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bjlucas1
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is it tacky to have baby shower at my house
bjlucas1
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My mom wants to have my baby shower at my house because I recently moved and she thinks people will want to see it. Plus it has an open floor plan and can fit a lot of people. My mom would host the party but is it still tacky? Thanks for your thoughts!
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Re: is it tacky to have baby shower at my house
This. We're having my shower at my house in case I'm on bed rest by then. My bridesmaids threw my bridal shower at my house as well and it worked out really well.
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Eh, no. I don't think its tacky, but I don't get in an uproar about this kind of stuff. If the invite says its hosted by your mom, that should be enough. Besides, it would be convenient, you won't have to travel anywhere or figure out how to get all the gifts back to your house. I had to travel 45 min each way for my shower and felt bad a couple friends loaded their cars to make the trek to my house cause it didnt all fit in my SUV. I say enjoy!!
There are different opinions on whether it's tacky or a violation of etiquette to have a family member throw a shower for you. In my area & society the family does not throw a shower. It's considered gift-grabby for the family of the MTB to throw one. It might be different for your area.
As long as you aren't hosting the shower yourself, I think it's generally accepted. However, some may consider your mom throwing it as the exact same thing as you throwing your own. I, personally, don't think that way. It's usually not done here thought & there would be judgement in my circle on that.
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I know it is technically proper etiquette that the mother not throw one, but for all of my friends and myself, our mothers threw them and the friends/sisters helped out. Honestly, in my circle we were all married in our early 20's and started having kids after. Financially, we weren't in the position to be able to afford to throw showers ourselves for our friends and the mom's just assumed it was their right to throw it anyway. Its just something they wanted to do for all of us
No, as long as you aren't hosting yourself. Lots of baby showers are at the pregnant lady's house -- people understand that she often isn't in the condition to lug things home afterward!
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Mine was held at my house, hosted by friends.
One really handy thing - you don't need a truck to get all your stuff home
And people loved checking out the nursery, which was newly finished!
My MIL had mine at our house. There was going to be a lot of out of town family who wanted to see nursery progress, plus she thought it would be easier than packing up all the gifts to get them home.
Also apart of DD's nursery was an alphabet wall. That wall was filled with letters that people were making or bought for us. So each letter was really different from the next. She wanted me to put what I had so far on display and then as other brought theirs they could fill in the gaps. We have a plate rail that goes all the way around our dining room and she thought that was the perfect place to put them.
She was right it was super cute and way easier to not have to pack up gifts.
My shower was at my house and hosted by some friends. I had just bought and renovated the house and no-one had seen it yet and heck, it's way easier to just have the gifts at your house rather than having to take them all home.
I think it's fine.
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This. My mom threw my shower and we held it at my house. I have the largest home in my family and she thought it would be convenient for everything to just be here. No moving gifts... etc... She cooked and cleaned up, super easy.
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I don't think it's tacky. We had our shower at our home. It was hosted by my mother in law who was actually living with us at the time. Our house was also more centrally located, so easiest for more people to attend.
This exactly!