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Monday B!tchfest

Seriously?!

Are we all so happy that we don't have anything to b!tch about today?

That CANNOT be possible. Let's hear 'em!

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  • Today is my first day back from a 5 day weekend... So I'm playing catch-up.  But I hate it when people do not let me do my job!  They ask so many questions - over something that they aren't even a part of.  I just want to say "That's my job, leave me alone, I can handle it."  Too bad it's the VP..  haha.

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    Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
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    Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
    Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI  = BFN
    IUI cancelled due to weather
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  • My brother is seriously a douche. I have bought awesome presents for his girls every year. He hasn't bought DS anything the last two years. I understand that he has been low on cash due to job losses.

    The thing that makes him a douche is that he got mad at me when he found out I wasn't spending as much on his girls this year because we are trying to save for another baby.

    He actually said "well, I guess I will take back the gift I got Jackson, since it was more expensive than their gifts."

    I spent way more on his girls the last two years because I knew he was having a hard a time. Yet, now that he his doing well again he wants to be an ass?

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    My brother is seriously a douche. I have bought awesome presents for his girls every year. He hasn't bought DS anything the last two years. I understand that he has been low on cash due to job losses.

    The thing that makes him a douche is that he got mad at me when he found out I wasn't spending as much on his girls this year because we are trying to save for another baby.

    He actually said "well, I guess I will take back the gift I got Jackson, since it was more expensive than their gifts."

    I spent way more on his girls the last two years because I knew he was having a hard a time. Yet, now that he his doing well again he wants to be an ass?

    Wow, that's rough. I'd be pissed too!
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  • I cannot stand fake people. If you have something you want to say to someone just F'ing say it. I do not sugar coat things. Sometimes that gets me in trouble but at least I am real. I truely believe that if you don't like me for me I am better off with you not liking me.

    On the same lines, I wish management could see through brown nosing. There is one lady on my team at work that has her head so far up every managers rear that is a wonder she can see to walk.

    Sorry, I am super b!tchy today. I got no sleep because DD started throwing up in the middle of the night and I was already on the couch due to SO's snoring. Grrrrrrr!

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  • imagegardennymph:
    My brother is seriously a douche. I have bought awesome presents for his girls every year. He hasn't bought DS anything the last two years. I understand that he has been low on cash due to job losses. The thing that makes him a douche is that he got mad at me when he found out I wasn't spending as much on his girls this year because we are trying to save for another baby. He actually said "well, I guess I will take back the gift I got Jackson, since it was more expensive than their gifts." I spent way more on his girls the last two years because I knew he was having a hard a time. Yet, now that he his doing well again he wants to be an ass?

     

    Absolutely ridiculous on so many levels.  Beyond that, I can never understand why price/cost is even discussed when it comes to gifts. 

    Also, so nice of you to be extra generous to his girls when you knew they were going through a rough patch! 

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    TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.

  • My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.  He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.  I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100% sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.

    Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.  He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.

    I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"

    He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...

    rant. over.

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    TTC #1 since 11/2012
    Dx: No Sperm Count

    History:
    Referred to RE after SA results
    HSG, bloodwork, and U/S all good
    3 Non-Medicated IUIs + 1 Clomid IUI w/ Trigger = All BFNs

    Today:
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  • Hello! I've mostly been lurking and learning while DH and I prepare to start TTC this spring, but I had to get in on this thread to vent.

    My husband's sister is 21 years old and recently started dating a 40 year old man. My husband told her politely that he doesn't feel comfortable with their age difference and suggested that she should really think about her goals in life and how his age would fit into what she wants to do.

    But the rest of his family is acting like it's no big deal and telling DH that he is being too judgmental. They don't think it's fair to judge the guy based on his age alone.

    It's frustrating because I actually think DH is being incredibly calm about the whole situation.
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  • I'm really starting to get p*ssed that DH hasnt gotten promoted yet. He is better than most if not all the other GMs in the area yet he cant seem to get there. They told him word for word that he is to good at his job so they dont want to promote him.

    I told him to stop caring so much and he would be area leader before he knew it. The reason I'm so angry is aside from him deserving it, we are kinda holding off on actually trying till he gets the promotion. The pay raise is pretty sweet. 

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  • I want my cyst to go away. But I have no business b!tching... I was able to kiss DD goodnight last night and hug her this morning.

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    Me: 29, had two blocked tubes - left was cleared during lap, right was unable to be cleared. PCOS & Stage 2 Endo. DH: 32, SA = perfect
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    12-24-2012 : Laparoscopy, Softball sized cyst/endo/scar tissue removed.
    Cycle #14 - Feb 2013 : 50mg clomid. Ovidrel Trigger. IUI on 2/14/13 = thin lining, multiple cysts.
    Cycle #15 - no meds, still have cysts, no follicles. Boo!
    Forced break. Continuous BCP for 6 weeks to give my jacked up ovaries a break.
    Cycle #16 actively trying (May/June): Femara, TI = BFN
    Cycle #17- #20 - Med/Treatment break, trying on our own = BFN's all around.
    Cycle #21 - Femara, MORE Femara, Ovidrel and a Christmas IUI = BFN
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  • imagekatehutsen:
    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.nbsp; He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.nbsp; I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100 sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.nbsp; He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...rant. over.

    Tell him he can't have it both ways, no charting but still know exactly when you O. I would tell him if he doesn't want you to chart then you need to have sex every other day from the last day of your period until the first day of your next period. See how he likes that!
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  • there is noting to do but i can't go home. All I want to do is read a book get a massage and sleep.

    plus I am so tired of all the arguing on Fb about CT and still depressed about it all.  

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  • imageDSMLove:
    Hello! I've mostly been lurking and learning while DH and I prepare to start TTC this spring, but I had to get in on this thread to vent.

    My husband's sister is 21 years old and recently started dating a 40 year old man. My husband told her politely that he doesn't feel comfortable with their age difference and suggested that she should really think about her goals in life and how his age would fit into what she wants to do.

    But the rest of his family is acting like it's no big deal and telling DH that he is being too judgmental. They don't think it's fair to judge the guy based on his age alone.

    It's frustrating because I actually think DH is being incredibly calm about the whole situation.

    I think your H is out of line. It's her life and the harder he pushes her to dump the guy, the harder she will hold on. In reality, it probably won't last that long when they realize they have nothing in common.
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    imagekatehutsen:
    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.nbsp; He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.nbsp; I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100 sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.nbsp; He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...rant. over.
    Tell him he can't have it both ways, no charting but still know exactly when you O. I would tell him if he doesn't want you to chart then you need to have sex every other day from the last day of your period until the first day of your next period. See how he likes that!

    Good idea!! I will try that tonight! He has a very low sex drive for some reason compared to average men so he is perfectly happy with having sex once every 10-14 days....which I am NOT ok with. I told him if we kept our normal sex frequency, we may not get pregnant for a VERY long time since the chance of hitting my fertile window only having sex twice a cycle is slim...

    Married since 10/2011
    TTC #1 since 11/2012
    Dx: No Sperm Count

    History:
    Referred to RE after SA results
    HSG, bloodwork, and U/S all good
    3 Non-Medicated IUIs + 1 Clomid IUI w/ Trigger = All BFNs

    Today:
    Dr says 2 more Clomid IUIs until we move to IVF

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  • Today is my last day of vacation. I am not happy about this at all and that our cruise is officially done. I am not looking forward to walking into the shitstorm that is my office, tomorrow. =/

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  • Amongst being crampy, I am crabby!

    I went out to dinner with family last night and I asked my brother and his fiance how the wedding plans where going. His fiance said ok. I preceded to ask for details and my brother's fiance told him not to spill the beans. I left it alone, but my brother ended up telling me the wedding date and it's my wedding date.

    I don't care about sharing the date, (well, a little, but no biggie), but DH and I planned a trip 4 months ago for our 1st anniversary and paid a deposit for it and now our plans have to be changed and I feel that I wouldn't have even known about the date until much later if I hadn't even asked.  

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  • Mine is work related, so probably not very exciting..  It may sound petty, but I just joined the organization 6 months ago, and under heavy scrutiny.                                                                            

    I work for a small development stage biotechnology company.  I just returned to the office after 2 weeks of traveling / out of office market research, and still have to synthesize the information before diving into the quantitative and qualitative implications of the information that I heard, and then I have to put it into a clinical context.  My CEO keeps coming into my office, sitting down and pushing me to release information.  He's a scientist (MD&PhD), and is incredibly data driven, but no matter how many times I state that our findings are still from a relatively small n, and we have supplemental research that still needs to be completed, etc., I know he wants answers, and I'm worried that without proper context it is going to be misinterpreted.   As CEO he obviously has a right to the information and all of that, and I will present everything to him in due course.  The research I am conducting is not his main area of expertise, so I'm just a bit anxious about all the somewhat premature conversations and any bias that it may cause/influence... 

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  • imagekrptcmschfmkr128:
    My husband constantly b!tches and moans about his job. A friend of ours got him a job interview Saturday with his company, where he would be able to make a LOT more money, and not get as dirty anymore he is a mechanic, this position was for service manager of a garage, and I would be able to stay home with DD and LO2 when it comes.Well, the district manager told our buddy that he doesn't want them working together because our buddy is a new manager, and H would be new to this sort of position. So now, H doesn't want the job because he won't get to work with his buddy. And to top it all off, H wants to move into his current coworker's house when they move they just bought a place. The house is 200 more per month than the place we already live in, which we budget pretty tightly to live in. I want to buy a house in a few months, and possibly lower our monthly bills, not jack them up even further.

    My DH was always very unhappy with his job as a mechanic. He went into that field because he lives cars.
    He hated every job he had for one reason or another. Now he loves his job. He got a job as a fleet mechanic with the local school district.
    I don't know if that is an option for yall but maybe he could look for a job as a fleet mechanic with your school district or a company with a fleet.
    We have another friend that works for an electric company doing only fleet vehicles.

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  • I suppose you ladies are right. She is an adult and obviously has every right to date whomever she wants to. She did ask my husband how he felt about her dating someone that age and he was trying to be honest. He probably should have just said that it was her decision and how he felt about it didn't really matter.

    Thanks for the different perspective!
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  • Last night at dinner I had to let my stepfather have it - he always makes some snide comment about us getting pregnant/TTC. I wrote my mother a nice email telling her some of the things I was going thru facing infertility. My mother and I don't have the best relationship and even sharing that with her was hard. We are on break (currently seeing a therapist) and I told her I don't want to talk about it and not to ask me. This mother F brings it up at dinner. DH makes a comment to him and he brushed it off, didn't apologize and I had had enough. I let my emotions gets the better of me. I wanted to get my point across with some strong comment and instead started crying and told him how uncomfortable it makes me everytime he asks. My mom then goes to defend him. What a complete jerk! URGH - Infertility SUCKS
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    TTC since 10/2010 (Rhythm method since 2007)

    Me (33) Sept 2012 - DX Low ovulation/progesterone, Luteal Phase Defect. HSG 5/2012: both tubes are open, cervix and lining look good;
    September 2014 DX Hashimoto's; November 2014: PCOS IR

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    DH (37) Sept 2012 SA Normal; October 2014 Mild MFI count 42 Million, Motility 36%, Morphology 2%. Clomid 50mg,
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    2004 Cyrosurgery, LEEP
    May 2012 - HSG Clear; June 2012 - Appointment with RE
    July 2012 - October 2012 - Clomid 50mg W/ TI & Progesterone 3 mature follicles- BFN
    January 2013 IUI #1 (900,000 post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 2 mature follicles - BFN
    February 2013 IUI #2 (1.3 Mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 4 mature follicles - BFN
    March 2013 IUI #1-3 (2.5 mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, Baby Aspirin (lining thinned) TI & Progesterone - 2 mature follicles BFN
    April 2013 Benched due to cyst, May 2013 WTF appointment
    June 2013 DH SA mild MFI break for 2 months to re-test; August 2013 - DH SA 36 Mil count, 36% Motility, Morp 2%
    September - December 2013 - Mental sanity Break
    January 2014 - IUI #4 switches to natural due to scheduling conflict Femara TI & Progesterone - 1 mature follicle - BFN
    May 2014-June 2014 - DH Appointment w/ Urologist to check Bi-lateral Varicocele; 2nd opinion w/ another urologist - bi-lateral varicocele dx is slight no surgery
    July 2014 DH starts clomid 25mg daily SA 53.8 Mil count, Motility 37%, Morph 3%;
    September 2014 DH Repeat SA after being on clomid for 3 months 42 Mil Count, Motility 36%, Morph 2%
    October 2014 Me: Hashimoto's DX, DH taken off clomid;
    November 2014 Me: new RE PCOS IR Diagnosis
    December 2014: IUI #4 Follitism 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, BFMFN

    January 2015: IUI #5
    Gonal-F 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, Another BFMFN onto IUI #6
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  • imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens

    DH said the same thing to me in the beginning - that I was working myself up and to RELAX. I sat him down and explained to him that hearing those comments was not supporting me and that based on my age we have a 25% chance every month. In order to have the best chance of getting that 25% it needs to happen around a certain time. He eased up a little and after a couple of months went by with no BFP then he started participating and asking more questions. It's not easy but he'll come around.

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    3T January Siggy Challenge: New Years Resolutions 
    TTC since 10/2010 (Rhythm method since 2007)

    Me (33) Sept 2012 - DX Low ovulation/progesterone, Luteal Phase Defect. HSG 5/2012: both tubes are open, cervix and lining look good;
    September 2014 DX Hashimoto's; November 2014: PCOS IR

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    DH (37) Sept 2012 SA Normal; October 2014 Mild MFI count 42 Million, Motility 36%, Morphology 2%. Clomid 50mg,
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    2004 Cyrosurgery, LEEP
    May 2012 - HSG Clear; June 2012 - Appointment with RE
    July 2012 - October 2012 - Clomid 50mg W/ TI & Progesterone 3 mature follicles- BFN
    January 2013 IUI #1 (900,000 post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 2 mature follicles - BFN
    February 2013 IUI #2 (1.3 Mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 4 mature follicles - BFN
    March 2013 IUI #1-3 (2.5 mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, Baby Aspirin (lining thinned) TI & Progesterone - 2 mature follicles BFN
    April 2013 Benched due to cyst, May 2013 WTF appointment
    June 2013 DH SA mild MFI break for 2 months to re-test; August 2013 - DH SA 36 Mil count, 36% Motility, Morp 2%
    September - December 2013 - Mental sanity Break
    January 2014 - IUI #4 switches to natural due to scheduling conflict Femara TI & Progesterone - 1 mature follicle - BFN
    May 2014-June 2014 - DH Appointment w/ Urologist to check Bi-lateral Varicocele; 2nd opinion w/ another urologist - bi-lateral varicocele dx is slight no surgery
    July 2014 DH starts clomid 25mg daily SA 53.8 Mil count, Motility 37%, Morph 3%;
    September 2014 DH Repeat SA after being on clomid for 3 months 42 Mil Count, Motility 36%, Morph 2%
    October 2014 Me: Hashimoto's DX, DH taken off clomid;
    November 2014 Me: new RE PCOS IR Diagnosis
    December 2014: IUI #4 Follitism 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, BFMFN

    January 2015: IUI #5
    Gonal-F 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, Another BFMFN onto IUI #6
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  • Our car has given me yet another reason to hate it. Actually it's given me a few, including that it waited until we're ready to move and rent a house to give us issues (well me really since I drive it the most). So now it feels like a choice between staying in an apartment that is sucking the life out of my soul or moving and taking a risk of not getting to work.

     On top of that my momma failed another stress test and is waiting to hear when she will be admitted into the hospital. Nothing like being 2600 miles away to make you feel completely small and insignificant.

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  • imagedeelopi9:
    imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens

    DH said the same thing to me in the beginning - that I was working myself up and to RELAX. I sat him down and explained to him that hearing those comments was not supporting me and that based on my age we have a 25% chance every month. In order to have the best chance of getting that 25% it needs to happen around a certain time. He eased up a little and after a couple of months went by with no BFP then he started participating and asking more questions. It's not easy but he'll come around.

    Thanks! I sure hope so! 

    Married since 10/2011
    TTC #1 since 11/2012
    Dx: No Sperm Count

    History:
    Referred to RE after SA results
    HSG, bloodwork, and U/S all good
    3 Non-Medicated IUIs + 1 Clomid IUI w/ Trigger = All BFNs

    Today:
    Dr says 2 more Clomid IUIs until we move to IVF

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  • imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.  He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.  I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100% sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.

    Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.  He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.

    I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"

    He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...

    rant. over.

     

    My DH is the same way!!  Thursday I got a positive OPK (my first!!) that day at lunch I told him we needed to have sex that night.  The night came and he just went to sleep. I was so upset I went to sleep in the sofa.  I have never resorted to leaving the bed but I was really hurt and thought it meant he didn't want to ttc and I didn't wan to pressure him.   The next day at lunch we talked it over he said he just didn't like that it had become such a 'science experiment'   that night came and again he didn't seem to want to have sex.....this time we stayed up most of the night talking abut ttc.  I think he really needs to read a fertility book because he does not understand the small window we are working with!  

     

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  • imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.  He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.  I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100% sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.

    Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.  He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.

    I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"

    He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...

    rant. over.

     

    Good luck to you!!  My H is creeped out by the prospect of charting and OPKs, says it takes the romance out of it.  But PPs are right, if he wants to start a family, he will eventually come around.

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  • imagegardennymph:
    My brother is seriously a douche. I have bought awesome presents for his girls every year. He hasn't bought DS anything the last two years. I understand that he has been low on cash due to job losses. The thing that makes him a douche is that he got mad at me when he found out I wasn't spending as much on his girls this year because we are trying to save for another baby. He actually said "well, I guess I will take back the gift I got Jackson, since it was more expensive than their gifts." I spent way more on his girls the last two years because I knew he was having a hard a time. Yet, now that he his doing well again he wants to be an ass?

    That is absolutely ridiculous. If he wants to think that and be an ass that's fine... but to say it OUT LOUD to you is absurd. And to punish your child because of your perceived wrong-doing is totally selfish on his part.

    We're on a tight budget at the moment and have bought gifts for people with kids who weren't on a budget. They had more than one child and we spent more on just one of their children alone than they did on ours. Would it be nice if it was equal? I think to myself yes it would. But it's my decision what I spend, and I certainly wouldn't ruin a relationship with them or punish their kids over such a trivial issue.

  • I am cranky because I still have to send my holiday cards and do all of the gift wrapping.  I guess I should be thankful for the BFN/ AF last week since I can at least have some wine tonight! 
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    imageKLN1179:
    imagekatehutsen:
    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.nbsp; He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.nbsp; I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100 sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.nbsp; He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...rant. over.
    Tell him he can't have it both ways, no charting but still know exactly when you O. I would tell him if he doesn't want you to chart then you need to have sex every other day from the last day of your period until the first day of your next period. See how he likes that!

    Good idea!! I will try that tonight! He has a very low sex drive for some reason compared to average men so he is perfectly happy with having sex once every 10-14 days....which I am NOT ok with. I told him if we kept our normal sex frequency, we may not get pregnant for a VERY long time since the chance of hitting my fertile window only having sex twice a cycle is slim...

    My DH is the same way!! For the first two cycles of us trying, he said the same kinds of things, telling me to calm down and that it'll happen soon enough. Well, buddy, if we only have sex a few times a month, it could take us YEARS! I asked him if he'd rather hear me *** constantly about it for years or let me chart and keep track, have sex during that time and hopefully get pregnant in a few months. Luckily, he picked the latter Big Smile. I like KLN1179's advice!

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  • imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.  He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.  I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100% sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.

    Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.  He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.

    I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"

    He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...

    rant. over.

    Could you not tell him it is "go time" and just make him think you are wanting to have sex just because you want to have sex? Maybe knowing all the details is throwing him off and he is just feeling like you want to have sex just for the purpose of getting pregnant and that is stressing him out and taking the fun out of it. I think a lot of the times when it comes to TTC women start to see sex as only a means to get pregnant and lose sight that sex outside our FW is just as important for a healthy relationship. Why does he have to know that you are temping and charting? If you don't talk about it and you feel it gives you more insight and control then just do it. That way you can mix it up. Sex for fun and sex for baby making and still cover all your bases. Would he get mad if he found out?
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    imagekatehutsen:

    My husband and I had a fight last night because he thinks we are "trying too hard" to have a baby and it will happen when it happens.  He doesn't want me to chart my bbt or use OPKs.  I have only been off of BCP for two cycles so I am still irregular and whenever I have Watery or EWCM I tell him it's go time since I am not 100% sure. So we have been HIO as much as we can the last week and a half or so.

    Last night I got a positive OPK and I had watery CM so I told him we needed to BD.  He got upset because he was tired and he told me that if I don't know exactly when I am ovulating, then we don't need to have sex.

    I am getting a little irritated because I told him it would take a few cycles before I would know for sure but I didn't want to miss my FW! He seems to think that I need to stop charting and taking OPKs because, and he has mentioned this several times, "all of the people in China that have 8 or 9 kids don't try that hard so why should we?"

    He is one of those guys who thinks you can get pregnant any day of the month...

    rant. over.

    Could you not tell him it is "go time" and just make him think you are wanting to have sex just because you want to have sex? Maybe knowing all the details is throwing him off and he is just feeling like you want to have sex just for the purpose of getting pregnant and that is stressing him out and taking the fun out of it. I think a lot of the times when it comes to TTC women start to see sex as only a means to get pregnant and lose sight that sex outside our FW is just as important for a healthy relationship. Why does he have to know that you are temping and charting? If you don't talk about it and you feel it gives you more insight and control then just do it. That way you can mix it up. Sex for fun and sex for baby making and still cover all your bases. Would he get mad if he found out?

    I would try that however, for the first year of our marriage (before we started trying) he didn't want to have sex for what felt like AT ALL! Like I said, we would do it about once or twice a month and when I asked he would turn me down all the time. To this day I pretty much have to beg for it, which is sad, but he always says that our marriage is not just about sex. I agree with him, but that is a major part of it that I can't get from anyone but him. It's an ongoing battle but I tried not telling him and he just turns me down so then I feel like I have to tell him otherwise we will miss a month!

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  • imagekatyj25:

    Damn, I really needed this post today.

    Screw you cysts! I am more pissed off than upset that I had 2 huge cysts at baseline this morning. I really wanted to get a cycle in before the Holidays. Especially since we took a break this past cycle.

    This also pisses me off more for the people who question the necessity of monitoring.

    Fluckin' HATE cysts! Good luck. Have you had good results with BCP? My OBGYN tried it multiple times (years prior to ttc) to clear mine up and it never worked.

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    Me: 29, had two blocked tubes - left was cleared during lap, right was unable to be cleared. PCOS & Stage 2 Endo. DH: 32, SA = perfect
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    12-24-2012 : Laparoscopy, Softball sized cyst/endo/scar tissue removed.
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    Cycle #15 - no meds, still have cysts, no follicles. Boo!
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    Cycle #16 actively trying (May/June): Femara, TI = BFN
    Cycle #17- #20 - Med/Treatment break, trying on our own = BFN's all around.
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    imagegardennymph:
    My brother is seriously a douche. I have bought awesome presents for his girls every year. He hasn't bought DS anything the last two years. I understand that he has been low on cash due to job losses.

    The thing that makes him a douche is that he got mad at me when he found out I wasn't spending as much on his girls this year because we are trying to save for another baby.

    He actually said "well, I guess I will take back the gift I got Jackson, since it was more expensive than their gifts."

    I spent way more on his girls the last two years because I knew he was having a hard a time. Yet, now that he his doing well again he wants to be an ass?

    That is absolutely ridiculous. If he wants to think that and be an ass that's fine... but to say it OUT LOUD to you is absurd. And to punish your child because of your perceived wrong-doing is totally selfish on his part.

    We're on a tight budget at the moment and have bought gifts for people with kids who weren't on a&nbsp;budget. They had more than one child and we spent more on just one of their children alone than they did on ours. Would it be nice if it was equal? I think to myself yes it would. But it's my decision what I spend, and I certainly wouldn't ruin a relationship with them or punish their kids over such a trivial issue.


    That is exactly it. Why punish my son? Christmas is about the kids anyway.
    Thank you to you, Alpha, and VCgolf. Y'all made me feel better about being mad. Its not the money, its the attitude.

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  • OMG.....I have someone EXACTLY like that where I work.......she kisses butt to everyone in upper management and sometimes she thinks she is the management!!!  And instead of saying anything she will go to someone else and then they go to that person with the issue.....it's like just say what you want to say!!  Stupid people!!!! 
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    CD1.  That is all.

    ::giant bear hug::  


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  • I signed up for the health insurance with my new job when I started in the end of November. When I submitted the paperwork I asked if there was a waiting period before when I would be covered. I was told, no that it would start on my start date. Fast forward to today and I stopped by the benefits office after I left work to find out why I hadn't received insurance cards yet. I was told it's because I hadn't been entered in the system. They blamed a computer virus. But, really? If there was a problem and they couldn't put me in the system why didn't they call, email me, or send to a message through inter office mail?  
    DD 1- born January 22, 2014
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  • Today is mother in laws birthday. We always take her out to dinner and pay for the whole meal, dad and brother included. Its not really a big deal except they all have birthdays in December so we buy 3 dinners out for 6 people and its starting to add up. And to top it off no one can decide where they want to eat so it always gets left up to me to decide. For goodness sake it is your birthday what do you want to eat! I think I may suggest next year that we celebrate all 3 at 1 time to save some money.
  • I finally met with my lawyer for my car accident and he recommended filing a claim with both the drivers involved in the initial accident that caused me to be hit.  Called insurance #1 for the guy who rear-ended the car that hit me "Oh, the other guy cut him off, he's not responsible"... called Insurance #2, left a message with the claims adjuster 3 hours ago, still no word.  This is going to be a long long wait to get reimbursed for my car.  Thank GOD I have a lawyer for the personal injury part.
  • imageColeRose:

    imagebbg676:
    CD1.  That is all.

    Sad 

    ::Big hugs, BBG:::  :(

    O was born Aug 13!  <3 B.B.F.L

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  • DH blew me off the past few days during my FW (after busting out the lingerie 3 nights in a row) and then last night woke me up wanting it at 1 am. Umm...how about no buddy? I want to sleep...just like you did the past few days! 
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