DH is off work today and he told me last night that he would get up with LO in the morning and take care of him. Then this tired mommy could sleep in a little. He woke up around 11, I tried to wake him before then. He answered me then rolled over and went back to sleep. So I was a bit p!ssed but i didn't let it bother me to much. I called my mom to vent about the frustration and to talk to her in general.
So I'm rocking LO to sleep an talking to her when DH starts to wake up. He hears me say that 99 percent of the time I adore LO then there is that 1 percent of the time when I just can't stand to be around him. DH gets up and says he's going for coffeefor him.
So he goes downstairs and I think he has left. I put LO in the swinghe was sleeping and rush to shower. LO wakes up and starts to cry as soon as the shampoo hits my head. I hear the door open an DH come up and pick up LO. I told him he could he could have just left him to cry for a minute or two, I've perfected the speedy shower.
I finish up, get dressed and take LO. DH tells me that he'll hurry to get his coffee and then watch LO since I can't "stand him 1 percent of the time" so I "basically hate him."
I don't understand how he could take something and turn it into something so horrible! I adore and love LO more than anything! But 1 percent of the time I just can't take it. Normally when he has been crying an whiny all day and nothing I try fixes it.
DH has apologized but its a bit to late. He already said, I'm already heartbroken that he could say such a thing.
Re: Saying Horrible Things
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This. When she's being really fussy I say to my LO "I'll always love you but I don't like you very much right now."
I say the same thing to Cam from time to time. I also "shout" "I don't know what you want!" He smiles when I do that even more so if I take his hands and shake them a little while I say it! It makes it a little easier to handle then.
Wait, he slept until 11 AM??? When he said he would help you in the morning? Uh, that is pretty bad. I feel like sleeping in that late is a luxury not afforded people with infants (except on a very special occasion basis). Especially if he said he would help.
That said. Under duress both DH and I have had said things we don't mean. A few weeks back he said something awful to me (basically implying I was fat but not as bad as it sounds) and I was sure I would NEVER get over it, but I did within a day. And he apologized and truly meant it. And I have said stupid crap to him. We sort of have an informal rule that we try our best to be civil at all times but if we do say something stupid, apologize and try to get over it. It would be different if we were saying mean stuff when there wasn't an infant screaming for hours straight around, but in general I say cut yourselves some slack the first few months.
Babies are hard to deal with sometimes... It is perfectly fine not to like them one and a while : Your husband will get that someday.