October 2011 Moms
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"Sometimes I am two people. Johnny is the nice one. Cash causes all the trouble. They fight." - Johnny Cash
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"Sometimes I am two people. Johnny is the nice one. Cash causes all the trouble. They fight." - Johnny Cash
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My DD was horrible. I thought I was done too. Then she turned 2 and I was ready for another one. It does get easier. I promise!
We bought the Baby Bullet a couple of weeks ago because our mini food processor wasn't getting the job done. It is AMAZING. (Maybe that's a FFFC ... )
My real FFFC is that I lost 20lbs after about 2 months of having DD, but I've pretty much gained that all back because of emotional eating and not exercising. Just this last week I've started logging what I eat and getting back into regular exercise. So that whole 9 months on 9 months off motto ... yah, not the case, because it all stayed. I hate the weight struggle ...
DH's cousin's friend is selling her house. It would be perfect for us. Except in order to afford it we need to put 10% down and we only have enough for 5% down now. I don't think we can do that in a week (which I am assuming is how long it will take to sell).
DH's cousins are well off. I may have sent them an e-mail about how much we love the house, but we are short by X amount, and how I wish I could rob a bank or win the lottery or something in hopes that they will decide to lend us the remainder.
Horrible right? ::hangs head in shame::
AF finally came back since having Izzy. This is good and bad. In one way I want to try to have another baby sooner rather than later because of my age. My birthday is in two weeks and it scares me if we wait I may not be able to have another. On the other hand, DH is leaving in September for 5 months of training and then an alternate to go to Afghanistan for 9 months. He is on stand by to leave all the way until next May. I would be pregnant and have the baby by myself with Izzy...not an ideal situation. We are going to wait to see what happens with being deployed. I need to be religious with the mini-pill (I am still nursing) and I am terrible at remembering. So, age and deployment are factors for/against another baby.
I have a major DH problem, but I'm too ashamed to talk to anyone about it.
You can talk to us. You can pm me if you want to talk and don't want to be so public about it. Hugs
Get a Keurig! I love my machine.
I'm so sorry! Please know you can always talk here if you need to vent/ get advice from people you don't have to see IRL. Hugs!
So sorry to hear this, scarlett. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk, I've been down a similar road before.
ETA: Sorry, meant to quote scarlett.
Remember my crazy story from the other day? Well a friend of mine who lives in town read it on my blog, and lo and behold his family had a package stolen that same day, too!! He contacted the local news stations to try to get word out.
He just called to see if I was around because the local news station wants an interview, but I'm on the way to Atlanta for the weekend. My FFFC is that my first reaction was relief that I'm not home to be on tv because I have a big pimple! Haha Shallow much?
Yesterday DH said, "You did an amazing job with the house today babe." and I was inordinately proud of myself. It was very June Cleaverish of me. But the fact that he said something made me so happy. It made me happy enough to forget that I was too tired to put out.
I am super lame about the cars that I have loved to drive. When I was in high school I drove a 6 seater Oldsmobile Cutlass Sierra and adored my powder blue land boat. Then the car my parents let me drive was their Ford van that I needed a hammer to start but I adored it. Then I owned a Toyota station wagon that I named Teto couldn't have loved more. When I bought my first new car I picked a Honda Fit over a Mustang. So today, my lameness continues. I never really was enthusiastic over my SUV. I cried when I traded in my Fit because I needed a bigger car and the Equinox was cool and all, nice drive etc. But I resented every dollar I had to put into it. I put off oil changes, I hardly ever cleaned it. I just couldn't like it. This minivan I am picking up today makes me so happy! I had trouble sleeping last night because I am so excited. I am officially lame.
I'm very sorry you are having difficulties.
ditto. my son was a very difficult baby! he never STTN til he was almost one and he cried non stop til he was 6 months old. DD is the exact opposite baby and i'm so happy lightning didn't strike twice. i've always been amazed at those who want #2 right away (or w/in the first year). my baby fever was non existent for the first 2yrs.
Mine is that i am so happy that the FBI released their finding on the Penn State thing and that it was proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that Paterno helped cover it up over and over again. the man is scum and i hope he is remembered that way instead of being up on a pedestal forever just because he was a football coach.
https://sports.yahoo.com/news/ncaaf--joe-paterno-blame-freeh-report-jerry-sandusky-penn-state-tarnished-legacy.html
DH is on my last nerve. He's out of school for the summer and literally sitting on his a$$ doin nothing. I'm paying someone $100/wk to keep DD so he can play play station and create a big fat mess for me to clean up. We've been stupid busy and I can't even hold my eyes open by the end of the day and he's complaining about his laundry not being done and there being dirty dishes in the sink.
I feel like I could crack a plate over his head.
Pretty sure that plate would have cracked a long time ago in this house. Totally unacceptable on his part. DH is also on summer break, and he's playing plenty of video games, but he's also doing lots of parenting (especially since I've had to go out more for volunteer work) and running errands with me and stuff. He also fully acknowledged that since he's not working at the moment he needs to help out more around the house. I'm still doing more of the household stuff than he is, but he's taking on some of it. And since you say you're paying someone to watch your DD, I presume that means you're working? He needs to get off his ass and do the laundry and dishes, especially if he's not watching your child.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
I love our neighborhood but if you go a few blocks in one direction, it can be a little sketchy. DH and I have always joked about a Latin King presence in the neighborhood but haven't really thought about it much.
This morning, when we were all leaving, I noticed a huge Latin Kings logo (I'm sure this isn't the right term) spray painted on our building. Rather than being rational, I became instantly concerned that I would be embarrassed when my friend came to sit for Abbie tomorrow. Then, I got concerned for our safety.
Burned by the Bear
Feel free to talk here. It can be a safe, unbiased place where noone knows DH.
Burned by the Bear
I'm going back four days a week, but I could have written everything I quoted of yours. I'm excited about working and socializing as an adult more than once a week. And I love my baby, but I think time with our nanny and my sister's kid will be really great!
I was overweight when I got pregnant but didn't gain much weight with Joey. I have lost 60+ lbs since having him and I feel great.
My FFFC is that as much as everyone says how great I look and how good I feel, I would still like to hear DH say it! When his family asks me if DH tells me how good I look, I lie and say all the time, when actually its only been once he told me.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
I have a bachelorette party next weekend for one of my good friends from college. While I am not looking forward to fake drinking all weekend, I am so excited to sleep in and just be baby free for a couple days.
My FFFC is that I am terrified of coming home and DH telling me how easy it was to take care of Olivia all weekend. I sort of want her to be difficult for him so he can get an idea what it's really like to be responsible for her while you try to cook or clean or get stuff done around the house.
{Raising Jack}
I have a real one this week:
So I had dinner guests on Wednesday. I cooked. The recipe called for milk. Well, it as very good. So once the guests were gone we cleaned up and DH made bottles for A. He commented how A must have been hungry as there wasn't any left in the formula pitcher. At that point I realized that instead of with milk, I made the dinner with formula. Talk about baby brains.
I also have not called my guests to tell them. I figured it's not poison (or breast milk) and they all liked the food, so while creep them out.
hahahahha. This made me laugh! I definitely would not tell them.
Same here. I'm 30 lbs under my pp weight and everyone and their mother tells me how great I look. Does DH? Nope. He just asks if I'm going to go to the gym each day or not.
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
That makes perfect sense. Just remember that the only relationship you actually know about is your own; at least some of them are probably pretending at any given time if things ALWAYS seem perfect. I actually think that this pretending is part of the problem with relationships/marriages falling apart. If you think everyone else is uber-happy, when you hit a rough spot in your own you think it's a terrible sign and the end of the world because nobody else is going through anything like that. But EVERY relationship has its ups and downs and requires work, even the picture perfect ones.
I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now, kmart. Know that you are NOT alone (at least here on TB I feel like people are pretty honest about it) and that you can put on the happy face in public, but please don't be in denial. Address the issues before they get out of control.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
Congrats on being 30 lbs under!! It would be nice to hear them say it, but I do feel good about myself these days and I hope you do too!
OMG this is fantastic. You kick as* Nita.
Honestly, nobody's relationship is always puppies and rainbows. Even the best men and women have tough spots in their marriage; I know I do and my husband is an amazing man. I'd tell you that if we were having wine on your patio right now while L and G played. Hugs to you - we are always here for you if you need it!
People were surprised when my parents got divorced because to outsiders they appeared to have a wonderful marriage. My parents were good at pretending and keeping up appearances. My sisters were even a little surprised because they tried to hide it from us. I caught them fighting in the middle of the night quite a few times and confronted my mom about some of the things I would hear her say when she talked in her sleep. So just because their relationships appear to be all puppies and rainbows, you don't really know what it is like behind closed doors.
FFFC numbero uno: DH was letting L "chew" on his phone. I told him to be careful because she broke my brother's phone from all her drool. He was like, "Oh she won't break it don't worry." Well, she broke it and I don't feel bad at all.
FFFC 2: I have never driven through a car wash by myself. I've only sat in the passenger seat, etc.. never personally drove through it.
I am paying for Weight Watchers, but I am doing a terrible job actually follwoing the plan. Last weekend we had a going away party for my bestie and his partner (he got a professor job in Puerto Rico and they are leaving next week) and I have been on an eating bender since. I skipped my WW meeting last night because I didn't want to face the number on the scale.
I am depressed because they are leaving and I am eating because I am depressed, and I am pretty much just paying to gain weight right now.
I've mentioned a few times here on TB that things are not going so well with MH right now. But I have not mentioned it to any of my family or friends IRL. The main reason I don't is because they all know MH and I don't feel right saying negative things about him to people that have a relationship with him (esp. my family). I find it easier to admit the truth and be honest here where no one knows him. Plus I think it's just harder to admit to people you are close to. So Maybe your IRL friends aren't having a perfect time either?
Sorry you guys are in a rough patch and sorry to scarlett too! Hope things can get better for you.
MH and I are also having a tough time. It is over small stuff, but the small stuff is causing the fights because we need to have a big talk about some underlying issues. I have completely avoided speaking about it here or IRL because naming it would make it a real thing that I actually have to deal with. Last night I really blew up on him and then spent the night on the couch after drinking a bunch of wine and googling marriage counselors in the wee hours. So I guess it's time.
However, the blowup is also partly because I lost my job last night. I went back to my part time call center job three weeks ago. I love being in the no kids environment, but I am just too tired to hack it this time around. The policy is that people who don't make their numbers can't stay on staff. I understand, because they are doing environmental work and they need people who get results. It sucks because this time last year I kicked ass at that job. There are no hard feelings on either side, and I was probably trying to take on way too much, but I still feel rejected and sh!tty. MH is thrilled that now I can put more effort into the business he is trying to start, and definitely did a terrible job of hiding it.
On a related note, I confess that my kids had cold pizza for breakfast and I am eating a chocolate Luna bar that I stashed in my tits (so I don't have to share). I am exhausted.