What?!?! It's a BOY?!?!?

Zippydoo · September 2012

Didn't know they made gender pee sticks....

pistolpackinmomma · September 2012

KatK421:
I do not yet know if we are having a boy or a girl, but I totally know what you mean. I feel like I have NO idea what I would do with a boy. That is completely untrue, since I have two nephews that I see on a daily basis and I adore them. However, the thought of having my own boy is, honestly, terrifying in my eyes. All the dirt, mud, cars, sports, and roughhousing? Ugh. My two year old nephew is really into making his cars and trains crash or fall off of things. I like quiet and calm. The boys are not either of those things usually. But they are a lot of fun, they give a lot of love, and they are stinking adorable. You will fall head over heels when you meet him I'm sure.
Congrats on your boy!

I'm a girl and I like all of those things, except cars. I'm more of a truck girl myself!

Any one gender does not come with set in stone rules of how they will behave. My brother is more of the video game variety while my husband skipped out on the rough housing and sports but loves mud/dirt and trucks & tractors!

doremi29 · September 2012

I haven't read the other responses, but just wanted to give you my take on being a mom of a boy. I may be a bit biased, but there's no beating it The other day he climbed up next to me, put his hand up on my shoulder and said "I yuv you, Mama" ::heart melted:: He's full of it for sure. He's all boy, rough houses, is into trucks, construction equiptment, etc. I find myself driving down the road pointing out every backhoe and often pulling over so he can see for himself. We have now attended two Monster Truck shows and many other stereotypical boy events. None of these things are my thing, but nothing beats seeing the look on your son's face when he sees all the things that amaze him. My plans for tutus and all things pink are so far out of my head. With this one, I won't be disappointed either way, but I can tell you I will be over the moon if I find out I'm having another boy.

Congrats on your boy!

Kingston54 · September 2012

I was sure LO #1 was a girl. MIL was dying for a girl and I couldn't see myself having a boy. When we found out at the ultrasound LO was a boy, I was partially in disbelief. Now that I've had him for almost 3 years, I can't imagine not having a little boy. It is THE best. Now that I'm pregnant with a girl - I'm actually worried about what I'm going to do with her! Either way you'll figure it out and love them more than anything.

dande2129 · September 2012

I hate that you not wanting to raise a "wussy boy" but wanting a girl that is a super girly girl is a statement that is what is so wrong with gender association, and the fact that a lot of men have trouble expressing feelings because they don't want to be a "wussy." I'd rather have a "wussy" of a son than one that grows up to be a flucking *** because he feels the need to constantly put on the manly-man face.

Grow the fluck up.

Icecream4me · September 2012

Think about some of your favorite boys/men (real/movies/books) and think about raising a boy like that. Think about some of the "traditional" boy activities that you enjoy and doing those with your son. I'm not sure what your what's causing your disappointment, but try to figure out what it is and deal with it. Is it really just insecurity about your ability to raise him or were there other expectations you had for your girl that you feel you have to crush? If you - you just need to replace them with new ideals/hopes.

I agree with some of the people above that just because it's a boy doesn't mean he will have all the standard "boy" qualities and that should be okay. Some boys hate rough housing as much as you do. I've seen men who are gravely disappointed when their boy ends up hating football or similar stuff. Your child will be it's own individual.

mlrafiki · September 2012

You're describing my exact feelings. I would be very happy with a boy, but nervous.... I have a sister and all female cousins, and my hubby has two sisters and three nieces, so we've got raising girls covered. Boys, though.... I am intent on raising a strong little man, if possible, but I have no gauge for when behavior is just "boys being boys" and when it's not okay. Also, DH's dad was not around when he was a kid, so he doesn't have personal observation of a good dad in action, although he's a wonderful guy himself. All this makes me really nervous about finding out we're going to have a son, but I also feel bad, because I would love a little boy just as much.

Ladies with sons.... any insight?

mlrafiki · September 2012

I'm sorry I responded and that I didn't read the other responses before I did. A lot of people are getting really nasty on this post. Not all the feelings we have in pregnancy are rational, or something we're proud of, but it would be great if this board was a safe place to talk through them with more experienced mothers.

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