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Re: An update on what's happening

  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    imagejohnnys june:

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    Stopping over from high risk to check on your updates...  Some decisions are just impossibly hard. We were in a similar spot my last pregnancy. What I've come to believe is that you can't make a wrong decision. You will make the choice that feels the best for you and your dh at the time and then try like hell not to doubt yourself afterwards. When there's no clear cut answer, all you can do is make the choice that feels least uncomfortable given all the info you have at the time. Thoughts, prayers, good vibes all continuing to come your way.

    This.  *huge hugs* 

    This, again. I'm so sorry you have to make this choice, but you know there is NO way to know the outcome of both options. You can take all the information given to you by your doctors and make the decision with your husband that you feel best about. Know that you will be supported in whatever decision you make!! 



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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    I'm so glad to hear that your LO is still in there. I think I know what I would decide in that situation, but that plays absolutely no role in what is best for you right now. I agree that you should just try to pull in as many medical opinions as possible to make your decision and know that there is no way to tell the future. Even if the outcome is bad (which I fervently hope it is not), you have no way of knowing that it would have been better if you had chosen the other route. So make the decision that you and your DH feel is right for you and try not to second guess yourself. I'm so, so sorry that you're in a position to have to make a decision like this at all and very much hope that everything turns out well.

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  • littlepenguin2012littlepenguin2012 member
    No advice here, just big, big ((hugs)) for you and LO and your family.  I am so, so sorry you are having to make these difficult decisions. My heart goes out to you. 
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  • kikibellekikibelle member
    I heard your terrible news over on the Loss board and just wanted to add my words of support. You are in my thoughts, and I hope that today is a better day for you.
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  • BoysenberryBoysenberry member

    My friend, Lynda, went through this very same thing when she was 21 weeks pregnant with her first. She had a cerclage done when her contractions settled. She stayed pregnant for another month and her sweet little boy was born at 25 weeks 4 days. He was tiny and he needed heart surgery, but with the help of an amazing medical staff, he is 5-years-old now, and he's very healthy other than having weak lungs. He gets a nebulizer treatment every night and it keeps him symptom free. When she got pregnant with her second she got a cerclage earlier and carried him full-term. He is also incredibly healthy.

    You will make the best decision for you, and I hope I've helped you chose by sharing Lynda's success story. There is hope for you and your beautiful baby! I wish all the best to your family!  (((HUGS)))

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  • tetiananinatetiananina member

    Sending you lots of T&P's and ((hugs)). I hope Lo stays in there for as long as possible so he can keep growing strong and healthy.

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    BFP: 02/14/12 EDD: 10/26/12 D&C: 03/09/12
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  • SunnyCanadianSunnyCanadian member
    Oh my, that is a hard decision sweetie. The OP's have already mentioned a lot of great things so I'm just going to pray you won't even NEED the cerclage, and that this baby bakes until he/she is full-term. Many many hugs & prayers being sent to you guys.

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  • tdmd09tdmd09 member
    I don't know what I would do in your shoes, but I'm sorry you guys are faced with such a difficult decision, and I hope everything turns out well for you and baby ((hugs))
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  • RegneRegne
    I am praying for you and your family.
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  • Eastie156Eastie156 member
    Sending you tons of T&P's, it's hard to say what I'd do in this situation. Only you and DH can decide what is best for you and your family. ((hugs))


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  • cannoliohcannolioh member
    I am so sorry you are facing this decision right now. I lost my son at 23 weeks and 3 days after being admitted at 23 weeks for funneling membranes. By the time I got to the hospital I was in labor. We tried to hold off until 24 weeks with hospital bedrest, but he didn't make it. This pregnancy I have a preventative cerclage, so I don't have any first hand experience with an emergency cerclage. However, if it were me in your position I believe I would opt for the emergency cerclage, if it is an option, versus bedrest. Of course I would also take into mind what my doctors believe would lead to the best possible outcome. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • barbie92barbie92 member
    I wish I could tell you what I would do, but I have no idea. Just know that whatever you and your husband decide will be the right decision. Do what feels best to you two. Talk to as many doctors as you can and get their opinions. I am praying for you, your husband, the doctors and your precious baby. 
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  • csquared426csquared426 member
    Thinking of you. I don't have any advice, but wanted to send huge ((HUGS)) your way.

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