Double standard

kje120 · November 2012

Luckbeababy:
I am pretty sure they would offer a congratulations though. Funny how a regular will get congrats from a total newb even if they have just joined within days, yet when a newb posts their BFP the regs can not be bothered to do the same if they have not yet earned the coveted support we all so desire. Lame.

I'm fairly certain that if a complete and total stranger walked up to me and announced that they were pregnant I would stare at them blankly and then eventually say "Congratulations??"

If someone's very first post on this board is a BFP then in my opinion they should get torn into. Aside from that, just because someone is a newbie doesn't mean they shouldn't be congratulated and I offer up my congratulations to those that I see.

Luckbeababy · November 2012

CLECyclist:
BrazilianPeach:
CLECyclist:
There goes Luck...Again.
At least it took her what? Over 12 hours to show up. I was amazed she didn't show up before.
She really, really had to think hard on this one.

I know, know, as much as I would love to Bump all.day.long I got other shiit to do. I can read and talk about TTC all day but at some point I gotta actually have some sex so I can get that BFP and drive it right on by this board (;

Lue94 · November 2012

Ok, no one likes a drive by, but comparing it to someone telling a group of strangers they were KU and they would get the same responses (snark) seems odd.

If a stranger lady is full of excitement and tells me that she's KU, I would get happy right with her as if I knew her and say congrats.

darrahmccall · November 2012

Lue94:
Ok, no one likes a drive by, but comparing it to someone telling a group of strangers they were KU and they would get the same responses (snark) seems odd.
If a stranger lady is full of excitement and tells me that she's KU, I would get happy right with her as if I knew her and say congrats.

Me too.

Spookster · November 2012

OP/AE look how upset you are over something so trivial in the grand scheme of your life. You will not change what is by preaching about what others do or say. If you don't like TTGP no one is begging you to stick around, by bitching and moaning you yourself are lowering yourself to the level you're complaining about, so essentially you are a pot calling the kettle black, and beating a dead horse. Please go enjoy being pregnant!

I'll be backing my ass out of this post now.

SCSmith2011 · November 2012

darrahmccall:
Lue94:
Ok, no one likes a drive by, but comparing it to someone telling a group of strangers they were KU and they would get the same responses (snark) seems odd. 
If a stranger lady is full of excitement and tells me that she's KU, I would get happy right with her as if I knew her and say congrats. 
Me too. 

Really?? I would roll my eyes and say, "Thanks for sharing?" Much like I do on here.

mama&baby · November 2012

SCSmith2011:
darrahmccall:
Lue94:

Ok, no one likes a drive by, but comparing it to someone telling a group of strangers they were KU and they would get the same responses (snark) seems odd.

If a stranger lady is full of excitement and tells me that she's KU, I would get happy right with her as if I knew her and say congrats.

Me too.

Really?? I would roll my eyes and say, "Thanks for sharing?" Much like I do on here.

Yes

mama&baby · November 2012

thekikimonster:
mama&baby:
lobosabby:
DachshundLove:

I'm new here, I kind of understand where these AE posts are coming from.

I understand that you should read the newbie link first, many times so you don't miss something and ask a question that's been asked 1 million + times. I would find that irritating too if I'd been using the site for a long time.

What I don't understand is the unnecessary harshness used in several of the replies I read day in and day out. If you think the posters question is dumb, there is no need to be mean about it. I'm not saying baby people, but have a heart. If you don't like what they posted, why bother replying, unless of course if was offensive.

What if that person is having a really bad day and they missed something in the newbie link. What if they don't think the question is dumb. What if they are just really new to this site/ charting / TTC and don't really get it.

People view things differently and thats ok, I just really disagree with the way some people act on these boards.

That said, I haven't really had a bad experience yet, I've just read a lot of other peoples. Try not to take anything to heart on here.

:::pats dachshunds head::::

you're cute. and not long for this board with this kind of post.

And OP... if you are only here for support, help, and all that jazz many people here are helpful. But this is NOT a support group. Get counseling if you really need that help-- especially if an internet board upsets you.

So I guess you guys all agree that all the snark for snark's sake is awesome? Are you guys missing some of the posts lately?

Nope never said that... but I find it sad that someone gets so upset over an internet board. If that's the case they seriously do need help. And as to the other posts where people called out loses, no I don't agree. But I won't ever blindly support BFP drivebys and ridiculously stupid questions (such as I'm still on my period... but just had sex and I think I am totes pregly cuz I felt the sperm join the egg, etc). I do think sometimes things get taken too far... but more of the time snark keeps it interesting.

Luckbeababy · November 2012

mama&baby:
thekikimonster:
mama&baby:
lobosabby:
DachshundLove:

I'm new here, I kind of understand where these AE posts are coming from.

I understand that you should read the newbie link first, many times so you don't miss something and ask a question that's been asked 1 million + times. I would find that irritating too if I'd been using the site for a long time.

What I don't understand is the unnecessary harshness used in several of the replies I read day in and day out. If you think the posters question is dumb, there is no need to be mean about it. I'm not saying baby people, but have a heart. If you don't like what they posted, why bother replying, unless of course if was offensive.

What if that person is having a really bad day and they missed something in the newbie link. What if they don't think the question is dumb. What if they are just really new to this site/ charting / TTC and don't really get it.

People view things differently and thats ok, I just really disagree with the way some people act on these boards.

That said, I haven't really had a bad experience yet, I've just read a lot of other peoples. Try not to take anything to heart on here.

:::pats dachshunds head::::

you're cute. and not long for this board with this kind of post.

And OP... if you are only here for support, help, and all that jazz many people here are helpful. But this is NOT a support group. Get counseling if you really need that help-- especially if an internet board upsets you.

So I guess you guys all agree that all the snark for snark's sake is awesome? Are you guys missing some of the posts lately?

Nope never said that... but I find it sad that someone gets so upset over an internet board. If that's the case they seriously do need help. And as to the other posts where people called out loses, no I don't agree. But I won't ever blindly support BFP drivebys and ridiculously stupid questions (such as I'm still on my period... but just had sex and I think I am totes pregly cuz I felt the sperm join the egg, etc). I do think sometimes things get taken too far... but more of the time snark keeps it interesting.

Your logic makes know sense. Who is the one getting upset? The one person who posts a drive-by BFP or the 80 people who reply with rude comments? We get it not everyone reads the newbie link, not everyone lurks, people make the unfortunate assumption that this board is a place for support, not realizing they need to give it to get it. So what? People make mistakes that is life. If these types of posts are so beneath you and not worthy of your support then move on, no one is holding a gun to your head to make you respond or do you feel it is your job to make sure these people know that their question was stupid and there BFP post is not allowed here or is it that you have amazing snark that you just need to share? I would rather see a 100 drive-by/stupid question posts a day then read the same regurgitated snark over and over again. At least if you are going to snark make it original.

mama&baby · November 2012

Luckbeababy:
mama&baby:
thekikimonster:
mama&baby:
lobosabby:
DachshundLove:

I'm new here, I kind of understand where these AE posts are coming from.

I understand that you should read the newbie link first, many times so you don't miss something and ask a question that's been asked 1 million + times. I would find that irritating too if I'd been using the site for a long time.

What I don't understand is the unnecessary harshness used in several of the replies I read day in and day out. If you think the posters question is dumb, there is no need to be mean about it. I'm not saying baby people, but have a heart. If you don't like what they posted, why bother replying, unless of course if was offensive.

What if that person is having a really bad day and they missed something in the newbie link. What if they don't think the question is dumb. What if they are just really new to this site/ charting / TTC and don't really get it.

People view things differently and thats ok, I just really disagree with the way some people act on these boards.

That said, I haven't really had a bad experience yet, I've just read a lot of other peoples. Try not to take anything to heart on here.

:::pats dachshunds head::::

you're cute. and not long for this board with this kind of post.

And OP... if you are only here for support, help, and all that jazz many people here are helpful. But this is NOT a support group. Get counseling if you really need that help-- especially if an internet board upsets you.

So I guess you guys all agree that all the snark for snark's sake is awesome? Are you guys missing some of the posts lately?

Nope never said that... but I find it sad that someone gets so upset over an internet board. If that's the case they seriously do need help. And as to the other posts where people called out loses, no I don't agree. But I won't ever blindly support BFP drivebys and ridiculously stupid questions (such as I'm still on my period... but just had sex and I think I am totes pregly cuz I felt the sperm join the egg, etc). I do think sometimes things get taken too far... but more of the time snark keeps it interesting.

Your logic makes know sense. Who is the one getting upset? The one person who posts a drive-by BFP or the 80 people who reply with rude comments? We get it not everyone reads the newbie link, not everyone lurks, people make the unfortunate assumption that this board is a place for support, not realizing they need to give it to get it. So what? People make mistakes that is life. If these types of posts are so beneath you and not worthy of your support then move on, no one is holding a gun to your head to make you respond or do you feel it is your job to make sure these people know that their question was stupid and there BFP post is not allowed here or is it that you have amazing snark that you just need to share? I would rather see a 100 drive-by/stupid question posts a day then read the same regurgitated snark over and over again. At least if you are going to snark make it original.

I'm way late to this... but I was referring to the OP getting her panties in a twist.. so much so that she made an AE to respond to those post. I agree that sometimes the snark gets old/repetative.. but still stand by the fact that this board would be boring as fluck if it was all puppies and rainbows. But we'll never agree on this so I'll leave it at that

ETA: Also, if the kind of crap posted is encouraged (BFPs, stupid questions, etc) then all the posts would be stupid. I would rather give someone a reality check and have other newbs read it, realize they can use google, etc than have the entire board be filled with identical posts.

Luckbeababy · November 2012

mama&baby:
Luckbeababy:
mama&baby:
thekikimonster:
mama&baby:
lobosabby:
DachshundLove:

I'm new here, I kind of understand where these AE posts are coming from.

I understand that you should read the newbie link first, many times so you don't miss something and ask a question that's been asked 1 million + times. I would find that irritating too if I'd been using the site for a long time.

What I don't understand is the unnecessary harshness used in several of the replies I read day in and day out. If you think the posters question is dumb, there is no need to be mean about it. I'm not saying baby people, but have a heart. If you don't like what they posted, why bother replying, unless of course if was offensive.

What if that person is having a really bad day and they missed something in the newbie link. What if they don't think the question is dumb. What if they are just really new to this site/ charting / TTC and don't really get it.

People view things differently and thats ok, I just really disagree with the way some people act on these boards.

That said, I haven't really had a bad experience yet, I've just read a lot of other peoples. Try not to take anything to heart on here.

:::pats dachshunds head::::

you're cute. and not long for this board with this kind of post.

And OP... if you are only here for support, help, and all that jazz many people here are helpful. But this is NOT a support group. Get counseling if you really need that help-- especially if an internet board upsets you.

So I guess you guys all agree that all the snark for snark's sake is awesome? Are you guys missing some of the posts lately?

Nope never said that... but I find it sad that someone gets so upset over an internet board. If that's the case they seriously do need help. And as to the other posts where people called out loses, no I don't agree. But I won't ever blindly support BFP drivebys and ridiculously stupid questions (such as I'm still on my period... but just had sex and I think I am totes pregly cuz I felt the sperm join the egg, etc). I do think sometimes things get taken too far... but more of the time snark keeps it interesting.

Your logic makes know sense. Who is the one getting upset? The one person who posts a drive-by BFP or the 80 people who reply with rude comments? We get it not everyone reads the newbie link, not everyone lurks, people make the unfortunate assumption that this board is a place for support, not realizing they need to give it to get it. So what? People make mistakes that is life. If these types of posts are so beneath you and not worthy of your support then move on, no one is holding a gun to your head to make you respond or do you feel it is your job to make sure these people know that their question was stupid and there BFP post is not allowed here or is it that you have amazing snark that you just need to share? I would rather see a 100 drive-by/stupid question posts a day then read the same regurgitated snark over and over again. At least if you are going to snark make it original.

I'm way late to this... but I was referring to the OP getting her panties in a twist.. so much so that she made an AE to respond to those post. I agree that sometimes the snark gets old/repetative.. but still stand by the fact that this board would be boring as fluck if it was all puppies and rainbows. But we'll never agree on this so I'll leave it at that

ETA: Also, if the kind of crap posted is encouraged (BFPs, stupid questions, etc) then all the posts would be stupid. I would rather give someone a reality check and have other newbs read it, realize they can use google, etc than have the entire board be filled with identical posts.

Fair enough. I guess I just don't see the why it matters if there are a bunch of identical posts of stupid questions, it does not really affect the board as a whole. Just move along to a post you want to read. Most people view the board by recent reply anyway so if those posts are just ignored then you won't have to really even see them. Anyhow, I do agree that a certain amount of snark keeps it interesting, just hate seeing the same snark over and over again especially when it is a stretch to even use it much the same way you hate seeing the same question asked over and over again.

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