To: Addylene Nichole or Kenleigh Nichole

Raeily · November 2012

>.< I wrote a long response and now I'm a little irritated. Probably more than I should be but it's been a long couple days. It wasn't even a well thought out response but you're gonna hear it anyway because I'm hormonal and tired.

I don't like either of them. I wouldn't mind either of them if they were spelled correctly. Is Addylene supposed to be Adeline?
Adeline Nicole is pretty but Kenley is one of those names that I really like even though I don't normally like that kind.
Both are nice, but for heaven's sake, please spell them in a normal way so that your kid won't have to correct people their entire lives.

RussianMommy · November 2012

2nd. Spell it normally for Christ sakes!!

sucrets4 · November 2012

Good grief, she DDd? Well, I wasn't going to weigh in, but I will now.

In my head, I pronounce Addylene as Addy-lean which I don't think is what you're going for. My cousin has an Adalyn which I think makes more sense. Less extraneous letters. (Don't get me started on the extra 'n' in my DD's name, I didn't want it but DH did.)

And I also don't get the spelling for Kenleigh. Why not just Kenley as the OP suggested?

kfarmer92 · November 2012

Shes gonna be called addy which why I went for addylene. It was going to be addylynn because I hate the "normal spelling" of adalyn or adilene or any of those. But addylynn seemed like too much repitition. Nichole is spelled correctly to me, its my sister's middle name. My mom liked it like that and thats how it will stay. And this is the reason I deleted my post, because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one. Remind me not to ask yall for anything anymore.

kfarmer92 · November 2012

And about being hormonal and tired, no excuse to go off like that honestly. We're all hormonal af, we're pregnant. And tired? I go to school full time and work on my feet full time. so I get that but I wouldn't have ever gotten so worked up over something so stupid. Its not going to affect you is it? Nope. If you ever run into my addy which is highly unlikely, then sorry for ya. But other than that, eat something delicious, take a hot shower, and chill tf out. Geez.

hollowstar · November 2012

I know that names are really personal, but be glad that someone told you the truth! Because I know plenty of people whose kids' names I'm laughing at behind their back...

Adeline is really pretty (NORMALLY SPELLED) but is on the rise right now. I really like Kenley but Kinley is a Top 20 name right now as well, if that sort of thing bothers you.

Nichole doesn't bother me as much but it's way too much with the other crazy spellings.

Honestly, I think wrong spellings just make you (not YOU personally) look like trash.

rm2013 · November 2012

kfarmer92:
...because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one.

This.

Note to future name posters: If you're going to post asking for name feedback you need to be prepared to get opinions that include not liking your names, some of which you'll probably be offended by.

MrsJ723 · November 2012

There is a whole board dedicated to baby names, coincidentally named "Baby Names". But sorry OP, but I imagine you would receive mostly negative feedback on those names.

kimmarie1105 · November 2012

Nichole is pretty normal. It can go either way. I agree with PP, don't post if you cant handle a myriad of opinions. Everyone is entitled to one. To OP, I dont really think it was necessary to create an entire thread for this. It was just a "name" topic. You shouldnt get so worked up about stuff. Its not good for mommy or baby.

Raeily · November 2012

kfarmer92:
Shes gonna be called addy which why I went for addylene. It was going to be addylynn because I hate the "normal spelling" of adalyn or adilene or any of those. But addylynn seemed like too much repitition. Nichole is spelled correctly to me, its my sister's middle name. My mom liked it like that and thats how it will stay. And this is the reason I deleted my post, because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one. Remind me not to ask yall for anything anymore.

I posted this because you DID ask and I took the time to write a response and it was rude for you to DD and I was irritated when I hit post and it came up as an error.

I know that your baby's name is your choice and I am a firm believer in that, but I'm not gonna not be honest with you. I work with kids and it really messes with them when they have to constantly correct people in regards to the spelling and the pronunciation of their names.

Yes, it feels so nice to be "unique" and spell it differently but trust me, it's not good for the kid and in your case it changes the pronunciation. Yes, people, phonics do exist for a reason.

People mess up all the time because my name is Rachel and people try to spell it Rachael. And those are BOTH ACCEPTED spellings. I know a girl who was named the same name spelled Rejcel and I can't imagine what she goes through.

Just think of your kid.

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dande2129 · November 2012

rm2013:
kfarmer92:
...because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one.
This. Note to future name posters: If you're going to post asking for name feedback you need to be prepared to get opinions that include not liking your names, some of which you'll probably be offended by.

This.

Those names are horrendous spelled that way. Correctly, I like them.

P.S Adeline can still be NN "Addy"... My name is Emily, and when I was young, people called me Emmy. That doesn't mean my name is spelled Emmyelee.

Kota26 · November 2012

Absolutely! I asked about spelling for my LO's name a few days ago (I was the conner vs. connor poll). I was in the direction of "Conner" but after 85% of the poll liked "Connor" I am definitely thinking twice.

kfarmer92 · November 2012

Raeily:
kfarmer92:
Shes gonna be called addy which why I went for addylene. It was going to be addylynn because I hate the "normal spelling" of adalyn or adilene or any of those. But addylynn seemed like too much repitition. Nichole is spelled correctly to me, its my sister's middle name. My mom liked it like that and thats how it will stay. And this is the reason I deleted my post, because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one. Remind me not to ask yall for anything anymore.
I posted this because you DID ask and I took the time to write a response and it was rude for you to DD and I was irritated when I hit post and it came up as an error.
I know that your baby's name is your choice and I am a firm believer in that, but I'm not gonna not be honest with you. I work with kids and it really messes with them when they have to constantly correct people in regards to the spelling and the pronunciation of their names. 
Yes, it feels so nice to be "unique" and spell it differently but trust me, it's not good for the kid and in your case it changes the pronunciation. Yes, people, phonics do exist for a reason. 
People mess up all the time because my name is Rachel and people try to spell it Rachael. And those are BOTH ACCEPTED spellings. I know a girl who was named the same name spelled Rejcel and I can't imagine what she goes through.  
Just think of your kid.
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I am thinking of my kid. A normal spelling of either name is adilene or kenley. So for adilene, changing the first couple letters isn't bad to benefit her nickname. And kenley, leigh is a perfectly normal spelling of neither of these are off the wall like the crazy spelling of rachel you mentioned. If the worst thing about these names is that she has to spell it for people, no big deal. Most people will read either one and know what it is. The spelling was never my concern, my concern was giving my daughter a cute and semi unique name. I already decided, and it was unbelievably unneccesary for you to start a whole thread about this, especially the way you started it off with "i'm irritated". I posted something, changed my mind on the question, and deleted it. Really not as serious as you made it out to be.

LadyDelilah · November 2012

I hate typing a response for some one to DD the post later. I agree with your reply.

kfarmer92 · November 2012

dande2129:
rm2013:
kfarmer92:
...because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one.

This.

Note to future name posters: If you're going to post asking for name feedback you need to be prepared to get opinions that include not liking your names, some of which you'll probably be offended by.
This.
Those names are horrendous spelled that way. Correctly, I like them. 
P.S Adeline can still be NN "Addy"... My name is Emily, and when I was young, people called me Emmy. That doesn't mean my name is spelled Emmyelee.   

I see the spelling adeline and think its horrendous. Thanks for your unneccesary opinions ladies, I already made my decision which us why my post was deleted.

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LadyDelilah · November 2012

Bliss+Berry:
Addylene and Kenleigh are horrendous. What's with the "you-neek" spellings? I just don't get it. It just looks misspelled and uneducated (read: trashy). Why do people do this to their children?

Cause people want their kids to be Dyfferunt. Duh.

MrsWindyCity · November 2012

rm2013:
kfarmer92:
...because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one.
This. Note to future name posters: If you're going to post asking for name feedback you need to be prepared to get opinions that include not liking your names, some of which you'll probably be offended by.

And keep in mind that your kid might be offended by them too. In real life.

Also, changing "a couple letters" makes it a completely different name. It's pronounced totally different from Adaline.

Raeily · November 2012

kfarmer92:
Raeily:
kfarmer92:
Shes gonna be called addy which why I went for addylene. It was going to be addylynn because I hate the "normal spelling" of adalyn or adilene or any of those. But addylynn seemed like too much repitition. Nichole is spelled correctly to me, its my sister's middle name. My mom liked it like that and thats how it will stay. And this is the reason I deleted my post, because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one. Remind me not to ask yall for anything anymore.
I posted this because you DID ask and I took the time to write a response and it was rude for you to DD and I was irritated when I hit post and it came up as an error.
I know that your baby's name is your choice and I am a firm believer in that, but I'm not gonna not be honest with you. I work with kids and it really messes with them when they have to constantly correct people in regards to the spelling and the pronunciation of their names.
Yes, it feels so nice to be "unique" and spell it differently but trust me, it's not good for the kid and in your case it changes the pronunciation. Yes, people, phonics do exist for a reason.
People mess up all the time because my name is Rachel and people try to spell it Rachael. And those are BOTH ACCEPTED spellings. I know a girl who was named the same name spelled Rejcel and I can't imagine what she goes through.
Just think of your kid.
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I am thinking of my kid. A normal spelling of either name is adilene or kenley. So for adilene, changing the first couple letters isn't bad to benefit her nickname. And kenley, leigh is a perfectly normal spelling of neither of these are off the wall like the crazy spelling of rachel you mentioned. If the worst thing about these names is that she has to spell it for people, no big deal. Most people will read either one and know what it is. The spelling was never my concern, my concern was giving my daughter a cute and semi unique name. I already decided, and it was unbelievably unneccesary for you to start a whole thread about this, especially the way you started it off with "i'm irritated". I posted something, changed my mind on the question, and deleted it. Really not as serious as you made it out to be.

You posted and I took the time to read it and formulate a response. The least you could do is leave it up so I don't take all my time to type it out just to get a damned error message. If you really don't give a damn what anyone thinks than you should have just posted, "Nevermind" and never looked back.

Kenleigh isn't AS BAD as Addylene, I'll give you that (only because it doesn't really change the pronunciation). With Addylene, people WILL pronounce it wrong and she WILL spend her life correcting the spelling and pronunciation. The great thing about nicknames is they don't have to have anything to do with the spelling. Your reasoning is ridiculous. And sure, that's fine, it's YOUR choice, but it will cause her some, possibly major, annoyances down the road all so that you could feel like your baby was "you-neek".

I'm sorry you're annoyed that I called your post out after you deleted it, but it IS irritating to write a response only to have someone delete it. Think about it before you post it and if you can't do that, then just own up to it.

nessahm · November 2012

I have to agree with mostly everyone else. To change the spelling of a name only to make it unique when it is pronounced the same way as the normal spelling just makes your child's life a little more difficult and is unnecessary. Plus, it makes the parent look trashy. Just my two cents.

mrsmcdonald · November 2012

kfarmer92:

I am thinking of my kid. A normal spelling of either name is adilene or kenley. So for adilene, changing the first couple letters isn't bad to benefit her nickname. And kenley, leigh is a perfectly normal spelling of neither of these are off the wall like the crazy spelling of rachel you mentioned. If the worst thing about these names is that she has to spell it for people, no big deal. Most people will read either one and know what it is. The spelling was never my concern, my concern was giving my daughter a cute and semi unique name.

I have never heard of someone changing the spelling of a formal name to benefit a nickname. That is bizarre reasoning. And Addylene and Kenleigh are pretty off the wall spellings.

The issue with "cute" names is that they're not so cute on adults and can make it hard for someone to be taken seriously in a professional setting, e.g. on a resume. The only thing "semi-unique" about these names is the spelling, which makes you look extremely uneducated and will cause her a headache for the rest of her life - unless you've had to spell your name out all the time for people, you have no idea the big deal it can be. So I really don't think you're really thinking about your daughter in all of this and looking at the bigger, long term picture for her.

warriorwoman87 · November 2012

Spell the names however you want! People keep saying the poor kid will hate having to correct people for the rest of their lives but coming from someone who has a unique spelling, I've always been very proud of it. It set me apart from all the others with my name. You aren't going to traumatize your kid by spelling it wrong. Bunch of haters lol

ANA6 · November 2012

DD is spelled Kenley the only issue I have is people think she is a boy if I'm on the phone. I've seen her middle named spelled different to I decided Reagan, I saw the other day Regan. Thank God DD2 I would have that issue Laura Michelle, not a fan of this name but I told DH if the next is a girl I get to pick the name Chelsea. Boys names we are set on.

flapurls · November 2012

vaness1229:
I have to agree with mostly everyone else. To change the spelling of a name only to make it unique when it is pronounced the same way as the normal spelling just makes your child's life a little more difficult and is unnecessary. Plus, it makes the parent look trashy. Just my two cents.

This x 1000.

As someone whose mother chose a 'unique' spelling for an otherwise traditional name, I would encourage you to think about it a bit more. I can't tell you how many times in my youth I wondered why my mom had to give me an oddly spelled name. I have to explain it to most people whom I have to give my name to for anything - and the spelling isn't even as drastically different as Addylene. You might not like what you're hearing from everyone here, but some of what these ladies are saying really is good advice.

homebird · November 2012

There have been studies that show that a child's name can affect them later in life. One study I read said that children with a deviant spelling of a common name tend to have slowed spelling and reading capabilities. It also can affect their self-esteem because of the way people perceive them (first-impression type stuff). Names can also impact their job opportunities and success, the type of attention they get in school, their relationships with other children, etc.

Just something to consider.

LadyDelilah · November 2012

warriorwoman87:
Spell the names however you want! People keep saying the poor kid will hate having to correct people for the rest of their lives but coming from someone who has a unique spelling, I've always been very proud of it. It set me apart from all the others with my name. You aren't going to traumatize your kid by spelling it wrong. Bunch of haters lol

1and1is3 · November 2012

Just curious... is Addylene pronounced ADD-ee- lean? Because that is how it looks to me... someone please spell the correct pronunciation for me!

megganc · November 2012

i want to know where we draw the line on calling people's parents trashy or saying that children with uniquely spelled names are somehow less intelligent.

my name is meggan - yep 2 g's! are you telling me that my parents who are both very successful are somehow trashy because they liked that spelling better than megan, meghan, meagan, or any of the other 100 ways to spell that name? and i really hope people aren't saying that I'm any less intelligient than a "megan" would be just because my name has an "extra letter."

sure, when i was younger i got aggravated because i could never find those bike license plates with my name spelled correctly when we went on vacation, but I'm far from damaged from the experience. as an adult, i actually think it's pretty cool to have that extra letter - it makes people remember you!

LadyDelilah · November 2012

megganc:

i want to know where we draw the line on calling people's parents trashy or saying that children with uniquely spelled names are somehow less intelligent.

my name is meggan - yep 2 g's! are you telling me that my parents who are both very successful are somehow trashy because they liked that spelling better than megan, meghan, meagan, or any of the other 100 ways to spell that name? and i really hope people aren't saying that I'm any less intelligient than a "megan" would be just because my name has an "extra letter."

sure, when i was younger i got aggravated because i could never find those bike license plates with my name spelled correctly when we went on vacation, but I'm far from damaged from the experience. as an adult, i actually think it's pretty cool to have that extra letter - it makes people remember you!

I totally see where youre coming from here but wouldnt you agree that Meggan isnt the same as naming a baby Muhkynzee or Jynaffer? You have to say Megan with two g's and those other kids may have to go into an all out phonetic explanation.

ANA6 · November 2012

megganc:
i want to know where we draw the line on calling people's parents trashy or saying that children with uniquely spelled names are somehow less intelligent.

my name is meggan - yep 2 g's! are you telling me that my parents who are both very successful are somehow trashy because they liked that spelling better than megan, meghan, meagan, or any of the other 100 ways to spell that name? and i really hope people aren't saying that I'm any less intelligient than a "megan" would be just because my name has an "extra letter."

sure, when i was younger i got aggravated because i could never find those bike license plates with my name spelled correctly when we went on vacation, but I'm far from damaged from the experience. as an adult, i actually think it's pretty cool to have that extra letter - it makes people remember you!

Yes

genmccarley · November 2012

My name is a unique name but also spelled differently than most people guess, so I am constantly having to correct people because they start writing/typing it before you start spelling it out for them and having to spell your name out for EVERYONE and correct every single teacher SUCKS. Make your child's life easier and spell it traditionally. Just my opinion that I've formed through having an odd-spelled name all my life.

Raeily · November 2012

megganc:
i want to know where we draw the line on calling people's parents trashy or saying that children with uniquely spelled names are somehow less intelligent.

my name is meggan - yep 2 g's! are you telling me that my parents who are both very successful are somehow trashy because they liked that spelling better than megan, meghan, meagan, or any of the other 100 ways to spell that name? and i really hope people aren't saying that I'm any less intelligient than a "megan" would be just because my name has an "extra letter."

sure, when i was younger i got aggravated because i could never find those bike license plates with my name spelled correctly when we went on vacation, but I'm far from damaged from the experience. as an adult, i actually think it's pretty cool to have that extra letter - it makes people remember you!

No one called anyone trashy that I saw or that anyone was less intelligent. But I do agree with PPs who said that a lot of these names "Look trashy". And yes, there have been studies that show it may affect the child. Meggan isn't Addylene. It's one thing (annoying as it is) to add a useless letter to a child's name, but to change the spelling so much that it actually changes the pronunciation and confuses people and the child is bad.

megganc · November 2012

LadyDelilah:
megganc:

i want to know where we draw the line on calling people's parents trashy or saying that children with uniquely spelled names are somehow less intelligent.

my name is meggan - yep 2 g's! are you telling me that my parents who are both very successful are somehow trashy because they liked that spelling better than megan, meghan, meagan, or any of the other 100 ways to spell that name? and i really hope people aren't saying that I'm any less intelligient than a "megan" would be just because my name has an "extra letter."

sure, when i was younger i got aggravated because i could never find those bike license plates with my name spelled correctly when we went on vacation, but I'm far from damaged from the experience. as an adult, i actually think it's pretty cool to have that extra letter - it makes people remember you!

I totally see where youre coming from here but wouldnt you agree that Meggan isnt the same as naming a baby Muhkynzee or Jynaffer? You have to say Megan with two g's and those other kids may have to go into an all out phonetic explanation.

i do agree...but what about olivia vs. olyvia? or cameron vs camryn? or ashley or ashleigh?

my point is we have to draw the line somewhere and i don't think we should be calling people trashy because they want to change a letter or two. i agree that I wouldnt find ways to change a perfectly good name to make it harder to tell what they name actually is - but if she wants to do that, then far be it for us to call her trashy or condemn her child to stupidity for having an odd spelled name. give the kid a chance!!

oliversmom03 · November 2012

hollowstar:
I know that names are really personal, but be glad that someone told you the truth! Because I know plenty of people whose kids' names I'm laughing at behind their back...
Adeline is really pretty (NORMALLY SPELLED) but is on the rise right now. I really like Kenley but Kinley is a Top 20 name right now as well, if that sort of thing bothers you.
Nichole doesn't bother me as much but it's way too much with the other crazy spellings.
Honestly, I think wrong spellings just make you (not YOU personally) look like trash.

This!

kfarmer92 · November 2012

Taking all of this into consideration, i've decided to go with addylene. However, I will not be spelling it that way due to pronunciation issues. I will not be using adilene or adalyn because I think those are bad ways of spelling it. I will be spelling it addylynn. I like it best that way, that's my final decision. I am not "trashy" because I want to spell it differently, thank you for your opinions ladies.

folding · November 2012

dande2129:

Those names are horrendous spelled that way. Correctly, I like them.

P.S Adeline can still be NN "Addy"... My name is Emily, and when I was young, people called me Emmy. That doesn't mean my name is spelled Emmyelee.

My parents were *this* close to naming me EmmaLeigh. Not sure what stopped them, but instead I got EricaLynn. I don't wish that upon anyone. Too bad I don't like the name Erica, that would have been easier, I suppose. But I get all sorts of weird comments/looks/side eyes often. And strange questions like, "oh are you from the South?" (I'm from Long Island.)

MrsWindyCity · November 2012

kfarmer92:
Taking all of this into consideration, i've decided to go with addylene. However, I will not be spelling it that way due to pronunciation issues. I will not be using adilene or adalyn because I think those are bad ways of spelling it. I will be spelling it addylynn. I like it best that way, that's my final decision. I am not "trashy" because I want to spell it differently, thank you for your opinions ladies.

how are you pronouncing it? serious question.

ETA: And which one? Because your first sentence says you are going with Addylene and then later you say Addylynn.

drewiekc · November 2012

Dear Baby Jesus:

Thank you for giving me parents who chose a name for me that looks appropriate on a professional resume now that I am an adult, an not just a cutesey wootsey name for their preshus baby girl.

Amen.

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caladpi02 · November 2012

I have hired people and I can tell you comments run amook with cutesy or off the wall spellings and it does impact my impression of them. As for the trashy comments, I see a lot of trashy people in my line of work, and YES they do tend to have the goofball spellings at a significantly higher rate.

rm2013 · November 2012

kfarmer92:
dande2129:
rm2013:
kfarmer92:
...because I never should have posted it. Im gonna name her what suits her, and thats no ones decision but my own and no one's opinions really matter. So my mistake on that one.
This.
Note to future name posters: If you're going to post asking for name feedback you need to be prepared to get opinions that include not liking your names, some of which you'll probably be offended by.
This.
Those names are horrendous spelled that way. Correctly, I like them.
P.S Adeline can still be NN "Addy"... My name is Emily, and when I was young, people called me Emmy. That doesn't mean my name is spelled Emmyelee.
I see the spelling adeline and think its horrendous. Thanks for your unneccesary opinions ladies, I already made my decision which us why my post was deleted.

Ok OP, I know this has been coming rapid fire at you so I'm not mad for you misquoting me, but let's be clear - I never gave my opinion on your names. I agreed with your quoted text, and the rest of my comment was for anyone else thinking of posting name suggestions - think long and hard before doing it because you may not like what you get.

At the end of the day, name your child what you want. But deleting your post just adds fuel to the fire, unfortunately once you put something out there you can't always take it back.

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