and all, but I like this, it's my money, my daughter and I'll buy it for her if I want to buy it for her. Or she'll ask me for some money for the things she's already purchased because she spent more than she meant to. Well if it wasn't something I would've chosen or spent money on in the first place, why, why, why would I give you money for it?

Elinetrouwt · January 2013

Oh, I hate Anne Geddes and all pictures of babies in flower pots. Poor kids. Does that count as an UO?

Erinm278 · January 2013

I'm sure this isn't unpopular but I have to say it anyway.

DON'T TOUCH ME!

Now that I'm showing everyone thinks they can touch. I'm so annoyed with it already. Also, don't baby talk to my stomach..it's weird.

sparkymcgeee · January 2013

If we're gonna get political,
I'm a fiscal conservative and a social moderate. That was going to be my FFFC tomorrow but I agree with kiki. Don't label me a straight Republican just because of who I voted for.
Also, I don't agree with Sec. Panetta's decision yesterday.

pepomntpat · January 2013

I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

Stina2012 · January 2013

PrimRoseMama:

It bothers me when people get so stuck on baby things. Who buys them what, what type they buy etc. etc. I do get it that planning is part of the fun, but when you have people in your life that want to be generous to you then just STFU and let them do it. Yes, its a pain in the ass and they don't have the same taste as you. Big effing deal. If you really hate whatever the item is then keep it as an emergency item.

My IL's buy us tons of stuff. I'm not a fan of all of it and feel like I have to have a separate storage space for it all. However, I thank them and store it until DD can use it. They see it as doing right by their granddaughter. Its stuff. Who cares. I didn't pick it, but who cares. I see it as bad karma to look such generosity in the mouth.

Example: You HATE the carseat your FIL got you or the crib sheets your great aunt got you. They are the wrong color/theme etc. Well, keep the sheets under the crib in a basket for the late night poo explosion. You can change the sheets quickly and in the middle of the night no one is going to care. Keep the ugly carseat in the garage in the box. If you have a car accident (heaven forbid, but it has happened to us already) then you have a spare until you get a new one.

All this anxiety about STUFF drives me up walls. Yes its cute, and fun. However, always keep being thankful at the top of your list, IMHO. In the end your kid doesn't give a crap. Throwing fits or getting upset about baby gear is so futile to me.

Yes, I'm aware this will be unpopular.

I agree that the focus on STUFF is crazy. BUT, my UO is that sometimes grandparents need to butt the hell out of things! The poster from the other thread sounded like she had issues with grandma's boundaries and that the stuff was just one example of that. I think the other posters complaint is similar to getting unwanted advice or a grandma putting honey on a pacifier.

I am actually surprised my own mother has controlled herself so far! She will go nuts when we find out what we're having, but I am very, very lucky in the fact that she seems to understand this is my first baby...not her third.

hollandmama · January 2013

pepomntpat:
I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

I would throw one myself! I had to throw my own bachelorette party because most of my friends are guys so they wouldn't get the fact that they should have done it... not because of that I renounced to it :P I guess I'll be throwing my own shower too, same reason!

khays8785 · January 2013

Erinm278:

I'm sure this isn't unpopular but I have to say it anyway.

DON'T TOUCH ME!

Now that I'm showing everyone thinks they can touch. I'm so annoyed with it already. Also, don't baby talk to my stomach..it's weird.

DH tried this the other night, and even HIM doing it was kind of weird... cute, but weird at first... I just told him they can't hear until 20w anyways. lol

Stina2012 · January 2013

sandraynic:

pepomntpat:
I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

I would throw one myself! I had to throw my own bachelorette party because most of my friends are guys so they wouldn't get the fact that they should have done it... not because of that I renounced to it :P I guess I'll be throwing my own shower too, same reason!

My eyes just bugged out of my head. NO ONE THROW YOUR OWN SHOWER PLEASE! This might win for UO.

Liz4444 · January 2013

sandraynic:

pepomntpat:
I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

I would throw one myself! I had to throw my own bachelorette party because most of my friends are guys so they wouldn't get the fact that they should have done it... not because of that I renounced to it :P I guess I'll be throwing my own shower too, same reason!

Showers are gift giving events, and they are actually a gift in themselves that someone else gives to you. You DO NOT throw your own shower. If no one offers, you don't get one. A shower is a gift, not a rite of passage.

YellowLily2013 · January 2013

Stina2012:
PrimRoseMama:

It bothers me when people get so stuck on baby things. Who buys them what, what type they buy etc. etc. I do get it that planning is part of the fun, but when you have people in your life that want to be generous to you then just STFU and let them do it. Yes, its a pain in the ass and they don't have the same taste as you. Big effing deal. If you really hate whatever the item is then keep it as an emergency item.

My IL's buy us tons of stuff. I'm not a fan of all of it and feel like I have to have a separate storage space for it all. However, I thank them and store it until DD can use it. They see it as doing right by their granddaughter. Its stuff. Who cares. I didn't pick it, but who cares. I see it as bad karma to look such generosity in the mouth.

Example: You HATE the carseat your FIL got you or the crib sheets your great aunt got you. They are the wrong color/theme etc. Well, keep the sheets under the crib in a basket for the late night poo explosion. You can change the sheets quickly and in the middle of the night no one is going to care. Keep the ugly carseat in the garage in the box. If you have a car accident (heaven forbid, but it has happened to us already) then you have a spare until you get a new one.

All this anxiety about STUFF drives me up walls. Yes its cute, and fun. However, always keep being thankful at the top of your list, IMHO. In the end your kid doesn't give a crap. Throwing fits or getting upset about baby gear is so futile to me.

Yes, I'm aware this will be unpopular.

I agree that the focus on STUFF is crazy. BUT, my UO is that sometimes grandparents need to butt the hell out of things! The poster from the other thread sounded like she had issues with grandma's boundaries and that the stuff was just one example of that. I think the other posters complaint is similar to getting unwanted advice or a grandma putting honey on a pacifier.

I am actually surprised my own mother has controlled herself so far! She will go nuts when we find out what we're having, but I am very, very lucky in the fact that she seems to understand this is my first baby...not her third.

I agree with the pp not prim.

The biggest thing people forget is that I would rather pay for what I want out of my pocket than have crap I have to store or donate. That's just me. My dad is notorious for asking want I want and buying the opposite. Why why why would you do that?!

He wants to help with nursery furniture but I tried to be clear with him that I have picked out the furniture I want. If it's on direct buy great, if not we'll have to figure something else out. Luckily it is on there. But if it wasnt I would have told him id preffer he buy what I wanted or give cash toward the purchase if the price was higher than he wanted to spend. There's way too much back story with him to go into here. But you HAVE to be direct with some people.

If grandma wants to make me an quilt of her choosing of colors or buy clothes I wouldn't pick out. I'd let them do whatever they wanted and thank them. That's stuff I can roll with. And people I don't feel like I need to be direct with. If that makes sense.

ShayMB12 · January 2013

Erinm278:

I'm sure this isn't unpopular but I have to say it anyway.

DON'T TOUCH ME!

Now that I'm showing everyone thinks they can touch. I'm so annoyed with it already. Also, don't baby talk to my stomach..it's weird.

This reminds me of a maternity shirt I saw somewhere that said "If you didn't make it, don't touch it" right on the belly part!! I know I'm going to need one of those before too long.

Carrie3102 · January 2013

meimsx:
If we're gonna get political,
I'm a fiscal conservative and a social moderate. That was going to be my FFFC tomorrow but I agree with kiki. Don't label me a straight Republican just because of who I voted for.
Also, I don't agree with Sec. Panetta's decision yesterday.

Me too and I don't either.

pepomntpat · January 2013

Stina2012:
sandraynic:

pepomntpat:
I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

I would throw one myself! I had to throw my own bachelorette party because most of my friends are guys so they wouldn't get the fact that they should have done it... not because of that I renounced to it :P I guess I'll be throwing my own shower too, same reason!

My eyes just bugged out of my head. NO ONE THROW YOUR OWN SHOWER PLEASE! This might win for UO.

Oh geeze! Yes, I will ask all of my friends to come to my house and bring me presents. I think I'll make it potluck too!

I would really love a shower. I am not so tacky to throw my own, FFS.

dreadiemama · January 2013

I *hate* it when people compare my pregnancy to theirs. "Oh? You still have nausea? Mine went away by right at the end of the second trimester." Or "You really shouldn't be that tired, I was never tired."

You want a freaking cookie or something? Yes, I'm sick, tired, and am getting RLP already. Next time I'll have you carry my kid for me since you're such a pro at it.

Kitten80 · January 2013

Mobile bumping so I can't scroll down or highlight, but I would NOT be happy if someone bought baby stuff w/o my asking and then expected (and dared ask) for $ because they spent too much. It is called returns. Geez. I commend your ability to be patient.

bobcee:
Elinetrouwt:
ShayMB12:

I am right there with you on this. I bought a used pack n play/bassinet for $20 and sanitized it. I was so excited about my great deal(they are still on the shelves retailing at $200) that I took a pic of it all set up and sent to my MIL. Her only response was "What if it's a girl?" because it's brown, tan and blue polka dot pattern. So what if it's a girl? She'll be hanging out in a really good bargain. In my room. Where nobody will see it but me and DH.
Why would brown, tan and blue not be for girls? IMHO, the only non-gender neutral color is pink. And I hate pink, so even if it's a girl, there won't be much pink stuff for her.
I do get why people get upset over not picking stuff themselves. I've felt annoyed myself about my mom overloading me with stuff for the baby. But I also feel really silly for it, and I feel this baby is making me a Stoopid Consumer.
So the hideous shirt my mom bought ("I know it has a pink ribbon on it, but it's fine for boys too") will be for family visits and daycare. If I have to buy fewer clothes, there's more money left to splurge on them and I can afford some nice things I wouldn't have bought otherwise. If that makes sense.
I mostly agree. The only part of this that annoys me is that my mom buys DD tons and tons of clothes. Not all of them are necessarily something I'd choose, so yeah I use them for daycare or whatever else - no big deal. It's awesome not to have to spend a fortune on clothes. But then I'll be out shopping with her and want to buy something and she'll be, "Oh, she doesn't need that, I bought her tons of such and such already." Well that's nice and all, but I like this, it's my money, my daughter and I'll buy it for her if I want to buy it for her. Or she'll ask me for some money for the things she's already purchased because she spent more than she meant to. Well if it wasn't something I would've chosen or spent money on in the first place, why, why, why would I give you money for it?

Liz4444 · January 2013

etoille:
maryannespier:

Liz4444:
And it kills me that the people that claim they are the most liberal are the ones that seem to be the least tolerant of people who have different thoughts then themselves.

I do want to say that sometimes people accuse me of being intolerant when I'm pointing out that their opinions are racist, misogynist, classist, or homophobic. I've come a long way since college in tolerating opinions that are different (i.e. farther to the right) than mine, but I don't think I need to tolerate opinions that are any of the things I listed above.

ETA: I do want to clarify that even though I respect people's right to be racist or classist or homophobic I do not think that they have the right to try and impose their opinion upon another where it infringes upon that other persons rights. Its a really weird nuancey position I guess :x

Yeah I mean I don't see anything wrong with pointing that out to people - at all. If you have a racist opinion you want to share, own up to the moniker it earns you in my opinion.

I think Liz was probably more getting to the fact that a lot of folks don't think that there's a RIGHT to hold such opinions - which the left does tend to project. Like racism has no place or homophobia should be non existent. I think people are entitled to their opinions and I'm entitled to judge them based on their opinions. Works both ways.

For me at least.

This is correct. Also, when someone is attempting to explaing WHY they feel a certain way, those people (and yes, when I have seen it, it's generally people who are very much to the left) just role their eyes and call the person an idiot without actually LISTENING to them.

And, no, I don't agree with racists, mysoginists, classists, or homophobes, but if I am speaking to someone who feels that way, I would like to try and understand why they feel that way.

luvmyducks · January 2013

pepomntpat:
Stina2012:
sandraynic:

pepomntpat:
I think baby showers for second babies are fun. I am pretty sure no one will throw me one and it makes me a little sad since my sister got three showers. Yes, I probably sound bratty.

I would throw one myself! I had to throw my own bachelorette party because most of my friends are guys so they wouldn't get the fact that they should have done it... not because of that I renounced to it :P I guess I'll be throwing my own shower too, same reason!

My eyes just bugged out of my head. NO ONE THROW YOUR OWN SHOWER PLEASE! This might win for UO.
Oh geeze! Yes, I will ask all of my friends to come to my house and bring me presents. I think I'll make it potluck too!
I would really love a shower. I am not so tacky to throw my own, FFS.

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