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Tried to hear heartbeat at 14 weeks but told pregnancy stopped at 10 weeks. (blighted ovum) Waiting to natural m/c at home.
14 weeks miscarriage
I just found out yesterday that I miscarried at 10 weeks. I was supposed to be 14 weeks yesterday. They couldn't find a heart beat. They did an ultrasound and the baby just stopped at 10 weeks. I dont understand. I was doing everything right, gaining weight perfectly eating correctly. I dont know what happened. The doctor doesn't know what happened. I dont know what to do. We were so excited. We had just told the family and they were so happy and excited. Im so lost right now.
Tried to hear heartbeat at 14 weeks but told pregnancy stopped at 10 weeks. (blighted ovum) Waiting to natural m/c at home. This discussion has been closed.
Re: 14 weeks miscarriage
I'm so sorry for your loss, it is terribly unfair. (hugs)
Often there is nothing you did to cause (or could do to prevent) the miscarriage. The ladies on the Miscarriage/Loss board are very knowledgeable and helpful. If you have a d&c the doctor can do genetic testing on the tissue to see if there was a genetic cause; I believe they can also do blood tests. T&Ps.
Edited for clarity.
12/1/11 BFP, missed m/c diagnosed @ 9w2d
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
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Exactly this. I am so sorry for your loss. This happened to me back in December. We never got an answer, we were just told these things happen. Please take care of youself, let yourself cry and grieve and take time to heal. Many hugs to you!
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. It is absolutely not your fault. Unfortunately most never know why they were unlucky enough to have this happen to them. It is not because of something you did or didn't do.
Many find support on the Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss board. When I suffered my loss last year I was in too much pain to post very much but it helped even to lurk and know that I wasn't alone. Since then I've lurked on the TTC after loss and Pg after Loss boards on days that I need to remind myself that I'm not alone in my fears.
Also know that most women who suffer a loss are able to go on to health pregnancies later, this does not mean you will never be a parent. When someone told me that right after my loss my only thought was "I don't know if I ever want to get pregnant again, this hurts too much." But within a few weeks/months we started to talk about it and those words from months before helped.
My husband and I dealt with our loss in different ways. I often wanted to talk about it, but he was scared to bring it up, worrying that it would hurt me. In this time, you need to pull together and reach out for any support you need, from us on the boards, from your family and friends, or from counselors or other professionals.
I am so sorry for you loss.
Although I know words will not mean much, I want to say that I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must feel. You will be in my prayers. Hang in there and stay strong. Don't give up!
**Hugs**
I'm so sorry. Please remember these early losses are virtually impossible to prevent, it was nothing you did. Take care of yourself right now.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
I am so, so incredibly sorry for your loss. My first m/c was around 10 weeks and we were never able to determine the cause of my loss. I would second the other posters and invite you to check in with the miscarriage and loss boards. They are a tremendous source of support.
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I am so sorry for your loss, you are in my prayers. "Hugs"
I'm so sorry for your loss.
This is not your fault.
Hi. I'm sending you virtual hugs; I completely know what you're feeling. And its heartbreaking.
We got pregnant for the first time right away, everything was going just as well as your pregnancy was. We had a 14 week check up, heard the heart beat, saw the baby dancing all around on an ultrasound, gaining weight, etc. Went in for our 18 week 2nd trimester scan and the tech couldn't find the heartbeat. Same exact issue; the baby stopped growing around 15 weeks and passed. But my body still thought I was pregnant so I didn't officially "miscarry". My husband and I were shocked and devastated; we had told friends and family and I was showing, so not only did we have to grieve ourselves, but had to console everyone else too. I had to have a D&E 3 days later. This was the week before Christmas 2006.
You will make it through this together with the help of your doctor, family and friends. It is very rare for this to happen this late in pregnancy and it's almost always a sign of a serious abnormality and nature did what she unfortunately has to do sometimes and she took her course. It made my husband and I even closer, as situations like this can.
Please hang in there, grieve for your loss, but know you will move on and get pregnant with a successful/happy outcome. We have an awesome little toddler (2 1/2 yrs) and I'm pregnant again with number 2 - and I'm 41.
I will be honest and tell you that pregnancy is a stressful time for us, given the first experience, so our motto is "cautiously optimistic" until we reach that damn 18 week ultrasound and see the baby is fine and we are still in the game. But wow, how appreciative, grateful and humbled we are every day we spend with our toddler, and cautiously optimistic that we'll have another successful birth with #2.
x0x0x
Jenn
BFP #1 12/02/11, M/C 12/08/11
BFP #2 04/06/12, DD born 12/20/12
BFP #3 06/09/14, M/C 06/15/14
I'm so sorry, Don't blame yourself, it was not your fault. With my last pregnancy I was supposed to be 12 weeks along and we discovered a missed miscarriage from 9 weeks (right after we told all of our family). It is very emotional to go from being pregnant, thinking about names and boy or girl, to not being pregnant. The ladies on the loss/miscarriage board are wonderful. Give yourself some time to grieve and emotionally heal. (((hugs)))
And when the time comes that you are pregnant again the ladies on the PGAL are amazing, they have been my support to get me through my first trimester of constant worry and fear.
Henry Cavill...You're welcome!
BFP #3: EDD 1/10/13 **DS born 12/30/12!!!**
BFP #2: MC 7/2/11 @ 12 weeks
**Missing our February '12 LoveBug**
BFP #1: MMC discovered on 12/6/10
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please, PLEASE do not blame yourself. I made the mistake of coming down on myself when i suffered a loss at 14 weeks. Hang in there and never lose hope.
Best wishes
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4 losses- MC in 2006, MMC in February 2012 at 12 weeks and MMC (twins) August 2016 at 12 weeks. Pregnant again- 11/7/16. Another loss on December 28, 2016.
BFP April 23, 2017. Our triple rainbow baby! EDD: January 2, 2018. It's a boy!
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a pregnancy in Feb. at 14 weeks. It is a terrible thing to experience. It was beyond shocking to us, and devastating.
I am sorry anyone has to experience this, and I wish you the best.
I'm so sorry. Please know that your loss is not your fault. Some women do everything right and still lose their babies. You can request testing be done on the baby to determine a possible cause for your miscarriage.
I too had a loss at 14 weeks and it was devastating. Take all the time you need to grieve. It helped me a lot to name our son and to talk about what had happened, even though sometimes that makes other people uncomfortable. I found that talking about my losses helped so much.
There are tons of ladies on the miscarriage board going through something similar right now who you may want to connect with or feel free to send me a message if you want to talk more.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
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