An update on what's happening

weddedwife · August 2012

I am being admitted overnight, depending on how things look in a.m. I may have emergency cerclage tomorrow afternoon. Just have to wait it out overnight.

Ultimately the decision will be ours, as long as I'm not contracting too heavily. They have been registering small contractions today but nothing big; I'm definitely not in labor but the uterus IS active. Obviously the procedure is very risky itself at this gestation; risk of rupturing the bag, infection, irritating my uterus further, if I go into labor the cervix could tear... But if we just wait it out I could just keep dilating and shortening and end up delivering. There are drugs that can buy a few days but really can't be administered until 23.5 weeks so we'd really be just waiting and watching.

I don't know how to make this decision. What would you do in my shoes? Would you risk the cerclage and hope that it worked, so you'd feel like you were doing something at least? Or would you wait it out and possibly deliver a 24 weekend at best?

Allycat11 · August 2012

I am so sorry I wish I had advice, but I really have no idea what I would do.

((hugs)) You and LO remain in my prayers.

s0ulchicken · August 2012

I wish that I had some advice to offer you, but I cannot begin to imagine how I would proceed. You are in my thoughts and prayers tonight. I pray that you will have comfort, guidance and strength, and that your lo keeps baking for a long time yet. Hugs to you during this difficult time.

amidkiff · August 2012

I'm sorry I have no advice. Only hopes and prayers for you and your LO. hugs

angielayne926 · August 2012

Oh hun, I wish I had advice for you, but I don't. I don't know what I would do in that situation. I just hope that you and your DH will decide what is best for you and LO and that LO stays in there cooking for a while longer. (((((HUGE HUGS)))))

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I can tell you what I think I'd do but really, it's up to you and YH. You will know what is right for your family. That being said, I'm keeping you in my prayers that you don't make any progress over night and your LO keeps baking.

KittyKatMom · August 2012

Go with your gut. Lots of vibes to you!

AmyG2b · August 2012

Thinking of you! Praying for you and the baby tonight, and hoping you get some peace and clarity. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

ilenegrace · August 2012

Someone earlier today had mentioned checking out the Incompetent cervix board on facebook because they have more experience with this.

Keeping the prayers coming. I really wish there was something more I could do. If there is please let me know!!

crystal8503 · August 2012

I have no advice for you as I cannot begin to imagine making such a decision. I'm sure you and your husband will make the best decision for you and your family. I will say a prayer for you tonight that you do not progress any further and that your little one is able to continue growing for a while longer. You will definitely be in my thoughts. Big hugs to you.

VineyardMel · August 2012

I'm so sorry you have to make such a tough decision. I'm praying that you and your husband will have wisdom as you decide and that you'll have peace that whatever you choose is the best thing for you and your sweet baby.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · August 2012

Oh my gosh, darling, I just signed on and found out about everything that is going on. I really hope your uterus calms down and that you will be able to get the cerclage if need be. I am sorry that I can't offer any advice except to go with your heart. I will be thinking of you and checking on you tomorrow. Good night, try to rest, though I imagine that must be easier said than done.

MoreThanABride · August 2012

Hugs I hope your body starts cooperating.

SoCoGirl · August 2012

I've never been in your shoes, but I am keeping you in my prayers.

nattn · August 2012

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't have any advise, but I will certainly be praying for you and that God will give you wisdom to know what to do. *big hugs*

Cara03 · August 2012

Stopping over from high risk to check on your updates... Some decisions are just impossibly hard. We were in a similar spot my last pregnancy. What I've come to believe is that you can't make a wrong decision. You will make the choice that feels the best for you and your dh at the time and then try like hell not to doubt yourself afterwards. When there's no clear cut answer, all you can do is make the choice that feels least uncomfortable given all the info you have at the time. Thoughts, prayers, good vibes all continuing to come your way.

Petunia844 · August 2012

I wish I had advice. All I can offer is my thoughts and prayers, I have been thinking of you all day. I'm so so sorry you are going through this.

bmv1980 · August 2012

I'm so sorry that you have to make such a difficult decision. Only you and your husband can make the choice, and I have no doubt that you will be able to do what's right for your family. GL, and lots of T&Ps are being sent your way...((hugs))

imwithrebel · August 2012

Praying for you.

Irishsapphire · August 2012

I was in the Antepartum unit at Swedish Hospital in Seattle for a couple of weeks in April. The Labor and Delivery was on the other side of the floor. So it was easier to not have to hear other women delivering their babies. We had a support group that met once a week, and it gave us a chance to share what we were going through on hospital bedrest.

I would have done anything that I could have done to keep from delivering if I was under 30 weeks. And if there was no choice but to deliver, I would have wanted the best NICU unit to be right there when I delivered. Does the hospital that you are at have a good NICU unit?

I really hope that this works out for you. My prayers are with you. The hardest part is getting through the rest of the pregnancy. But I hope that you are able to get this baby far enough in the pregnancy so that a NICU unit can take over if you need to deliver early.

PittPurple · August 2012

I'm so sorry this is happening to you and I am praying for you and your family.

drvst8 · August 2012

I wish I could give you some advice...the best I can do is tell you to go with you gut. Keeping you in my T&Ps

tbone_bride · August 2012

I'm so sorry you're going through this! My advice would be to talk to as many OB's and nurses in the hospital as possible. Ask them to come talk to you, ask their experience with the procedure. The more medical professionals you talk to, the better. You can start by asking the nurses on rotation to send doctors into your room. You'll make the decision that's right for you, hang in there! We're all thinking of you and pulling for you

rsolsem · August 2012

Whichever decision you choose - it will be the right one. There is no right or wrong here, it's all difficult. I will keep you and your LO in my thoughts and prayers and keep hoping for a stop to these contractions so you both can relax and keep that baby growing right there!

kwilson158 · August 2012

Thinking about you and praying for your family....

orangegoggles · August 2012

Like the others I have no advice. I want you to know how much we are all thinking and praying for you. Hang in there and I know you will make the best decision for your baby and family. I second the idea of asking as many doctors and nurses as possible about the procedure, etc. (((((Huge Hugs)))))

Mmm79 · August 2012

I am glad to hear that things have at least calmed down a bit, but so sorry that you are not out of the woods yet. If it were me, I would talk to as many nurses and doctors as possible to weigh the options and understand the risks with each option. Then you and DH can make the most informed decision possible. Once you make your decision, just look forward and do not second guess yourself. Still keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

cmumama · August 2012

Keeping you all in my T&Ps. ((hugs))

Cherry1111 · August 2012

I am so sorry. I woke up and immediately thought of you and said a prayer. I wish I had the expertise and knowledge to give my opinion on what to do, but I don't. I hope the drs there can help guide you to the decision you feel most comfortable with and that it keeps that little one in there for much longer.

mijakach · August 2012

I wish I had advice but I have no idea what I would do unless I was in that situation. I am so sorry that you have to make such a difficult decision. Sending many T&Ps to you and baby.

EIsieMae · August 2012

I have no advice to offer you, just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

johnnys june · August 2012

Cara03:
Stopping over from high risk to check on your updates... Some decisions are just impossibly hard. We were in a similar spot my last pregnancy. What I've come to believe is that you can't make a wrong decision. You will make the choice that feels the best for you and your dh at the time and then try like hell not to doubt yourself afterwards. When there's no clear cut answer, all you can do is make the choice that feels least uncomfortable given all the info you have at the time. Thoughts, prayers, good vibes all continuing to come your way.

This. *huge hugs*

Heatherhah · August 2012

Thinking of you always. Praying things work out and baby stays in cooking for a bit longer..

big_noise · August 2012

I don't have anything additional I can offer. The other ladies have said about what I would - I would ask a million questions and then discuss things with my DH and make the most informed decision that we thought was best given the information we have. I am sending you many thoughts and prayers and am so, so, so hoping that little one stays in there. Big, big hugs to you during this difficult time.

panacea05 · August 2012

Nobody should ever have to make a decision like that. I'm so sorry you're going through this. T&Ps for you and baby!

melly918 · August 2012

I have no advice for you either. I am sending you DH, and LO lots of T&Ps.

benoitfan · August 2012

Oh WW, I am so sorry you are in this position. I have been praying hard and constantly since I first heard the news. I know you feel like you don't know where to turn or what to do. I also know that the doctors, nurses and neonatal specialists are a wealth of info at your fingertips. Ask them anything you think you need to know in order to make a well informed decision. As others have said, you are going to make the right decision for you and your family - there is no wrong here. Gather all the info you can and talk it through with you DH, in the end you will make the best decision you can in the circumstances you find yourself in.

I will continue to pray that your body co-operates and that you will have the wisdom and guidance to make the right decision for you. I will also pray that should a cerclage be the route you take, that the docs and health care professionals hands be guided and that the procedure be successful. I pray that your baby bakes well beyond 24w. ((HUGS))

s.alarie · August 2012

I can't imagine what you and YH are going through, I will be praying for you. This is an impossible situation to give advice about--only you and YH will be able to decide what is the right thing to do.

Have they started you on any meds to try to calm your uterus? Usually they'll use procardia (nifedipine) or indocin (indomethacin)... Maybe those are the medications that they are waiting until 23.5 weeks for?

No matter the decision that you come to, it will be the right one for you.

sgrobste · August 2012

I'm so sorry, but I have no idea what I would do. I guess I would hope I would be able to trust my Dr. and do what they thought was best, but I am not sure. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I am sending many thoughts and prayers out to you and your family that LO stays in and things stop progressing. BIG ((HUGS))

ella.mabel · August 2012

I have no advice. I'm just one more person out there hoping and praying for you. ((hugs))

Mom2anAngel2 · August 2012

I wish I could give you good advise, but all I can do is continue to send many, many T&P's your way. I know that what ever decision you do make will be the right one for you and your family! ((HUGE HUGS))

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