Our BM does not plan to have future contact with child. I do not know much about the BF, but have sensed she is very uncomfortable with the situation all together. I do still want to get her something when she presents us the baby at the hospital. I've always planned to get something sentimental, but I do not think she would want that.
Any suggestions that would show her our appreciation, but not upset her anymore than she already may be?
TIA
Re: Birthmother gift ?
We gave ours a sterling silver necklace that had a heart on it. This way she can wear it whenever she is thinking of him. When she went to leave we hugged and I noticed when she changed into her normal clothes she had put it on.
As well, if you don't feel comfortable giving her a gift you could always offer while she is in the hospital if she wants anything to eat or has clothes or a robe to wear while at the hospital. Our BM didn't have time to grab her bag from home so we brought her pajamas, a robe and clothes to wear home. We also grabbed her food whenever she wanted it.
We got her flowers
We got our BM a necklace similar to this, same saying:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/61967673/sterling-silver-handstamped-rememberence?ref=sr_gallery_20&ga_search_query=Adoption+necklace&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_ship_to=ZZ&ga_min=0&ga_max=0&ga_search_type=all&ga_facet=Adoption+necklace
Edit: sorry not clicky