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August 2013 Moms
gscoville
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Update to scary night: Not good news
gscoville
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Well it's been a whirlwind day and a half and not for the good. As per yesterday morning's post, I was hoping for some answers through ultrasound at the hospital after a trip to the ER the night before for painful cramping and spotting. I live in a very small town with one small hospital, with one u/s machine and not always a u/s tech in town to operate it. Yesterday was one of those days.
The ER doctor did his best both externally and vaginally with the machine but couldn't see the baby. I was waiting for bloodwork to come back when I started to have massive pain on my right side, they tried three different doses of morphine before they could knock it back effectively. They called the hospital in the city an hour away to have their u/s tech on standby and had me in an ambulance with the siren on to get me there, fearing an ectopic rupture was imminent. U/s in the city confirmed a tubal pregnancy, at 4 cm so no longer a candidate for medicated termination. So surgery it was, and I've now had my right Fallopian tube removed.
I'm devastated of course, but can comfort myself somewhat with knowing things could have been a lot worse. I didn't rupture, which of course could have been dangerous if not fatal. Surgery went well, they were able to do it by laparoscopy at my naval and two small keyhole entry points rather than a full abdominal incision. And my husband has been absolutely wonderful, I couldn't ask for better! A mixed blessing has been my room postsurgery...I'm in the maternity ward, which is a bit of a kick in the guts with the baby bassinet still in the corner behind a curtain, but it's a huge private room with a bed for hubby, so we're comfortable at least and I really can't complain.
Now of course begins the moving forward, however that will happen. At this point I honestly can't say if we'll be trying again, but I know in the immediate aftermath of this all the fear and heartbreak are foremost, and that after some time and healing we'll see what lies in store for us. I was prepared for a miscarriage, felt like I could accept it knowing it was likely the result of an unhealthy fetus/pregnancy that was never meant to be in the first place. I so wasn't prepared for an ectopic, even though I know the surgery had to be done it's so devastating to know we had to terminate a healthy, growing, 8week little soul who just happened to be in the wrong place.
At any rate, while I don't quite know what to do with all of this at the moment, I know I'll find as much support and caring as I can take in here on TB, not just when I need to cry, commiserate, or share my sadness, but also when I need a laugh, a diversion, or some snark to add sparkle to my day. Thank you for being all of this to me, and I look forward to doing my share of lurking and seeing all those happy healthy babies come summer!!
The ER doctor did his best both externally and vaginally with the machine but couldn't see the baby. I was waiting for bloodwork to come back when I started to have massive pain on my right side, they tried three different doses of morphine before they could knock it back effectively. They called the hospital in the city an hour away to have their u/s tech on standby and had me in an ambulance with the siren on to get me there, fearing an ectopic rupture was imminent. U/s in the city confirmed a tubal pregnancy, at 4 cm so no longer a candidate for medicated termination. So surgery it was, and I've now had my right Fallopian tube removed.
I'm devastated of course, but can comfort myself somewhat with knowing things could have been a lot worse. I didn't rupture, which of course could have been dangerous if not fatal. Surgery went well, they were able to do it by laparoscopy at my naval and two small keyhole entry points rather than a full abdominal incision. And my husband has been absolutely wonderful, I couldn't ask for better! A mixed blessing has been my room postsurgery...I'm in the maternity ward, which is a bit of a kick in the guts with the baby bassinet still in the corner behind a curtain, but it's a huge private room with a bed for hubby, so we're comfortable at least and I really can't complain.
Now of course begins the moving forward, however that will happen. At this point I honestly can't say if we'll be trying again, but I know in the immediate aftermath of this all the fear and heartbreak are foremost, and that after some time and healing we'll see what lies in store for us. I was prepared for a miscarriage, felt like I could accept it knowing it was likely the result of an unhealthy fetus/pregnancy that was never meant to be in the first place. I so wasn't prepared for an ectopic, even though I know the surgery had to be done it's so devastating to know we had to terminate a healthy, growing, 8week little soul who just happened to be in the wrong place.
At any rate, while I don't quite know what to do with all of this at the moment, I know I'll find as much support and caring as I can take in here on TB, not just when I need to cry, commiserate, or share my sadness, but also when I need a laugh, a diversion, or some snark to add sparkle to my day. Thank you for being all of this to me, and I look forward to doing my share of lurking and seeing all those happy healthy babies come summer!!
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12:
Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
All ALers welcome!
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Re: Update to scary night: Not good news
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to be over, it's about learning how to dance in the rain." -Unknown
Married 3-1-08 | Nathan 11-24-08 | Kaelyn 11-30-10 | Alicia 8-17-13
[spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow
BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
BFP #1 4/10/12 D&C 6/5/12@ 12.5wks EDD 12/17/12
BFP #2 9/10/12 CP 9/19/12@ 5.5wks EDD 5/21/13
BFP# 3 12/3/12...Lukas James born 8/15/13
BFP# 4 8/4/14 EDD 4/13/15
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
HUGS
When you're ready the miscarriage board was an awesome resource for me as well as TTCAL.
I am so sorry for your loss!
i had an ectopic rupture that cost me my right tube and almost cost me my life... By the time I figured that my pain was 'hospital-worth' I had been bleeding internally (slowly) for 3 days.I know how scary and devastating it can all be! Above all make sure to give yourself enough time to heal both physically and emotionally...be gentle with yourself.
It is a blessing that yours was caught in time, and if it offers any consolation, it only took my husband and I 4 months to conceive with the one tube.
BFP #2 07/12/2012 (EDD 03/23/13); m/c 07/28/12
BFP #3 12/05/2012 (EDD 08/19/2013); baby girl born 08/09!
I am sorry for your loss.
when my bff was having a hysterectomy, she was also in a maternity room. She thought it was odd also, but apparently that is what they do.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you!
You will find great support on TB in general, and TTCAL and the miscarriage board are amazing places for women who so sadly need them. Take good care of yourself. Huge hugs
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013
I'm so very sorry for your loss and everything you've gone though these past few days. Lots of hugs your way. I've been rooting for you since you first introduced yourself on TTGP, and will continue to do so. You are an awesome lady. You're always welcome to PM me.
My cat can read EKGs, can your human do that?
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I didn't see your other post, but my heart dropped into my stomach when I saw the title of this post, gscoville. I am so, so sorry that this has happened to you. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your husband.
(((hugs)))
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Patiently waiting for little brother!
It just doesn't seem fair.
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Take care of yourself. T&Ps your way.
DS born 4/06/14
MC #2 August 2015
CP November 2015
MC#3 January 2016
BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17