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DanielleH910 · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.

That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?

DanielleH910 · August 2012

AngelSong76:
PolishWonder:
I really, truly love being an Atheist. I was raised Catholic and I find not having a belief in God so much easier when dealing with life in general. I do confess though to being highly cynical of a belief in God and that if people did their research and really thought things through...Atheism would be a lot more prevalent in this world.
So what you are implying is that if people have a belief in God, you don't believe they have done their research or "really thought things through?"
I believe it's not really possible to judge other people's experiences in this matter. Atheism works for you and that's great. There are people for whom Christianity works, and that's great too. To assume they haven't done their research or haven't really thought about it is pretty judgmental.
I have found that, in matters of faith, it's best just to live and let live. I don't assume anything about you because you are an atheist, just like I don't assume anything about someone who practices any other religion. To me, that's the easiest way to deal with life in general.

Oh Polish I usually see eye-to-eye with everything you write here, but this made me a little sad. I hope I (and Anita) am reading this wrong. I would never infringe on anyone's rights, and I don't like to feel judged. I don't judge anyone for their beliefs, it's not my place. But because I'm not an atheist that shouldn't imply I haven't "thought things through" or done enough research.

lady dixneuf · August 2012

DanielleH910:
lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.
That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?

we were going but we can't afford it anymore

AadensMommy2010 · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.

I'm sorry. Sad

MAbride0808 · August 2012

hs10:
MAbride0808:
I'm trying to ignore the fact that my brother's STB-ex wife is pregnant as well and due in Dec. When they got married, they agreed not to have kids. A few years later when DH and I got married and started trying, SIL suddenly wanted children and confessed to my mom and I that she was thinking of stopping bcp without telling DH. Well I guess she did. They were in the process of seperating prior to this news of her pregnancy. I have to say that part of what bothers me is that it took DH and I almost 3 years and multiple IVFs to get our daughter and she tricks him when he wants nothing to do with a child. We will see what happens once the baby is born.
Why in the world did you mother not tell your brother that your SIL was planning to stop her bcp without telling him??

We did when it happened about 2.5 years ago. Supposedly they talked and came to the understanding that no kids worked for them and that if it was so important to her then they would split. She promised to stay on them, but she was known to frequently lie. Why my bro didn't do anything to prevent is beyond me.

AngelSong76 · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
DanielleH910:
lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.
That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?
we were going but we can't afford it anymore

Are there resources where you could get income-based or free counseling? I am so sorry you are going through all this. We are here if you need to talk. Always.

DanielleH910 · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
DanielleH910:
lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.
That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?
we were going but we can't afford it anymore

Oh good point. I know around here when we got married our officiant gave us a list of free marriage counseling groups. I know it's not the same as going just as a couple, but maybe there is something similar in your area.

Mlowery11 · August 2012

AadensMommy2010:
hs10:
Mine is lame, but I've worn jeans to work the last two days just because I felt like it.
I wear jeans everyday because I don't give a shiit.

I've worn jeans everyday this week because I don't feel like putting forth the massive effort that is shaving my legs now, plus FI has been sleeping on the couch so it's not like my hairy legs are a huge turn-off to him at this point.

KNemo · August 2012

I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

tatercater · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.

((HUGS)) Sorry you're dealing with so much right now

bellre · August 2012

projectbaby2012:
Yesterday was a very slow day in my office. 1/2 my office is out on vacation and even with covering for 2 co-workers, I ran out of things to do 2 hours before I was to leave. I ended up calling up a book on my kindle app on my phone and reading those last 2 ours while at work. I've never read while on the clock before. I felt awful at first, but it beat staring at the clock.

I ran out of things to do on Wednesday, and now that pieces of my workload have been doled out, I really have nothing to do. I'm stuck here until 4 "just in case" someone happens to call looking for someone in my department (I'm the only one here today)...so yeah, looks like I'll be getting paid to do not much of anything.

armcgill · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.

I am so sorry you're going through this. As PP have said, we're hear if you need to talk.

projectbaby2012 · August 2012

bellre:
projectbaby2012:
Yesterday was a very slow day in my office. 1/2 my office is out on vacation and even with covering for 2 co-workers, I ran out of things to do 2 hours before I was to leave. I ended up calling up a book on my kindle app on my phone and reading those last 2 ours while at work. I've never read while on the clock before. I felt awful at first, but it beat staring at the clock.
I ran out of things to do on Wednesday, and now that pieces of my workload have been doled out, I really have nothing to do. I'm stuck here until 4 "just in case" someone happens to call looking for someone in my department (I'm the only one here today)...so yeah, looks like I'll be getting paid to do not much of anything.

That's why I had to stay yesterday too, just in case someone calls/emails. At my job, the first 2 weeks of August each year are the only weeks each year this even happens. I always take vacation during at least one of these weeks. But this year, I'm saving my vacation time for maternity leave (since mine is unpaid), I'm stuck here with very little to do.

ladeebri · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
I'm retaining so much water I've totally given up keeping track of or paying attention to my weight gain. I gained over 10lbs in less than a week last week (Dr checked it out, I am fine). I am up to like 40, I give up. My body likes to cling to fluids. Oh well. I'll probably gain 60lbs. C'est la vie.

I gained 56 with my first and I delivered him 3 weeks early. This time I was feeling smug for not having the fluid woes I had last time... Then gained 7 lbs in 2 days and have held on to all of it since. It's what I get. Don't worry I lost all but 5 lbs from my first. Took a year but I did it.

AraDesi · August 2012

AngelSong76:
lady dixneuf:
DanielleH910:
lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.
That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?
we were going but we can't afford it anymore
Are there resources where you could get income-based or free counseling? I am so sorry you are going through all this. We are here if you need to talk. Always.

I'm sorry, dixneuf Sad But it would definitely be a good idea to look into what AngelSong mentioned. Also, do you belong to any sort of religion? I just ask because I know the priest at the church I used to go to was more than willing to talk things through with me when I was having some anxiety problems, so you might also be able to get some sort of free counseling that way. We're always here for you too. I don't know if I ever said it, but I am glad you came back to the bump *hugs*

ladeebri · August 2012

iadanza:
I am absolutely FLOORED that women have said they are against free (by free I mean the insurance companies covering the entire cost rather than there being co-payments/co-insurance to receive the services) preventative health screenings like mammograms, paps, prenatal care, free birth control, etc. I'm even more floored that they would cite violation of the 1st amendment as their argument for being against it especially when Obama was a total wussy when he said that religious institutions are not required to pay for those services but the health insurers are still required to provide them.
What. The. Fluck. Is. Wrong. With. People! How in your right mind could you be against preventative screenings. I'm completely miffed and outraged by these crazycakes.

I don't get it either. I had an employer that paid $200 per year per family for preventative care. Ya know what that was like with a newborn? ***' expensive. I got over paying 100% for birth control, I didn't like it but I got over it. Paying for immunizations for my kid was entirely different.

sjgurl784 · August 2012

My co-worker and I are slammed with work right now and when our boss came over to ask which one of was covering a court date next week (mind you, we usually get 2+ months notice) she was met with blank stares quickly followed by the 154 reasons why it would be extremely difficult for either of us to cover it. She then pulled us both into her office and said she's surprised at our reaction and feels that we're "annoyed" with her for asking. I just started crying like a fool. I'm so overwhelmed with work (seriously starting to doubt I'll be able to finish everything before maternity leave), as well as not having been able to sleep more than two hours at a time this past week and feeling extremely anxious about becoming a mom in less than two months, I just lost it. I feel like an asshat now and that I must look like such a weakling.

Doesn't help that SIL is mad at us for "stealing" a potential baby name from them and we have to go to their sex reveal party tonight for the twins they're having in December. I'm still pretty effing pissed about her opening her big mouth, but will grin and bear it tonight.

Starry Again · August 2012

This was inspired by nothing today / no recent posts.

I side-eye a lot of comments around stepchildren. On the bump, the child's mother is always crazy, the husband was tricked into having children with her, and the stepchildren are brats. Whereas your new baby with your husband will be perfect, for sure! If anyone starts commenting about the mother of their stepchildren being a wacko with absolutely no sensitivity I assume they are not nice people. Of course some mothers ARE wackos but when you marry someone with children, you need to woman up and try to respect each other.

brekaye · August 2012

I have a small PT job working for my husbands cousin, emailing brides, finding out what they want for their bar at their wedding. I can't get up motivation to speak to these people - and I'm not sure why. I HATE talking on the phone, I'd rather just email. For one thing, I have everything in writing if we email. For some reason they all want to talk on the phone. I don't wanna.

sjgurl784 · August 2012

brekaye:
I have a small PT job working for my husbands cousin, emailing brides, finding out what they want for their bar at their wedding. I can't get up motivation to speak to these people - and I'm not sure why. I HATE talking on the phone, I'd rather just email. For one thing, I have everything in writing if we email. For some reason they all want to talk on the phone. I don't wanna.

I hate talking on the phone, too. I feel like English becomes my second language when I get on the phone... I can't speak well and feel like I ask, "What?" a thousand times. Emails = gold.

bellre · August 2012

Starry Again:
This was inspired by nothing today / no recent posts.
I side-eye a lot of comments around stepchildren. On the bump, the child's mother is always crazy, the husband was tricked into having children with her, and the stepchildren are brats. Whereas your new baby with your husband will be perfect, for sure! If anyone starts commenting about the mother of their stepchildren being a wacko with absolutely no sensitivity I assume they are not nice people. Of course some mothers ARE wackos but when you marry someone with children, you need to woman up and try to respect each other.

Sigh. I don't really know where to begin in responding to this. Of course it seems like that's how it is all the time....people post complaints more often then bragging about how great things are. I bet if we all posted about the good days we have and every time things are decent with BM/BF, it would seem like it was a lot more even between the good and the bad. And...it is easy to judge those in a blended family from the sidelines, but when you are actually in that situation, believe me your opinion can and will change.

baseballcr8zd · August 2012

KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

ladeebri · August 2012

My FFFC is that I've never owned a vibrator but I want one. I'm afraid DH might take it personally. The man works nights and for whatever reason pregnancy sends my drive into overtime (feels like a cruel joke really). I can only climax on top and I just feel huge and like I'm squishing him so that's out of the picture now.

baseballcr8zd · August 2012

KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

Yes Oh me too!!!!!

Sorry for two posts...TB hates me this week.

lady dixneuf · August 2012

AraDesi:
AngelSong76:
lady dixneuf:
DanielleH910:
lady dixneuf:
I kinda hate my husband and resent him to the point where I don't know if I can bounce back from this. There. I said it.
That must be terrible, again I'm really sorry you are going through so much right now. Have you considered any kind of counseling?
we were going but we can't afford it anymore
Are there resources where you could get income-based or free counseling? I am so sorry you are going through all this. We are here if you need to talk. Always.
I'm sorry, dixneuf But it would definitely be a good idea to look into what AngelSong mentioned. Also, do you belong to any sort of religion? I just ask because I know the priest at the church I used to go to was more than willing to talk things through with me when I was having some anxiety problems, so you might also be able to get some sort of free counseling that way. We're always here for you too. I don't know if I ever said it, but I am glad you came back to the bump *hugs*

No, no religion. We're both in 12 step support groups though and working it out.

He has things that have to happen. There is only so much therapy that needs to be done. I am just sort of done.

baseballcr8zd · August 2012

ladeebri:
My FFFC is that I've never owned a vibrator but I want one. I'm afraid DH might take it personally. The man works nights and for whatever reason pregnancy sends my drive into overtime (feels like a cruel joke really). I can only climax on top and I just feel huge and like I'm squishing him so that's out of the picture now.

Have you talked to him about buying one?? I would talk to him about it and see what he says. I have several and my DH does get annoyed from time to time but sometimes he just isn't in the mood when I am and he gets it.

ladeebri · August 2012

ladeebri:
My FFFC is that I've never owned a vibrator but I want one. I'm afraid DH might take it personally. The man works nights and for whatever reason pregnancy sends my drive into overtime (feels like a cruel joke really). I can only climax on top and I just feel huge and like I'm squishing him so that's out of the picture now.

So if anyone has any not so expensive recommendations, please let a girl know. There's a shop in the section of town where my doctors office is and I might just go buy one after I'm done here (in the waiting room now).

lady dixneuf · August 2012

bellre:
Starry Again:
This was inspired by nothing today / no recent posts.
I side-eye a lot of comments around stepchildren. On the bump, the child's mother is always crazy, the husband was tricked into having children with her, and the stepchildren are brats. Whereas your new baby with your husband will be perfect, for sure! If anyone starts commenting about the mother of their stepchildren being a wacko with absolutely no sensitivity I assume they are not nice people. Of course some mothers ARE wackos but when you marry someone with children, you need to woman up and try to respect each other.
Sigh. I don't really know where to begin in responding to this. Of course it seems like that's how it is all the time....people post complaints more often then bragging about how great things are. I bet if we all posted about the good days we have and every time things are decent with BM/BF, it would seem like it was a lot more even between the good and the bad. And...it is easy to judge those in a blended family from the sidelines, but when you are actually in that situation, believe me your opinion can and will change.

um. are you in a blended family?

I really resent my h for having had a child with this woman. He knows it was a huge mistake.

I've never even MET the woman and I have a restraining order on her. She has severe issues that admittedly go way beyond the typical BM/SM issues. And they extend beyond her issues with her child and ex.

People make it work but it's rarely cut and dry. It's actually really really hard, even in the best of situations. People need to vent.

AraDesi · August 2012

baseballcr8zd:
KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

Oh me too!!!!!

Sorry for two posts...TB hates me this week.

Posts like this are so funny when paired with your son's picture. It looks like he's saying something like "Oh, Mom! I don't want to hear that!" haha.

Rachelilly23 · August 2012

Mine is that I can't stand my in-laws. Most of the arguments DH and I have stem around them and how they are a money hole. He doesn't get along with them well, mainly just his one sister (he doesn't talk to his mom or his other sister anymore), but even she has issues that I can't forgive. His whole family is irresponsible with money and it drives me crazy because DH feels responsible for them since he's the only one who is successful, when we don't have the money to help them either since we have so many expenses and debt even though he makes good money as a lieutenant. I just can't keep overlooking it when we have tons of debt that we're trying to dig ourselves out of yet they keep adding to it every so often when something comes up. The story goes much deeper, but I can't get into all that craziness. I just wish this whole money thing would go away and I could see them as family rather than a financial burden that I don't want to be responsible for.

AadensMommy2010 · August 2012

AraDesi:
baseballcr8zd:

KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

Oh me too!!!!!

Sorry for two posts...TB hates me this week.

Posts like this are so funny when paired with your son's picture. It looks like he's saying something like "Oh, Mom! I don't want to hear that!" haha.

This is what I was thinking too! Her sons expression in her siggy is just too funny paired with the topic at hand!

AngelSong76 · August 2012

ladeebri:
ladeebri:
My FFFC is that I've never owned a vibrator but I want one. I'm afraid DH might take it personally. The man works nights and for whatever reason pregnancy sends my drive into overtime (feels like a cruel joke really). I can only climax on top and I just feel huge and like I'm squishing him so that's out of the picture now.
So if anyone has any not so expensive recommendations, please let a girl know. There's a shop in the section of town where my doctors office is and I might just go buy one after I'm done here (in the waiting room now).

I wish I could remember the brand I have right now because it's pretty great. Sadly, I'm at work and the name has escaped me.

Talk to the people at the shop (even if you are embarrassed to do it - don't worry, they have seen it all!) and they should be able to give you great recommendations. Tell them what you are looking for and the price range. I was a first-time buyer about a year ago and was so nervous about going in there, but they were fantastic. The girl at our local shop even got the batteries I would need and the lubricant that would be best and put them all together for me, still under the price range I wanted. She even put the batteries in for me and made sure everything worked.

As for your husband, I think explaining to him what you just said to us about how he works nights and sometimes you're in the mood when he's not home should work. But if it doesn't, remind him that it doesn't have to be a solo action. My husband and I use mine sometimes when we want to switch things up a little or (TMI) if he finishes before I do. It's just another way to introduce variety into your sex life, which is not a bad thing at all!

lady dixneuf · August 2012

My vibe is called a jeJoue (www.jejoue.com) and it is fantastic.

It's awesome, well made and rechargable - a key thing as these babies burn out.

Do NOT waste your money on a Rabbit. They're a POS and burn out easily.

Talk to your H about feeling secure. I honestly can't relate to that but really, unless he can make his johnson vibrate or spin at the top there is no competition here

bellre · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
My vibe is called a jeJoue (www.jejoue.com) and it is fantastic.
It's awesome, well made and rechargable - a key thing as these babies burn out.
Do NOT waste your money on a Rabbit. They're a POS and burn out easily.
Talk to your H about feeling secure. I honestly can't relate to that but really, unless he can make his johnson vibrate or spin at the top there is no competition here

HAHAHA! Thank you for that.

Skaggsfamily08 · August 2012

KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

THIS!!!

bellre · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
bellre:
Starry Again:
This was inspired by nothing today / no recent posts.
I side-eye a lot of comments around stepchildren. On the bump, the child's mother is always crazy, the husband was tricked into having children with her, and the stepchildren are brats. Whereas your new baby with your husband will be perfect, for sure! If anyone starts commenting about the mother of their stepchildren being a wacko with absolutely no sensitivity I assume they are not nice people. Of course some mothers ARE wackos but when you marry someone with children, you need to woman up and try to respect each other.
Sigh. I don't really know where to begin in responding to this. Of course it seems like that's how it is all the time....people post complaints more often then bragging about how great things are. I bet if we all posted about the good days we have and every time things are decent with BM/BF, it would seem like it was a lot more even between the good and the bad. And...it is easy to judge those in a blended family from the sidelines, but when you are actually in that situation, believe me your opinion can and will change.
um. are you in a blended family?
I really resent my h for having had a child with this woman. He knows it was a huge mistake.
I've never even MET the woman and I have a restraining order on her. She has severe issues that admittedly go way beyond the typical BM/SM issues. And they extend beyond her issues with her child and ex.
People make it work but it's rarely cut and dry. It's actually really really hard, even in the best of situations. People need to vent.

True story.

I would also like to point out that most of the time, SMs are generally portrayed as evil, conniving b!tches. I know we're not all like that (although I'm sure everyone has those kind of moments, SM & BM alike) so I don't get upset when people assume that about me. SMs are criticized and judged a lot quicker and more harshly as compared to BMs, IMO.

Sorry, Starry but this really struck a nerve with me today.

Mrschica · August 2012

lady dixneuf:
bellre:
Starry Again:
This was inspired by nothing today / no recent posts.
I side-eye a lot of comments around stepchildren. On the bump, the child's mother is always crazy, the husband was tricked into having children with her, and the stepchildren are brats. Whereas your new baby with your husband will be perfect, for sure! If anyone starts commenting about the mother of their stepchildren being a wacko with absolutely no sensitivity I assume they are not nice people. Of course some mothers ARE wackos but when you marry someone with children, you need to woman up and try to respect each other.
Sigh. I don't really know where to begin in responding to this. Of course it seems like that's how it is all the time....people post complaints more often then bragging about how great things are. I bet if we all posted about the good days we have and every time things are decent with BM/BF, it would seem like it was a lot more even between the good and the bad. And...it is easy to judge those in a blended family from the sidelines, but when you are actually in that situation, believe me your opinion can and will change.
um. are you in a blended family?
I really resent my h for having had a child with this woman. He knows it was a huge mistake.
I've never even MET the woman and I have a restraining order on her. She has severe issues that admittedly go way beyond the typical BM/SM issues. And they extend beyond her issues with her child and ex.
People make it work but it's rarely cut and dry. It's actually really really hard, even in the best of situations. People need to vent.

Im a child of a blended family and I agree with bellre and lady dixneuf... Although my dad's gf is very nice to us, there is an underlying amount of tension that goes with mixing two families together, and even in the best of circumstances, that tension will almost ALWAYS will surface and create shitty situations.

AngelSong76 · August 2012

My FFFC: I let the dogs out. It was me. Now you don't have to ask anymore.

(sorry, feeling silly today)

lady dixneuf · August 2012

re: step mom thread

true story:

last fall I took SD to the playground. She was running around with another little girl she made friends with while we were there. I came over bc it was time to go or something and the other girl asked her if I was her mom. She said no, I am her Step mom. The other girl GASPED and said IS SHE EVIL?

I almost died laughing but yeah.

arranging things like holidays, celebrations and childcare is hard enough in one family. Orchestrating it between two? A nightmare.

blackcat3163 · August 2012

AraDesi:
baseballcr8zd:

KNemo:
I prefer sex with my vibrator to sex with my husband right now.

Oh me too!!!!!

Sorry for two posts...TB hates me this week.

Posts like this are so funny when paired with your son's picture. It looks like he's saying something like "Oh, Mom! I don't want to hear that!" haha.

Hahahahhahahhaha......hahahhhahahah I just thought she was like "well my siggy says it all" and intentionally didn't write anything.

best confession for sure, Knemo.

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