I judge people whose main source of parenting ideas come from the "experts" out there. On most stuff, it's obvious what to do if you just use common sense.
I can't tell you the last time I vacuumed. And I let my kid play on the floor. I think cat hair builds immunity
It is true- I read it in an article a while ago. Pets help kids strengthen their immune systems. I keep reminding DH of it every time the dog does something to piss him off. Which is daily.
this is good because despite my best efforts, our dog likes to french kiss my daughter and when she does, DD opens her mouth for it like a baby bird.
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I can't tell you the last time I vacuumed. And I let my kid play on the floor. I think cat hair builds immunity
It is true- I read it in an article a while ago. Pets help kids strengthen their immune systems. I keep reminding DH of it every time the dog does something to piss him off. Which is daily.
My cat has so much dander that it's ridiculous. She lays in S' crib constantly and I've stopped trying to keep her out. I laid him in there with her today, on top of all her dander, and he loved it. He pulled the crap out of her fur and she just sat there like, "Whatevs."
Wow. This thread is quickly turning into one of those threads that other boards direct each other to, like "Look at the drama on the August 12 board!!!" Yikes!
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Do you also believe that women who are raped are asking for it, Your ignorance on the dynamics of an abuser-abusee relationship are extremely complex. If you don't know much about it I suggest saying nothing. And empathy is a sign of strength, not weakness.
TTC since 3-08
IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP
DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12
I judge people whose main source of parenting ideas come from the "experts" out there. On most stuff, it's obvious what to do if you just use common sense.
I fall prey to this because of my background in early childhood education but most of what I learned was reiterating what I already believed.
My SIL reads so many books about child rearing that I don't think she's made one parenting decision without a book. She actually had this disciplinary model she referred to as the "Bark Clap" when her kids were two. That's right, she would bark and clap at her children to modify behavior. Um....
I'm talking about women who have gotten out and gone back multiple times, let their kids be beaten, etc. not the "he has me chained to a toilet" kind of stories. I get that abusers control, but I have no respect for a woman that watches her five year old get thrown across a room and makes the guy dinner the same day.
I won't get too personal, but no. I don't feel the same way about rape, for personal reasons.
I don't pity girls or women in abusive relationships. You have two feet, so GTFO. There are more than enough resources for women in that situation. You're "stuck" there because you keep yourself there. My ex hit me once and you know what I did? Got the eff out. In fact, since we're being flameful, I think SOME (not all) women in these said relationships keep themselves in that situation because it draws attention and pity to them, especially when they make it a point of making their entire relationship problems public. When you post a picture of your black eye, courtesy of your "soul mate" on FB, you're just vying for attention.
That said, I'm sick of the drama. I like you, Shelbeh, and you're a sweet girl, but come on. One day this guy is BD and a sack of sh!t and the next day he's the love of your life. You have to know that that isn't healthy or how it should be at all. And if you don't, then don't blame anyone but yourself when you're still complaining five years from now about how crappy this douchebag treats you.
I think it's funny that everyone is trying to flame me for saying what you all just told Shelbehh, an "abused woman." "Just get out, kick him out, tell him to straighten up." Exactly what I said, I don't understand why these women just don't leave.
I don't pity girls or women in abusive relationships. You have two feet, so GTFO. There are more than enough resources for women in that situation. You're "stuck" there because you keep yourself there. My ex hit me once and you know what I did? Got the eff out. In fact, since we're being flameful, I think SOME (not all) women in these said relationships keep themselves in that situation because it draws attention and pity to them, especially when they make it a point of making their entire relationship problems public. When you post a picture of your black eye, courtesy of your "soul mate" on FB, you're just vying for attention.
That said, I'm sick of the drama. I like you, Shelbeh, and you're a sweet girl, but come on. One day this guy is BD and a sack of sh!t and the next day he's the love of your life. You have to know that that isn't healthy or how it should be at all. And if you don't, then don't blame anyone but yourself when you're still complaining five years from now about how crappy this douchebag treats you.
THANK YOU!!!! Couldn't agree more! Shelbeh you have a baby time to grow the f up and take responsibility for your actions.
Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
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Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
I don't think it's harsh. In this situation, she's being an idiot. When she's 25 and looks back, she will also call herself an idiot.
Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
I don't think it's harsh. In this situation, she's being an idiot. When she's 25 and looks back, she will also call herself an idiot.
I see both sides. Most of her posts cause me to face plant into whatever surface is in front of me...typically granite. It hurts.
But, I also keep age in mind. It's huge. My youngest sister also causes me to face plant so there is a bit of, well, slack there. Honestly though, poppy, I get it.
Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
I don't think it's harsh. In this situation, she's being an idiot. When she's 25 and looks back, she will also call herself an idiot.
Sure she will. Everyone looks back and says something of those sorts about themselves. I just felt it was unecessary.
ETA: Shes 17 and vulnerable so thats what makes me think its harsh. BUT she did post on flameful and she is very open and wishy washy on the BD drama. I dont want to be snarky and say she asks for it..but she kinda does.
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Alright, I have had just about enough of this nonsense. The next person who says they have a bumpie sh!t list better freaking share it! Or PM it to me lol.
My confession has already been shared in reverse. I am hesitant to have another child because I'm afraid it will be a girl. I've always pictured myself with boys and now that I have Cam, I feel even more strongly about it.
Also, hooslisa's post made me think of this line I heard once about farts: "everyone likes the smell of their own brand". So have a fun car ride!
I don't know how to pm from my phone...but i'd share if I knew how!
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Shelbeh, I agree with what PPs have said. Your parents are not the problem. Your poor choices and piece of shiit boyfriend/baby daddy/ whatever are. And your parents are idiots for letting him live there. And you're an idiot for wanting him there, wanting to be with him, and wanting your daughter around him. You said yourself he doesn't help take care of her, so get rid of him.
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
I don't think it's harsh. In this situation, she's being an idiot. When she's 25 and looks back, she will also call herself an idiot.
Sure she will. Everyone looks back and says something of those sorts about themselves. I just felt it was unecessary.
ETA: Shes 17 and vulnerable so thats what makes me think its harsh. BUT she did post on flameful and she is very open and wishy washy on the BD drama. I dont want to be snarky and say she asks for it..but she kinda does.
At 17, I was on my own. Working three jobs, going to school and busting butt making a living for myself because I had a shithead mother. I understand both sides of the story and whole "mature" thing... I do... but then again I am starting to turn cheek because I was once 17 and alot more mature than most adults.
I hope my youngest sister has some negative effects from tanning. I hope she doesn't get cancer, just some premature wrinkles. I have a list of people I especially like, C mo Kikimo BayleighPaws Hooslisa Scout BeMySelfandI Anbeck4 Crossingfingers DemoDoll Lady TyTah I don't really hate anyone, there are just a few people I can't stand.
sa-weet! i'd spent the last hour trying to get DD asleep, logged back on and saw my name on a list. my heart skipped a beat thinking the sh!t lists had started. phew.
it's a very diverse list you have there. it tells me you're a complex, multi-faceted lady.
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I hope my youngest sister has some negative effects from tanning. I hope she doesn't get cancer, just some premature wrinkles.
I have a list of people I especially like,
C mo
Kikimo
BayleighPaws
Hooslisa
Scout
BeMySelfandI
Anbeck4
Crossingfingers
DemoDoll
Lady TyTah
I don't really hate anyone, there are just a few people I can't stand.
where is demodoll anyway?
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I hope my youngest sister has some negative effects from tanning. I hope she doesn't get cancer, just some premature wrinkles.
I have a list of people I especially like,
C mo
Kikimo
BayleighPaws
Hooslisa
Scout
BeMySelfandI
Anbeck4
Crossingfingers
DemoDoll
Lady TyTah
I don't really hate anyone, there are just a few people I can't stand.
where is demodoll anyway?
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I've bought crafts on Etsy and pawned them off as my own. I used to be able to do all kinds of wonderful things but with LO and working full time I barely have the ability to do 1/4 of what I used to.
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Re: FLAMEFUL.
this is good because despite my best efforts, our dog likes to french kiss my daughter and when she does, DD opens her mouth for it like a baby bird.
Merp. It was just a complaint.
I didn't go into detail.. my parents are more of the issue than BD is..
My cat has so much dander that it's ridiculous. She lays in S' crib constantly and I've stopped trying to keep her out. I laid him in there with her today, on top of all her dander, and he loved it. He pulled the crap out of her fur and she just sat there like, "Whatevs."
SCANDAL!
AB4,
Do you also believe that women who are raped are asking for it, Your ignorance on the dynamics of an abuser-abusee relationship are extremely complex. If you don't know much about it I suggest saying nothing. And empathy is a sign of strength, not weakness.
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
I fall prey to this because of my background in early childhood education but most of what I learned was reiterating what I already believed.
My SIL reads so many books about child rearing that I don't think she's made one parenting decision without a book. She actually had this disciplinary model she referred to as the "Bark Clap" when her kids were two. That's right, she would bark and clap at her children to modify behavior. Um....
I won't get too personal, but no. I don't feel the same way about rape, for personal reasons.
SCANDAL!
^^THIS!
Anyways, S is up. Have fun ladies!
SCANDAL!
THANK YOU!!!! Couldn't agree more! Shelbeh you have a baby time to grow the f up and take responsibility for your actions.
Now that would definitely be flameworthy!
You're just the best!
This is amazing.
DS #1 Born: 10/03/06, DS #2 Born: 08/06/12 My Cooking Blog
Ooh do it!! Am I one of them??
Calling her an idiot is a little harsh dont you think? I completely agree with what youre saying and Ive posted and made my opinions on her situation, but to flat out call her an idiot is unecessary IMO.
Lol you are awesome!
I don't think it's harsh. In this situation, she's being an idiot. When she's 25 and looks back, she will also call herself an idiot.
I see both sides. Most of her posts cause me to face plant into whatever surface is in front of me...typically granite. It hurts.
But, I also keep age in mind. It's huge. My youngest sister also causes me to face plant so there is a bit of, well, slack there. Honestly though, poppy, I get it.
DS #1 Born: 10/03/06, DS #2 Born: 08/06/12 My Cooking Blog
Sure she will. Everyone looks back and says something of those sorts about themselves. I just felt it was unecessary.
ETA: Shes 17 and vulnerable so thats what makes me think its harsh. BUT she did post on flameful and she is very open and wishy washy on the BD drama. I dont want to be snarky and say she asks for it..but she kinda does.
At 17, I was on my own. Working three jobs, going to school and busting butt making a living for myself because I had a shithead mother. I understand both sides of the story and whole "mature" thing... I do... but then again I am starting to turn cheek because I was once 17 and alot more mature than most adults.
I have a list of people I especially like,
C mo
Kikimo
BayleighPaws
Hooslisa
Scout
BeMySelfandI
Anbeck4
Crossingfingers
DemoDoll
Lady TyTah
AGGIEDANER
I don't really hate anyone, there are just a few people I can't stand.
Whoop whoop. At least one bish likes me around here.
SCANDAL!
Great list!
DS #1 Born: 10/03/06, DS #2 Born: 08/06/12 My Cooking Blog
sa-weet! i'd spent the last hour trying to get DD asleep, logged back on and saw my name on a list. my heart skipped a beat thinking the sh!t lists had started. phew.
it's a very diverse list you have there. it tells me you're a complex, multi-faceted lady.
where is demodoll anyway?
where is demodoll anyway?
I feel the same way!