Flame Free, can I start it?

TrudyCampbell · August 2012

DevonPow:

A spin off of an earlier post - as we get into flu season, anyone who posts "I/we don't get the flu shot because it always gives me the flu" or, "I get the flu every year and it isn't bad, hence no need for the flu shot" or "they just added in H1N1/whatever do it is untested!", my opinion of their overall intelligence goes down. If you don't want the shot for other reasons, more power to you, but those 3 drive me INSANE. It is new every.single.year. It is a dead virus. The flu is an evil *** that sucks donkey balls, snd yes can/does kill. That stomach bug you had was NOT the flu. End rant

Yes

Butterbrot · August 2012

TrudyCampbell:
When I look back at pictures of V from her first month or so I don't think she was a very cute baby. At the time I thought she was adorable. Looking back, not so much. I think she's super cute now but maybe in 3 months I'll look back and change my mind again!? I also didn't know this was the FFFC thread when I first replied earlier! Oops.

I don't care what anyone says ... most newborns are weird-looking. Isaac looked like a wrinkled old midget. Now he's adorable.

puppylove64 · August 2012

I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Butterbrot · August 2012

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Meh. I was an only child and I turned out fine. *hurls coffee cup across the room, then runs to write a poem about it.*

There are lots of people who hate their siblings. It's all about luck of the genetic draw. I won't be alone when my mom dies; I have my own family now.

TrudyCampbell · August 2012

geekychic:
I was the kid who told all the other kids there was no Santa. I felt that adults were deceiving us and everyone deserved to know.
I did it at Show and Tell.

This is PURE EVIL! And also one of the funniest things I've ever heard. I stopped believing at a really young age and pretended to believe to make my parents happy which is kind of sad. I hope V believes for a while!

IttyBittyBee · August 2012

ADub09:
IttyBittyBee:
Ok, here's a doozy. I judge people's cleanlinessnbsp;by thier outdoor landscaping.nbsp;nbsp; [:] I often think if thier outside is in shambles, then thier house must be a gross disaster and the people must be slobs... but if thier lawns are meticulously cut, they have nice landscaping and flowers, then thier house must be the same way very clean and orderly. Mynbsp;thoughts are usually proven to be true.
And your poor spelling makes me judge you!

That was biitchy.

FWIW, I type really fast and the spell check button doesn't work on my computer. (ANNND I just learned how to spell "their" - thanks jacka02)

I'm guessing your landscaping isn't up to par?

katieh1017 · August 2012

DevonPow:
katieh1017:

My FFFC is part of my response to MsCatra... I do not want another child. DH and I had said we would be one and done anyways, but I wasn't 100% sure that is how I felt and would give it thought later. Now I am sure. I feel bad about this because part of the main reason is because I couldn't handle L's colic. I feel guilty because internally I am blaming her behavior on my decision. I don't resent her at all and that's not what I am saying, I just feel bad that is the reason. The crying non-stop for 2 months took a toll on me and my PPD was really bad. I know that it's in the past now, I feel normal again and she really has turned into a different baby and she is happy. She only cries now when she is tired. I feel good around her now and she is my baby.

Don't feel bad. We were one and done for a loooong time, and it was 100% due to how difficult DS1 was as an infant and the trouble I had adjusting/dealing with it. I didn't feel badly about the decision at all, because I knew that in order to be the best mom I could be to DS1 I could only have 1 - my bandwidth could not handle 2 (at that point). Obviously things changed as DS1 got older (terrible infant often equals awesome toddler/preschooler in my opinion!) and we changed our minds. DS2 is a wonderful addition to our family, and the 5 year age difference is perfect for us . But, if we had stayed a family of 3 it would have been fine - IMO there are a lot of advantages to being an only child.

Thank you to you and Sunshine for responding and the nice words . I don't have any friends who have one child, so I guess I feel judged a bit by them, but I think that is just me feeling still guilty about it - no one has commented to make me feel that way. And then comments such as the one posted a few above this about only children being spoiled, parents being selfish are annoying. I am also 37 so I felt the pressure to make a decision sooner than later. In the end, I am happy to just have L and a family of 3 really does fit good with our life!

Butterbrot · August 2012

IttyBittyBee:
ADub09:
IttyBittyBee:
Ok, here's a doozy. I judge people's cleanlinessnbsp;by thier outdoor landscaping.nbsp;nbsp; [:] I often think if thier outside is in shambles, then thier house must be a gross disaster and the people must be slobs... but if thier lawns are meticulously cut, they have nice landscaping and flowers, then thier house must be the same way very clean and orderly. Mynbsp;thoughts are usually proven to be true.
And your poor spelling makes me judge you!

That was biitchy.

FWIW, I type really fast and the spell check button doesn't work on my computer. (ANNND I just learned how to spell "their" - thanks jacka02)

I'm guessing your landscaping isn't up to par?

I agree.

jacka02 · August 2012

IttyBittyBee:

ADub09:
IttyBittyBee:
Ok, here's a doozy. I judge people's cleanlinessnbsp;by thier outdoor landscaping.nbsp;nbsp; [:] I often think if thier outside is in shambles, then thier house must be a gross disaster and the people must be slobs... but if thier lawns are meticulously cut, they have nice landscaping and flowers, then thier house must be the same way very clean and orderly. Mynbsp;thoughts are usually proven to be true.
And your poor spelling makes me judge you!

That was biitchy.

FWIW, I type really fast and the spell check button doesn't work on my computer. (ANNND I just learned how to spell "their" - thanks jacka02)

I'm guessing your landscaping isn't up to par?

Ittybitty-We now are going to rock at spelling thanks to Patella because she taught us the rest of the rhyme.

Sunshine+Luv · August 2012

IttyBittyBee:
ADub09:
IttyBittyBee:
Ok, here's a doozy. I judge people's cleanlinessnbsp;by thier outdoor landscaping.nbsp;nbsp; [:] I often think if thier outside is in shambles, then thier house must be a gross disaster and the people must be slobs... but if thier lawns are meticulously cut, they have nice landscaping and flowers, then thier house must be the same way very clean and orderly. Mynbsp;thoughts are usually proven to be true.
And your poor spelling makes me judge you!

That was biitchy.

FWIW, I type really fast and the spell check button doesn't work on my computer. (ANNND I just learned how to spell "their" - thanks jacka02)

I'm guessing your landscaping isn't up to par?

LOL!

I thought it was biitchy too, then I thought maybe it was sarcastic? I don't judge anyone for spelling, I am too lazy to use spell check aside from work stuff.

peanuthe · August 2012

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Wow! Aren't you a real peach?! I have observed children with siblings being selfish and bratty too. We are one and done. We want to be sure that we give our LO the life he deserves. He has family and lots of people that love him. I think you are a twatwaffle for saying what you did. My hubby and I are not selfish for making this decision.

IttyBittyBee · August 2012

Ittybitty-We now are going to rock at spelling thanks to Patella because she taught us the rest of the rhyme.

HAHA! I feel like I have been jiiped this entire time for only knowing HALF of the rhyme!

Phew, I can finally check off the box next to "Learn how to correctly spell tricky words like "their and freight".

Musiclover2012 · August 2012

adrianacastro08:
My brother got married last august. He's older, and has been with his wife over 10 years. They have been trying to get pregnant since the wedding. I think they are having fertility issues. I'm secretly happy she hasn't gotten pregnant yet, because I want C to be the only grandchild for a while. I live two hours away from my family, and currently, my mom will travel four hours roundtrip, just to spend a couple hours with C. My brother lives next door to my parents, and my other brother, who is getting married next month, lives about 10 min away from them. I feel once they start having babies, my mom won't visit as much, because it will be so easy to see her other grand babies

So wrong...infertility blows. That makes me a little sad for you.

MikeHoncho · August 2012

adrianacastro08:
My brother got married last august. He's older, and has been with his wife over 10 years. They have been trying to get pregnant since the wedding. I think they are having fertility issues. I'm secretly happy she hasn't gotten pregnant yet, because I want C to be the only grandchild for a while. I live two hours away from my family, and currently, my mom will travel four hours roundtrip, just to spend a couple hours with C. My brother lives next door to my parents, and my other brother, who is getting married next month, lives about 10 min away from them. I feel once they start having babies, my mom won't visit as much, because it will be so easy to see her other grand babies

Although I kind of understand your sentiment, this isn't cool. No flames, I just don''t think it's gonna give you good vibes or karma to somewhat wish infertility on them. And I doubt your mom will just stop visiting her granddaughter when your siblings have kids. I would love for my siblings to have kids so then L isn't the only one and growing up with no cousins. Not cool man.

jacka02 · August 2012

Butterbrot:

Meh. I was an only child and I turned out fine. *hurls coffee cup across the room, then runs to write a poem about it.*

There are lots of people who hate their siblings. It's all about luck of the genetic draw. I won't be alone when my mom dies; I have my own family now.

LOL!!

katieh1017 · August 2012

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

So if parents feel like finanacially having a second child would cause an unnecessary burden they should still have one so their 1 child will not be lonely and spoiled? OR because someone is AMA they should make a quick decision and just have another child incase they can't later due to age? Doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

I am not quite sure what else to say besides the fact that you are stereotyping only children and their behaviors as well as their parents.

Musiclover2012 · August 2012

1) I have NSync Radio playing on my Pandora today (hangs head in shame). It will not last all day though.

2) I joined the gym 2 months ago and have not been AT ALL in the past 3-4 weeks. I suck. I am sad about my somewhat flabby belly but yet will not motivate myself to go after the kids are in bed. Pass the chocolate bars please.

3) I keep a very tidy, clean and nice home but my landscaping is kinda meh. It's not bad, but it is not nice. The funny thing is, I would totally judge it if it were someone elses, but yet I can never figure out the time, energy or money to fix it up. Sometimes I fantasize about one of those TV shows coming and helping me make it amazing. Those darn weeds come back every time I turn around Angry

4) I think about the possibility of having a third baby every day...(yet it would not even happen for at least another 1.5 years)

5) I am kinda food obsessed, it is sad that I got a little giggly when I just saw my leftover eggplant parm in the work fridge from yesterday, I had forgotten all about it and it made me quite happy. Sad.

5) I am a little jealous of my co corker who lost a little weight (she was never big, but now she is just trimmer) and gets compliments left and right these days. I am 100% happy for her (breakup diet) but a little sad for me that I don't get comments anymore. Yes, it's sad and true that I liked the attention from others.

mkwt · August 2012

Yesterday was DD first day at Mother's Day out, I knew they had outside time from 10-11am, so I went by the daycare and hung out in the parking lot until I seen the stroller come out of the building. I was able to see my little angel safely strapped in the stroller with her hand in her mouth and having a good time. I was satisfied then went back to work. Yep......I was a stalker! Embarrassed

puppylove64 · August 2012

peanuthe:
puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.
 
Wow! Aren't you a real peach?! I have observed children with siblings being selfish and bratty too. We are one and done. We want to be sure that we give our LO the life he deserves. He has family and lots of people that love him. I think you are a twatwaffle for saying what you did. My hubby and I are not selfish for making this decision. 

Well I think you are a twatwaffle for calling me one. You are certainly entitled to your opinion as am I. I hope you live a long life and your child gets married an has a family and never is alone. I know too many only children that grew up, didn't get married, and their parents died. Therefore they are left with no family. After having my sibling's support after my dad died when I was 18, I can't imagine being alone. Obviously at the time, I wasn't married and having my own kids, and honestly after my freshman year of college, and deciding to transfer, didn't have many close friends that were there for support

katieh1017 · August 2012

peanuthe:

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Wow! Aren't you a real peach?! I have observed children with siblings being selfish and bratty too. We are one and done. We want to be sure that we give our LO the life he deserves. He has family and lots of people that love him. I think you are a twatwaffle for saying what you did. My hubby and I are not selfish for making this decision.

Lol...We are one and done too. So lets get our children together now so they won't be alone when we die. Better yet lets make a meet up group that is for parents of only children and market is as "spoiled, selfish and lonely children".

puppylove64 · August 2012

katieh1017:
puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

So if parents feel like finanacially having a second child would cause an unnecessary burden they should still have one so their 1 child will not be lonely and spoiled? OR because someone is AMA they should make a quick decision and just have another child incase they can't later due to age? Doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

I am not quite sure what else to say besides the fact that you are stereotyping only children and their behaviors as well as their parents.

No I'm not saying all of the above. I feel like only children are lonely and hope that when possible it is avoided.

peanuthe · August 2012

puppylove64:
peanuthe:
puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Wow! Aren't you a real peach?! I have observed children with siblings being selfish and bratty too. We are one and done. We want to be sure that we give our LO the life he deserves. He has family and lots of people that love him. I think you are a twatwaffle for saying what you did. My hubby and I are not selfish for making this decision.
Well I think you are a twatwaffle for calling me one. You are certainly entitled to your opinion as am I. I hope you live a long life and your child gets married an has a family and never is alone. I know too many only children that grew up, didn't get married, and their parents died. Therefore they are left with no family. After having my sibling's support after my dad died when I was 18, I can't imagine being alone. Obviously at the time, I wasn't married and having my own kids, and honestly after my freshman year of college, and deciding to transfer, didn't have many close friends that were there for support

I am sorry that you had to deal with your dad's death alone. I truly am. I just feel that it is wrong for you to judge people that decide to be one and done. I have 2 siblings. I would not be able to really count on one of them to be there for me, if needed. Just because you have siblings, it does not mean that you will be close to them or even get along with them. There are multiple reasons why couples only decide to have one, just like there are multiple reasons couples decide to have more than one. I do believe that there are people out there that have children that they cannot afford. I do not understand why people would want to bite off more than they could chew.

Ximena M · August 2012

Butterbrot:

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Meh. I was an only child and I turned out fine. *hurls coffee cup across the room, then runs to write a poem about it.*

There are lots of people who hate their siblings. It's all about luck of the genetic draw. I won't be alone when my mom dies; I have my own family now.

In away I I'm an only child. All of us are. I had a half brother, but he got relly sick with a rare cancer when I was around four so my dad and step mom decided to move to Denver where he could get treatment. When they were there my sister was born and he died. My mom went through a really hard time with my dad so she decided to move to California with friends. I only saw spent time with my three months out of the year and she was six year younger than me.

My youngest sister was born 16 years after the middle one. There is 21 years difference between use. I could have easily been her mother. I moved back to New Mexico soon after she was born. The middle sister went away to college a year and a half after she was born.

My middle sister and youngest fight like cats and dogs. They are always mad at each other. I find it very sad. I'm always in the middle of both of them.

Monkeybabe · August 2012

On the subject of siblings, I guess my confession will be that I have a sister that could fall off the face of the earth and I wouldn't miss her or care. I'm a heartless b!tch, though, I suppose.

ETA: Also on the one and done train. I think you can raise only children as decent and not selfish brats. My H is one of 12 by his father but grew up as an only child with his mom and he's not a sh!t.

creamsiclechica · August 2012

Wow, I know it's FFFC, but this is full of a lot of pretention. Wishing infertility on people, condemning people for only wanting one child as selfish? Kind of disappointed in these and a little ticked off. Infertility ruined my life for a long time, and almost beat me. I wouldn't wish it on a person I hated, let alone someone I loved. Also, if people who choose to not have more than one are forcing their kids to be lonely, and basically unsocialized because their parents didn't give them a playdate, parents who can't have another would be doing the same, no?

Also, my house is spotless. Immaculate.
My landscaping looks like *** this year because I can't strap on the baby and mow the lawn, and my DH works sometimes 24 hours a day. How high my grass is just isn't a priority right now, but it doesn't reflect on the inside whatsoever, haha.

peanuthe · August 2012

katieh1017:
peanuthe:

puppylove64:
I feel like the parents of an only child are not thinking of the child's well being and do the child a disservice by only having one (unless there are medical issues). Only children seem lonely and are either spoiled or don't act their age because they hang out with grown ups. They are also left completely alone when their parents die. Their children also suffer by not having any aunts, uncles or cousins, at least on one side.

Wow! Aren't you a real peach?! I have observed children with siblings being selfish and bratty too. We are one and done. We want to be sure that we give our LO the life he deserves. He has family and lots of people that love him. I think you are a twatwaffle for saying what you did. My hubby and I are not selfish for making this decision.

Lol...We are one and done too. So lets get our children together now so they won't be alone when we die. Better yet lets make a meet up group that is for parents of only children and market is as "spoiled, selfish and lonely children".

It is a date. LOL! Yes....We also need to recognize that the parents are selfish and disregard the best things for our child.

Ruby412 · August 2012

I used to wish I would marry an Asian person so I could have half-Asian babies. I think they are gorgeous!

Yes, I was totally inspired by Jon and Kate + 8.

ETA: I understand this could be offensive or stereotypical according to my BFF who married a Filipino guy. However, their daughter IS gorgeous. So, it kinda proves my point.

MsCatra · August 2012

katieh1017:
MsCatra:

I'm not loving motherhood so far. I guess it shouldn't be surprising since I've never been a huge newborn fan, preferring toddlers more. The bad thing is that I just figured out yesterday why I've been going back and forth on whether we are one and done or not. I *want* to enjoy my baby, and I'm not enjoying this one (rereading it, saying "this one" feels so wrong, but I'm leaving it anyway), so my f'ed brain and hormones are apparently thinking, "Hey, maybe it's her and not you! Maybe you'll enjoy another baby more! Have another! Plus, they'll be buddies and keep each other occupied!" Or maybe I'd have another high maintenance baby and lose what's left of my mf'ing mind. I guess I'd just like to feel like I'm enjoying this time, not just surviving and praying that I'll feel happier later and less like I miss my old life.

I am sorry you are having a tough time. The first 2 months L had colic, reflux and issues with gas, her formula - it was a living nightmare. It started to get better around 3 months but by that time I was a serious PPD mess. I felt horrible. I just didn't feel like I was bonding or even liked my baby, I loved her but I really thought if I didn't get the PPD under control I would have to be committed to a hospital or something.

Not saying this is how you feel but not liking motherhood was a big thing for me too. Now that the PPD is under control life is great. I think going back to work helped too. I would say to go and talk to some one, like a therapist. It really super helped me understand why I was feeling like I did. I am take meds too, maybe that isn't your route but at least try to talk to someone. You will feel better! And PM me if you ever want to talk, I know exactly how you feel --- except I have no thoughts of wanting another baby.

Thank you. I really don't know if this is PPD or I'm just a selfish bish. Not looking for hand-holding on the "selfish bish" part, that's just me bluntly saying how I really feel lately. We don't "do" emotions in my family, so it's just not something I really talk about. My DH is kind of an Eeyore, so when I talk to him about it he just says something along the lines of "Dude, me too!" and then it becomes about him. My best friend seems to understand and says that the doc she works for went through something similar. She didn't have PPD, but she just didn't enjoy the baby period. She loves being a mom now, though. So, hopefully it will work out that way for me. I think I'm just scared that it won't. Cheezits I sound like a flucking drama queen today! Anyway, I'm glad that the PPD monkey is off your back and things are better!!

MikeHoncho · August 2012

creamsiclechica:
Wow, I know it's FFFC, but this is full of a lot of pretention. Wishing infertility on people, condemning people for only wanting one child as selfish? Kind of disappointed in these and a little ticked off. Infertility ruined my life for a long time, and almost beat me. I wouldn't wish it on a person I hated, let alone someone I loved. Also, if people who choose to not have more than one are forcing their kids to be lonely, and basically unsocialized because their parents didn't give them a playdate, parents who can't have another would be doing the same, no?Also, my house is spotless. Immaculate.My landscaping looks like *** this year because I can't strap on the baby and mow the lawn, and my DH works sometimes 24 hours a day. How high my grass is just isn't a priority right now, but it doesn't reflect on the inside whatsoever, haha.

This exactly. Well said. I can't imagine being that selfish to not want anyone else in my family to reproduce so my kid gets all the attention. Super duper lame.

marriedsisterofbride · August 2012

creamsiclechica:
Wow, I know it's FFFC, but this is full of a lot of pretention. Wishing infertility on people, condemning people for only wanting one child as selfish? Kind of disappointed in these and a little ticked off. Infertility ruined my life for a long time, and almost beat me. I wouldn't wish it on a person I hated, let alone someone I loved. Also, if people who choose to not have more than one are forcing their kids to be lonely, and basically unsocialized because their parents didn't give them a playdate, parents who can't have another would be doing the same, no? Also, my house is spotless. Immaculate. My landscaping looks like *** this year because I can't strap on the baby and mow the lawn, and my DH works sometimes 24 hours a day. How high my grass is just isn't a priority right now, but it doesn't reflect on the inside whatsoever, haha.

I could have written that myself. I went through 6 years of fertility issues, 2 of which were riddled with miscarriage and disappointment. I have been told to think of it positively and a learning experience. I have wanted to drop kick those people. Go through it for 6 months and see how you feel!

Because of the fertility issues we had, we are hopeful for another blessing but not sure if it will happen as of now. My daughter will be "spoiled" with love, not material things. Sometimes going through those fertility struggles makes you a better parent because you know exactly what you could have been missing out on.

I always have the summers off, my yard has looked like a tornato tore through it until 2 weeks ago. My house has seen better days too. It isn't dirty but there is always something to pick up. But I ask myself, would I rather spend the time with her while she is awake or put the laundry away? Laundry can wait, she is only my baby once!

Ximena M · August 2012

Ruby412:

I used to wish I would marry an Asian person so I could have half-Asian babies. I think they are gorgeous!

Yes, I was totally inspired by Jon and Kate + 8.

I think mixed race babies of any combination are better looking than the same race!

All the boyfriends I had growing up were Asian.

orriskitten · August 2012

I'm an only child and quite honestly, I think my "family" that I chose of friends are 100 times better than any blood family.

When my mom died 3 days before my 22nd birthday, I obviously had no siblings to be there for me to mourn with me. Instead, I had friends who made a protective cocoon of love and positivity around me. If I had siblings, we'd all just be wallowing. More of my friends who have siblings have had to face such worse things than I ever did as an only child.

Also, here is a flame-able part- if you are an only child and you are lonely, I blame the parents for not being there more. My mom was my absolute best friend and I never felt lonely as a child because I had her. She was a single mom, supported me by herself and still managed to have my respect, love and friendship.

I also had cousins on one side who were my siblings growing up (obligatory punches to the stomach and all, along with being protected from bullies at school.)

I also see no problem with my childhood where most of my friends were my mom's friends. I was still able to adapt to kids my own age and was mature enough to finish a lot of things early in life (high school, college, moving abroad, getting married) because I had the confidence and support from my elders.

Patella1129 · August 2012

IttyBittyBee:
Ittybitty-We now are going to rock at spelling thanks to Patella because she taught us the rest of the rhyme.

HAHA! I feel like I have been jiiped this entire time for only knowing HALF of the rhyme!

Phew, I can finally check off the box next to "Learn how to correctly spell tricky words like "their and freight".

Ha! I felt the same way when my co-worker taught me that!

orriskitten · August 2012

Here is one I want to flame myself over... My great-grandma who is 100 is really miserable. She lives with her (gigantic b!tch) of a daughter who makes her miserable and I have no way of getting her out. She hates her life, does not believe her daughter loves her and is starting to hurt even more physically. I want the end to come peacefully for her, soon. I do not want her to feel physical pain and this continued heart break. I am also scared that a fight with her daughter will cause a painful heart attack or something. I have done everything in my power to try to help the situation, but can't.

A follow up to that. Once my great-grandma dies, I am cutting all ties with my grandmother. She is a physically, mentally and emotionally abusive psychopath and she will NOT poison my daughters life like she does the rest of the family. She is only around now because of my unconditional love for my great-grandma and I have a strong feeling she knows that.

jessandandy09 · August 2012

My FFC,

I have been considering calling in sick to work and not staying home or telling DH. DH is a stay at home dad, and he is a wonderful husband... BUT, I have not had a moment to myself since DD has been born. I work all day and when I get home he hands me DD and starts dinner, after dinner he goes upstairs in our house to have some "baby free" time and he plays guitar. That is fine he deserves it, but he takes two to three hours to himself almost every night to relax and do something he enjoys. I work an 8 hour shift and have DD all night until she goes to bed around ten. I want an hour or two for me, Just once at least. *sigh* unfortunately I have been to chickensh!t to do it.

gisa886 · August 2012

I think people are really overreacting to what puppylove said. It wasn't that bad. I also feel bad for only children at times. Many are selfish because they grow up with all the attention on them most of the time. They may not be brats, but selfish isn't that far of a stretch.
Mine is that Sunday when I'm sunning in the pool I will be topless. The boobs need some sunshine too.

Ximena M · August 2012

puppylove64:

No I'm not saying all of the above. I feel like only children are lonely and hope that when possible it is avoided.

I wasn't lonely any more then any other kid. In fact I really enjoy being alone to this day. I am the only adult, that I know, who is perfectly fine eating at a restaurant by myself.

I am not spoiled, in fact far from it! I feel very lucky to have the best of both worlds. Sometimes I do feel guilty because when asked if I am an only child my first response is yes. My next response is that through my mom I am, but through my dad I'm not. I was raised mainly by my mom.

ETA: I was not selfish, and am still not selfish. I would give the shirt off my back if someone needed it without a second thought. I just reconnected with a friend, not an only child, who said that I thought her how not to be selfish. I have two cousins my age that are also only children. They are not selfish or spoiled. They both are the neatest people I know in their own way.

laurack · August 2012

adrianacastro08:
My brother got married last august. He's older, and has been with his wife over 10 years. They have been trying to get pregnant since the wedding. I think they are having fertility issues. I'm secretly happy she hasn't gotten pregnant yet, because I want C to be the only grandchild for a while. I live two hours away from my family, and currently, my mom will travel four hours roundtrip, just to spend a couple hours with C. My brother lives next door to my parents, and my other brother, who is getting married next month, lives about 10 min away from them. I feel once they start having babies, my mom won't visit as much, because it will be so easy to see her other grand babies

What the fluck. Are you serious?

I have not had any personal experience with infertility thankfully, but having known people who have struggled I can tell you I would NOT wish that on ANYONE for any reason.

Gumbiluv · August 2012

I had no idea what 4/20 meant until yesterday. I asked my husband if he knew and he looked at me like I was stupid and then said wait you really don't know. I must be the only one...

katieh1017 · August 2012

marriedsisterofbride:

creamsiclechica:
Wow, I know it's FFFC, but this is full of a lot of pretention. Wishing infertility on people, condemning people for only wanting one child as selfish? Kind of disappointed in these and a little ticked off. Infertility ruined my life for a long time, and almost beat me. I wouldn't wish it on a person I hated, let alone someone I loved. Also, if people who choose to not have more than one are forcing their kids to be lonely, and basically unsocialized because their parents didn't give them a playdate, parents who can't have another would be doing the same, no? Also, my house is spotless. Immaculate. My landscaping looks like *** this year because I can't strap on the baby and mow the lawn, and my DH works sometimes 24 hours a day. How high my grass is just isn't a priority right now, but it doesn't reflect on the inside whatsoever, haha.

I could have written that myself. I went through 6 years of fertility issues, 2 of which were riddled with miscarriage and disappointment. I have been told to think of it positively and a learning experience. I have wanted to drop kick those people. Go through it for 6 months and see how you feel!

Because of the fertility issues we had, we are hopeful for another blessing but not sure if it will happen as of now. My daughter will be "spoiled" with love, not material things. Sometimes going through those fertility struggles makes you a better parent because you know exactly what you could have been missing out on.

I always have the summers off, my yard has looked like a tornato tore through it until 2 weeks ago. My house has seen better days too. It isn't dirty but there is always something to pick up. But I ask myself, would I rather spend the time with her while she is awake or put the laundry away? Laundry can wait, she is only my baby once!

It took us over 2 years of TTC before I got my BFP. We had just started the non-invassive process (u/s, bloodwork) a few months before L was conceived. Nothing was found to be abnormal and it was just unknown at the time why it was taking longer TTC, besides I was already AMA. So that struggle definitely gave us the attitude if we just get one we will feel blessed.

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