So, DH and I are online looking at cribs, changing tables, etc..So I call my sister and ask her what brand of crib she has, if she knows how much it was, etc. I talked to her for at least 15 minutes or so about baby stuff and then she says "so, there's something I have to tell you." Turns out she just found out she miscarried at around 4 am. I am devastated for her. Despite all my fertility problems, though I never miscarried since I've never been pregnant, she has had no problem getting pregnant and she has the most beautiful 1 year old. I know this is very common, but we just never expected it. She was just a couple days away from hitting the 12 week mark.
I may go over to the loss boards, but if any of you have any advice on how I can be there for my sister, please feel free to share.
Re: Just found out some sad news..
If you're nearby, I would just offer yourself up to help with anything she needs at all- from running errands, bringing a meal, taking the 1 year old out so she can have some quiet time. Just let her know that you are there for her to talk anytime, even down the road. Sometimes the hurt doesn't come for a long time.
Also, with each of my m/c's, I have one friend who sent me flowers when my due date came around. That is a sad day for the mom and dad, but by then a lot of people assume that they are "over it" or have moved on. It was just nice to know that someone else remembered.
wife to joe 2.2.08. mama to noah 9.5.09.
After multiple m/c's, a MTHFR diagnosis and the Lord calling both of our hearts in the same direction, we're adopting!
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This.
Ditto PPs. Just be there for her. Let her sob on your shoulder if she needs. Bring over some chick flicks and wine if she wants company.
Oh, and whatever you do - don't stop acknowledging the baby or her loss just bc it is uncomfortable for you. Acknowledge milestones like her EDD (even if it's just a simple text that you're thinking of her), etc.
I am so sorry for your sister.
I wouldn't post on the loss board, they HATE that kind of stuff.
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I agree.
wife to joe 2.2.08. mama to noah 9.5.09.
After multiple m/c's, a MTHFR diagnosis and the Lord calling both of our hearts in the same direction, we're adopting!
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