is it tacky to have baby shower at my house

bjlucas1

My mom wants to have my baby shower at my house because I recently moved and she thinks people will want to see it. Plus it has an open floor plan and can fit a lot of people. My mom would host the party but is it still tacky? Thanks for your thoughts!

sesigs

I don't think it is tacky as long as you are not the one hosting! 

jessican08

sesigs:

I don't think it is tacky as long as you are not the one hosting! 

This. We're having my shower at my house in case I'm on bed rest by then. My bridesmaids threw my bridal shower at my house as well and it worked out really well.  

Jimsgirl5821

Eh, no. I don't think its tacky, but I don't get in an uproar about this kind of stuff. If the invite says its hosted by your mom, that should be enough. Besides, it would be convenient, you won't have to travel anywhere or figure out how to get all the gifts back to your house. I had to travel 45 min each way for my shower and felt bad a couple friends loaded their cars to make the trek to my house cause it didnt all fit in my SUV. I say enjoy!!

 

PrimRoseMama

There are different opinions on whether it's tacky or a violation of etiquette to have a family member throw a shower for you. In my area & society the family does not throw a shower. It's considered gift-grabby for the family of the MTB to throw one. It might be different for your area.

As long as you aren't hosting the shower yourself, I think it's generally accepted. However, some may consider your mom throwing it as the exact same thing as you throwing your own. I, personally, don't think that way. It's usually not done here thought & there would be judgement in my circle on that. 

Jimsgirl5821

PrimRoseMama:

There are different opinions on whether it's tacky or a violation of etiquette to have a family member throw a shower for you. In my area & society the family does not throw a shower. It's considered gift-grabby for the family of the MTB to throw one. It might be different for your area.

As long as you aren't hosting the shower yourself, I think it's generally accepted. However, some may consider your mom throwing it as the exact same thing as you throwing your own. I, personally, don't think that way. It's usually not done here thought & there would be judgement in my circle on that. 

I know it is technically proper etiquette that the mother not throw one, but for all of my friends and myself, our mothers threw them and the friends/sisters helped out. Honestly, in my circle we were all married in our early 20's and started having kids after. Financially, we weren't in the position to be able to afford to throw showers ourselves for our friends and the mom's just assumed it was their right to throw it anyway. Its just something they wanted to do for all of us

 

hmontty

No, as long as you aren't hosting yourself. Lots of baby showers are at the pregnant lady's house -- people understand that she often isn't in the condition to lug things home afterward!

 

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

As long as you didn't plan/host it, then no, I don't think it's tacky at all.

jillychris

I have two friends throwing mine, but we are having it at my house. I also just moved!!

ngarden01

Nah, I don't think so. As long as you're not the one hosting I don't think it's a big deal at all!

brianabrad

We are planning to have the shower at our new house. BFF is hosting. Like you we just recently moved and figure family and friends will enjoy the chance to see the new place and it has an open floor plan and lots of room to celebrate.

jenyjeny

Mine was held at my house, hosted by friends.

One really handy thing - you don't need a truck to get all your stuff home And people loved checking out the nursery, which was newly finished!

 

nealbl

My MIL had mine at our house. There was going to be a lot of out of town family who wanted to see nursery progress, plus she thought it would be easier than packing up all the gifts to get them home.

Also apart of DD's nursery was an alphabet wall. That wall was filled with letters that people were making or bought for us. So each letter was really different from the next. She wanted me to put what I had so far on display and then as other brought theirs they could fill in the gaps. We have a plate rail that goes all the way around our dining room and she thought that was the perfect place to put them.

She was right it was super cute and way easier to not have to pack up gifts.

itsmevkb

My shower was at my house and hosted by some friends.  I had just bought and renovated the house and no-one had seen it yet and heck, it's way easier to just have the gifts at your house rather than having to take them all home.

I think it's fine.

peytons mommy

sesigs:

I don't think it is tacky as long as you are not the one hosting! 

This.  My mom threw my shower and we held it at my house.  I have the largest home in my family and she thought it would be convenient for everything to just be here.  No moving gifts... etc...  She cooked and cleaned up, super easy.

golomboc

Agreed, not tacky, just make sure you aren't cooking or cleaning after! haha Enjoy!

DreamGirl314

no plus you dont have to move the stuff except to a new room

ACOOK

I insisted that the shower be at my house. I told my sister and girlfriend to just let me know what time to be there. I didn't want to know any other details. This way friends and family could see the almost finished nursery and I didn't have to worry about lugging the gifts home or asking friends to help. It was perfect. I went out shopping and came home to a great party. Even better, I didn't even have to clean up. I just sat back and enjoyed all the new things for my baby!

brittandjp

My mom has already requested to host my shower. I'd actually prefer it be at my house. So, as long as we're in our new house by then, my shower will be at my house with my mom as host.

Todd&Laura

My mom threw my shower at my house. It was not tacky and not a big deal. I just didn't enjoy having to be the one to do all the cleaning etc beforehand. 

Chappy_jr

That's a great point!  I see nothing wrong with having the shower at the MTB's home, especially since you said it had enough room and was still new.  I hosted a shower for my BFF at her home because her house was huge compared to my tiny apartment at the time.

stntn91804

I don't think it's tacky. We had our shower at our home.  It was hosted by my mother in law who was actually living with us at the time. Our house was also more centrally located, so easiest for more people to attend.

stardust317

jenyjeny:

Mine was held at my house, hosted by friends.

One really handy thing - you don't need a truck to get all your stuff home And people loved checking out the nursery, which was newly finished!

 

 

This exactly! 

Kingston54

I agree - not tacky if you're not throwing it.  Plus then you don't have to haul all the stuff anywhere!  Great idea on her part!

Neary2011

I don't think that is tacky at all, I think it is a really great idea. I would love to have my Baby Shower at my home, but we live in an apartment so that is not possible, but if it was we would so do it, that way we don't have to go anywhere, and we don't have to worry about bringing stuff in from the car after the shower is over.

bjlucas1

Thank you all for your messages. I feel better about the situation now. I do think it will be much easier than transporting the gifts later. Plus it is going to be close family and friends only. It will motivate me to get working on the baby room as well!