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July 2012 Moms
mandiek72512
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Pros and Cons..
mandiek72512
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Im writing out a list that is the pros and cons of going back to work. But after the details of pay, daycare and things of that nature, Im stuck. Can I get some help? Im hoping that hear from both SAHMs and WMs. Hopefully this wont start a war, Im just looking for a little guidance...
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Re: Pros and Cons..
On what?
Also this will hurt some people.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
I hope it doesnt. Really! Im on the fence of going back to work full time but I keep going back and forth. I really hope this doesnt hurt feelings..
I think you need to ask yourself a few questions like...
Can I afford to stay home? How long can I afford to stay home?
If I go back to work, what percentage of my pay will go to childcare?
Do I miss working?
Is working part-time an option?
jackson thomas. 8.9.12
I don't see anything wrong with your asking for thoughts about the advantages/disadvantages of working. I'm sure it's probably a touchy subject for some people though.
However, this is SOO dependent on who you are as a person, and I'm not sure how much the rest of us can help with that.
Im sorry you feel this way.
This exactly.
Ok
Im sorry.
Ok. We get the point. Thank you.
A little extreme....
jackson thomas. 8.9.12
I think some people are being a little harsh.
This board is here so that people can share experiences and ask advice. Yes, OP needs to decide for herself and it is a very personal decision ... but sometimes it helps just to have a discussion going. It's a way for OP to help work things out for herself.
While I see what your asking, I dont think any one person is going to be able to help you with pros and cons of this. This is something that is tailored to your own specific situation. You've already seem to have all the basics down, it's more a issue of your own financial situation at this point.
Andplusalso A lot of people just don't have the luxury of being able to choose between staying at home or working so when a question like this is posted it can cut a little deep to some people.
Some people get so bent about the smallest things on this board. It's the Internet!
Well then where is your advice mud? Or did you just really want to use this as your first post?
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
Is there something you are having a hard time adjusting too as a SAHM? Or are you just doing this out of spite for your husband? Because if you are doing it just so he can help you more I doubt that it will play out that way. Do what makes you happiest. Only YOU can answer this question.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
lol
And sometimes it feels good to call out idiots and the holier than thou.
Says the person with 2 posts. Cool, then where's your list.
jackson thomas. 8.9.12
This is what I do as well. I think my time at work is good for me and Owen does great at daycare. I personally would not want to work more though.
I think people are freaking out over nothing. She asked a simple question. Life is different for all of us and although I can't afford a luxury car I don't get all " this cuts a little deep" when someone posts asking if they should buy a BMW or Cadillac.
died.
This! I see what you're trying to do here, and I do think some people's pros/cons could help you but at the same time, most of them probably won't apply to your life, ya know? Maybe you could post on the stay at home mom's board, and the working mom's board (hopefully this topic won't be so touchy there?) and maybe just ask something neutral like, "if you had the choice to work or sah, what are some things you considered in making your decision?" Good luck with your decision!
yes def ask your husband first no need to start a war there. we've heard the stories.
Ehtoilet obviously
Honestly, some of you just need to hear an honest opinion and not smoke up your asss. And mean girls? Honestly? No one should be afraid to post here because you are good at being a biitch.
You're welcome for the excitement for the past 5 minutes.
I agree 100% with you on this.
I agree with pp's about this not being a huge deal. Yeah it sucks that we don't all have the luxury of making this decision and it IS personal, we can't make it for her, but I think she was just looking for advice from people who've had to make the same decision.
Anyways Mandie, I really think you have to weigh your own pros and cons- write it out in a list format. If you can do parttime, that is probably the best option, and then if working doesn't work out for you, it won't be as big a deal to quit (whereas if you work FT/career you can't quit as easily).
Amen sista
This. DAMN.
I'm not enjoying you.
I agree with the not a big deal thing. We can't get our panties in a wad all the time. A lot of women on this board talk about enjoying work, but then get upset that someone is deciding whether or not to stay home. Sometimes people can afford it and don't want to do it and sometimes people can't afford it and wish they could. We are all in different position. I think she was just trying to get the pros and cons and wasn't trying to hurt anyones feelings or be malicious.
Cons- I am poor and it is super hard work.
Pro- I get to spend time with my baby and play on the bump.