Adoption

Official intro and NJ agencies

Hi, I've posted here occasionally before but am now ready to make an official intro. After over 4 years of IF treatments and 6 losses, we have decided to build our family through DIA. We started looking into it in the fall and attended a bunch of info sessions. We then did our last FET, which just ended in another loss. That was sort of our "closure cycle" so we are now fully ready to end the insanity of treatments. I do still feel sad that I won't get to experience pregnancy, and I'm not really looking forward to another year or two of another potentially long and heartbreaking process. But, we want to be parents and know with adoption we eventually will be!

We spent today making a comparison spreadsheet of the agencies we met with in NJ: A Loving Choice, Adoptions from the Heart, Family Options and Open Arms. We think we have narrowed it down to Family Options and Open Arms, but are curious if anyone has any experience with any of these agencies. If so can you PM me? 

Thanks and I look forward to getting to know everyone!

 

Dx: High FSH, stage IV endo, homozygous C677T MTHFR and PAI-1
Early loss 10/08
Lap 1/09
IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
2 frosties but don't know what's next
FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!

Re: Official intro and NJ agencies

  • i just wanted to say hi i am from nj ( morris county) we worked with an agency in Utah and another agency did our homestudy.  if you want i  can give you my email address and i can give you more info about what we went through. i only come on this board about once a week.
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    i just wanted to say hi i am from nj morris county we worked with an agency in Utah and another agency did our homestudy.nbsp; if you want inbsp; can give you my email address and i can give you more info about what we went through. i only come on this board about once a week.


    Sure, that would be great! Thank you.
    Dx: High FSH, stage IV endo, homozygous C677T MTHFR and PAI-1
    Early loss 10/08
    Lap 1/09
    IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
    Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
    Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
    IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
    IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
    IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
    One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
    DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
    DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
    10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
    DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
    2 frosties but don't know what's next
    FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
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    Hello-

    We're in NJ and I'm going to try to PM you.

    Thank you, got your PM! That was very helpful - I will let you know if I have any other questions. 

    Dx: High FSH, stage IV endo, homozygous C677T MTHFR and PAI-1
    Early loss 10/08
    Lap 1/09
    IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
    Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
    Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
    IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
    IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
    IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
    One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
    DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
    DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
    10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
    DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
    2 frosties but don't know what's next
    FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
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  • Welcome to the board!  I'm so sorry for your losses.  I hope you find a great agency that is a good fit for you : )


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  • Sending you a PM. I'm a regular lurker on this board, and we are using Open Arms.  
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  • Welcome To the adoption board,May :) There are a few of us here from IFV. I am not in NJ but I wanted to say that I hope your adoption journey goes quick and smoothly! (((hugs)))

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  • We're from NJ (Monmouth County) and we're going with Family Options. We actually have our home study today! PM if you'd like to talk

     

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    Lilypie - (hlC0)
  • Welcome, may you be blessed more than you ever dreamed in this journey!
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  • I am merely curious -- why don't you and your Hs look into adopting a child via the state foster care system?
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    I am merely curious -- why don't you and your Hs look into adopting a child via the state foster care system?

    As I am sure you know, fostering is not for everyone. I don't think my heart could handle having several children in my home before finding my "forever child." Also, we would really like to parent from birth.

    Thank you for everyone's PMs! I will let you know if I have further questions! 

     

    Dx: High FSH, stage IV endo, homozygous C677T MTHFR and PAI-1
    Early loss 10/08
    Lap 1/09
    IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
    Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
    Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
    IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
    IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
    IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
    One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
    DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
    DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
    10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
    DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
    2 frosties but don't know what's next
    FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
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