As my blog grows I have become more and more aware of the anti-adoption crowd (mostly anti-international adoption) and all their "ideals." I just have to vent b/c it amazes me how close-minded they are. They live in a dream world where 1) a child's ability to grow up in their birth culture outweighs all the negatives of being an orphan and 2) Americans are able and called to adopt only American children.
Drives me crazy sometimes. My son's heritage is something I cherish and we are committed to honoring it in the ways we can, but the reality is that the biggest part of his culture he would have grown up experiencing are the worst parts of his culture. Is it not more important for a child to have love and a family than to speak a certain language or celebrate certain festivals etc? Those things are so empty without the love of a family.
And then I often get the comment, "There are so many American children who need a home." 1) I am not American so adopting an American child would technically be an international adoption for me. 2) Maybe this is because I'm not American but I do not think an American child is more or less deserving of a family than any other child. Every child needs a home and there are so many factors (cost, wait, travel, etc) that go into the decision to adoption domestically or internationally.
And finally, I get comments about forced adoption and human trafficking. This is a legitimate concern however anti-adoption advocates write off all international adoption because of these concerns. That is not right and it is actually a slippery slope argument which is a logical fallacy. There is a way to adopt children who really are available for adoption and need a loving home.
Arrrrrrghhhh I get so tired of all the negativity and ignorance.
Thanks for letting me vent.
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013