Do I dare? UO

livinginashoe · November 2012

sooner1981:
I type really fast. I had to take typing in middle school and our teachers pretty much made us learn that crap like it was our job.

My UO is that I am not a fan of tl;dr as a response. To me, it is the equivalent of receiving an open invitation to a new restaurant in town by email, and choosing the "reply all" button to let the 500 other strangers on the email thread know that "I have other plans--won't be able to attend." It doesn't add anything to the conversation and suggests a really inflated sense of self-worth to imply that other people actually care whether you personally read a comment or not.

That said, usually I like you, Shoe. Just had to get out my UO for the day.

I like you sooner, but daaaaamn. You're smart. You must be capable of brevity. You always make a good point, I just don't think you need to use so many words to do it.

Unless this counts for NaNoWriMo. If that's the case, then carry on.

poobear2015 · November 2012

I hate "totes" and "yolo"

sooner1981 · November 2012

livinginashoe:
sooner1981:

I type really fast. I had to take typing in middle school and our teachers pretty much made us learn that crap like it was our job.

My UO is that I am not a fan of tl;dr as a response. To me, it is the equivalent of receiving an open invitation to a new restaurant in town by email, and choosing the "reply all" button to let the 500 other strangers on the email thread know that "I have other plans--won't be able to attend." It doesn't add anything to the conversation and suggests a really inflated sense of self-worth to imply that other people actually care whether you personally read a comment or not.

That said, usually I like you, Shoe. Just had to get out my UO for the day.

I like you sooner, but daaaaamn. You're smart. You must be capable of brevity. You always make a good point, I just don't think you need to use so many words to do it.

Unless this counts for NaNoWriMo. If that's the case, then carry on.

I guess since I can type fast and I read fast, I don't get overwhelmed by reading a long response in a thread. In fact, sometimes I prefer them because I read these threads for entertainment purposes while I am pumping. I probably could use less words--but I literally type as a stream of conciousness. I don't go back and edit my writing for brevity the way I do at work because I figure it is the internet--and if people don't care to read it they can skip right over. Literally, I don't ever care if anyone on this forum chooses not to read something I write because it is too long. It doesn't offend me or hurt my feelings in the slightest.

jja0812 · November 2012

livinginashoe:
Jessicameron:
livinginashoe:
I guess it's a good thing that reading comprehension isn't necessary for the highly coveted position of SAHM.
Easy now!!
It did give me pause to write this, it did. And I'm not saying that SAHM's in general lack reading comprehension. Only that it's not a necessary skill for SAHMs to have. So since NL appears to lack it, there's no harm done.

I know. It wasn't even the part about reading comprehension though. It was the "highly coveted" swipe. I'm not actually offended, don't worry (not that you would). Cool

sooner1981 · November 2012

Jessicameron:
livinginashoe:

Jessicameron:
livinginashoe:
I guess it's a good thing that reading comprehension isn't necessary for the highly coveted position of SAHM.
Easy now!!

It did give me pause to write this, it did. And I'm not saying that SAHM's in general lack reading comprehension. Only that it's not a necessary skill for SAHMs to have. So since NL appears to lack it, there's no harm done.

I know. It wasn't even the part about reading comprehension though. It was the "highly coveted" swipe. I'm not actually offended, don't worry (not that you would).

I think Shoe was referencing how NL has repeatedly doubled-down on her argument that a mother isn't worth crap unless she chooses to stay at home and tend to her flock--so in her world, being a SAHM is the only "highly coveted" position for a mom.

Jen0204 · November 2012

lancyjo:
I can't stand NL, and I'm about sick of her trying to get flamed/being a twit so that she can play the martyr.

That was a confession, not a UO. I don't really care.

If you saved that for FFFC then you would likely have an actual FLAME FREE post, which is unheard of! Wink

In all honesty, NL's post didn't really seem that bad to me. I didn't take it as her calling anyone's specific H shallow, just the sentiment. If I had come on here, posted that I gave H an adorable picture of the girls for Father's Day and that he had been all butt hurt about it I bet that most people would reply that he was selfish and shallow and didn't get the sentiment of the day. If there is something specific that H wants and it's around a holiday then I get it for him (or if he asks for it, of course), but if it's something he really wants and it's affordable then I get it for him regardless of if a holiday is coming because I prefer to do nice things for no reason rather then waiting for a holiday. He's the same way, so our holiday gifts are usually pretty small, or we'll just do something special together. Based on how we look at holidays and gifts, I agree with NL (wow!) that if H asks for something specific that's one thing, but if not and he gets a photo or a card or a homemade gift and complains about it I would be pissed that he was being shallow.

88eve88 · November 2012

poobear2015:
I hate "totes" and "yolo"

I hardly ever join in on UO, but this caught my attention ...

I'm fine with "totes" and I just learned "yolo", but can't stand "cray cray" ... who makes this stuff up?!?

Bella61811 · November 2012

88eve88:

poobear2015:
I hate "totes" and "yolo"

I hardly ever join in on UO, but this caught my attention ...

I'm fine with "totes" and I just learned "yolo", but can't stand "cray cray" ... who makes this stuff up?!?

lol I actually don't mind cray cray. I sometimes call Audra "cray cray lay-day" when she's being silly

kittyh8r · November 2012

I had this UO for a couple weeks and I always forget, but now I am reminded.

If your post takes up my entire screen AND I have to scroll, your post is too long.

I usually have to skip over those because I don't have that kind of time to read it.

dmsny · November 2012

Starbuck128:

To the PP who called Christmas gifts dust collectors, I love you! DH and try to practice small space living mentality. We don't keep things unless we absolutely need them. The week after Christmas, I load up the car and make a trip to Goodwill. Another confession. I suck at UOs.

I love you too! Cash does not collect dust! I guess I am Queen of Shallow on this one.

naturegal79 · November 2012

sooner1981:
livinginashoe:
sooner1981:

I type really fast. I had to take typing in middle school and our teachers pretty much made us learn that crap like it was our job.

My UO is that I am not a fan of tl;dr as a response. To me, it is the equivalent of receiving an open invitation to a new restaurant in town by email, and choosing the "reply all" button to let the 500 other strangers on the email thread know that "I have other plans--won't be able to attend." It doesn't add anything to the conversation and suggests a really inflated sense of self-worth to imply that other people actually care whether you personally read a comment or not.

That said, usually I like you, Shoe. Just had to get out my UO for the day.

I like you sooner, but daaaaamn. You're smart. You must be capable of brevity. You always make a good point, I just don't think you need to use so many words to do it.

Unless this counts for NaNoWriMo. If that's the case, then carry on.

I guess since I can type fast and I read fast, I don't get overwhelmed by reading a long response in a thread. In fact, sometimes I prefer them because I read these threads for entertainment purposes while I am pumping. I probably could use less words--but I literally type as a stream of conciousness. I don't go back and edit my writing for brevity the way I do at work because I figure it is the internet--and if people don't care to read it they can skip right over. Literally, I don't ever care if anyone on this forum chooses not to read something I write because it is too long. It doesn't offend me or hurt my feelings in the slightest.

I like your posts FWIW.. always informative but that was a question in the back of my mind.

jja0812 · November 2012

sooner1981:
I think Shoe was referencing how NL has repeatedly doubled-down on her argument that a mother isn't worth crap unless she chooses to stay at home and tend to her flock--so in her world, being a SAHM is the only "highly coveted" position for a mom.

I totally did not think about it that way. Thank you.

mydawn · November 2012

I think gift giving between spouses is a bit silly, at least on bigger items. I can understand seeing something that you think your spouse would like and picking it up for them (a book, a gadget of some sort, etc.) but bigger gifts seem a bit pointless, at least in our relationship.

I would like a new watch for Christmas, but if money is going to be spent on something like this, I want to pick it out myself. So I will end up sending H a link of the exact watch I want and he will buy it with money from our joint account. Likewise, if he wanted a new grill I know that he would be after a certain make/model. If he has to tell me exactly what he wants anyway, why doesn't he just buy it himself? Maybe we are just both really particular, but at least we are both on the same page so it works for us.

Oh, and he totally got a framed DAD picture for Father's Day. It was adorable.

coybig · November 2012

mydawn:
I think gift giving between spouses is a bit silly, at least on bigger items. I can understand seeing something that you think your spouse would like and picking it up for them (a book, a gadget of some sort, etc.) but bigger gifts seem a bit pointless, at least in our relationship.
I would like a new watch for Christmas, but if money is going to be spent on something like this, I want to pick it out myself. So I will end up sending H a link of the exact watch I want and he will buy it with money from our joint account. Likewise, if he wanted a new grill I know that he would be after a certain make/model. If he has to tell me exactly what he wants anyway, why doesn't he just buy it himself? Maybe we are just both really particular, but at least we are both on the same page so it works for us.
Oh, and he totally got a framed DAD picture for Father's Day. It was adorable.

We do this as well. I picked it out and slid the card at the register, but I still brag that she got me a grill Wink

HattieLove · November 2012

88eve88:
poobear2015:
I hate "totes" and "yolo"
I hardly ever join in on UO, but this caught my attention ...
I'm fine with "totes" and I just learned "yolo", but can't stand "cray cray" ... who makes this stuff up?!?

Everyone knows that the "zy" is the best part of "crazy". Why would you get rid of it?

I also hate jelly, probs, and whatevs.

mydawn · November 2012

uws22:
mydawn:
I think gift giving between spouses is a bit silly, at least on bigger items. I can understand seeing something that you think your spouse would like and picking it up for them (a book, a gadget of some sort, etc.) but bigger gifts seem a bit pointless, at least in our relationship.
I would like a new watch for Christmas, but if money is going to be spent on something like this, I want to pick it out myself. So I will end up sending H a link of the exact watch I want and he will buy it with money from our joint account. Likewise, if he wanted a new grill I know that he would be after a certain make/model. If he has to tell me exactly what he wants anyway, why doesn't he just buy it himself? Maybe we are just both really particular, but at least we are both on the same page so it works for us.
Oh, and he totally got a framed DAD picture for Father's Day. It was adorable.
We do this as well. I picked it out and slid the card at the register, but I still brag that she got me a grill

Her gift was saying "yes, you can have a new grill." My gift this Christmas will be "yes, you can order yourself a new phone."

mkarns · November 2012

This argument is duuuuumb.

I think the Gerber Graduate pasta pickups are awesome. Colton loves the Ravioli and they're great for packing his lunch.

Amberrrr · November 2012

HattieLove:

Anyway, on another topic...

I have very different taste in men than most people, it seems. I think big muscles look gross, especially when they're shiny. I just don't really like the "chiseled" look. I can't fine anyone in People's Sexiest Man Alive archives that I find attractive.

I'm gonna be honest naturegal, I try not to look at your siggy gif when I scroll by. I find it super unpleasant.

ME TOO! I always felt like I was weird because I'm not attracted to that 'muscular' look. I like cuddly looking men. And I really like hair, like facial hair, long hair, even some chest hair.

Mmmmmmmmmmm, so yummy.

But, Naturegal, I have to be honest... WHile I'm not attracted to his appearance- the way he moves his body is doin it for me. Imagine being on top of him while he's doing that. Hell yeah!!!!

MollySm · November 2012

What is tl;dr?

Sept07b2b · November 2012

MollySm:
What is tl;dr?

too long; didn't read

livinginashoe · November 2012

Jessicameron:
sooner1981:
I think Shoe was referencing how NL has repeatedly doubled-down on her argument that a mother isn't worth crap unless she chooses to stay at home and tend to her flock--so in her world, being a SAHM is the only "highly coveted" position for a mom.
I totally did not think about it that way. Thank you.

Yes, sooner understood my thought process exactly.

poobear2015 · November 2012

mydawn:
I think gift giving between spouses is a bit silly

I agree - which leads to my next UO:

I don't get wedding gifts to each other. DH and I didn't exchange gifts. We said our gift to one another was us. We did pay for each others wedding bands - but I still don't consider that our gift since it is "our" money. It was just another expense that had to be taken care of so we split the cost in a sense. But you are getting married - do you need to attach a gift to it too?

Why does everything require a darn gift anyway?!