SAHM is the hardest job in the world!

skibunny59 · September 2012

I can understand that you are just wanting to vent and blow off some steam but I'm not sure why you are bothered by your friends' comments if you say that you are really happy with your decision to be a working mom? I go back to work on Monday and honestly, I have really not made peace with it yet. I work because DH and I really depend on my salary and benefits. I make more than DH and we have the benefits through my job so I have to go back to work. In my situation, listening to comments like that from SAHM moms would have made me upset. But if you are truly happy with being a working mom then I don't understand why you are so upset about what they are saying.

skibunny59 · September 2012

chardonnay24:
jf198400:
OP, I did not read all of the replies, but I know a lot of moms here are flaming you. I totally get your need to vent. I would be extremely mad if I had friends like that too. I think SAHM's don't realize how emotionally hard it is to have to go back to work and are maybe just oblivious to the pain that they cause us when they talk about how great their lives are. I'm sure it's not intentional. It is much harder to be a working mom, and I think sometimes they are insensitive to that. There are a lot of supportive women on this board, both those who love their careers and want to work, and those who would much rather stay home if circumstances allowed.

For real? Do you actually think that? I've done both, and I can tell you it's 5000x easier to be a working mom. No lunch to make, no house to keep clean during the day, and I get a break from chasing a toddler around the city all day.

I think both are hard. It's hard to leave your kids when you have to go to work. My friend said she cried everyday for a year whenever she dropped her son off at daycare to go to work.

skibunny59 · September 2012

jf198400:
OP, I did not read all of the replies, but I know a lot of moms here are flaming you. I totally get your need to vent. I would be extremely mad if I had friends like that too. I think SAHM's don't realize how emotionally hard it is to have to go back to work and are maybe just oblivious to the pain that they cause us when they talk about how great their lives are. I'm sure it's not intentional. It is much harder to be a working mom, and I think sometimes they are insensitive to that. There are a lot of supportive women on this board, both those who love their careers and want to work, and those who would much rather stay home if circumstances allowed.

Well said!

skibunny59 · September 2012

skibunny59:
I can understand that you are just wanting to vent and blow off some steam but I'm not sure why you are bothered by your friends' comments if you say that you are really happy with your decision to be a working mom? I go back to work on Monday and honestly, I have really not made peace with it yet. I work because DH and I really depend on my salary and benefits. I make more than DH and we have the benefits through my job so I have to go back to work. In my situation, listening to comments like that from SAHM moms would have made me upset. But if you are truly happy with being a working mom then I don't understand why you are so upset about what they are saying.

After posting this, I realize whether you choose to go back to work or you have to go back to work to make ends meet, it's still hard either way to leave your kids. And it must have been hurtful hearing your friends' comments on how they are so lucky they can stay home and blah blah blah.

shannm · September 2012

chardonnay24:
jf198400:
OP, I did not read all of the replies, but I know a lot of moms here are flaming you. I totally get your need to vent. I would be extremely mad if I had friends like that too. I think SAHM's don't realize how emotionally hard it is to have to go back to work and are maybe just oblivious to the pain that they cause us when they talk about how great their lives are. I'm sure it's not intentional. It is much harder to be a working mom, and I think sometimes they are insensitive to that. There are a lot of supportive women on this board, both those who love their careers and want to work, and those who would much rather stay home if circumstances allowed.

For real? Do you actually think that? I've done both, and I can tell you it's 5000x easier to be a working mom. No lunch to make, no house to keep clean during the day, and I get a break from chasing a toddler around the city all day.

Wait....I didn't get the memo....so I don't have to pack four lunches or clean my house at night?

(For the record, I have no opinion about what is harder. I personally think that every situation has different demands and it is really hard to compare. I just though the statement about working moms not having to take care of that stuff too was funny.)

LillyGrrl · September 2012

Erinmmo:

see once you have a baby- everything revolves around that- you will always question everything from here on out and compare lives of others to what you do. Just stay confident- easier said then done- I struggle with all I do but lean on family for support- they always tell it like it is!

Well this may be an unpopular opinion but my life and everything I do does NOT revolve around my children. It revolves around what is best for ALL of us, including me and my husband. Sorry but I love my kids but they don't dictate all my actions.

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