Am I the only one?

NastyAnnie · July 2012

My kid stayed with my parents for the weekend when he was 2 months old, because we could. He has stayed with them fairly regularly since, and with my ILs. I don't have issues with this.

Kitiara5512 · July 2012

(Ignoring the other comments because I actually have to work today)

I wish I could pawn them off. C has been STTN for a long while, but my parents are not comfortable keeping him overnight. My dad is a fussy grouch (loving, but omg the grumblies) who does not like having his sleep disturbed by the kid. C sleeps with my parents in their bed when he is there in the afternoons.

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2012

MrsPteranodon:

robinsokj:
The dinosaur's response made me throw up in my mouth a little

Why?

I am not judging anyone for leaving their kids at all.

For me, personally I feel no urge to leave my kids. Both boys go to bed at a reasonable time so like someone else said we usually order take out and rent a movie on amazon instant. Date night - DONE!

I can literally count on one hand the times I spent away from my parents growing up, and my grandparents lived DOWN THE STREET. Both sets of grandparents live hours away though. So for an over night I would have to drive 6 hours round trip to leave them. Not worth it. Its just never been the "normal" to pawn my kids off because its not how DH or I were raised.

I just think it's really weird personally, but I'm sure I do lots of crap that other people find weird too. We're all weird in some way. Smile

grr_aargh · July 2012

My children don't STTN until well into toddlerhood, so even if we waited until they STTN, it'd be after age 2. For all 3 of them.

It'd be nice. I'd do it if we could. But we don't have grandparents here and, well, see above. Oh, and my parents are crazy and not necessarily the right place for our kids to stay the night . . .

fancynewbeesly · July 2012

She has slept over at grandparents 5 times since she was born. Honestly, the only reason we don't have stay over there more is because grandparents are her daytime baby-sitters, so we figure THEY need a break. I definitely will have her sleepover there more once she is in a preschool--and they aren't babysitting her during the work week anymore.

So now grandparents sleepovers are reserved for weddings/anniversaries/etc.

However I can't wait til she is old enough to sleep over friends' houses. My parents were definitely pro sleepovers--and I never had anxiety about sleeping in a strange place. I was sleeping over friends' houses by the age of three (obviously they were good friends with the parents)

LilyRose28 · July 2012

MrsPteranodon:
robinsokj:
The dinosaur's response made me throw up in my mouth a little
Why?
I am not judging anyone for leaving their kids at all.
For me, personally I feel no urge to leave my kids. Both boys go to bed at a reasonable time so like someone else said we usually order take out and rent a movie on amazon instant. Date night - DONE!
I can literally count on one hand the times I spent away from my parents growing up, and my grandparents lived DOWN THE STREET. Both sets of grandparents live hours away though. So for an over night I would have to drive 6 hours round trip to leave them. Not worth it. Its just never been the "normal" to pawn my kids off because its not how DH or I were raised.

I actually could have written this practically word for word. I really don't mind not being away from DS overnight. He goes to bed at 7 and sleeps until 7-8. DH and I are homebodies anyway so getting take out and watching a movie on the couch sounds like a fun night to us. We do get out for dates when we can. We're saving up to move and for a new car so going away for a weekend probably isn't going to happen for awhile. It sure would be fun to lounge in bed until 9 or 10 and if my parents lived closer we might take advantage but for now I don't mind.

MrsPteranodon · July 2012

KC_13:
MrsPteranodon:

robinsokj:
The dinosaur's response made me throw up in my mouth a little

Why?

I am not judging anyone for leaving their kids at all.

For me, personally I feel no urge to leave my kids. Both boys go to bed at a reasonable time so like someone else said we usually order take out and rent a movie on amazon instant. Date night - DONE!

I can literally count on one hand the times I spent away from my parents growing up, and my grandparents lived DOWN THE STREET. Both sets of grandparents live hours away though. So for an over night I would have to drive 6 hours round trip to leave them. Not worth it. Its just never been the "normal" to pawn my kids off because its not how DH or I were raised.

I just think it's really weird personally, but I'm sure I do lots of crap that other people find weird too. We're all weird in some way.

I totally realize its probably odd to not want to be away from my kids. However, just because I'm not okay with it doesn't mean we won't be sending him to grandmas soon. In september he's going to spend a couple nights camping with my mom and dad, and fishing and will have a complete blast.

He's going to go to drop off gymnastics starting in the fall. Next spring he's going to spend 2 weeks doing swim lessons at my parents (they have an awesome and really reasonably priced program)

I know I won't be happy. I know I'll probably cry. A lot. But I know he needs time away from me and our house to be a more well rounded child.

RedWingsFan · July 2012

Mom2Oli:
If my parents lived closer, it'd totally be Team Pawn Them Off. As it is, whenever they visit for longer than a couple days, my husband and I take every advantage. We do weekends away, date nights, movie dates, you name it.

This exactly. When they are a bit older and easier to handle they can stay at my mom's in Detroit for the weekend/week, but since my dad isn't around to help, it'd be too much for her on her own.

They won't be staying alone overnight with my H's parents, though. My FIL has Parkinsons and just isn't physically capable of watching them for an extended period of time, and I won't get into my MIL.

historychick79 · July 2012

I would love to pawn C off to the grandparents, but both sides are not ready. My parents want him to be able to express what he needs better in case he has a nightmare or tantrum or something. I think DHs parents are waiting until he's potty trained. It may be a year or two still. Sigh.

SIL's parents have done 2 overnights for their 4mos old granddaughter already.

<---wee bit jealous

MrsSparklesMcGee · July 2012

I'm conflicted on this, but it's not really an issue because we don't have anyone nearby anyway. I'm still BFing so logistically it would be challenging (the pump and I do not get along). Even if that were not an issue, there's something about it that still makes me a little bit uncomfortable. She just seems so little to me still. On the flip side, the idea of having (more than) a few adult beverages and sleeping in (or just STTN, honestly) sounds amazing.

I think we might try to plan a trip for our 5th anniversary (next June) and see if my ILs will come and stay with her for a few days at our house. I know they'd love to, I just have to see if I can get onboard.

Qtlplegs · July 2012

DD stayed overnight at the grandparents for the first time at 7 months or so. Once they realized what an easy baby she was, they always wanted her to sleep over when they babysat. since DS arrived, they sleep over much less, only when we go out of town for a wedding or other event. We had to get an actual babysitter and pay them. both kids is a lot harder for my parents and DS is a crappy sleeper. Hopefully when he is a bit older we can resume the sleep overs on a more regular basis!

ThePolishHammer · July 2012

I would allow a sleepover if a trustworthy family member was willing.

JessiRaye · July 2012

Wish I would have started this with my first child! Now I have 3 and they have all been bed sharing babies. And breast fed. My youngest is still nursing and sleeping with me. No one wants to keep him, lol.

pepomntpat · July 2012

I am just now ready to leave LO with the ILs overnight. Just had no desire to let her go before now. I am so excited I created a ticker for her first overnight. Now, my only fear is mastitis. But, I am sooooo ready to sleep without one ear open.

LoveBeingAWife33008 · July 2012

My mom can have DD all she wants. ILs never get a sleep over- ever.

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ginamcp · July 2012

I would leave C with either set of our parents if they lived close enough. We might be taking our first overnight trip together without her in October and my parents will stay with her at our house.

pepomntpat · July 2012

KC_13:
mbenit4:

I jump at the chance of a grandparent asking for them overnight.

#pawnoff

I know a lot of people are like, "I never left my child for more than 2 hours." I just assumed it was a thebump anomaly.

I thought it was a bump anomaly too until I've been seeing it all over FB lately. Like my friend who freaked out about leaving her 3 year old for the first time for more than a few hours because she had a wedding to go to.

I honestly don't know how marriages survive when one (or both) people can't separate from their kids for a few hours.

LOL! I separate from my child every night between 7PM and 4AM when she is sleeping. Also, there is something to be said for creativity.

folkfemme · July 2012

Until he is much older, I won't be spending the night away from him.

Abinormal · July 2012

If my parents lived closer, I think DD would probably spend the night with them more often. Right now, they live 2.5 hours away, so if DD were to go to stay with them, it'd have to be more than 1 night. I'd probably be cool with semi-regular drop off at night, pick up before noon the next day type situations, but I don't really want to miss out on an entire weekend, even once a month or once every 6-8 weeks. I'm a teacher and during the school year, I'm very protective of my time with DD.

Yules · July 2012

Pfft:
Also Team Pawn Them Off; T's first overnighter was probably around 9 or 10 weeks, and she wasn't sleeping through the night yet.

This. I had a weaning party weekend getaway when DS was 9 weeks.

ougrad1 · July 2012

My oldest goes to my MIL often. She won't keep the babies-don't ask.

My mom will keep all three if we ask her to.

TunaTown · July 2012

I am jealous of all you hors who can be on Team Pawn Them Off

We are Team Suck It Up and Deal. Boo.

quidditchcapn1120 · July 2012

I BF'd until 15 months and I still let my mom take them for a day or the weekend every once in a while when he hit 6 mos old. I just took my pump with me and pumped every three hours (and dumped if I was drinking). I have no problems with it now. It was a bit tough the first time but got easier.

zeptattoo · July 2012

Snuggle has had overnights with my parents since he was about 7 months old. We didn't want to do it so early, but DH and I were both in a wedding and we could not bring him.

He loves it there. Recently he was with my parents for almost a week so DH could take care of me after I had surgery.

stdldb29 · July 2012

My parents and inlaws live 10 hours away-even when we visit we didn't leave them over night because I was nursing. After that--fair game. Whoever wants them can have them.

Since they are a bit older now (4 and 2)-this summer they both stayed with my parents for 5 nights and DS just came back from a trip to the inlaws for 8 days. I'm all about it now! It is just hard because we are so far away, but we make it work!

We rarely get date nights-but the kids go to bed at 7 daily and we spend each evening together.

melandjudd · July 2012

We let my sister take her for the weekend last weekend for the first time and my parents watched her in March for our anniversary. We live about 1 1/2 hours from the closest family members so it is hard to do, but if they lived closer, I would take advantage of all the free babysitting I could get.

k.linn · July 2012

Both kids started doing sleepovers with the grandparents after 3 months. DD goes to MIL's about once or twice a month. We don't send DS as often, but that's primarily because it's easier to keep him with me while I bf. But he has been away from us 3 times already and it was great to have a few kiddo-free nights.

klondikebar · July 2012

My children love sleepovers at my parent's house. Even my teen likes going over there still to hang out. My dad builds a huge tent in the family room and lets the two younger ones camp out. They play flashlight tag out in the dark.

I don't even remember the soecific ? in the OP now. lol Yes, sleepovers are great for both children and parents.

Sherbet Lemon · July 2012

I"m BF-ing, so it would be more trouble than it's worth to leave DD anywhere for a sleep over right now. I will never be okay w/ her spending time w/ my mother and father inlaw alone. My SIL would be totally trusted (and is in town). My parents and sisters would also be totally trusted, but they're OOT.

AshasaurusRex · July 2012

There is no way that either sets of grandparents would keep the kids over night. They are not those type of grandparents. They're the type to tell us up front to not expect them to be the on call babysitter (never would have thought that anyway). Unless I was in labor or something, I think they would laugh at us if we asked them to keep them overnight. Maybe when they get older.

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