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I feel like if someone just HAS to say something, the more appropriate question would be "When are you going to start trying?". It sucked. I felt my cold stare laser beaming holes into their skin.
What have people said about TTGP that has annoyed the shiit out of you?
Innapropriate TTGP Comments
I've never had any remarks that were too bad just the normal "oh we
can't wait for you to have a baby!" But, this week two people made
comments that caught me off guard.
"Enjoy the quiet time while you can, one day you'll be wishing you were still trying"
Ummm... doubt it.
I feel like if someone just HAS to say something, the more appropriate question would be "When are you going to start trying?". It sucked. I felt my cold stare laser beaming holes into their skin.
What have people said about TTGP that has annoyed the shiit out of you?
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Re: Innapropriate TTGP Comments
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Agreed, men can be idiots. Enjoy the wine.
This sucks I am so sorry!
I said an extra prayer for you tonight at church. I know God is going to bless you soon.
lots of
to my TBBFF Sothernpeach80 - BABY
ETHAN IS HERE! 02.04.13 
TTC #1 since Jan 2012
BFP #1 07/27/12 - EDD 04/07/13; C/P on 07/31/12
BFP #2 10/11/12 - EDD 06/24/13; Blighted Ovum; D&C 11/30/12
BFP #3 03/10/13 - EDD 11/17/13 - PLEASE BE OUR TAKE HOME BABY!
Beta #1 - 95.8 (12DPO); Beta #2 - 502 (15DPO); Beta #3 - 2003 (18DPO)
First U/S showed one beautiful baby measuring 7w1d with a HR of 148!!! Second U/S showed baby measuring 9w0d with a HR of 173!!!
My Ugly BFP Chart
“I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much." -Mother Teresa
That sucks. I'm so sorry. Your friend should not have told you that! Men just don't think!
It does make me giggle though picturing you laying on the floor with the fridge wide open and wine just pouring into your mouth.
I always get the 'you're still young, there's plenty of time!' I hate that. Just because I'm young doesn't mean I shouldn't be allowed to have kids RIGHT NOW! 25 is not that young also, IMO.
The "when are you going to get pg" doesn't bother me as much any more, because I think people mean well and many don't know we're trying.
This week, a coworker got pg right after going off BC (super skinny girl). They know we're trying, and one of the people I work with said "skinny people always get pg fast". (I'm overweight, but not huge). Umm... WTF people. I already have issues with being self-conscious about my weight, and now you imply that I'm not pg because I'm not skinny? I almost went for the throat punch.
I can't stand either of those comments! Especially the last one since I do have an 11 year old who is disabled and I had at 15. I'm not one to whine and play the poor me card but I seriously look at the people that say these things to me and say really? Did you think about what just came out of your mouth before you said it!? And I get it a lot! It annoys DH too and he never gets annoyed with things like that!
Wow that's really not cool!! I would have drop kicked someone!!
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Oh yeah! My friend...who is currently pregnant with her second always says 'you're crazy for wanting this...I'm so sick and tired all the time. Are you sure you want all this!?' Uhmmm yes. Yes I do. Why should your exhaustion keep me from it? I would gladly be up in the middle of the night with a baby and throwing up because of my pregnancy...yes, gladly.
Thanks love. I think about you often too. We will make it through!
lots of
to my TBBFF Sothernpeach80 - BABY
ETHAN IS HERE! 02.04.13 
TTC #1 since Jan 2012
BFP #1 07/27/12 - EDD 04/07/13; C/P on 07/31/12
BFP #2 10/11/12 - EDD 06/24/13; Blighted Ovum; D&C 11/30/12
BFP #3 03/10/13 - EDD 11/17/13 - PLEASE BE OUR TAKE HOME BABY!
Beta #1 - 95.8 (12DPO); Beta #2 - 502 (15DPO); Beta #3 - 2003 (18DPO)
First U/S showed one beautiful baby measuring 7w1d with a HR of 148!!! Second U/S showed baby measuring 9w0d with a HR of 173!!!
My Ugly BFP Chart
“I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much." -Mother Teresa
The comment I get the most, the comment I absolutely loathe is, "If you relax, it will happen!". Oh, if only it was so simple! Why didn't I think of that?? Here I am, wasting thousands of dollars in IUI's and medications and medical appointments when if only I would relax, it would happen!
The other comments I hate are about TTC and my dogs. I have two cocker spaniels and they are members of my family... I love them in ways I cannot put in to words. People like to tell me when I have a baby I will want to get rid of my dogs (and cat), that once I have a baby the pets won't matter anymore. I suppose I won't really know until it happens, but I am 99.999% sure my pets will always be members of my family, regardless of baby status.
WTF??? Who says that?! Because people don't ever have both a baby and pets....
That was a perfect response!!
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I don't understand people. I have 2 cats and a dog and I would never get rid of them. My pets will always be a part of my family. People need to think before they speak.
A colleague looked at me, then down at my stomach and said any news to share!? I said no, and please don't ask me again.
She was bewildered-she asked why not? I said because when I am ready to tell, I will tell. It could be too early.
She said ok. I said clearly there are issues and she replied-no there are not, you are too young for issues. WTF!?
I don't care if I was rude. I had just gotten my period a few hours early and some people have no tact. She also asked the receptionist in our office if she was pregnant last week because she was wearing baggy clothes. not okay, not okay at all.
ugh. we get that too...and don't care! when you are ready, age does NOT matter and infertility does NOT discriminate!
That is so rude. Wow. I don't get what motivates people to be so intrusive... And no one is really "too young for issues." She said that pretty matter-of-factly. I thought I wouldn't have issues being "only" 24, but age really doesn't matter.
My MIL once asked me if I had "gained weight". Truth be told, I probably had. TTC can be stressful. But I was wearing a completely new outfit and left the house feeling cute that day-- needless to say that killed it. She later confessed that she was trying to figure out if we were having a baby.
I got the classic "don't worry about it and it will just happen" from my dad the other night. He knows we had a m/c in September and apparently thinks I am so stressed about the process that I'm causing myself to not ovulate.
I had a friend who got rid of her cats after her second child and she told me the same thing, "Once you have a baby you will hate the cats!"
I freaking love cats (duh, see my sig.) and they are members of my family too. I think my husband would get rid of me before I'd pry the cats out of his hands, too!
The comment made me sad and I totally understand.
This but instead of colleague change that to 3 different family members of my husbands... while at his sisters wedding... Ugh...
8/13 BFP! EDD: April 25, 2014
I had a friend and her mom tell me to lose weight by starving myself. At the time, I was smaller than I am currently, and no where near a large girl. (Still not.) Her logic was that if I starve myself and shock my body, it'll start spitting eggs like crazy. Her daughter got pregnant everytime she opened her legs, and both of her babies were "happy accidents," which told me neither knew anything about what actually got you pregnant. Yeesh.
Then there's the "relax and it'll just happen," people. They infuriate me. I had one girl ask me, "don't you know you have to have sex to get KU?" WTF?!!
Me: 27 Dh: 35 Testing Begins 3/5/13
Six SA's show DH has low numbers across the board = severe MFI
Genetic testing for me = MTHFR+, also carrier for blood clotting disorder Otherwise all else normal
Dh's karotype= Normal!!
Not just men! After my loss my sister found out she was pregnant and had bad morning sickness. She told me quite a few times that I could have her morning sickness.. I told her no thanks, not unless a baby comes with it. (I never even had morning sickness with my pregnancy so this made me even more pissed)
THIS. I get asked almost weekly by our receptionist if I'm pregnant. Trust me lady, if I were pregnant, and wanted you to know about it, I'd have told you.
Just. stop. asking.
ETA: Oh, and the "just relax and it will happen. A relaxed uterus is a happy uterus". Oh, so all I need to do to get pregnant is relax? Awesome, then I'm set...
I have two dogs and they are going nowhere! They are my family and I love them to death. People are so ridiculous sometimes.
I have a friend who keeps insisting he will be a godfather were friends but not that close and my and my DH both have siblings that would take the role.
"Wait five years to get pregnant so that we can be pregnant together." - Said to me by my best friend.
"You should wait another 10 years to have kids. Trust me, you don't want kids right now." - Said to DH and me by MIL.
"A baby ruins your life! I can't even begin to tell you how difficult it makes things." - Also said to us by my MIL...she adopted all three of her children when they were at least toddlers. I wanted to just punch her right then and there.
"I never had a problem getting pregnant. I always knew when to start trying and it always took the first month." - Said by my own mother...gee, thanks.
And one I hear everytime I see my old co-worker - "You've gotten fat! Are you pregnant?" She means well and she's really excited for me to have a baby, but she doesn't have much tact.
DD is 3 1/2 so I get a lot of "about time to give her a brother or sister" bump bump nudge nudge. Yeah, don't I know it.
My neighbor took the cake though. Her DD is 6 mo younger then mine and whenever we run into each other, the girls want to play, so we have a lot of impromptu front yard playdates. Her DS is now about 2 mo old, but when she was 38 weeks pregnant we were discussing TTC and she said, "Just get drunk and have sex. It worked for me both times." DD was unplanned, so I can understand her mindset, but we've had plenty of drunk sex over the past 5 mo and I'm not KU. Even with an unplanned pregnancy, I knew never to say that dumb sh*t to someone else. I've been giving her the side eye ever since.
Lurker jumping in here...
I had a patient ask me if we had "babies" and when I said no his response was: "Clever girl, don't rush into it."
Sure, no rush! Idiot. Maybe I should see it as a compliment, maybe I look younger that I am
DH has told a couple of people, when they asked, that "We're not having sex yet" ....tends to shut them up rather quickly.
Whaaaaa???? That's the worst advice ever! Especially because it would make me want to choke someone.
My mom knows that I'm charting and using OPKs. She has told me that it would be easier if I just stopped all of that because I need to be more relaxed. This is also a woman who is convinced that you can get pregnant at any point in your cycle, even though she knows full well that ovulation only happens once. She also knows that my cycles have been long since stopping BC, and yet she thinks I'd be MORE relaxed if I did nothing and just waited around for two months to see if my period shows or not.
Apparently she told my dad about it and the last time I was over there, OPKs came up in conversation. My dad said "oh, so you're still messsing with that science?"
Best line ever.
Systemic Lupus Erythematosus
TTC Post Chemotherapy
Unexplained Infertility
DH- SA Normal, Lap on 8/8/13
BFP! 11/7/13 EDD 07/15/14 changed to 07/23/14 after first u/s
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There was a customer in my store talking about her newborn granddaughter and all the fertility treatments her daughter had to go through to conceive. My coworker then turned to me and said "oh, you know what that is like don't you. You have issues too!"
I was floored...who says something like that? My boss was there too and other customers. ugh....that coworker has no filter.
A friend of my friend has been TTGP for over a year. My friend was telling me about it (she really shouldn't have been), and said that she told her friend "if they'd just relax they'd get pregnant, you are trying too hard". I stopped her right there and explained how insensitive her comments were to her friend and how she really had no idea what she's going through. Le sigh.
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."- Aristotle
I have been asked if I was pregnant a total of 3 times by 2 different male coworkers. Once was before we were TTC.
I get the "when are you going to have kids?" question all the time. One coworker followed with how old are you and when I told him he jokingly said, "oh you have plenty of time, your kids may have 3 legs though." Really? I told him it would be a step in the right direction, that right now my kids have 4 legs and a tail.
When I told my pregnant coworker about our infertility, she told me that I should go home and pray with my husband. Gee thanks for the advice, I was really just telling you so that maybe you would realize that I am not the person to complain to about your pregnancy.
Same pregnant coworker told me I was lucky that I didn't have to buy a maternity dress because they are all ugly muumuus and you only have like two choices (she interrupted a convo I was having with another coworker about dress shopping). Yeah, I would trade you in a heartbeat.
TTC #1 since August 2011
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September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
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