My confession (which is an opinion, but whatever) is I love the photo contests and I hope they don't die off. I am not creative and I love having a theme to fit into so I have cool pics of LO. But maybe I'm just another photo AW.
I wish more people would/could participate in the photo contests! When it first started we had so many, and it was awesome to look at...I like to participate even if I don't have something that I think is a "winner" per say...granted I have a decent amount of time on my hands...but now it seems like it's dwindling, and it makes me wonder if we should just shake and say, "good game!" (even though I SERIOUSLY want to win one time :P )
I would love to do the contests but I just have a cute kid. I can't compete with elaborate set ups. I just don't have time between the two kids and working full time.
Every single week I forget what time it is posted, what time it ends, what time to vote, etc. EVERY SINGLE WEEK. Unless someone reminds me, I forget to submit something.
I did one of the baby photo contests. I decided it wasn't for me. I was finding that I kept checking to see it Pilar got any comments and what they were. I have also stopped looking at them too. I find that some of the people that post more often seem to get more comments. There is an underlying popularity contest that I don't think a lot of people notice. It really bugs me. Obviously there are people that are getting hurt when no one comments on their LO. It's just not worth it to me.
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I did one of the baby photo contests. I decided it wasn't for me. I was finding that I kept checking to see it Pilar got any comments and what they were. I have also stopped looking at them too. I find that some of the people that post more often seem to get more comments. There is an underlying popularity contest that I don't think a lot of people notice. It really bugs me. Obviously there are people that are getting hurt when no one comments on their LO. It's just not worth it to me.
Well that too. I found that I would risk getting caught at work to see if anyone thought DD as cute as I do. I also notice that it seems to be the popular kids too.
Sorry no paragraphs, bumping from my phone.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11!
Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
I did one of the baby photo contests. I decided it wasn't for me. I was finding that I kept checking to see it Pilar got any comments and what they were. I have also stopped looking at them too. I find that some of the people that post more often seem to get more comments. There is an underlying popularity contest that I don't think a lot of people notice. It really bugs me. Obviously there are people that are getting hurt when no one comments on their LO. It's just not worth it to me.
I think that is sort of unfair. I have seen " popular" posters get comments and wins and so have people that don't post as much. If you are doing it for fun and not for accolades or comments then feelings can't get hurt. I seriously doubt anyone was vindictive or trying to be mean by not posting on every single baby. Sorry, I think it's unfair to make a blanket statement like that on everyone here like we are heartless and mean towards ANY baby or child.
I did one of the baby photo contests. I decided it wasn't for me. I was finding that I kept checking to see it Pilar got any comments and what they were. I have also stopped looking at them too. I find that some of the people that post more often seem to get more comments. There is an underlying popularity contest that I don't think a lot of people notice. It really bugs me. Obviously there are people that are getting hurt when no one comments on their LO. It's just not worth it to me.
I think that is sort of unfair. I have seen " popular" posters get comments and wins and so have people that don't post as much. If you are doing it for fun and not for accolades or comments then feelings can't get hurt. I seriously doubt anyone was vindictive or trying to be mean by not posting on every single baby. Sorry, I think it's unfair to make a blanket statement like that on everyone here like we are heartless and mean towards ANY baby or child.
Maybe I didn't explain myself. It is not that anyone is doing anything on purpose. It is just the law of attraction. If you are more familiar with someone or have a better connection then you are more likely to comment on that person's baby. It's just like year book comments or if you go to a graduation the more you know the person the more you are likely to comment.
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I think this turned into a bash AmandaR thread and honestly I don't like it. Of course this is flame free and I don't mean to start drama but she is so sweet to everyone and so what if she posts a lot of pictures of herself. Wether she is fishing for compliments or not it really should not make a difference, if you don't like it don't look. Also, some should remember that even the most beautiful people could have self esteem issues. She spoke before about not being one of the popular girls everyone hated in high school but rather the shy girl who people thought was rude because of her shyness. Sometimes those with low self esteem (not saying you have it AmandaR) may need a boost occasionally. Being happy because she posts an off picture of herself just seems a bit immature to me. Sorry- had to say it.
Softskate- Just wanted to let you know congrats on your weight loss. I just wanted to share my experience though... Before lo I lost 120lbs and still had a bit more weight to lose. I never ever lost that perception of being the fat girl. I hope that part of how you personally identify yourself goes away with your weight because it is horrible to be a 'normal size' and still see yourself the same way. Now that I am still holding on to 35lbs of baby weight I think I look morbidly obese and see that 300lbs person still...
My fffc- I purge. I lie to dh about it all the time and I pray I can stop before lo gets older. It is the only time during the day I feel calm. I did it during pregnancy too because the doctor kept telling me that 'for my weight' i was gaining too much. I had lost so much weight so quickly and a lot of it is because of purging. I put ALL of my self worth into how much I weight or how clothes fit. Part of me wants to get better but I am afraid if I do I will gain back weight. Another part of me wants to stay purging 1-2 times a day and feeling in control just that tiny bit. I diet, I try to work out, I just want to feel that I am a good person and worthy of friends and such and I just am so shallow that I think the reason I have few friends is because I am fat and no one would want to be my friend. I was made fun of so much as I was younger and being depressed and self loathing has become my personality.
First of all, I think THIS is what makes threads turn into bashing threads. I only saw like 2 MAYBE 3 posters say something genuinely unkind about AmandaR. The rest of us were just saying that her pictures aren't ugly. <--I don't get how that is mean? It's mean to call someone attractive and say she can't take a bad picture? OK.
By having all these people start in on "Oh this thread is turning into a bashing thread" it draws all this attention to it and makes it seem that EVERYONE in everythreadever is bashing AmandaR. That isn't the case.
Secondly, I am not going to use kid gloves with this because you need to hear it. What you are doing is incredibly unhealthy and unstable. You have a daughter who needs you. A husband who needs you. You need you. Becoming a healthy person needs to be a priority for you RIGHTNOW. Not tomorrow, not next week, rightfuckingnow. The slippery slope you are on right now is not going to get better without an intervention and the sooner you seek help to fix this behavior, the better.
I am not trying to bully you, or pick on you, or be mean to you. But you need to get some help. No one on here can help you, and you can't help yourself. You need to see someone ASAP.
I don't know why I am bother responding I just said what I thought. I NEVER post in FFFC and this was the first time I did. Ill just keep my opinions to myself. I did not call anyone out I did not say everyone was bashing her. I just felt like it was turning into that direction by people (2 or 3) brining her name up over and over and some of the comments that were made. I think there are things said that are a lot worse that result in bashing threads or unwanted attention.
Also I thought fffc was supposed to be flame free. I read what mrs+harlow said about her friend and it was in my head to 'confess' my issue. I was not looking for help from anyone here I was just sharing something about myself. I am sorry.
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I don't know why I am bother responding I just said what I thought. I NEVER post in FFFC and this was the first time I did. Ill just keep my opinions to myself. I did not call anyone out I did not say everyone was bashing her. I just felt like it was turning into that direction by people (2 or 3) brining her name up over and over and some of the comments that were made. I think there are things said that are a lot worse that result in bashing threads or unwanted attention.
Also I thought fffc was supposed to be flame free. I read what mrs+harlow said about her friend and it was in my head to 'confess' my issue. I was not looking for help from anyone here I was just sharing something about myself. I am sorry.
I think that anything I say to you at this point you are going to take personally. You don't need to apologize for saying what you said. You were being honest, and that's an excellent trait. I'm not bashing you or flaming you. I quoted you for the first part because you were the closest poster I could find that said that. I do think you need to get help for the second part of your FFFC. I don't think it is mean for me to say that you need help. I'm being honest, and I think if you were being honesty you would say that you agree with me.
For the record, I think you are a really cool girl. You always have something nice to say and you have good input when people are having problems. Me commenting on your problem with purging is not a personal reflection of how I feel towards you. It's how I feel towards your problem. I think it sucks, and that you need to seek help for it. I don't think you are a terrible person or that you should stop posting or anything like that. You rock. But I'm not going to sit here and pretend that you don't need help to spare your feelings. I hope that makes sense.
Maybe I didn't explain myself. It is not that anyone is doing anything on purpose. It is just the law of attraction. If you are more familiar with someone or have a better connection then you are more likely to comment on that person's baby. It's just like year book comments or if you go to a graduation the more you know the person the more you are likely to comment.
Just got through all the pages. I think this hits the nail on the head. It's like the claim that there are "cliques." There aren't really, but some people have a closer connection to others, and so are more prone to engage with them and comment on their posts. I've definitely noticed it, but don't believe it's deliberate or in any way mean-spirited. It's just natural to gravitate toward someone with whom you're more familiar.
I did one of the baby photo contests. I decided it wasn't for me. I was finding that I kept checking to see it Pilar got any comments and what they were. I have also stopped looking at them too. I find that some of the people that post more often seem to get more comments. There is an underlying popularity contest that I don't think a lot of people notice. It really bugs me. Obviously there are people that are getting hurt when no one comments on their LO. It's just not worth it to me.
I think that is sort of unfair. I have seen " popular" posters get comments and wins and so have people that don't post as much. If you are doing it for fun and not for accolades or comments then feelings can't get hurt. I seriously doubt anyone was vindictive or trying to be mean by not posting on every single baby. Sorry, I think it's unfair to make a blanket statement like that on everyone here like we are heartless and mean towards ANY baby or child.
I'm going to piggy-back this and say that this whole "popularity" thing is created by ya'll. If you didn't have this cliquey mindset and sensitivity to popularity or whatever then you could see that there isn't a popularity contest on here. Also, the more you call certain posters "popular" the bigger their head gets and the bigger complex they have and the more "power" they have over you guys. This is a public message board. I think some people need a reality check.
I don't know. I feel like I post a lot, and J hasn't gotten a lot of mentions in the photo contests that I've participated in. I didn't put a lot of effort into them, so for the most part, I'm not really surprised, but I just think I post enough that if people were going just on name recognition, she would have gotten more attention.
Maybe I didn't explain myself. It is not that anyone is doing anything on purpose. It is just the law of attraction. If you are more familiar with someone or have a better connection then you are more likely to comment on that person's baby. It's just like year book comments or if you go to a graduation the more you know the person the more you are likely to comment.
Just got through all the pages. I think this hits the nail on the head. It's like the claim that there are "cliques." There aren't really, but some people have a closer connection to others, and so are more prone to engage with them and comment on their posts. I've definitely noticed it, but don't believe it's deliberate or in any way mean-spirited. It's just natural to gravitate toward someone with whom you're more familiar.
This was said much better than I could say it.
Sorry no paragraphs, bumping from my phone.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11!
Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
I don't participate in the photo contests anymore because I don't think my LO can compete with how CUTE everyone else's pictures/LO/setups turn out. This isn't a whah-whah we get no votes comment, just complimenting everyone's babies and creativity.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
Also, my sister suggested this year (the year that I finally have a child to be spoiled by myself and family), that we should just buy one "nice" gift for everyone. After this I'm thinking, hmm okay well I don't want anything and why does your child get 7 years of piles of gifts and now since you realize your kid doesn't use most of them, that my child should only get 3? We don't really have much for Ben and were kind of hoping to actually have things for him to play with...
I can understand if someone doesn't really have the money to buy gifts or whatever, but we're family...so just come out and say it! I always tell my family when I'm not able to get anything for a holiday or birthday.
Yup, I know I am a selfish brat! I also know that getting gifts is not a right, but a privilege and I should be thankful for getting anything at all. I would never say these things to my family though, I just go along with whatever they decide. I don't even care that this makes me sound like an immature child. FFFC, right?
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I don't know. I feel like I post a lot, and J hasn't gotten a lot of mentions in the photo contests that I've participated in. I didn't put a lot of effort into them, I for the most part, I'm not really surprised, but I just think I post enough that if people were going just on name recognition, she would have gotten more attention.
I post a lot here too, but I've never won. This week I'm in the finals but there was like a 40% chance of me getting in it cause there were so few of us that entered. The other 2 ladies in the finals don't post very often. I personally do it for fun. Only once did I really think I had a chance at winning.
Sorry no paragraphs, bumping from my phone.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11!
Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
I don't participate in the photo contests anymore because I don't think my LO can compete with how CUTE everyone else's pictures/LO/setups turn out. This isn't a whah-whah we get no votes comment, just complimenting everyone's babies and creativity.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
Also, my sister suggested this year (the year that I finally have a child to be spoiled by myself and family), that we should just buy one "nice" gift for everyone. After this I'm thinking, hmm okay well I don't want anything and why does your child get 7 years of piles of gifts and now since you realize your kid doesn't use most of them, that my child should only get 3? We don't really have much for Ben and were kind of hoping to actually have things for him to play with...
I can understand if someone doesn't really have the money to buy gifts or whatever, but we're family...so just come out and say it! I always tell my family when I'm not able to get anything for a holiday or birthday.
Yup, I know I am a selfish brat! I also know that getting gifts is not a right, but a privilege and I should be thankful for getting anything at all. I would never say these things to my family though, I just go along with whatever they decide. I don't even care that this makes me sound like an immature child. FFFC, right?
I totally get what you are saying. You just wish you would get the same treatment that they got. I have similar feelings with my family too.
My confession (which is an opinion, but whatever) is I love the photo contests and I hope they don't die off. I am not creative and I love having a theme to fit into so I have cool pics of LO. But maybe I'm just another photo AW.
I wish more people would/could participate in the photo contests! When it first started we had so many, and it was awesome to look at...I like to participate even if I don't have something that I think is a "winner" per say...granted I have a decent amount of time on my hands...but now it seems like it's dwindling, and it makes me wonder if we should just shake and say, "good game!" (even though I SERIOUSLY want to win one time :P )
I would love to do the contests but I just have a cute kid. I can't compete with elaborate set ups. I just don't have time between the two kids and working full time.
Every single week I forget what time it is posted, what time it ends, what time to vote, etc. EVERY SINGLE WEEK. Unless someone reminds me, I forget to submit something.
Just remember it like this: hump day bump day turned into hump day baby day which started being themed after pot babies so we still post on Wednesday since its still HDBD.
thanks, I always think their cute, but he's my kid and I should link that. There are a ton of really cute other kids and creative moms so that is why I'm like, well I'll do it for fun. I think it takes the pressure off if you set no expectations of it.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
I always got shafted being the oldest.
I wanted a TV for my room, and I finally got one at 16. The same year my sister got one at 12.
She also gets the cool gifts. She got an iPad because she was still in college. I got a box of cookies. Yummy cookies. But not an iPad.
This year my ILs suggested presents only for the grandkids (or nieces and nephews depending on who you are).
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
I always got shafted being the oldest.
I wanted a TV for my room, and I finally got one at 16. The same year my sister got one at 12.
She also gets the cool gifts. She got an iPad because she was still in college. I got a box of cookies. Yummy cookies. But not an iPad.
This year my ILs suggested presents only for the grandkids (or nieces and nephews depending on who you are).
Eff that! I want a present.
Aw that stinks...at least you got cookies! I want a present too. I wish I had signed up for the random crap exchange thing! I don't have a lot of random crap in my house since I cleaned it out. Also, I didn't know how much it cost to ship things. I think if we do a secret Santa swap I will do it this time.
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I don't know. I feel like I post a lot, and J hasn't gotten a lot of mentions in the photo contests that I've participated in. I didn't put a lot of effort into them, I for the most part, I'm not really surprised, but I just think I post enough that if people were going just on name recognition, she would have gotten more attention.
I post a lot here too, but I've never won. This week I'm in the finals but there was like a 40% chance of me getting in it cause there were so few of us that entered. The other 2 ladies in the finals don't post very often. I personally do it for fun. Only once did I really think I had a chance at winning.
I feel like I post a lot too (well, a decent amount) and I have participated in almost every single contest, and I've never won. But I also don't think it's a popularity contest like you guys are talking about. I also think the clique thing is BS, but that's a different story y'all!!
I don't consider myself part of a clique, but here's how it works for me: I have limited time to bump these days. So I go on the main page and I open threads that look juicy OR that I think I could be helpful with OR that were started by someone I feel that I have a friendship with. So that does mean that I don't always comment on newer posters' stuff, because I haven't yet had an opportunity to build that connection. Like any group, it takes time to get to know people and to "break in." But it's not because people are mean, it's just normal group dynamics.
My second FFFC of the day: I still haven't heard Call Me Maybe. I don't even know who sings it. Heck, for all I know it's instrumental, lol.
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For all you people who have never heard Call Me Maybe, just skip it and go straight to the Share It Maybe video which is AMAZING. Cookie monster is my spirit animal.
I don't participate in the photo contests anymore because I don't think my LO can compete with how CUTE everyone else's pictures/LO/setups turn out. This isn't a whah-whah we get no votes comment, just complimenting everyone's babies and creativity.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
Also, my sister suggested this year (the year that I finally have a child to be spoiled by myself and family), that we should just buy one "nice" gift for everyone. After this I'm thinking, hmm okay well I don't want anything and why does your child get 7 years of piles of gifts and now since you realize your kid doesn't use most of them, that my child should only get 3? We don't really have much for Ben and were kind of hoping to actually have things for him to play with...
I can understand if someone doesn't really have the money to buy gifts or whatever, but we're family...so just come out and say it! I always tell my family when I'm not able to get anything for a holiday or birthday.
Yup, I know I am a selfish brat! I also know that getting gifts is not a right, but a privilege and I should be thankful for getting anything at all. I would never say these things to my family though, I just go along with whatever they decide. I don't even care that this makes me sound like an immature child. FFFC, right?
I totally get what you are saying. You just wish you would get the same treatment that they got. I have similar feelings with my family too.
I totally get it. My step mom has two spinter sisters who have done very well for themselves. For some reason they feel sorry for my middle sister and of course spoil my youngest because she was the baby of that generation. I always got more than enough from my family, but what they get is amazing.
Both my sisters got ballet lessons, soccor camp, piano lessons, etc. I got one year of ballet. I think that it is because I didn't know how to have my step mom to advocate for me not to mention my mom always made me feel special. I felt the difference though.
As I have gotten older my step mom has become a better advocate for me, and I have become a better advocate for me. I won't say that inequality doesn't still bother me, but I feel differently about it.
I think the turning point was this year when I met my dad at my middle sister's house just after he had taken her car to get an oil change. I asked him with tears in my eyes why didn't he ever take my car for an oil change. He told my because I didn't need him to do it. That I was able to do it on my own and had always been able to take care of myself.
I know that my dad is proud of me, but I did need the support that he gave my sister just as much.
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I don't participate in the photo contests anymore because I don't think my LO can compete with how CUTE everyone else's pictures/LO/setups turn out. This isn't a whah-whah we get no votes comment, just complimenting everyone's babies and creativity.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
Also, my sister suggested this year (the year that I finally have a child to be spoiled by myself and family), that we should just buy one "nice" gift for everyone. After this I'm thinking, hmm okay well I don't want anything and why does your child get 7 years of piles of gifts and now since you realize your kid doesn't use most of them, that my child should only get 3? We don't really have much for Ben and were kind of hoping to actually have things for him to play with...
I can understand if someone doesn't really have the money to buy gifts or whatever, but we're family...so just come out and say it! I always tell my family when I'm not able to get anything for a holiday or birthday.
Yup, I know I am a selfish brat! I also know that getting gifts is not a right, but a privilege and I should be thankful for getting anything at all. I would never say these things to my family though, I just go along with whatever they decide. I don't even care that this makes me sound like an immature child. FFFC, right?
I totally get what you are saying. You just wish you would get the same treatment that they got. I have similar feelings with my family too.
I totally get it. My step mom has two spinter sisters who have done very well for themselves. For some reason they feel sorry for my middle sister and of course spoil my youngest because she was the baby of that generation. I always got more than enough from my family, but what they get is amazing.
Both my sisters got ballet lessons, soccor camp, piano lessons, etc. I got one year of ballet. I think that it is because I didn't know how to have my step mom to advocate for me not to mention my mom always made me feel special. I felt the difference though.
As I have gotten older my step mom has become a better advocate for me, and I have become a better advocate for me. I won't say that inequality doesn't still bother me, but I feel differently about it.
I think the turning point was this year when I met my dad at my middle sister's house just after he had taken her car to get an oil change. I asked him with tears in my eyes why didn't he ever take my car for an oil change. He told my because I didn't need him to do it. That I was able to do it on my own and had always been able to take care of myself.
I know that my dad is proud of me, but I did need the support that he gave my sister just as much.
That is what sucks about always being the "strong one", you always get that label so imo one thinks you need any help in anyway since you are always strong. Sometimes the "strong ones" need more help than the "weak ones".
Shameful.... Yesterday when AmandaR posted the pic of her preggers in the animal print I was kind of happy cause it wasn't flattering. She is always so freakin pretty and I'm jealous! Sorry Amanda!
I honestly thought she looked awesome! Much better than I did in all of my pregnancy pictures, that's for sure.
Yep she did look awesome, but not as good as now. It is hard to remember everyone gains weight during pregnancy, even the pretty girls
Okay sweetie. You can stop digging now.
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I know I am waaaay late to this party but just wanted to say that I don't think the photo contest is a popularity contest at all! As the person that counts allllll the votes, I think I would know!! I often find myself thinking "who the heck is this person?" yes some more frequent posters have won but I really think it's because their pictures were better/cuter/more creative/etc..l I really, really believe this! If it wasn't midnight I would go through all the past vote counts and let you know what "unpopular" people have gotten a lot of votes but it's too late! Off the top of my head I can think of Lolabelle and Djgirl19. At the same time Gisa or Amanda Or Tamcat are "popular" and participate but haven't received a lot of votes... (sorry to name names but I think it's important)
On the same note, I see how people could feel hurt if they don't get comments or votes- I personally put lot of thought into most of my entries so it is a bummer when other people don't find it cute/fun/etc.
Anyway, just my opinion on the issue since I'm quite involved. It's just for fun!!!!
This isn't flameworthy but another confession is that I know EVERY SINGLE word to Notorious BIG's Juicy and One More Chance. They are classics, just like Jane Eyre.
This made me fall in love with you.
+1! Tell me you Enter the 36 Chambers and I might stalk you obsessively.
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I feel five pounds lighter every day after i take a dump. I love pooping.
Oh jacka02, how I love thee. Me too.
I love being a SAHM, it's such a great gift that DH gives me every day,especially because we wanted a child for so long. But I've been reading so many things, and then I read Ernie's blog about The Awakening, and it solidified that I need to get back to school for a M.A at least. I feel like I'm wasting away potential and getting stupider by each passing day. It's just not an option where we live to do what I want.
Soooo late to the party that you might not even see this, but what field,would you be studying? I'm a giant nerd who wants to be in school forever!
Etta Jane and Claire Elaine are here! Born March 28, 2012.
Re: FFFC!
Every single week I forget what time it is posted, what time it ends, what time to vote, etc. EVERY SINGLE WEEK. Unless someone reminds me, I forget to submit something.
Well that too. I found that I would risk getting caught at work to see if anyone thought DD as cute as I do. I also notice that it seems to be the popular kids too.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11! Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
I think that is sort of unfair. I have seen " popular" posters get comments and wins and so have people that don't post as much. If you are doing it for fun and not for accolades or comments then feelings can't get hurt. I seriously doubt anyone was vindictive or trying to be mean by not posting on every single baby. Sorry, I think it's unfair to make a blanket statement like that on everyone here like we are heartless and mean towards ANY baby or child.
Maybe I didn't explain myself. It is not that anyone is doing anything on purpose. It is just the law of attraction. If you are more familiar with someone or have a better connection then you are more likely to comment on that person's baby. It's just like year book comments or if you go to a graduation the more you know the person the more you are likely to comment.
I don't know why I am bother responding I just said what I thought. I NEVER post in FFFC and this was the first time I did. Ill just keep my opinions to myself. I did not call anyone out I did not say everyone was bashing her. I just felt like it was turning into that direction by people (2 or 3) brining her name up over and over and some of the comments that were made. I think there are things said that are a lot worse that result in bashing threads or unwanted attention.
Also I thought fffc was supposed to be flame free. I read what mrs+harlow said about her friend and it was in my head to 'confess' my issue. I was not looking for help from anyone here I was just sharing something about myself. I am sorry.
I think that anything I say to you at this point you are going to take personally. You don't need to apologize for saying what you said. You were being honest, and that's an excellent trait. I'm not bashing you or flaming you. I quoted you for the first part because you were the closest poster I could find that said that. I do think you need to get help for the second part of your FFFC. I don't think it is mean for me to say that you need help. I'm being honest, and I think if you were being honesty you would say that you agree with me.
For the record, I think you are a really cool girl. You always have something nice to say and you have good input when people are having problems. Me commenting on your problem with purging is not a personal reflection of how I feel towards you. It's how I feel towards your problem. I think it sucks, and that you need to seek help for it. I don't think you are a terrible person or that you should stop posting or anything like that. You rock. But I'm not going to sit here and pretend that you don't need help to spare your feelings. I hope that makes sense.
I'm going to piggy-back this and say that this whole "popularity" thing is created by ya'll. If you didn't have this cliquey mindset and sensitivity to popularity or whatever then you could see that there isn't a popularity contest on here. Also, the more you call certain posters "popular" the bigger their head gets and the bigger complex they have and the more "power" they have over you guys. This is a public message board. I think some people need a reality check.
This was said much better than I could say it.
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11! Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
I don't participate in the photo contests anymore because I don't think my LO can compete with how CUTE everyone else's pictures/LO/setups turn out. This isn't a whah-whah we get no votes comment, just complimenting everyone's babies and creativity.
My FFFC: I always get jipped out og gifts when it comes to Christmas time. My sisters are 6 and 10 years older than me and a couple years ago my family decided to just buy gifts for the grandchildren/LOs and I thought to myself, "What the heck, that's not really fair to me..."
Also, my sister suggested this year (the year that I finally have a child to be spoiled by myself and family), that we should just buy one "nice" gift for everyone. After this I'm thinking, hmm okay well I don't want anything and why does your child get 7 years of piles of gifts and now since you realize your kid doesn't use most of them, that my child should only get 3? We don't really have much for Ben and were kind of hoping to actually have things for him to play with...
I can understand if someone doesn't really have the money to buy gifts or whatever, but we're family...so just come out and say it! I always tell my family when I'm not able to get anything for a holiday or birthday.
Yup, I know I am a selfish brat! I also know that getting gifts is not a right, but a privilege and I should be thankful for getting anything at all. I would never say these things to my family though, I just go along with whatever they decide. I don't even care that this makes me sound like an immature child. FFFC, right?
I thought yours was cute.
ETA: I should quoted Huahua
I once had a picture until the trolls showed up.
TTC #1 7/08 PCOS dx 8/28/04 Met 1000 mg and Clomid cycles 1-4 1/6/09-5/2/09 BFN
Clomid 100mg 6/4/09=O'd=BFP on 6/29/09! Beta@14DPO 70.8 Beta@16DPO 152. EDD 3/7/10.
First u/s on 7/13/09 @6w0d heard and saw heartbeat 102 bpm.
K M #1 arrived via c/s 3/1/10 10 lbs, 22 inches long at 39 weeks.
Surprise expecting #2. Med-free BFP on 8/1/11! Beta@15DPO 58.2 Beta@17DPO 198.3 Beta@23DPO 2338. EDD 4/9/12
K M #2 arrived via c/s 3/19/12 9 lbs 2 oz, 21 inches long at 37 weeks.
"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane."
Just remember it like this: hump day bump day turned into hump day baby day which started being themed after pot babies so we still post on Wednesday since its still HDBD.
I always got shafted being the oldest.
I wanted a TV for my room, and I finally got one at 16. The same year my sister got one at 12.
She also gets the cool gifts. She got an iPad because she was still in college. I got a box of cookies. Yummy cookies. But not an iPad.
This year my ILs suggested presents only for the grandkids (or nieces and nephews depending on who you are).
Eff that! I want a present.
Aw that stinks...at least you got cookies! I want a present too.
I wish I had signed up for the random crap exchange thing! I don't have a lot of random crap in my house since I cleaned it out. Also, I didn't know how much it cost to ship things. I think if we do a secret Santa swap I will do it this time. 
I feel like I post a lot too (well, a decent amount) and I have participated in almost every single contest, and I've never won. But I also don't think it's a popularity contest like you guys are talking about. I also think the clique thing is BS, but that's a different story y'all!!
I don't consider myself part of a clique, but here's how it works for me: I have limited time to bump these days. So I go on the main page and I open threads that look juicy OR that I think I could be helpful with OR that were started by someone I feel that I have a friendship with. So that does mean that I don't always comment on newer posters' stuff, because I haven't yet had an opportunity to build that connection. Like any group, it takes time to get to know people and to "break in." But it's not because people are mean, it's just normal group dynamics.
My second FFFC of the day: I still haven't heard Call Me Maybe. I don't even know who sings it. Heck, for all I know it's instrumental, lol.
I watched a snippet of the video on youtube and was horrified. I couldn't x out of there fast enough.
For all you people who have never heard Call Me Maybe, just skip it and go straight to the Share It Maybe video which is AMAZING. Cookie monster is my spirit animal.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qTIGg3I5y8
I totally get it. My step mom has two spinter sisters who have done very well for themselves. For some reason they feel sorry for my middle sister and of course spoil my youngest because she was the baby of that generation. I always got more than enough from my family, but what they get is amazing.
Both my sisters got ballet lessons, soccor camp, piano lessons, etc. I got one year of ballet. I think that it is because I didn't know how to have my step mom to advocate for me not to mention my mom always made me feel special. I felt the difference though.
As I have gotten older my step mom has become a better advocate for me, and I have become a better advocate for me. I won't say that inequality doesn't still bother me, but I feel differently about it.
I think the turning point was this year when I met my dad at my middle sister's house just after he had taken her car to get an oil change. I asked him with tears in my eyes why didn't he ever take my car for an oil change. He told my because I didn't need him to do it. That I was able to do it on my own and had always been able to take care of myself.
I know that my dad is proud of me, but I did need the support that he gave my sister just as much.
Okay sweetie. You can stop digging now.
I know I am waaaay late to this party but just wanted to say that I don't think the photo contest is a popularity contest at all! As the person that counts allllll the votes, I think I would know!! I often find myself thinking "who the heck is this person?" yes some more frequent posters have won but I really think it's because their pictures were better/cuter/more creative/etc..l I really, really believe this! If it wasn't midnight I would go through all the past vote counts and let you know what "unpopular" people have gotten a lot of votes but it's too late! Off the top of my head I can think of Lolabelle and Djgirl19. At the same time Gisa or Amanda Or Tamcat are "popular" and participate but haven't received a lot of votes... (sorry to name names but I think it's important)
On the same note, I see how people could feel hurt if they don't get comments or votes- I personally put lot of thought into most of my entries so it is a bummer when other people don't find it cute/fun/etc.
Anyway, just my opinion on the issue since I'm quite involved. It's just for fun!!!!
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